Peace with One Another - Part 2

Welcome to this weekend in Ted's podcast with Charles Stanley when you get hurt. The urge to become resentful and lash back can be strong today.

You'll learn how you can live in a spirit of forgiveness hears Bart to have peace with one another will I think about what the Bible teaches about our relationship shall be Joe Scripture says that we are to build up one level we are to love one another with to accept one another, we are to serve one another to comfort one another with to help one another. We to pray for one another somata times God says this is the way you should treat one another. Most of us would have to admit that a lot of people we know most people we know don't work in those kind of situations don't live in those kind of homes don't go to school and those kind of environments and we wonder what in the world is wrong. Why can't we live with each other. Why can't we be at peace with one another. Well that's what I want to talk about in this message. I want you turn if you will, the book of Romans is the apostle Paul gives us some very clear instruction here that I think would be good for all of us to consider this time and this message I'm talking about personal relationships, are not talking about nations, warring against each other. I'm talking about personal relationships and in the structure of the Romans.

He is admonishing us how we are to treat one another and I want us to come down to the 17th verse and listen to what he says when he says never pay back evil for evil to anyone respect what is right in the sight of all men. If possible, so far as it depends on you being at peace with all men. Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God. What is written, vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord. But if your enemy is hungry, detail. If these thirsty, give them a drink for in so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good notes. Rinsing of the Scriptures that God gives us very clear instructions how we treat each other and I want you notice primarily this 18 verse 20 says, if possible, so far as it depends upon you. Be at peace with all men.

The implication is there may not always be possible implication is you may not be able to do it, so far as it depends on you. That is, we have a responsibility for his the question I watch this… A man how far so far as it depends on you, so care how far Monica using the bottles and tell me how far I am the goat yes it does. His how far you not to go with to go as far as possible within the strength in the grace and the goodness in the love that God gives us to the point of the violation of a spiritual scriptural principle when it requires me to violate a principle of Scripture. Forget the piece. God does not require us to violate a principle of Scripture because every single one of them is holy, he does not require most of violate a principle of Scripture in order to have peace with someone so when he says, if possible.

Most of the time it all be possible sometime. It's not so far as it depends on you. How far am I to go undergo the second third fourth 10th hundred mile up to the point where it means I have to violate the word of God. I am not required to violate the word of God in order to create peace now. What I will do is help you to understand what happens to a person who tries to practice peace at any price to listen carefully when a person has the idea that it's going to be peace and enterprise that means it no matter what it takes up his what I'm going to do. They must be willing to sacrifice their own sense of personhood because what they have to do is to begin to suppress their honest genuine feelings and they suppress them and they repress them and they suppress them and they repress and what happens they talk quietly, everything is just fantastic. Thank you very much. Oh, everything is good. Oh yes yes yes yes yes yes all the inside. This volcano is boiling and there becomes resentment and anger and hurt and pain and sense of self-esteem dragging now they just cover all this resentment and hostility and anger.

They cover that with the sweet words and it's a very thin covering.

It's so thin that sooner or later that volcano is not just on the rumble. It's absolutely going to pour fire and brimstone all over the place that you know what happens most of the time when that happens, people say things that are so cutting so divisive, so hurtful, so tormenting, so painful, so penetrating so destructive that relationship is destroyed once and for all. Either one of those persons become so hurt both of them. They say this is it. This is in the forget it know what he said. He said if possible, and you see this is why the idea of peace and enterprise is totally unscriptural.

It's unscriptural for nations and its unscriptural. Also, the individual because piece it in the price is self-destructive and that self-destruction begins the moment the person decides Micro Center to keep quiet. I don't do anything is going to require Negros anything you know what God did make it that way.

He made us to talk. He made us to be honest with each other.

He made is to be open and you see BEC and you can have peace. That's a fake piece. It's a false peace is no such thing as peace when somebody can express themselves and what happens is a person thinks we have peace between us until the air is clear there is no peace until a person can feel free to express their hurt, their pain, their disappointments, their heartaches, there is no peace in our Lord came to live on the inside of her, so that we who will naturally have disagreements with each other, disappointments with each other will be heard at times.

So what we forget, we move on.

We can still have peace. You know why because we have looked at this relationship and we have placed such a high value on it will willing to do anything under God's heaven to the pawn of the violation of the word of God to make it work and so we have to go back to ask how much value I place a relationship so ask is apparent how valuable is your relationship with your son or your daughter have valuable is what are you willing to do half are you willing to go. How valuable is your relationship with your husband how valuable is your relationship to your wife that you want to do anything and everything you noted that if it doesn't work, at least you've done your best, at least you've given your all and least as best you know your heart. Listen what he said.

He says as far as it depends on you. As far as you can go without violating the word of God, he says, be at peace with that other person is there. Well, suppose I have done my best and suppose I have given my best and suppose I have done everything I know to do whatever module I think he says he's in watch this then you concludes not working you look back and you see your hurts and your pain, your suffering and maybe look back at whether six months or year 10 years or 20 is applied to maintenance what is is that you know what I've wasted my life of this person know you haven't. I should've done this, I should've done that.

Listen what he says twice. Verse 17. Now, in Romans 12 never pay back evil for evil to anyone respect was right in the sight of all men. Verse 19. Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God is written, vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord. But if your enemy is hungry, feeding thirst to give them a drink.

In so doing, you heap burning coals on his head.

That is what he said let's say you've done your best, you done everything you know that you may know that a perfect but you did the best you knew how it's not working as a person says forget it.

How responsible are you you not responsible when you've done your best, and all you know to do and the other person refuses to cooperate. You can't make somebody be. This is why he says if possible. As far as it depends upon you so that what is heaping). People say well I think most people have the ideal one on realism to do something nice around me nuts, picked some for good.

You know what that is not what that means.

Turn back to Proverbs Proverbs 25 verse 21. If your enemy is hungry, given food to eat. If he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for you will heap burning coals on his head.

You know what that means is what that means that when we are wronged by someone else, our responses to be kindness, it may be topless, not understanding it can be tough, kindness and gentleness, humility, and maybe did you do something for them physically or materially, whatever it might be now when he says, is heaping burning coals of fire is what he means that an act kindness toward someone else. It creates anguish within the they can handle little how to handle.

They just know that you should've responded the way they were to respond. You wronged me wrong, you are for not tooth for tooth. You did this to me. I did this to you. I do this to you and you conduit me and loving and caring you not resentful how's the mind when you don't last me is what happens.

It creates anguish. It creates frustration little how to handle kindness and love and gentle but is it that's the way Ritter operator survey respondent never he says twice. Never can we say we have a right to pay back evil with evil or to express revenge and he says in verse 21. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good night. Here's the watch this if you and I retaliate, what we do is we position ourselves on the same level of the person who wronged us. We have a right to do that he says if it's at all possible. As far as he said as far as it depends upon you.

How far is that, to the point that you have to violate the word of God will not responsible to do that now.

So let's say that you can know those situations and it looks like it's impossibly done your best, you done your all you say guy. I don't know what to do because what you do. Listen carefully you ask God to show you what to do.

Listen carefully.

Don't go running off to your friends, to ask him to let me tell you what's going limit what you think out of that were your friends are going. So here's what I think you look they've only heard your side of the story number one.

And secondly they may be so calmly mounted themselves. They may have been the same situation and they may have made the wrong choices. You know what they feel about you making the same choice they made.

Don't go to your friends go to a wise, godly counselor if you going to someone you asked the Lord for us to show you what, and he'll show you exactly what to do at least most of the times I think it will be clear but if you want confirmation you find a godly counselor and you be sure, listen, you make sure that what they tell you is consistent with the living word of God, then your conscience can be clear then you can move on in life and do whatever God called you to do in life, but your conscience is gotta be clear, you've done your best, you done your all you seeking godly guidance and you have the right attitude that what's the right attitude for things I want you to jot down.

I will only do that in the right spirit.

If I have the proper attitude and what is a proper attitude, a pure heart. Mark chapter 9 verse 50 says salt is good, but if the cell becomes unsalted with what would you may consult again have salt in yourselves, he says, and be at peace with one another and ancients in those days believed that salt was a purest thing they had and it came from the purest thing they knew and that is the son and the sea. They believe are the purest things that existed and that salt was a result of so what is Jesus saying you he's saying have salt that is have a purifying influence then you. That is the spirit of Christ.

What is the spirit of Christ forgiveness, love, understanding, so first of all, our spirit must be the spirit of purity. I want the life of Christ to dictate what I feel. Secondly, is love what he say John 1434, 35 pieces I've given you the gift of love the spirit of love this true love is to control your life.

This is how the world will know that we are his disciples, so I have to love that person that watched as you say, limited somebody you don't know. I have been treated and you don't have people you mean to tell me on the love the other person. Yes can you do it without being a Christian I doubted were how can I love somebody who's mistreated me so long by the grace of God.

So first of all, there must be a pure heart, love, and 30 patients. I want you look in Colossians chapter 3 for moment because I'm only mentioning patients, but patients happens to be in this passage a part of the Christian graces and notice if you will. What else is mentioned here right around how it's surrounded with these elder ideas and thoughts. Listen, if you will, in the 12th verse of Colossians chapter 3 so as those who been chosen of God holding the love put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience, bearing with one another, that is you.

Are you willing to acknowledge his what's going on. So, my spirit must be a pure spirit of love and patience and certainly number four is forgiveness.

What is he saying in the divisions and also in good and lots of verses forgiveness in the Bible, but he says not for chapter 31st 32nd verses. He said the kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even this God for Christ's sake has forgiven you listen this, we may be mistreated and somebody may not want to have peace and live with us. Whatever it might be but you and I can never, never justify an unforgiving spirit. I may not be able to live the person or have business relations that person may not be able to be a friend of that person because they have chosen otherwise. But if my heart is right and I I can love that person beyond what they do and I can be patient with them and I can be forgiving because when I look at my life and you look at your life look what Jesus has forgiven you for when he went to the cross. He made it possible for us to be forgiven of anything and everything. How can I hold an unforgiving spirit toward someone.

When Jesus doesn't hold that against me when my life has been often times an act of disobedience toward God.

I may not like the person I may not ever associate with them again. I may have no business dealings with may not ever be able to be their friend because of their actions toward me.

But you know what watch this if I want peace within myself. I have to be sure happy so that person they don't have to piece toward me. Is there must be forgiving, patient and loving with a pure heart, and then at the person walks away. I'm not responsible choose not to be my friend not responsible choose not to work with me. I'm not responsible. What did I do. I went so far that I did everything in my human godly power and ability and gifts in knowledge and understanding to the point of violating the Scripture that's as far as I can go some of you living in the account of the situation, circumstance. Some of you working with people who don't like you in there. So after you you trying to figure out how much to live in the situation I want to work in this office of this kind of a circumstance if you will practice not in your own strength is not going work by the power of the Holy Spirit who lives within you. These simple principles.

God will make you the victor. He will give you power to overcome the process of the pain he will grow you and mature you and bless you in ways you never dreamed of. It is a choice you make.

If you value that relationship give it all you have. If you've done that and it hasn't worked you not responsible irresponsible attitude of love and patience and Puritan kindness and forgiveness and moving on in your life. Thank you for listening to part two have peace with one another. If you like to know more about child family are in touch ministries in text that L-arginine had casted the presentation of intense ministries mandatory 10