Just Sex? Part 2

Jeannie Greer sex is never a part of your earthly life. That's okay because you realize that every time you pray, you pray to the most joy filled, happy, fulfilled man ever walked the face of the earth, and he never had sex and that means your life can have satisfaction and meaning and fulfillment because that's only temporary and it's only partial. But what is eternal and what is blessed is the forever family dad about the birds and the some of you are shuttering as I do you have that awkwardness.

Aren't you well today on Summit life. Pastor JD will be sharing biblical truth as it relates to our sexuality yesterday. I'd like to begin by advising that today's program perhaps is it suitable for young children.

So if you need to change the channel. We understand that you can listen to the phone message free of charge. Any time@jdgreer.com. Let's rejoin Pastor JD now as he continues our forever family teaching series and shows us how to dispel the myths about sex with biblical truth. Also that we can see it is a beautiful echo of what God has a plan for us as part of his eternal family, open your Bibles to first Corinthians chapter 6, and let's jump in makeup sex is just selfish satisfaction of an urge when you train your mind that way later when you get married your ability to engage in sex what God designed it as a fusion of souls were two people offer themselves to each other in self giving love that capacity is significantly diminished by the way, if you are married in your nurturing on the side. It is killing your capacity to how fulfilling sex between you and a partner in your marriage.

Andy Stanley says every time you look at pornography you rewire your soul to believe three things. One, you tell your soul a real body is not good enough. Number two only one body is only one body is not good enough.

And number three. Your wife's body is not good enough because no woman, no matter how beautiful she is, can live up to what you see important Naomi Wolf who is a pretty radical feminist.

She was advisor to President Clinton presidential candidate Gore.

She said percent for most men will make it. Women are just bad porn anymore.

No man she says has ever gorged himself on porn and put it behind him after marriage because his wife met all his porn fantasies.

Instead, the opposite happens it will retrain your appetite so that you can't be happy with sex in marriage pornography before marriage destroy sex in marriage to tell you porn is not a pastime. It is a path way. It is a pathway to change fundamentally who you are and it's not over here and one little corner of your life. It rewires you. It leads to higher rates of depression, lower rates of sexual satisfaction. It has destroyed no telling how many marriages do not think that you can keep it over and one little corner and just put it away when you get married.

That's not how your blame. That's not how Paul would say your soul works at a farmhouse, but it's no big deal couldn't go in the closet and it's going to guestroom pay. It's coming for the whole building men.

If you have pornography, I'm telling you, for the sake of your relationship with all future women. You need to get rid of it today and if you are not willing to address this in your life and I challenge you I challenge you to at least have the decency to tell your girlfriend or your fianc� that this is not something you're able to deal with her want to deal with so that she knows what you're bringing into their relationship because she has a right to know that we should go ahead and get out. Now she wants to.

Rather than have you destroyed her heart. Later, this is nothing to play around with one psychiatrist said porn is more enslaving to people than harrowing, statistically speaking. What's scary is that the porn industry markets itself to 12 the 13-year-olds and they know that it only takes three days to become an addict disabled by the way, right here parents if you let your kids have phones in their rooms by themselves at night in a home without a filter on the Internet, try to judge you much until you don't how to print your kid, none are so much better, but I just have to think to be incredibly na�ve incredibly na�ve as to what is actually happening medical give them a loaded gun that they can talk and sleep under their put under their pillow at night. You might want to judge you or tell you don't know what you're doing to try to tell you to wake up to what's happening and wake up to what's going on out there into the power of these things in the way that they are being marketed to your 12 and 13-year-old again. I direct a lot of this issue toward men, but in our societies become just as much, one for women in every way. Go ahead and say okay romance novels function like pornography for women. These romance novels are soft porn for women made mainstream. They are not romantic.

They are not harmless fantasies, they're destroying you the 50 shades of gray erotica series which is the best-selling fiction book of the last decade sold more than 100 million copies worldwide, is nothing but pornography that Paul would say is sinning against soul and destroying you and destroying your marriage in your future mirrored every other sin. A person commits is outside the body of the sexually immoral person says gets his own body not realize at this point some of you probably still pretty overwhelmed here and you like.

This is been my life see him little bit of a tough spot here. I'll be honest part of me wants to tell you the dangers of sin and I'm going to do that. Try to do as clearly as I can tell you the reason God has his restrictions. This because not because you want to keep you from something because he hasn't been 40 same time. The main message of the church is not that this is a way for us to live and this is like a social habit of not weld you totally messed yourself up the main message of this church is that we have a Savior who came to live the life we were supposed to live and didn't and then he died the death that we were condemned to die in our place.

See, Jesus was called the man of sorrow. Some of you your sexual mistakes are brought all kinds of sorrow into your life man of sorrows means that Jesus took those sorrows into himself so that he could make you know when him so he could say, your sins are like scarlet, I can make them as white as snow. And after he died of the cross, he rose from the dead and what that resurrection was showing you is that there is no deadness that sin has put in your life that he cannot resurrect.

There is nothing that sin is broken, that he cannot repair. There is nothing Senate stolen that he cannot restore so he says come to me because I can make all things new one my favorite verses related to this is what the prophet Joel says in the book of Joel. He says I can restore God's as I can restore what the locusts have eaten the locus for sign of God's judgment there a sign of God's judgment that came in because of Israel's sin and God said that when Israel repented not only did he tell the locus to stop that I can restore all that stuff that they ate what kind of God of grace are we talking about what God of grace is not only will I stop the curse actually go back to all the places your sin brought the curse and how repair it. That means that those of you that sexual sin has destroyed your soul has destroyed your marriage with you. There is a fountain filled with blood drawn from Emmanuel's veins and sinners plunge beneath the flood lose all their guilty state mental sorrows. What a name son of God who came why ruin sinners to reclaim hallelujah what a Savior.

I thought sometimes appear trying to show you that the real dangers of sin on what you lose.

The fact that what this message is about is about a Savior. I don't sit here and preach the walls important the law is only tell you about redemption want to about hope only take about a Savior who took sin into his own body and overcame it so that he could restore you, my friend Matt Chandler in about the same ages of a pastor out of Dallas. He says it when when he and I were both guided know when we were young but come back then. The thing was a true love waits rally that you wish you every you group every year with true love waits. It was a good thing but it was like it was, like getting a teenagers to commits eval to remain pure until they got married. The motives working outside vastly good. A lot of times in the effort. The kind of teach this actual Christian message itself got the deliverer lost Matt Tolstoy, being an artist talk about the size one for me right now. Thousands of people in and Matt said that is sitting there and the guy we got to get talking together rose beautiful Rose city girl him love this rose right yeah right handed person.

On the one side auditorium says I want walk, talk, appear on everybody to smell this.

Rose want to touch the pedals until soft it is and make sure everybody in here an audience at the touch.

About 30 minutes.

God gives us talk when there's 30 minutes are done he says okay where is that Rosie gets up in the last person the mallets all wilted and petals are fallen off and it's drooping and this looks terrible and holds us off and he says who wants this rose nobody wants this rose he throws it, and the sort of a dramatic illustration asymmetric. Some of you are doing to yourselves by giving yourself sexually way before you got married. Matt said I just sat there and I felt like he sells brand-new Christian. I want to stand up but I want to say Jesus wants to rose Jesus came for the rose. He came to die for the rose so that he could restore the rose. So yes, sin causes damage. Sin leaves consequences but you have a Savior that died for those things and overcame those to the grave so that he could restore you. He breaks the power of canceled sin, and he sets the prisoner free, so please understand what I am up here. I'm not just a yes I'm trying to tell you about these dangers of sin, but also want you to understand that you have a Savior that came from ruin sinners.

You will more illustration on this in Matthew's gospel. Matthew's genealogy of Jesus.

You go through there.

You'll notice that there's a couple names you put in there and if you're reading them. You're like me, you don't really belong to Lindsay because in Jesus's bloodline, God arranged it so that there was a former prostitute was in this and that Jesus himself came through the offspring of David and Bathsheba's adultery.

What is that trying to tell you other than the fact that God can bring Christ out of even the worst kinds of sexual sin. Friend of God can bring Jesus into the world to a former prostitute in an adulterous relationship he could bring Christ into your life and he can bring beauty out of your ashes.

That's what the whole thing is about the whole thing is about God's power to restore so again it's enough. You have a dual purpose. I want to show you what's at stake in sexual sin, but also want to proclaim that Jesus heals and restore sinners, but I need you to put away the myth that sex is just casual the limitations that God puts on sex. He does so for your good. Many young singles want to wait to have sex because of further to miss out on something.

All my friends talk about it. All managers with real data storage there back with them and like I'm just been deprived always rules keep me from things friend got Tolstoy to have sex precisely so we won't miss out on something, you get forgiveness for sexual sin, but forgiveness is painful the consequences can leave deep scars.

Plus I'll just tell you if you're sitting here right now thinking while I do not have a little fun right now I'm I'm serious teenager college student, and then I'll get forgiveness later that your attitude I get a question whether you actually belong to Jesus. How could you love Jesus and still openly pursue the things that you know put him on the cross. How could you know that Jesus is a part of your life and subject him to that kind of willful sin in your life.

First Corinthians 6. Here's what Paul says is that you not know that your bodies a temple of the Holy Spirit within you got that spirit in you, not your own you on your way to the destruction Inc. and Jesus bought you with a price. So obviously somebody understands that we want to glorify God of the body right. How could you know that God after perching with his blood. Put your spirit in you and now the spirit is in you, it means that everything that you do.

Now he's gotta be present for and how could you say that you love him, and then re-subject him to the things that put him on the cross.

If you know and love Jesus, you will do that.

Why would a person overwhelmed by God's goodness want to spit on it again if that's your attitude makes you wonder make you wonder if you actually know for scream 69 do you not know the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God is what Jesus had to die all be deceived using your light will or living together is not that big of a deal.

It's a big deal.

Well, it's just a little harmless.

But no, it's a big deal, they will not inherit the kingdom of God told me to see the sexually immoral, those who openly practice it will not because you can't say I love and serve Jesus and then just pursue what put them on the cross and act like it's not anything, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, these will not inherit the kingdom of God unless they were. Marriage is honorable to all that is on the file. It's beautiful. It's blessed with the sexually immoral and adulterers God will judge from God is very serious about sexual sin, do not play games does so because of his love, he does so because he recognizes it has such great power for good and therefore has great power forms. Well, that's one for scream to 60 tells you to flee sexual immorality.

You understand that a lot usually about talk about temptation talked about enduring or withstanding, or way of escape. Gotta make but he says when it comes to sexual immorality run from it. It's that destructive first Peter two possibly your grief abstain from these fleshly lusts could actually go to war against your soul war against your soulmate destroy your capacity for loving relationships and destroy your capacity to know and love God.

Culture says no big deal if possible under the interest of oysters is used to listen for maybe your sit here and you like.

I still quite did. I just don't see how it's that big of a deal. Here's my question that you you trust God enough to do it his way.

Yes, you believe God see this is an area where God testing to see if you're actually willing to wait on this is what is your specialty are singled out like I just want to see her smiling and do it your way to college students and because you yeah I just I'll get saved later become a Christian later.

Right now enjoy my sexual freedom too much on what you realize what you're giving up. You're talking about little sexual pleasure. That's not to be that fulfilling anyways received from these different studies in the mess you up and what your training for that is a relationship with God.

If you wait, not only will you get God tell you, God gives his best to those who wait and trust him to do it his way. You'll find that is true in every area, especially this. If you wait, you'll be glad for what I have to quote hear from our friend Dr. Danny Aiken, the president of Southeastern seminary here and wait for is not far from where I am right now. Reboot years. Google got on sex" him because I could never get away with saying what he said here's a quote.

It's not surprising that the University of Chicago study reports that those doing it God's way report the most satisfaction with their sex lives when University of Chicago researchers set out to discover which religious denominations have the best sex they learned that the faithful don't do all their shouting in church so I could say conservative Protestant women reported by far the highest satisfaction and sex mainline Protestants and Catholics like five points behind those with no religious affiliation were more than 33 points behind and Unitarians may not wish to read any further, sexually active singles have the most sexual problems and get the least pleasure out of sex.

Men with the most quote liberal attitudes about sex are 75% more likely to fail to satisfy their partners. The most sexually satisfied demographic group of men is that of Protestant married couples between the ages of 50 and 59 Cosmopolitan touts Cosmos 20 favorite set steps ever. We have the wall shaking earthquake emus that will make your bed end up clear across the room. However, the statistics suggest that if you're really interested in the best sex possible find you a born again baby keep her around until she's 50, because that's when the best will come told you couldn't say it is to point is do it God's way with God's way again. God doesn't tell you to avoid sexual immorality because you want to keep you from something as you avoid because he wants to bless you with something all the ways of God. As I close, I want to hit one more math really quickly retouch on each week, but this method is at the heart of Jesus is teaching in Matthew 19 Jesus's answer to this myth is an important component of his teaching on marriage and sex of the quickly.

Myth number three, such as the best part of life or culture's S Exodus is an essential part of life. You can be happy without it. That's why I showed you Jesus include the part about the units in his teaching on marriage. Matthew 19 units again represent single people. Jesus said these units single are still full participants in the blessing of God.

Full participants in the family of God and all the blessings of the kingdom are there is even other nonmarried what Jesus is saying is marriage and sex are not really what life's ultimate blessings are there not essential part of life because soon enough in eternity. None of us will be married. That which is partial and temporary marriage and sex will have given way to that which is permanent and eternal price in the church so that means about get a chapter in my life without sex whether that's because I'm single. Or maybe it's because I'm not in a good marriage and sex is just really no longer part of my our marriage and and and my spouses will cooperate, for whatever reason, sex is not part of my life. Yes, that is difficult not want to downplay that that you and that's not a part of your life. Understand that that could be something you have to endure what you need to hear is that you can still find real joy in life and real meaning and will satisfaction if sex is never a part of your earthly life. That's okay because you realize that every time you pray, you pray to the most joy filled, happy, fulfilled man ever to walk the face of the earth, and he never had sex and that means that your life can have satisfaction and meaning and fulfillment because that's only temporary and it's only partial.

But what is eternal and what is blessed is the forever family so units represent single people they can find full satisfaction in the family of God. You see, ironically, our culture both undervalue sex but not recognizing its power over value sex by thinking that it is essential for a happy life, but neither of those things are true. Near those things are true and that's what the Bible's teaching on this liberate you to my friend Christopher. You want tells a story of growing up same-sex attracted so I was a teenager I asked God I begged God to give me different desires to give me heterosexual desires because I knew his word taught me that homosexuality was wrong is to be God did not answer that prayer leads the way that I wanted him to, because I never developed heterosexual desires.

So for a while I pursued an openly gay lifestyle, thinking that that's where I would find satisfaction, he says, but to a series of bad decisions. Not only did I not want satisfaction. I hit rock bottom, and even ended up in prison as was there in a prison cell that I met God and God in that prison cell in give me a change of sexual orientation. But what he met me with was the offer of a forever family with his son Sally put my identity now is not gay is not X gay region heterosexual for that matter, my soul identity is as a child of the living God, made in the image of Jesus Christ and that prison cell.

I realize that the decision had to be made. I could either abandon God and pursue sexual freedom.

As I have been rocket surrender sexual freedom to live as a follower of Jesus Christ. My decision was obvious.

I chose to be a child of God. I used to think he said that the please this Christian God. I had to make myself straight to make myself feel heterosexual feelings that I realized, even those with heterosexual urges still struggle with sin and may still need to be redeemed so that couldn't be the ultimate goal know our goal as Christians, no matter what feelings we have must be holiness and holiness is only found in the righteousness of Christ. Our identity must be solely in his righteousness, and not in-house, sexually pure we feel as I began to embrace this life of surrender and obedience not even call me in the full-time ministry we did that while I was in a prison of all places. In other words, there's a guy who to this day will tell you that sexually is urges his attractions are same-sex attractions is because he realizes the Bible says that is not in the will of God. He says if I don't ever get heterosexual desires is that I've had to surrender that inside the section is not part of my life is as meat second class life is because child of God is really important. God had a plan for me and I got the ultimate thing which is God forever family.

And that's okay. Sex is not ultimate is just an echo supporter of what God has for you in his forever family. So if it's something that's not a part of your life, you can still have a happy, joy filled meaningful life because the forever a family, your identity as a child of God and the family of God were real life and satisfaction in his forever family never too late for new start filled with forgiveness and restoration. You're listening to some it life with pastor JD Greer as a reminder, if you've missed any of the previous messages in this series, you can listen again online, free of charge, or you can download the unedited message transcript.

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