EP342: Strength in Loneliness is Still Loneliness, Jason Wolfe Paid His Own Child Support and When Truman Came to Town

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Some of our favorite and you heard from him before on our show that you're going to hear little bit about his own life story.

We love telling you stories of family stories of mothers the importance they play in their children's lives better and for worse years. Easy with her own story. I will call simpler time in my life. Alabama it was so small. We used to laugh and Reno burnouts burn on. I remember going out the house and I would be making my my brothers, but I'll never forget how what you cooking today but they called and I said, making a hi try. I sit down on the little pieces of wood on the rocks and I that in their math. I got sick from eating that dirt and running to the house until mother that Adam it was funny to my mother and me. It was those little things I remember going to the barn with the boys we saddle up our voices. We had to Shetland ponies."

Of course it was a wonderful place to grow 40 acres of rolling hills. We have a garden with different chores to do. Boys did more in the garden.

I was more helping mother with laundry.

My mother would always have us bake. We got off the school bus.

I remember was baked sweet potatoes and chocolate dating want to hear about what we had done in school today and we had a whole glass meal that was just remembering that was home to me and we all need someplace we can call home, either physically or place we can go back to when Armand that is a place for me and I think the barn I used to think this is the play you know she's simpler times it was the place of the most joy feeling free and you could be anything you want to be at the barn just spoke to me in a way of life that openness like the loft you get drain was placed during E. Look out through the holes sky. Or you could jump out of the barn and being a palace sawdust or hay in with like kick the can relay grinds that we would see how fast we were in a go from one tree to the next. It was just nothing big but those simple games that I cherish the most that I would call this is the place I think that places where I found me. My mother soon was a homemaker when I was young, she just live for her children. She left dress me up beautifully.

I was her baby course I was her first child and the boys always so handsome she didn't come to the barn do things with my grandma D. Tom Graham a ride she could milk cows doing my mother was the one that always had everything just riding home was always stressed perfect.

My mother taught me about improper good manners was always important old-school manner with her was always very proud of my accomplishments in life. I didn't get to be as close to her as I wanted to be. He was closer to the boys. I think my mother was closer to the boys because they were morning and she would say your strong your lot mama like Alice, you don't really need anybody, you just do it. But what I wish my mother had notice was neither so I always just strong.

Everybody said it, though I must get made me alone was a good quality, but I don't like being alone. My grandmother Alice. She said please always love your mother she loves you dearly, she just doesn't know how to connect the your mother left. She and sometimes is just no real explanation other than just the comment of it because what people don't realize, I think is is that it is important to take the time to explain to someone talk to them don't have. I think I suppress mine through the years to be almost 70 years old and to see if the little girl in me still wants to go to the play is the barn is gone, my grandmother, Stalin, most of my family's.

There is no place that I feel quite at home anymore. I'm going to find things and great job on the production by Robbie and thanks for just her beautiful piece of storytelling from Edie and in the barn was a place to dream 70 years old. She's looking for that voice suppressed her feelings strong.

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Now Robbie brings us the story Jason Wolf created the first online coupon site was the first to seriously develop software attract web browsing using what are known as cookie. Jason is here to bring us the story of becoming the father but he never had himself used Jason.my very first memories were when I was living in Virginia.

My dad worked and lived in a place called rust, which was like a new suburb of Washington DC back on.

I can remember having a bike learning how to ride a bike, my God, I must've been maybe three or four number going down this little hill that is pushing me down and no basically being scared and happy to early something that happened in my life.

I remember that was like little thing probably one of my mom and got separated by then was 1975 so six or so and I can remember my dad driving a Volkswagen like station loaded all the stuff and things Volkswagen drove up to call this meeting my brother and sister not throw something to drop us off with my grandparents. Mom my mom was acting strange that he left and that was the beginning of the divorce. Shortly after that my mom turned out later I found out my mom had mental illness and so she was put into a mental institution for couple years so for a couple years after my dad dropped us off mama's going through trying to get herself back together. The others of those that is probably the next milestone in my life. I could remember when my mother was on there trying to get her to take her into the station versions way for copiers and they somehow couldn't get her. She's elusive and I corrupt my sister and I going to this hospital and they were getting her there under some other guys some other trick to get show up shows off my sister lives now probably holders and I remember the had my sister and I playing three games on Sun's room and armor piercing scream look over his mother running towards me with his straitjacket because of an that was like kind of crazy from then over the next course couple years I was at the grandparents. I lived with finance for a little bit and eventually uncle and mom came out of the institution tried to take a star back on her feet living and sort of welfare life. Not a lot of money for Christmas very vividly while you are online at this point just laying on her blanket with no heat in the house and getting a knock at the door and at the door was looked out the door was a box with frozen turkey and some games for us and we could cook the turkey with no gas window cost so were the poor people were there with the car called the raggedy's righties town liberal rag you stuff that was us, and so that none living with her uncle and then having to make a decision about 10 whether I want to go this new school at the discovered this non-that we were going to church. I told my grandmother about Hershey Pennsylvania school for the time it was boy's voice is converting over to it was the late 70s 79 or so and we went out took the test came back brother and my brother didn't pass the test. I did and they asked me to remember standing close house in the second floor harassment you want to go to school you want to go through uncle uncle to go to California and I decided to go to school alone by myself is usually knows God spells God moment there is no real reason for me to choose to not go with my family but I chose to go with my family to go down to school and so on September 20, 1980 was a fall day, crisp out football season Sunday. Remember, just like yesterday and I could feel the air right now and being dropped off at school and my mother and my grandparents were there and inside this place called rotunda huge building Hershey school and I confirm Mr. Long standing there with me was the person at the intake of children coming.

Remember Mr. Long looking at my parents as my mother by now. I thought I was dead because my mom told Susan I live so your pay child support. We really thought it was so see my mother cry my grandparents standing there and they walk away alone and realized them alone for long time thereafter growing up that school never, not even a few months into it. Maybe crying every night myself to sleep. Started to try to use to school at the time was a you know corporal punishment was not something that happened just happened right as part of discipline and I can remember running away really paddled. Remember these things that I was a used scary and I cried and I did want to be there, but I learned to adapt to change to figure things out.

Eventually I did and eventually excelled. I became played three sports, football, baseball, wrestling some of the most Demonstrable teams. I excelled in my grades are always good. I was in top class, probably the top you know handful of kids and then went on to college for college or sitting graduation day. Next moment was just sitting there and you know with a suitcase of closing 100 bucks because they give you a check up time hundred dollars. I think my was less than 100 because I school something for something that I know and I couldn't cash a check because I have a bank account and had a suitcase brand-new close no.

Three pairs of socks temporarily. Doors like that and so I'm sitting there with his big suitcase close this check I can't cash and my grandfather had a stroke so he was on the last months of his life. My mother was always no dysfunctional. I was really sure what. So I went up to Connecticut and I stayed with my grandmother to help her to take her my grandfather until he died. He passed away within a couple months I go to college.

I wasn't sure what else to do and so I got involved in. Like a lot of things that somebody who has no family really who has no direction, no male mentorship Christ not in my life to large measure, and so I got involved in things that were illegal and I didn't do you proud about about the stretch my life right there that I was glad I was, going down the wrong roads and thankfully Jason. After a number of setbacks at the moment of clarity and after years of hard work he created the first website ever invented the first real software to use cookies to track web browsing, which he sold for roughly $22 million. So that was 2006 and by then I was married was only married for copiers and had a son, Morris and I go through course I get the old you know you're locked out of your home DR go to work on my house and all lots of change. I was only married for two years. I did know the person is getting married to. I only knew her for months before she got I got married on American she's pregnant and you been listening to Jason Wolf tell the story of his life and what a story it is when we come back more of the life story of Jason Wolf on our American stores. Millions will make Medicare coverage decisions for next year and United healthcare can help you feel confident about your choices for those eligible Medicare annual enrollment runs from October 15 through December 7. If you're working past age 65. You might be able to delay Medicare enrollment.

Depending on your employer coverage. It can seem confusing, but it doesn't have to be this UHC Medicare health plans.com to learn more United healthcare helping people live healthier lives. I know everything about running a coffee shop for small business insurance. I need my State Farm agent and company business owners to help you best. State Farm is in your corner and on like a good neighbor, call your local State Farm agent for quote today. This is Tori Johnny with OMG podcasts we have such a special app is brought to you by near attack ODT we recorded at radius type windows hang out near attack ODT were not to plant 75 mg can help migraine sufferers still such an exciting event. Windows hang out I had when I took minor tech DT and I was present amazing time.

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Unfortunately, that ended after a few years, and Jason felt himself the middle of a divorce use Jason tells the rest of the store so during the divorce and after the divorce was time for me. I think to when God started knocking on my door and say all the stuff you gotta do you gotta be starting to change the way you live and put God first.

Even though divorce wasn't fond of financially was a mass company during the time that I was married to begin marital asset that was a big problem in but I started to go to church more. I started those no invite into a men's group and I started a journey to change my life to bring me as a man more words. Christ in a real way, as opposed to saying when I got the worst. It was easy for you know the lawyers to say hey you know what just kinda settle this disagreement and cited papers. Honestly, that is saying that I have the legal legal management primary custody compared to discuss legal custody. All I just knew was like yeah you know I quickly figured out because I didn't have equal physical and legal custody.

I had sort of visitation rights. I think that's terrible for dads time was for me and I had to then try to argue with the court that I could be an equal father wanted to be equal in Morse life as mom tried to stop that. So for years from 2006, all with 2011 we fought for custody and eventually the 2010, Gov. Tom Rundell leaving office and he put a change to the law thing about parental custody at the time I had to prove that I was father was proof that I was, instead of just automatically giving people custody and the disapproving the other person could. So when he did that allowed me to have 50-50 custody was wonderful thing and I think that's how it always was so took years for me to fight for him to drink dispute is life and he was big part of my life. We spent get remarried until 2070 so for 10 years. It was more sly my dog Toby, our dog Toby and you know I spent a lot of time with him. I focus on Morris.

I did some work with my I was involved in the school was involved with his doctors. I was equally involved father as it should be and I love that I love to be involved in his life is over.

Now, 15, 16 kids change doesn't listen to me as much as he did before.

But that's okay since that I did get remarried and we have fostered and we have adopted we have two girls now that we've adopted Danielle five and a miracle was 80 we got them when there were 336 is so so we love them. We have two new girls, we have a boy right now to Fosters and Jeremiah Jeremiah. We hope eventually will be our son. And so our family went from just Morse minor dog to Susan, my wonderful wife Danielle Marigold Morris Jeremiah the dogs and my wife loves animals. We have a donkey go to goats and pony so you please expand the scope always struggles all these challenges that I have. I learned later in life that you know it was God banging on my heart. My heart was getting broken over and over and over and it was because God wanted to get into my heart heart was hard, so I think the struggles have made my heart soft any soft or gentler heart was needed. When Jason had to face the man he'd grown up thinking was dead.

The man who left his family when he was six. His own father. So I found out my dad was alive. 19 $92.22 years old 21 years old. I was in college and thought it was a lively sent letters to my grandmother who when tells where he was. She would send letters father and lo and behold wasn't dead, he lived in New Zealand a whole different life and I ended up going down to meeting him. 23. It's been about a month with him got to know a little bit and over the course of a couple years of the more but I wasn't with Christ yet.

So what I decide to do was say my dad listen I don't forgive you unless you apologize need to apologize to my mom just my grandmother because I am the judge. I leave it up to gotta look up myself on the dictate the situation so he did he send a letter to my mom and my grandmother and now my grandmother, my mother knows where he lives right so now the sense of loss, mom soon my dad because he never paid child support, dads wanted and the United States could come back here and if you did go to jail and had a judgment against $418,000 in back child support and interest so he could come back and it was because of me that happened and because of my thought that I needed to tell somebody what to do. I need to be the judge of somebody else that caused pain. I felt bad about, so when I sold glass company in 2016 I hired a lawyer and I found the documents down Virginia.

The divorce documents between mom and dad found the settlement amount are the mouth they had leaned against my dad and I went up to Connecticut, met with mom and convince her to allow me to pay her on behalf of my father so I will pay her buyer house. It's time. The house is worth 100,000. I give her 200,000. I gave her a commitment of $2000 a month over the rest of her life and some other stuff in exchange for her releasing my father of that that he owed her and she did and so it was a proud moment for me to deal to my dad.

Hey listen I settled your debt to my mom and I was able to live that out because my faith. Now my father all his years was not very close to four. I don't think I think this probably an atheist or agnostic agnostic at best. In the last several years.

He married somebody but Becca was a Christian now my dad. I like the 75 years old is going to church and he's in a in a small group at church to make this stuff up. And so it's been it's been really a great journey for me with my dad.

You know I forgave him I forgiven the right way.

Forgive him because of me telling what you are forgiven because Christ forgave me and I think that's been special for me and what a remarkable piece of storytelling. Thanks to Robbie for producing the piece, and a special thanks also to Jason Wolf for sharing his story.

My goodness being abandoned by his father. The mental illness of his mother being alone all the time then the divorce then the fight to get equal custody of his son and he found his dad the age of 22 tried to reconcile forgave him incorrectly.

The first time incorrectly.

The second changed everything. The story of Jason Wolf so the story of so many men and women struggling to find peace and healing in this world on our American millions will make Medicare coverage decisions for next year and United healthcare can help you feel confident about your choices for those eligible Medicare annual enrollment runs from October 15 through December 7. If you're working past age 65. You might be able to delay Medicare enrollment. Depending on your employer coverage. It can seem confusing, but it doesn't have to be this UHC Medicare health plans.com to learn more United healthcare helping people live healthier lives. I know everything there is to know about running a coffee shop for small business insurance. I need my State Farm agent and company business owners to help you best. State Farm is in your corner and on my neighbor call your local State Farm agent for quote today. This is Tori, and Johnny went 210 MG pot class. We have such a special episode brought to you by near attack ODT we recorded at radius type windows came down near attack ODT were magic pants 75 mg can help migraine sufferers still set an exciting event like window tango. I had when I took minor TECO DT and I was present amazing time. A little glimpse of our conversation with some of our closest friends & was brought to you by near attack ODT were magic pants 75 mg life with migraine attacks can be missing out on big moments with friends and family, but thankfully near attack ODT were magic pants 75 mg is the only medication that is proven to treat a migraine attack and prevent episodic migraines and adults sell lively Van Slyke window tango down have to be next. We returned to our American stories and up next story about when or 33rd president made an all-important visit was small town in his or her own Monty Montgomery with the store Dexter Iowa is a small town with a lot of hard even though it's population has never exceeded a thousand people. There's a history of the Barrow gang had been issued out there. They hosted an amusement park at one point it was also once a presidential campaign stop the presidential campaign stop that Alexis brought Stanley on September 1948, Pres. Truman came to Dexter.

I'll for the national plowing that it was a big deal. The national climate. Big big.

What exactly is a plowing it's a competition to see who's the best judge them on and judge them on different things about the tractor wells and there were judges that judge how well you plow the field house. It was how open it was.

They had some other like conservation, like making a pot limit upon my uncles farm. They blew up using dynamite. They blew up land and waterway drain water off and stuff.

This was a statewide. Thanks. It was a national bank to so there you have lots of people coming in from there's another was an airport south of Dexter Southwest Dexter that day, like 120 airplanes brought brainy people estimated between 75 and 100,000 how did Pres. Truman even get involved boils down to the drive of a radio personality. Truman's opponent and like a lot of things in politics poll numbers guy. He was writing a guest with a fellow by the name of Thomas Dewey from New York and Thomas Dewey was so far ahead in the polls.

Her plan that famous WHO farm personality was in charge of organizing this whole thing in her plan back called her wet talk Thomas Dewey and ask him you want to be the headliner out here Dexter and talk to these people and doing said in so many words I pretty doing pretty well in the polls. I don't think I need to come out to Iowa and to talk so her plan back then called up and scheduled a meeting with with Truman and normally there are a limited time basis with toxic presence on the date they made an appointment to talk to Truman actually went over the time limit is Truman like talking Truman was a use one of those guys like to talk to. He was a former farmer to me. As far as he was a farming occupation before he got into politics and he said well boys I said I would really like to come out do that he says I don't think the Secret Service will allow me to do what I want to do in us to go out and mingle and talk to people and and so on. So when her plan back left that meeting he thought guys. I don't think I don't think so kind, except that way until like three weeks before the event and the White House calls her plan backups is Truman's, through grants because he had to make sure that security had to be better a lot of things that had to do the president Truman started over is what Davenport on the Rock Island railroad line, the one arrested Dexter and was across the state and he gave a speech there early in the morning that he gave a speech at Oxford. I will live in a speech in Grinnell and a speech and voice picked up his wife Bess and his daughter Margaret Boyd and they rode the train out the Dexter band Dexter band was there to meet Truman. I believe they played the Missouri walls or a Monday when he arrived at the depot Dexter had brought his Cadillac is robin egg blue Cadillac out quarter-mile clothing styles.

About three days before everybody was wondering what the heck was that was going on, bring that blue Cadillac out here and eventually they figured out that it was the president be stopping in and going out to the plowing match, but he was concerned, still concerned about the Secret Service block style, but became anyway the people said it was sitting literally. Truman saw the crowd saw how big the crowd was.

He said his. He had a smile from here to here.

He was just loving that you send. This is going to give me an opportunity to really to get my camera.

I'm so far behind. It can't hurt to give me a chance to hammer home. I placed the majority of these farmers that were of Republican persuasion, but he got 13 ovations that day and he really hammered on the Republican do-nothing city called the do-nothing Congress was his first major campaign speech of the 1948 election he use this type of campaign. The whistle stop using the train traveling around stop and talk in small towns, the people to actually turn the tide. It's interesting when Thomas Dewey found out hundred people hundred thousand people showed up Dexter Iowa. He got a little nervous and he actually got the Republicans in Iowa to have campaign thing for him in the morning and they actually got like 15,000 people to hear Thomas doing is a pretty good crowd, but nothing like Truman but anyway when Truman was here.

He ate lunch we have stuff in the museum. The tablecloth actually that was on the table that he ate off of. But anyway he ate lunch out there. Had fried chicken dinner mashed potatoes and corn relish tray at all apple pie different kinds of pie and then he went went out on the wagon to look at some of the projects are conservation projects that they were doing that day. It wasn't only a plowing contest with some like making a pond in the remaking waterways they were doing some other stuff conservation things that out there and that in that area as well. But anyway, he went out and he was on the back of a hay wagon the course. The Secret Service was with him and they were there cruising along Secret Service look around, Truman was on the wagon anymore. You jumped off the wagon and he was heading down to where they were making this pond and we called Walker's pond back when I was on Howard Walker's property. This type of property. Back then, but anyway so those people that were on the bulldozers had actually been told by the Secret Service earlier that if Truman came down there to turn off the bulldozers and you just sit on the bulldozers so the president must ask questions and that kind of thing and so that's what they did.

They softly saw the sky coming down the figured it was truly someone recognizing bulldozers often. Truman got down there was chatting with them like you like you normally chat with people he said will what you turn off your bulldozers for you guys got work to do, is all. We were told by the Secret Service to do that. Truman said well next time ask you do that you tell us SLB is that you're going to do that. You just keep right on working. Got a big laugh out of that course. The Secret Service is down and puts it back on the way and away they go. That was Truman but he did get to talk to some of the people out there, but like I said this. This was a huge boost to his is turn the tide as far as is his election in he was really the only one in the articles I read he was only one.

Even his wife had given up so far behind that is a losing season.

We need start packing things up, get back. And live in Independence warehouse. There is to give up yet.

He election came in November and he was listening to, and he was holding his own doing wasn't blowing them away. He goes to bed thinking that probably the next morning that no maybe I will be president that he was kind of had a quiet confidence, he thought he thought he was going when the next morning. The results are a ruling in Truman's wedding and is good he's going to end up winning the election was a huge, huge, upset, and there was no way that he was supposed to land that they say that where it all started right here in a one horse town Dexter I will in 19 September 4, and a great job as always on the production and the storytelling by Monty Montgomery and a special thanks to Ron Stanley of the Dexter Museum and Dexter Iowa Dexter is one like town in the small museum is right off the main street running through it. If you're in the neighborhood, drop by and take a visit. We love visiting these really small small towns and telling stories about them in the national plowing match 1948 helps propel Truman to victory the story of Dexter and Harry Truman's campaign victory here on our American store