Braking Bad Driving Habits

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Do you recognize any of these characters really which one of these characters. Would you say is the driver's public enemy number one is the left lane. Lucy you know she's or he is the case may be, is over there in the left lane driving 5 miles an hour under the speed limit and they won't move over you don't know either over there but a friend of mine used to call the floating roadblock or is the worst public enemy number one driving habit.

Marvin, the merger you know he's the man that this assignment says you know Lane and 1/2 mile in. He waits until the sign is flashing the arrow before he ever gets over and naturally wants to do that right in front of you and you so I'm coming from to help back in your getting angrier. I'm just talking about my own situation. Marvin, the merger is my personal pet peeve anyway. Sammy of the speeder you say that is flying by. It says follow me to Sunday school but the it looks he's getting there like 80 miles an hour, maybe it's administrator is being public enemy number one. How about distracted Debbie you know she's put monitor that's the it's pretty well illustrated in that song. There or is it raging around you know the guy was just man. He's always tailgating you and honking and flashing his lights and oh my word, the stuff that goes on there or is public enemy number one is that no signal med. That's the one you've been wait and wait and wait and to go but the got me on the person. Indeed, he never used his turn signals to let you know you could've gone, but he at the last minute. You know, signal which one of those well over the past 24 hours.

I've done a number surveys on our website and on Facebook and Twitter and I got quite a number of votes. I'm not surprised. Are you surprised to know that you have the and I but I actually I was quite surprised at who came in number 1 Left Ln., Lucy got the least amount of votes and Marvin the merger mine the whiskey.

He got second least raging Ron only got 17% Sammy speeder got 20% distracted.

Debbie got 20%, but the number one number one offender. According to the survey nonscientific, that's for sure was no signal med public enemy number one. Based on the very unscientific survey Christian Car Guy.com and you're still 20 times you want to go vote by the way, you go to Christian card.

I.com or Robbie Gilmore on Facebook or at Christian card I on twitter get your vote in with still plenty of time.

But while you're there why you're there, which I pipe I went to great lengths to create these wonderful pictures of Left Ln., Lucy etc. etc. so while you're there looking at taking a good hard look at those pictures you might begin to see some of them are staring back at you a bit.

Maybe like you're looking in the mirror. Yes, it's almost natural for me to quickly point out these bad habits and others, but will one person I have the most control over with the bad habits out there is me. Yes, even the Christian card. I believe me, my daughter or my wife would tell you in a heartbeat is likely that I am the number will public enemy on the streets. I have some control over that particular.

In fact, I shaved and this morning but I wonder if the one person that we might have any control over this whole situation, or maybe me because if the truth was told, have I raged on the road in the last 30 days.

Well yeah and I texted and driven well yeah a bit off the phone. Yeah, I always use my signals will no have I excreted the seed limit ever and in the in the in the last 30 well yeah the only one on the list. I think that I did not and I believe it or not, one time I was really in a hurry. In the last 30 days and I played Marvin the merger where I really needed to be the guy that had to get there and I knew everybody had and I did is as shameful as that is the only one on the list. I didn't Do Was Left Ln., Lucy, so do I need to adopt from these labels. Well, let me say that categorically no because you know we don't want the family dynamic that kind of agreement of the devil and kind of foothill, but what is the solution. What can I do. That's the question this morning and I really deep do need your help I really need your help. How do we break these bad patterns in our life. So call in and help me this morning.

866-34-TRUTH 87884 or perhaps you share one of my struggles and so can you be honest, you know, one of the biggest ways that we can begin to change our bad habits. Bill is to admit we have a problem that always thought we should have little paintballs. The people we can know a paintball added, and once they get five paintballs. The police officer can pull them over and given that a general ticket and then you're seeing the paintballs on your own yet. I have 866-348-7884 I do.

I believe the first step is admit we got in and what can we do about it.

Maybe you have some wisdom for us. I hope Rob you can say Robbie, this is how I know you can you can you can do better. Please call us at 866-348-7884. Our driving is really just a small reflection of the sort of sin patterns that we all struggle with so here to help us to think I have Lonnie Berger here with us. He is the author of every man a warrior which by the way is a wonderful new everyman warrior minute here on the trees radio network, but also that they have a men's ministry everyman warrior is a discipleship Bible study that helps men succeed in life. It deals with the battles that men fight every day and how God has solutions. It teaches men how to apply biblical truth in the areas of money, marriage, raising children, sex, work hard times and how to make your life count Lonnie. It's awesome to have you here and also with the navigators will thank you so much Robbie. It's great for me to be here in two talk about men issued because we as man we fight things that many times we don't talk about that much of the church. One of the things you just mentioned is that men will focus their whole life on these basic issues money married great children flex moral purity work going through hard times and how to make your life count as a Christian man and so we have found that many times the our sermons are not about those that you and that men are deeply hurting in these areas and so that's how everyman order came about. I realize that the good theological Bible studies that I was teaching man didn't address any of these practical issues about 20 years ago asked the Lord Lord we need a new Bible study something practical for men and over the next 20 years that begin to write that in the how everyman order came about both and tell me at the most practical Bible study. They've ever done because it focused on these issues that men wrestle with every day. So we have Lonnie with us to help us but we also have our good friend Bill Mixon Christian insurance guy builder some bad habit insurance habits to talk about one of the worst insurance bad habits is not committed by most people, but is by many in finding financial difficult times more people allow this habit to take hold and some who think they're saving a little interest will practices have been on purpose. It happens a lot when people end up in the hospital and the others go on vacation that bad habit is paying your insurance on the very very last day, not on the last day that it's due utilizing that mischaracterized rice. When Robbie gives me a little bit more time I want to share with you why I call it mischaracterized and why it's dangerous to use yes so we have all sorts of interesting things on bad habits, but I wonder if you really and I would dearly love if I'm just not the only person who's pleading for help out there today if somebody else might be courageous enough to call and say yeah every once in a while. I struggle with 863487884 866-34-TRUTH yes we have so much more to talk about all these bad driving habits on the Christian Car Guy shift Association is a lot more, and hello, I'm Lonnie Berger, author and president of everyman warrior and this is your warrior minute. Joe's dad had been a harsh and angry man. Joe's mama taken the brunt of his anger.

Joe had learned to stay out of dad's way. Now in his 40s. Joe was stunned when his wife of 18 years asked for divorce at church. Joe signed up for a new group called everyman warrior in the group.

Joe learned how to pray and begin to ask God about his marriage in one quiet time God spoke to Joe and said you are harsh with your wife and it dishonors me most men will treat their wives like they saw dad treat mom everyman warrior can teach you how to break these generational patterns and create a new way of relating that makes marriages work. Check us out@everymanorder.com and perhaps you two will come join the movement that's everyman warrior.com everyman warrior is a ministry of the navigators.

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We have all sorts of interesting since struggles but there are solutions.

Now the question that they am a Christian Car Guy ship. When I would hope that you not you just leave me dangling out here is the only offender is do you struggle do you struggle with some of these things 866-34-TRUTH 87884 is the yeah I was thinking about it this morning if I texted and you know I'm I really distracted Debbie of I texted and driven on more than one occasion in man when I do if my wife and daughter in the car you eat there unmerciful and you call yourself a Christian, you can hear it it's it's it's it's difficult about you. 866-34-TRUTH 87884. Maybe we need to be more careful about who we let in a or R maybe you know you struggle with speeding for years.

I struggle with that one and are or there's other things that obviously men are in a hurry. A lot of times, and were trying to get someplace were trying to get things done and so other things that leads to running yellow lights and not using our turn signals in all sorts of flying yogurt and eating it while you driving is that your husband will act, Friday we go have dinner does the family and then somebody says we have to go get yogurt. Yet sometimes I catch myself really know. I stay there and eat it because you don't have time will that the rest of the family wants to get on home and my daughter likes to stick hers in the freezer, but in any of the obscene husband's father's people do that I see, and so really, really, come on guys out there today, I noticed somebody is listening and wash is hearing my voice right now they're saying you Robbie. I really do struggle in this one you got here 866-348-7884 866-34-TRUTH Lonnie what what what can we do about Bill's problem with yogurt karate. I don't know about Bill but I do know that for all of us and there's the issue of self-control and anger is usually just the tip of the iceberg and road rage is usually caused by an anger problem that comes from some woundedness and all of us are wounded at some level all the raised in a broken world and one of the things we found that in the discipleship course everyman warrior is that how I respond in the area of self-control is many times directly correlated as to whether or not I've had my quiet time that day. Why don't have my time alone with the Lord then I'm just more in the flesh. I'm living according more to the flesh in this battle, but my spirit in the flesh goes on, and I find that if I don't get my time with the Lord, and most men struggle in this because no one is ever taught them how to have a daily quiet time and I've been to conferences where manager told us creatures of told us I've done this myself when I greet you should have a daily quiet time. Well, most Christian men don't because no one ever taught them how and that's one of the very first things we will help me in learning. Everyman warrior is how to have a time alone with God is doing.

The warrior minute that we just we just heard that I had a problem with anger because he learned that pattern from his and without knowing it. He was taking it out on his wife and he was until he was starting to spend time alone with God. That God began to take away that anger. God began to give him greater levels of self-control is the kind of thing that we really need to help men start on by going after the spiritual side of it because I can say two men stop being angry, but that normally doesn't help. Bill and I both.

We found ourselves we go back 25 years, Bill.

We were there with the guy who taught us you were both thinking about Ted Burton right in and what it wanted to do for us in our life is for us figure not out of your client who has a Christian businessman scrape we had a small group work together as the Bible and set aside prioritize study time prayer time that that the thing that Ted got for me because it's one thing to sit down and study the Bible it just seem like sort of drudgery and selects up my had to do, but there's this idea of falling in love when you really begin to find something that catches your interest and you begin to do it because man I can hardly wait to get up and and study that tomorrow morning.

You know that enthusiasm is kind of part of what Ted taught me and I know there's lots of people. He discipled that are along those same lines, and now that's available to many people through everyman warrior write Lonnie because when are you exactly right. And I think you hit the nail on the I've been in ministry now for 38 years and during the first 10 years of ministry.

I was doing what I was trying to do that with the teach man good solid theological truth. Unfortunately, men don't live in a world where theology is practical fight or flight money.

Married children, Lonnie and Frank. We come back. I'm really looking forward to that. 866-34-TRUTH 87884.

I struggle with 866-34-TRUTH 87884. I can assure you we struggle similar things in my heart. They sit there 5 miles an hour limit name coming over for nobody or is it Marvin. The merger it's it says lay man's 2 miles yet they wait until the last bit minute to come in and they want to come over right in front of you or is it raging Ron. That guy is behind you, tailgating, flashing his lights or no signal. Med they don't use your turn signals. You don't really understand why Sammy the speeder they go flying by you with that sign on the back that says follow me to Sunday school or is it distracted Debbie she's texting and driving solid on the cell phone while doing her makeup in the mirror, however, that looks is which one of those ones is public enemy number one.

And might that be something that you struggle with and that's what I'm really really hoping maybe the question is that something you should be struggling yeah yeah and and and and therein lies the real thing. Bill that honestly 20 years ago. I didn't struggle with any of those things I just was the speeder I was good this and I never thought there was anything wrong with what I was doing because it's just the way I thought everybody was gray Jell-O man I can. I know your insurance rate 866-34-TRUTH 878-848-6634 yeah sometimes were so far in bondage. We have no idea that this we should be struggling with those things but but sincerely, there are struggles and it sets certain levels these things change. But Bill, you had some wisdom for me that that from that Ben Franklin share. Then Franklin talked about how you should try to find one bad habit and replace it with a good habit every six months I get the chance to get out and talk some gentlemen in the jail on a regular basis and what I like to share with them from Benjamin Franklin was that you should work on one at a time that one big problem is if you're trying to work on too many things at once. They want take hold it if you will try something for six months.

It will walk again and you can move into a new problem that he recommended that you do a list of those bad habits you have with this good habit you would like to have, and then prioritize them and choose want. He also talked about how you can. Not visualize a negative so that you have to take a negative and turn it into a positive that say I will stop doing that say I will start doing said that if there's something that you want to change you figure out.

I positive affirmation and then when you get up in the morning you share with yourself that positive affirmation and you visualize how you gonna do it. In this case take a little posted and stick it in your car with. I will be added. I was listening to to build and talk about that earlier. Thomas, a campus in his book the imitation of Christ, which is a fabulous book consider one of the 10 best ball time said that if you would take one of your struggles. Maybe it's in the or lust or whatever it is and if you would just work on that for a year that you would be way and getting rid of it and getting rid of it if you'd be way ahead in 20 years and the average person that doesn't change anything, you know, so if you can work on one every year you're making a segment is interesting that Ben Franklin he may have read the same book. It was a goodbye plagiarized by heat when he was in, so he but he went for the six months so when Bill said this, Lonnie.

Here's what I was think since I struggle. I do struggle with texting and driving, and I do struggle of answering the phone. Sometimes, that the habit I could get into and try to make myself have a good habit rather than think about the negative that I must stop doing that is before I get in the car, put my phone on airplane mode and turn off the sound and there's no way in the world but the bigger habit that we could get into that you're talking about. Lonnie is actually spending time of the Lord, that he might rub off a little bit on well that's right, Robbie and men were all alike.

We are busy and sitting down and having a few minutes with God is something that I don't think any of us can pull off by herself now. Bill just made an excellent comment. I think you get a new lifelong habit you need a group of men around you who will hold you accountable in that new lifelong habit and so one of the things that we do and every man a warrior is we start men out in just 15 minutes on the quiet, but then every week when you meet with your group you share with your group what you're learning in your quiet time.

In fact, it's one of the requirements, and every man gets share them what he's learning from Jesus and that accountability having a group of three or four other men can help you start the new lifelong habit. Maybe the new lifelong habit is that you won't drive and have your phone on or text while you're driving in just to have a group of men around you that can hold you accountable in that new desire that new desire to make yourself a better man or to get a new lifelong habit started accountability is important and that's one of the things we used an everyman award or a group of men who decided we want to help each other become the man that God wants to do right now I am. I am anxious to hear from somebody out that struggle.

I know I'm not the only person struggles 866-34-TRUTH 87884 866-34-TRUTH. I'm sitting there thinking about your idea and the more I think about it build more like it that one of the things I struggle with years ago because I was in the car business and I was in and out of cars all the time hundreds of times a day. One of the very difficult habits for me to get into was wearing a seatbelt. However, when my son was with me one time not wearing a seatbelt.

This was many, many, many years ago and somebody slammed into the back of his thigh saw him careen across the room.

I then change my mindset that I was going to get into that habit. And next thing I was in the habit of I, I, and I'm in that habit. By the way, I cannot get in the car and feel comfortable unless the seatbelt ceramic but some people on this, say it would be really good for them to start the habit of using their turn six units and build and thank pops in my mind's children watch and do they don't listen to him that that if you got kids in the car. They've got to learn those good habits, not because your preaching and because you demonstrate so what does that look like from Sammy this Peter point of view, but if they see you driving 10 miles an hour over the speed limit all the time and they will think that the entire world expects you to scream 10 miles an hour and is an insurance agent you can assure them that it cost him a little bit but there is I habit a good habit that you want to get some people into as far as paying your premiums on tight, not because Bill wants the money, although I'm sure he does.

But because you don't want them to not have coverage right in most states or something called the Christ. People take advantage of pain on the very very very last day, and often those 800 could companies make it say like a fine thing to do that in many cases that grace period does not mean all you think it does. In a lot of cases, the insurance company has the option to refuse that payment and in some cases to even return that payment if it's paid too late.

If the client had an accident which means that there lots of people driving around for five or 10 days there making that payment and during that five or 10 days every month.

The insurance company could a sit… Sorry instead of paying for that accident you head.

We just can a return that $38.75 that grace. Means in some cases that the insurance company will get gladly take your payment late, but if there's a problem there off the hook so a lot of times they like people wide a net gray area. Many insurance companies like people to pay after the due date and during that reinstatement. And it's good for the agent to set we don't always encourage those folks to make sure they pay it when they ought to yeah and Ike I can tell you from personal experience that on life insurance. You know the when they change the premium or whatever if you get one you know that you send them. That wasn't the right amount they cancel your insurance and they send it back like they have the right to do that, then they get the raise the price of state right and so if that's if there's one place that you got kinda be meticulous because they are meticulous of is in making sure those payments go in the right amount, especially as the premium, but that's the thing about life things as to you know our lives and what can we do to make these positive changes.

I would love your wisdom or your struggles.

I know somebody out there still have something for me you can call 866-34-TRUTH 87884 866-34-TRUTH we got so much more cognitive, and is no men. Do you know your wife's love language, you know, words of affirmation, quality time acts of service gifts or physical touch.

Hello, I'm Lonnie Berger, author and president of every man a warrior. This is your warrior minute. Greg learned his wife's love language while going through every minute. Warrior.

His wife long for words of affirmation, so Greg got a pat of sticky notes in each day left a message on her bathroom mirror. Honey I love you and you're the best thing that ever happened to me or sweetie you make me a better man knowing your wife's love language is just one of the skills you can learn in every man a warrior. Every woman longs to be understood and loved. According to her God-given design. Check us out@everymanaward.com and perhaps you too will come join the movement that's everyman warrior.com everyman of voyeurism ministry of the navigators taking those destructive habits and maybe creating a good habit like leaving your wife and note in your car were talking about those things today in the Christian card I show them. I'm so grateful we have Miss Poole in Charlotte, North Carolina.

She's on the phone with this Miss bull how are you today I thank you and what I'm doing and I hear the whole thing but I do appreciate that servant. Providing you with the kind of program and the problem concerning people not using it signals I'm glad to hear somebody say something you never hear anybody talking about it, but it is very rebellion in and defiance that I think in our culture and I think that if the person something and it turned that well the I think they should get doubly but not doing that and I try my not found felt like it use my signals, even if no by me. I just that's what those signals the and 888 aggravating me that you will be somebody they don't have a thing I like you say at the lab will I need to put it on you and you know, look, I'm trying to insurance that mention about the last minute and was very helpful because I have done that but I will not do that again.

I will go you don't try to get my payment. Dan definitely look for that great. No, I just wanted you know say that I had to make a calm manner and I'm like she did know that I appreciate your program compliance with the other fellow, little earlier that the home improvement my radio on and now and I do make a comment. I'm so happy to hear you drafted if you because it did. It really is now clear and I don't know whether any guys you you you know you noted it in and you like it, unless it is about. I it's my daughters see that's that's her thing boys which she doesn't somebodies the user signals that that's really raisins at a higher you know it's one of those things legibly limits her father. That's actually one of them is I'm in a you know that's not one of the ones that I have been struggling. I do. I admittedly have my other struggles by and so you know when I look at these.

Why do I struggle so much with sin, though it is you know in your you probably seen Robbie really yeah yeah I really do. And but in Jesus said in Isaiah 61 that he came to bind up the brokenhearted and set the captives free.

So how does that really happen practically when it's it's an interesting thing that I figure that like we mentioned earlier.

20 years ago. It was so much worse.

But I feel like I'm on the iceberg program which icebergs they melt very slowly where they are and there's a great deal more under the surface than there is on the CERT you know there's a great deal more under the water. There is are on the surface, so to speak, and that's really where so much of my struggles over the as Lonnie points out, the more I hang out with Jesus, the more he kinda rubs off on me but yet much of that journey really in the struggle for me is very intentional study very intentional prayer healing times asking Jesus to come into that wounded place that Lonnie talked about earlier and what was that one from and what was the message that the enemy was trying to point their own. What if I made an agreement with it took on a label or something that's that's made this worse. I do have a band of brothers.

I do have a group of people in my life. Several of them actually that there are really really drunk in here.

I think I want to say one drink. You your normal are all in this battle and this is why it's so important for us to get a band of brothers surrounded to help her fight. I having some accountability I cannot become a better man just on my own strength I need the time limit Jesus and I don't get my time alone with Jesus unless I got a band of brothers who are currently reaching me every week enemy always goes after that the Robbie thank you for being vulnerable, but your normal all of us. This thing battle, and this is why I'm so encouraged with the results were getting with everyman warrior that would then start spending time with you and start talking about practical issues, whether through hurting marriage or road great that God actually has solutions for that but being in a groupware for nine months or year. I can examine these practical issues. That's one of the things you got it done with everyman were late to discuss with everyman this the reality that they faced at home with their wives or children while they're driving to work. Pornography in these other issues. Robbie are normal and thank you for sharing that. Because the reality is all a veteran battle and it is he wants to neutralizes that's why love the title of everyman warrior because it is a spiritual war. I do, I mean there are international war if you don't think so. Look at the casualties laconically and all-around saintly takes planning not just haphazardly try to deal with these and life with war you need help planning to go edit aggressive yeah and war room was a great example of that recent movie and a Kendrick further stated that there just so much that God is seems to be amassing his resources and calling people out and up and you guys have got 20,000 men that have joined this everyman warrior campaign and so there's opportunity for people all over the place and in everyman warrior is a wonderful website. Again, we've got the links their Christian car guy.com as well as a little bit on all my little characters there. So thank you Lonnie for being with us today. Pleasure Avion is always bill we would again. Just remember to slow down. Jesus walked everywhere he went, got it all done in 33 years until I am going to Akron on my way home that I'm turning my phone to airplane mode, start a new habit or they will see how that goes. About a month hold me accountable to you and spend some time with the Lord this week. See if you we rubs off on you maybe give you an idea for the good habit that you can start. Thank you for listing