In Your Parent's Shoes

Welcome to the Christian card I radio show. The cop show dedicated to helping Christians buy and sell cars by the book blue book knobby orange book, but by God's book, the Bible called the Christie car guy with your questions. 186634218663 for 8784 is being a Christian have to do with buying a car you're about to find out. Here's your host Robbie Gilmore 2013 driving test in one week. Yes 20 sets of parents, hundreds, perhaps thousands of grieving friends and family 2013 driving test in one week. So today I'm a Christian card show were asking really were asking God to help us because you know we've got questions that wants he wants. He wants us to call so therefore doing them a call on God. But Ross got a call on you because prayerfully here's a question I'm asking you yes you hear my voice today you call in and tell us if you could go back in time and be your own parent. You know because you know the crazy stuff you did I know the crazy stuff I did what could've kept you from the foolish things you did is apparently what would've kept you from the foolish things you did, we'd love for you calling this morning 8663488663487884.

Here's a news for teenagers aged 14 to 17 were killed in a one car crash Monday near Wilmington, Illinois. They died when their car skidded off a bridge and indoor Creek five teens ages 15 through 17 were killed Sunday near Dumas Texas when their Chevy Van ran a stop sign and collided with a tanker loaded with fuel authority said the teens died.

The scene and the truck driver was severely burned six teens ages 14 through 19 were killed early Sunday in Warren Ohio. When the SUV they were and sped down the 35 mph road hit a guardrail flipped into a pond.

Three teens ages 17 and 18 from the town of Riverside Indiana.

Died March 7 when two pickup trucks collided outside of time town.

Three other students were injured in the class in the crash to teens ages 17 and 18 were killed March 5 in Watford City, North Dakota when their SUV slid on ice collided with an oncoming truck and split in half. The 17-year-old driver was also hurt in the crash. So prayerfully and seriously, here's the question I'm asking you if you could go back in time and be your own parent. What could've kept you as I look at a lot of these tips we got more coming in and I look at them and I go with that of Me with that really without a major change in the way my behavior was what would've made a change in your behavior, 866348788 for the course.

We will bring in the experts at the bottom area of Jim Graham is a director of Ford Motor Company's driving skills for life program, and they have what is reported to be the best 10 tips yet, but the one tip I would point out Bob was not there list that is probably the one the only reason I'm sitting here doing his radio show today was my parents. My grandparents, my uncles and all they were praying for me. That's probably the one tip is not on Ford's list, but the one that I would certainly add to your list. Whatever your tips are but right now are asking you to think asking you to call in 866-34-TRUTH 87884. What could've kept you from the foolish things you did a course had to bring in some adults that probably would've been the most likely get themselves killed a teenager. Is this cast of characters we have this morning and I do mean characters I have one with me y'all know is our good friend Bob, a Christian junkyard guy from one of my new pellet welcome Bob, good morning brother great to be here and when you say character that can resemble that in a brand-new character. I met this week at the automotive super conference that was in the Charlotte motor Speedway how to run your dealership by the book, the one and only, and from what I understand there is nobody like him. He's called the car geologist.

He was dressed up in a lab coat at a stethoscope on if you go to Facebook under Christian card. I look there is DJ Harrington welcome DJ Bobby, thank you very very much wanted you I am not like Eric.

Bob there very few characters that are the character of Bob is exactly right. So guys prayerfully. If you go back and again rationalist is to do the same thing. Please call in. We need your help.

There are a lot of parents listing right now is a lot of folks are heartbroken across the country there's a lot of personal not for these phones but what could you have possibly done as a parent that may have changed your behavior and and more input per out there first but, but DJ what you think Robbie and Mike. I'm one of well children from a family Irish Catholic family that I did not get paid about 31 years old but my father my earthly father was William P. Harrington VP Declan steel. He spent more time in New York and in traveling any. Taking care of it. When that we are very well at bringing money but when I was 21 years old that was very first time he ever sat down with me and said things like eight.

You don't think I'm a port when I was in high school. You don't think I make them, and I never did. He always always lived about so I have growing up, and in grade school. We talked about. If you're down at the pool and cutting up and not being give me a call. Here's at that time we didn't have cell phone to give me a call you glumly, then she got a cell phone when she was in high school and I said if you're ever at a party or at a gathering and you feel uncomfortable you call me I'll come get you and it was called.

It was a co-cheek said it daddy, daddy.

That mean come get and I would say I'm sorry I have to come down and get you in and that was a code but it it helped me Robbie because growing up I wish my father had sat down with me when I was in high school and said here I date dumb decisions. Everybody growing up makes poor decisions out of all of the Robbie.

You did mention if any one of them was drinking it on the ice. I could understand that. I slid on the ice, but the sad thing that is in Marietta, Georgia, last year we bought a bunch of high school kids after a football game.

They were drinking. What does a parent out of the parent address that and I'm the one who says we don't give alcohol to teenagers. You don't be the cool dad always okay to drink like you do it at my house gotta be like our heavenly father and others rules discipline so I would be more of that type today. My daughter on the granddad today.

She is very open and when she has trouble she calls her earthly father and she kneels down and falls on her heavenly father, I think you're right there. Prayer changes probably provide the expected Robbie that we will do a cardiologist up my prescription where all the cardiologist that I love that well I I had the most time to think about this problem and in DJ so I been thinking about it since this time yesterday, probably what what I have done differently because I was is my mother what I just like to take risk. I liked the feel of the car slide around on the dirt. I liked all sorts of interest and I like to be out there on the edge and so I thought about that that they could put all these different tips in the world on me. It wouldn't change the fact that when I got my car that I wanted to feel that I thought of you. Bob actually and I thought of my Mama killing the financial partners that helps his son Ray some about you know if my son, my father had seen that my son's heart comes alive when he takes risks like that. He could've said somewhat Scott to track and put you in a car that you can go do that stuff and let's put a roll cage around you and a helmet on your head so you'll get yourself killed. But you can go experience that. But let's experience that in a safe way we think Bob is that what you did. That is what you did with your son because I know your sunrise risk.

We've done it for several years were taken the summer off this year but we have done it for several years.

Embry presented him that opportunity and the it is a good outlet and the best Indian because they it does feel good and used combat being your own parent if I was my own parent I would probably never let me in the alley. I just believe that there was a dirt road in the aching canning.

There was a dairy on that show ordinary red and and we would go up there and this was before I had licensed my brother was Raven and we would see just how close to Rankin we could get going. I see the same thing that I was thinking I love stuff like that when I was at age what would've happened and I'm curious about what would've happened if your father said hey Bob. I can see that you love this, thing. What if we went out to track and we did it right with that of changed your other behavior because you got a chance to experience what car would do any good way. I don't know you call us with your thoughts.

We got to go to break again. Prayerfully we could be saving someone's life seriously. You got a great tip.

What would you do if you had been your own parent. Think about it, then call us at 8663 for 87884 866-34-TRUTH a lot more Christian, and I put out for they got is that what needs to happen that were this this whole team driving thing. It really is an absolute tragedy 20 best in one week and we are asking you today were asking ourselves if we could go back in time if we could go back in time and we could be your own parents. What would've kept us from doing the foolish things we did and Bob and I were discussing it over the break, the both of us were bicycle maniacs that their devils if if you would've seen us on a bicycle you could get an idea that when we got to the point of driving a car. This was not to be good. It was so bad with me. My parents just looked at the way I read a bicycle and decided right away, you'll never have a motorbike on me by my mother side sign is if you're a parent and you want your child on a bicycle or are skateboard and they are doing crazy stuff. Guess what, when it comes time to drive a car where you need to look at some way to come after your child's heart and allow them to express themselves like that, but in a safe way to think about the DJ you have some other important stuff you might father had the 10 Commandments are not suggestions. We we are not about what people in the car. Not ever remember. I'm one of 12 children. So if like a brother. It was maximum for the vehicle when he said there was no horseplay, no way of any nature, and I was always one of the thing. I think we sometimes we forget to tell her own.

I know what it's like legal football game and your buddies at all, be all your good night, my father has a rule and led suggestion. It was a commandment but may be part of it.

Robbie, no I grew up you guys out and we were a little bit for driving first in the field. Dirt and I thought brown cows gave chocolate milk. Well no doubt that you know just when I sit my DJ when I hear you say horseplay in your good friend of my father. That's another part that I didn't have as that was a term I father you gotta put the fear my father right back to me when you said Nora's play I could I could hear my dad but I don't know what it was I that horseplay just had such a draw to me that I was but I think if if II really think if if if you see that your child is displaying this kind of crazy radical behavior. You do gotta figure out a way to both help them protect themselves, but come after the heart is God is trying to do some with that and I know Bob jump on in here. When will you all.

My son was younger. We raced BMX the red bicycles raced over Tanglewood and traveled all over the country and had quite a bit of success with. But the young man that gets used flat on a bicycle 25 and 30 feet through their on a very regular basis.

When they get in a car or get to that age with the car you might be suspicious that they might take a few chances with that and that's why we get out the side of the channel that energy to the racetrack at Bowman Gray and gave him that option. All right, one more prescription from the cardiologist before. I know you got a go. I was one more prescription DJ yet one more prescription it knows the real world real world has a lot of young people who they think it's okay to have one beer and date think it's okay to have one little mixed whatever I'm going to tell you drive drunk. Don't do.

That's a prescription from the doctor. I think you guys. I'm on my way to my own doctor is my prayer. We do that you thank you by everyone listening. Pray for the Dragon like thank you very much. I look forward only to try again with another stone at the time we got lasses in Indiana last year on the Christian card to show what he had an idea for us. Well, my doctors well. Couple things. One was that if I were my father going back. One thing I would do is work harder to impress upon me at an earlier age that when I honor my parents. It will go well with me and I will be blessed so much was made with my peers elevated silly things with cars and got in trouble as a result they were doing. A lot of times they were angry at their parents for something they weren't or were letting them do and you know that's one thing I would do different than the other thing is I would also work harder as a parent to remind my children that even though you are older and especially because of your old. We have greater wisdom and the wisdom that we have, we apply so that they would be blessed so that would be a detriment to their lives.

And if we could show that the example you know where they're being blessed because of the shed in their lives, then I think they'll be less likely they would otherwise tremendous advice last night, it brings up a couple ideas that I would like to share with you. One is that the persons who are the owners of tree broadcasting in the same radio network taught Sunday school class for years and years and what they say is an and the kind of run this and every child had been, crosses, obedience brings blessing disobedience brings conflict and once you begin to understand the concept just like you said the 10 Commandments.

When you see obedience.

It does bring disobedience or bring conflict of some kind. Almost every single time and the other thing I would point out is because I do a lot of genealogy work less and I can show you statistically and within my own family, the Gilmore family tree that any to any time the sibling, the sibling that took care of the aged parents because it used to be in the in the know they would show in the censuses which child ended up with the 80-year-old in their household. That child that took care of their of the aged parents of their like seven kids in the ended up in that household.

That child would outlive his siblings by 10 to 15 years. Just like the Bible says honor your father and mother and it will go well you live long in the land lie, I can assure you I can show you.

It's an amazing I couldn't believe it until I saw with my own eyes. Last, that's really good direction. That's awesome less. Thank you for calling and I love those concepts. I appreciate so much what is your thought. If you could go back and be your own parent. What could've kept you from the foolish things you did you call is 866348788486634. We got some show, we got an expert, never got Jim Graham with Ford, they got a safe driving program. You don't want to hear their tips course we got Bob, you know, I'm asking to be great. You know what it's like when you hear from a true character likens the crazy stuff we did a lot more Christian card got show and is sad is that song is much sadder when life 20 teams something as many children as lost their lives in Connecticut in the last week have been lost to driving test answer the question you're asking is what can we as parents cottage, what could we be doing differently, how can we help are actually were asking God prayerfully. What could we be doing, but also were excited that we got Jim Graham here is a director of Ford Motor Company's driving skills for life program and Jim welcomed the Christian card – overexcited you guys are are on top of this issue will think your evidence where it hopefully we can now you guys I love your website because not only do you have tips, but there are some wonderful videos that from professional drivers that show that any team would enjoy looking yet actually wearing crosses revamp more videos but we try to do it for driving light. It basically provide the next step of learning after Crystal driver dictation so things that they would need to learn the type of skills and help them avoid some of the recent tragedy that we see all events the 20 that terrible and a lot of those almost all prevented with the basic use of common sense, with some additional skill set and so we try to give that to them in a variety ways. Hands-on training web-based curriculum schools the whole wide variety of ways.

You actually have a roadshow you take out on the road and you bring to schools yeah actually we we have a national tour. We we bring professional instructors together and we will bring about 600 teens on the weekend and their parents and put them in actual drills. We focus on really for areas that have been identified as a leading cause of death really lack of experience in the beating space in between vehicles. Vehicle handling.

So what happens when the vehicle gets out of control happy back and we also focus a lot on distracted driving. We work with police officers every put in the cars children they can't text and drive wasted drinking and driving to have the whole distracted driving. Bob was sharing with me on the break right Bob you had a little issue with that as a child, a friend of a friend of mine was. He had a need.

Take Dakin skies cassette tape player he was. He had moved up above the eight track that that he just messed with it constantly constantly and he was messing with that ran off the right is a pretty high rate of speed. We ended up upside down.

I was outside of the car and it could have been. This extremely tragic and I can really relate to the distracted driving thing, especially now with the texting and the phone thousand and all that is just such a big issue in I hope you know address the issue enough program about running off the road and within it back down because that was the first accident I was involved in the dump truck came around the corner and it appeared to me he was in my lane quite profusely at ease outside the red there chemically.

If that is just slow down before I tried that come back onto the road it would've made such a difference in now and I just whipped it on the road in the right rear tire on the curb variance by Miranda shot me into the bank. On the other side and they been somebody is common. A good shot me head on into them so interesting because we teach exactly that. You know when the backend starts light out really really need to do it all right.

Locking my winter break.

Whatever and then gain control of it, turning it anything that you mentioned there were buckled up there but one of the things we see one of these tragic crashes recently were buckled up. Even though we think of that very simple. You got to do that parents need to lead by example comes to buckling up but we do teach us that the things and I can relate back when I had a tape deck in my car and were all guilty of it one time or another but with parents in particular, we gotta remember we got a set really good examples with our young people banquet getting engaged in training, but also when were driving good examples they'll do what we do, not necessarily what we say we actually turned Christian card I show all the time that speeding is a phenomenal problem and his parents if we think well it's okay to go 5 miles an hour over you know and and and obviously the children can see your speed, your speedometer and see what you're doing and so what is the law if if you're willing to break it or if they see that that you stop completely.

Like that kind of thing.

One of the things that you see in my pension. Well, we see we do see a lot of speedy they were to slow down 5 mph, something they have much better chance of not ringing somebody because they really don't know what to Run the directors likely taken through his where actually they do have to make a quick decision something happened to go right to the left. Today claimant a break so we go to the decision-maker on that clearly things like speeding, buckling, driving distracted and to follow too closely. Also in one of the big things that if it is a hard concept to understand but you want to look where you want to go and if your racer you understand that where we look the cars go by the brain hardware to your body. So why can't people get their eyes fixated on something of drive right into it. So the idea is to look where you want to go. We give an example that why would you drive into a telephone pole with her space on both sides will rise fixated on the drive right into so look where you want to go concept like that that are little bit harder to understand the professional drivers can teach them. The other big thing is the number of passengers in the car at the very basic things that you know the addition of one passenger greatly increases the likelihood of Intel you limit the number passengers driver and you keep your hand on the wheel and eyes on the road. That's what I would like to Christian Car Guy.com. By the way, all Ford's tips are there and you just click on that link and you watch those videos even have a section on seating position.

I thought how cool is that yeah actually be happy of all those videos standing June totally like a brand-new website where Vera called the Academy of Army learning area and that copy all in video format to three minute video parents to watch and we encourage the team and the parents go through together, just like if our hands-on program happened to be in your area that we encourage the parents to come out to and you can keep track of where to be around the country by just going to architecture and we will be out your way. Probably next year.

Janice Ford Motor Company is driving skills for life program. You can find out all about it in Christian card.com. Thank you Jim for being honest. Thank you for having us appreciate thank you, all rights now we gotta turn the question back to our listeners and say you know what you think. If you could go back and be your own parents. What could you have done to keep yourself from doing some of things you did 866348788486634 truth, we would love to glean your wisdom they could make all the difference right Bob, I mean God could be hardwired through you right this minute you got this tip. Call us. We want to hear from you. Is that so many people out there that has experience in this. Sometimes we hesitate to pick up the phone and call in and everything and share our point thinking it might not make a difference, but that is one of the number one things about me, and in doing a show as I get a chance to maybe make a difference in somebody's life and assist such a great feeling that no matter what I've been through in my past in an the things that I thought disqualify me from helping folks, you know some of that experience might have somebody from kicking that same stone that I tripped over, you know, and I think it was you that said what I thought made me disqualified actually made me uniquely qualified all that crazy biking that you and I did.

Yes, we know that that was the heart of a child that love to take risks and stuff like that so how can you engage that heart to see that child you don't want to break your heart. By the same token you want to be of the do them all that safely, so I like what you did with your son that you took him out BMX and and you saw the same thing in him that you had and so how can we do that safely and obviously made it to 26 housing 2026. This summary is that if you let slip that not that far away.

And that is such a great venue and there is that there stuff.

Both cars with a collet. The autocross program that surround I kente exactly where to get involved with the go online there's a lot of facilities where there's an old parking lot. This nominees and they'll take and set up cones and let people go and drive aggressively in and get a little bit of that out of their system and a safe environment and environment with the him. We got Susan in Greenville, South Carolina.

She's got some solutions for Susan Your Honor Christian card I show them on wonderful. What if you got force share. I'm sure our parent. They all work at job working at job farming working in factories giving thanks thanks for their high school and being a part of being coached. I think were talking about a lady person problem. Basically talking about young man who quote need to drive fast cars on the Christian right arm camped on the following. You mean that it did young men shouldn't want to drive fast cars. I don't think you Christian young if there actually out working at job role.

All that planning on driving a car out matter what will I love that's easily the interesting thing is God.

We all have our built in God's image and some people like me and Bob, you know, in fact, I was an honor student, but that didn't change the fact that there were certain list that I wanted to take in life. I feel like if my father engage that in and show me a way to do that and a in a safe manner because obviously there if you go out to NASCAR. There are some wonderful Christian man that are leading people to Christ right now on the NASCAR track and if they didn't have it hard to go fast mouse fast doesn't mean speeding or disobeying the law, but there is there is this thing called going fast and doing it in a way that that that director competing well. I will fight you see there's just that's an interesting point that you bring out and I wonder about other people on the racetrack are not now downtown club live in New York City. Not like me… Keep it preoccupied serving and loving other people went beyond Susan disagree with you lately because I'm a tell you I serve the Lord in lots of ways, but I when I love I love now talk about. I serve the Lord and I know a lot of men that really serve the Lord, but they have dangerous hearts and they like to go to Chris because their warriors and God made men differently made women and men have a way that we like to blow up things of you not come across that way. Actually, our finger on the panel I'm agreeing with you that we should not speed. I'm agreeing with you that we should break if anybody would say that the Christian card. I say we shouldn't speed we shouldn't break the law, but we should realize that our sons are men and if there man, there's a good really like to take risks in our land for our work will you know what I started working when I was 12 years old, I was washing cars.

I work till 12 or 1 o'clock in the morning. It doesn't have anything to do with whether or not I was working as to whether or not I wanted to take risk and has a lot to do with the fact that I was a man I like to do things, but I what I'm saying you got Susan you know who started without being reactive because of a plan according to that you you you picture. I think you picture the Christian life to be this this really for the final draft picks picture of not every man I country. Your little girl. I don't think it wonderfully. Susan Susan can I say that I'm categorically glad that I'm not your son and say you know that that's not the way men operate and and I really suggest you call wild at heart. Or maybe the Bible and check it out.

You find that David was sort of the risktakers were disagree with me 866-34-TRUTH is wow love that no matter which side of this position, you may be on what would you have done if you could've gone back and were your own parents to keep you from doing foolish things we had acquired the discussion on whether not Christian parents should even allow sons to drive fast and all those kind of things we got faith is in Raleigh. She has a reaction for us and I might let Bob handle this faith, Your Honor Christian card show good morning boy, I show you that people find out about like car.

I agree with your comment so I really believe everything that the lady that I'm in agreement with her last call Chris McCallion link you made something like that you were glad you weren't hurt or something like an easy thing like he probably held out for the Lord that young man when they were created for current and use their time widely agreement.

Many other thing that young men can be doing with their time on the mission field sharing the way to godly people that have asked getting you know the thrill of driving cattle that I would invite you to think about when I get that again. I am listening but I really think a lot of ladies have a they don't want their kids to play with guns are going to play with swords. They don't realize what mental and I would heartily recommend that you and the caller pick up a book called wild at heart by John Eldridge and take a look to see what makes a man's heart come alive because if you make the heart go dead, we won't get out of the mission field we will serve the Lord because were we are hiding underneath our cover somewhere because that is what makes our heart comes alive now, not Sam, by any means that we should have children speed or do anything that is wrong. What I'm saying is find a safe way for them to find a safe way for them to make their heart come alive, but to tell him I can't do it, or did not play with a goner not play with the sword. You know I totally totally disagree with you because you and in the and the other caller art are not man you don't understand and understand you don't understand that I don't understand women. I'll be the first person to so I think it's your obligation as a Christian to go find out something about a man's heart Bob it's your turn.

I've talked too much will I am assigned obsessive-compulsive people.

The same thing that that makes us anything we do.

We don't do just a little bit of it and and that's why I'm trying to light the fire in his heart for God, as is because where all or nothing, guys will only drive we will we take a little bit you know as a youngster before I develop my control skills and everything. I drove too fast and I did it on the red and I did it in a dangerous way and and I knew that he was going to have that same kind of heart because he you know was reckless on a bicycle when he was young and I knew he was going to the same thing in a car. I got in that as the venue to be reckless on the bicycle in a controlled with a helmet and protective gear, and then I did the same thing for it in the car and and I'm not will say it. It healed everything and it made him feel perfect on the highway or anything.

I'm not that we just channeling energy and turn it into a fun thing I I respect so much. You any previous caller.

If you disagree with me that's great Christian should be about open discussions about what they feel and and all that.

I really appreciate your list are stationed on our show and guess what, we got a run. I hate that we can highlight all kinds of callers leaving monoline were all full up or maybe a book on the subject, because obviously there's a lot of strong feelings but that's good because we got it. We gotta figure out a way to help our teens if we can work with ourselves on the work and we work with our children. It's a big deal. So thank you for listing Christian card I show thank you Jim Graham from Ford Bob, my good friend DJ and again thank you for serving the Lord and seek it in by listening to Christian radio so you stay tune is a lot more truth, we thank you for listing Christian card. I shall spend some time in prayer this week that there's number 1 to 14 driving right here