The Spirit of Communication

The goal of communication is to build something something now. Not only is the truth is Dr. Tony Evans says healthy relationships require more than honest to but will they hear and understand this is the alternative with Dr. Tony have another speaker, senior pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas Texas and president of the urban alternative.

The truth will set us free, can also be used as a weapon that hurts the very people we claim to love the most. Today Dr. Evans tells us how to keep that from happening as he talked about building a healthy spirit of communication. Let's join me by communication by Christian communication because that's the common want one verse to sum it up, it would be.

Ephesians chapter 4 verse 15 Ephesians chapter 4 verse 15 it says, but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects under him who is the head, even Christ says in verse 15 is true.

Let's get something straight about truth.

Truth is an absolute standard by which reality is measured.

Something is not true simply because you believe it's true, it's not true summit because you think it's true as long as truth is measured by how you feel about Amanda. It's not about the truth unless it is measured about a nonnegotiable standard call from a Christian point of view, the word of God is to be the point of reference by which we measure truth when the Bible talks about communication regularly uses to talk about the subject of communication is the tone uses it keeps referring in the Bible over and over again to tone the tongue being the element through which speech comes first Peter 310 says if you want to be happy, control your tongue Proverbs 1821 says life and death is in the power of the tongue, the speech Job 19 to says that the words word from the tongue can cut you to pieces and some of us know what it is to be cut the pieces with order chop other people up without tone show. The Bible says about Tony James chapter 3 the longest singles chapter on speaking communicating as a relates to the tongue in the Bible verse to this date.

This is the bedchamber by James. James is a no nonsense apostle in your faith in your grill, God doesn't care whether you like him you go tell it like it is good verse two. For we all stumble in many ways. We all have issues. If anyone does not stumble in what he says that speech he is a perfect means mature man, able to bridle the whole body as well. Otis is the interview to control our tongue will be able control everything else in our lives is what he says we all stumble in many ways, and I was all of us have issues with addressing says if you ever get this issue taken care of. You'll be able to handle anything else wrong in your life.

Make the point really goes on and says let me illustrate the point. He says now it would put the bits into the horses mouth so that they will obey us, we direct their entire body right horses know which way to go respond with his lay in his backside and it's back based on what the blooming of billing in its mouth is controlled everything mother controlling everything will one day when a runaway horse and she was screaming and screaming to run well Brunswick.

The wrangler said blowback arrangements screaming did nothing for the horse when she controlled its mouth shouldn't have to scream anymore because only says another illustration.

Verse four. Look at the ships though they are great and driven by strong winds, are still directed by a very small letter wherever the inclination of the pilot desires to feel whole ship by turning to Miranda -controlled whole ship around, the tone he says speech and communication that is the tongue can control the rest of us. It can redirect things so he says this is not a small area is a whopping area controlling mother. This is what what you know what God is saying here from a Christian perspective is that speech communication is critical to the rest of us to the rest of our well-being or lack thereof what God through James's watch out for people who can't control it looks because if they can control their tones out of control in all areas because the one who can control is out of control, the one who can control his tongue can control other areas. He says the tongue is having mighty in your dentures.

We know it's true because we know how we are brutalized and brutalized by others. He says in verse five, so the tongue is a small part of the bank, yet it boasts great thing to suppose great things remind me of the story, the frog who needed to go south but he couldn't go, we couldn't always stop by himself.

He saw two birds. He says it cannot hurt me so he could not confront you to heaven.

We can carries is alive an idea you could do it.

Two birds that were once as I figure let's grab a stick, you grab one side where the other the other programs you and I put my mouth in the middle and notify me so birds of these ideas so we all got a stick one bird ticket number two did he put his mouth in the middle and they took off. Southwell looked up and saw this euphemistic between the two bears is beautiful to mount the wrong time. Bad shape so much of Matt's way it goes. Further, he says great and how great a forest is set aflame by such a little flyer one match can send a forest a little, little thing like the tongue can create a blaze. It was October 28, 1871 the Louise count Mike over the lantern. It's called the Chicago fire $40 million worth of damage. 300 people died because Mrs. O'Leary's cow lantern small thing can create a forest can create aflame.

Romans 313 says employees in his under the tongue.

He says in verse six of James and the tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity.

The tongue is set among our members, all body parts as that which the files the entire body. What he says is not to be able to control your communication. If the rest of you on fire and sets on fire the course of our lives and is set on fire by hell for every species of creatures of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by the human race. But no one can tame the tongue is a restless evil and full of deadly poison we know is not because with it we bless our Lord and father, and with it we curse men will be made in the image of God from the very same outcomes, blessing and cursing. My brother and these things ought not to be this way does a fountain send out the same opening fresh and get a figtree. My brother and produce produce plates nor can salt water produce fresh water. He said you know is a problem with your tongue when you can praise God on Sunday enters people on Monday from the same fountain is, you pray the Lord is God great FMX outcomes you blank blank blank blank. People who have to use profanity to communicate a paperthin if your husband and you gotta files and costs at your wife and children to get them to function.

That is the language of a punk. The language of the weak person will go to their boss and do that say people didn't do that and all arenas to the people they say they love the use of all languages is six and they make James as brother and these things not late even if you're dishonoring your husband or anybody else for that with Mark on the speech and tearing them down. The Bible says that something is wrong with you. You don't know what they did something is wrong with you if there is no control control is you may have made you mad yes I may have made you upset yes but he says the absence of the control and you shows there is a real problem.

All they did was give you a setting to show it just gave you a context to reveal. There is a rooted flaw. If you feel you could use a little help in developing healthy communication in your home, you're not alone. Dr. Evans will have more advice for us when he continues her teaching in just a moment but first, today's lesson is taken from his current message compilation marriage matters.

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The character of a thing. What's normative for the says brother that have the same outcomes praise event cursing back to Ephesians 4 great verse in that chapter verse 29 let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification. According to the need of the moment so that it will give grace to those who hear the word unwholesome means unhealthy.

Let no unhealthy word come out of your mouth that could be anything from profanity to gossiping gossip. Gossip is a person who passes on information to tear somebody else down. She says let no unhealthy word. In other words, words that have no healing attached to it like husband and wife. They were upset with each other from the long season really looks over there that hate is one of your relatives. She said I know by marriage.

If you get away was to feature you just, and disrespecting unhealthy's healthiness. He says the word that's appropriate to the moment he now issues in a dream sequence. He says mean must be tied to communication. He says the word that's appropriate for the moment because every word is not appropriate for every movement. This may not be the time to say that because the concern is not.

I have the right to say it but will they hear and understand it seeks because remember this is to build up to five things to correct something. The goal of communication is to build something something down so you must raise the question. Not only is this the truth that because were told to speak the truth but is this the same for the truth in a position to receive it. Really not communicating abolished inventing. He says according to the need timing must be tied to communication because the goal is to communicate the goal is for the coda to get through to the decoder without losing the message of the word come out of your mouth that is the moment so that it will give grace to those familiar with mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. You put somebody else's mouth. Why could you try to impart life into a dying situation dying situation and so you put your mouth to give life. The Bible called the Scripture the word of life's normal conversation should be speaking life in the job without a speaker like each other words it made us feel alive made us feel like you could do it if you messed up that time, but but you're better than you better than that and I told you I'm telling you you're not doing good right now but I'm speaking life into you are better. He says I will words on the piano. Five. Building up and he says they ought to send grace. Why must you send grace because there will be a day, you will need to receive it.

See there is nobody on the sound of my voice that will need to get from God.

What you don't deserve the principal give to your neighbor what you yourself need from God. Why is this issue of communication so important to bring us to close. Why is this not some side sermon. Why must the spirit of communication and goal of our congregation and engulfed all of us and we all need to improve in this area from the pulpit to the pew pew to the pulpit. But why is this important because in verse 30 to not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed until the day of redemption.

Just what the Holy Spirit is greed when I talk is not right.

Verse 29 let no word come out of your mouth.

Don't make the Holy Spirit grieve.

Why should not we grieve the Holy Spirit the one who delivers grace to live a great one inside you don't want him to have been pushing the why you want the Holy Spirit, joyful and happy inside of you is what you do know that your communication God takes communication seriously infected is so serious that the Bible says at the judgment seat of Christ.

Every careless word will be brought back up or to put it another way, you are on tape. When God played the tape of your life. He will listen you and he will be sitting down in your own little cubicle is called the judgment seat of Christ.

Okay, everybody gets cubicle you and the Lord review your life. Since salvation and he reviews two things words and deeds as low scary proposition and you and Jesus Christ, your cubicle and you can go plot the CD or the DVD DVD and put him in his car read this is your life and is also a pause, Mashita will what you think about is perfect. The Lord knows that. But you should be progressing well be no management because were trying to minister grace when our communication changes our relationships change so many children, messed up today because her mother and father spoke death me this big death camps, both speaking that down solely so ignorant what you don't understand is words have white and people often become what you declare them to be one the greatest doctrines in the Bible is God declaring you your new identity in Christ because you become what you were declared to be because words doctrines will come back in a moment to talk about a biblical text will help you determine when to speak up when to keep quiet.

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I want to make something healthier, not sicker. I can guarantee you the claimant will change when that becomes the normal means of communication. David said it best. Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable unto you will put another way, Lord, if I say this right now. Will you accept it. That's course if I say this right now. You accept it if I say this this is what the… This is what I'm thinking but if I say it right now. Is it acceptable to you when you can answer yes it's time to communicate the alternative with Dr. Tony have brought you fighting made possible by the generous contributions from listeners like