Resilient - It's Tempting, Part 2

We all struggle at times with behavior patterns. The repeat and repeat and then they so get us to one of mind is this policy I need to address something in my life I resolve it all. Do I try really hard and then I fail and I feel guilty so I resolved to try even harder. And then I fail and then I get so discouraged I don't even want to try some like you how to break that pattern that's today.

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Drift your finger tips are Bible teacher on this international discipleship program that I currently have a series called resilient stamping the storms of life. As much as I'd like to say otherwise I can identify the repeat scenario scribe I guess is to, as we learned in our previous program.

Most likely feel when were tired on this program were going to get on the solution side all that so I'm glad you're here tips teaming up with us on the Wyoming and Ryan began this message in our previous program with a separate teaching to share some additional thoughts, so be sure to stay with us for that.

Okay let's get going with part two of its tempting James chapter 1, I think there's two important questions we need to ask the progression of sin and temptation. What does this sinful ground look like in your life.

Maybe it's last. What is it full-grown look like maggots lying.

Maybe it's gossip. Maybe it's cheating maybe it's an addiction right now is just like hoping to get by in the season, but what is it full-grown look like and then the second question, what are the ultimate consequences when is full-grown, what are the ultimate consequences. See, we buy into the myth that that could never happen to me that would never happen to me. I'd never do that. In truth, is is that's the story of so many peoples whose lives have been broken and shipwrecked that can never happen to me. I learned so much for my dad growing up and I remember him saying this because as a pastor he Saul other pastors who ship wrecked their life through moral failures and he never wanted his story to end that way his ministry to be undermine and remember him sharing directly publicly teaching this and as I was sitting listening to him and and he would literally visualizes what he say he visualizes what the ultimate consequences of a moral failure would be, and so you visualize and walk this through of having to sit his kids down and going to them and go in the schizo going to us in Scotland. Hey dad is not going to be around seen the visualizing the consequences of his marriage, losing the ministry that he gave his life to build see what happens is when we address the progression we we also and become painfully aware of these hooks.

The shiny doesn't look so attractive anymore, see what we do when temptation knocks, we gotta recognize the source of temptation and then addressed the progression we we got it moved beyond the moments and and just go okay where is this headed then he is going to go on say identify the lie and bring it into the light. Identify the lie. I get clear on what is the lie that were buying into and then bring it into like this. Why says and don't be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters. Don't be duped, don't buy into the lie. Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the father of heavenly lights does not change like shifting shadows see most of us I think are not clear about the lies that we believe or have bought into the root lie when it comes to temptation and the things we buy into is about God's character and his word to go all the way back to the garden when the enemy of Satan, the serpent was, you know, tempting Eve there's two main things that he wanted to undermines the did God really say you must not eat of the tree of knowledge of good and did he really said wanting to undermine God's word but fundamentally what the enemy wants to do is undermine the character of God. God wants to keep you from the knowledge I think at the root for us of sin and brokenness and temptation is a belief that God is good. It's always an attack on the goodness of God and that we can get good outside of God and his ways. She says every good and perfect gift is from your heavenly father loves you he wants. It is even want to keep good from you.

He wants only the very house for you and and he's the father of heavenly lights, like bring it into the light. He doesn't change like shifting shadows you not change his mind. He's not inconsistent. Think about the character of God, just in this text alone that James is telling us one that God cannot be tempted. He's morally pure.

He doesn't tempt anyone. He is not putting things out to try to trip you up. He wants the very best for you. He is the giver of every good and perfect gift God doesn't change, he's absolutely consistent. In fact, in the next verse from Odyssey. He is the giver of new life, not death. She said in verse that creates doubt he wants to give you life see what we think is offering us a good in a way outside of God is actually creating great harm got says no I just want you to experience life and so and so, identify the lie. Always an attack on the character of God and then bring it into the light. Nothing good grows in the dark by the secrets keep you and I stuck as long as it stays a secret, you will remain a slave to nothing good grows in the dark. You gotta bring it out into the light and that's what James is saying 516 a little bit later on he is a confess your sins one to another, and pray for each other that you may be healed. This is why we do community, you can't afford not to do community.

You were never intended to do this life on your own and in community of believers who love you enough for you.

You bring the real you say this is where Matt would you help me says in that process.

God brings healing which identify the lie and bring it into the light we ask and what I don't know what exactly to bring into the light will let me give you maybe a little litmus test is there anything in your life that you wouldn't want your wife to find out about or your husband find out about.

Is there anything in your life that you wouldn't want your parents find out about. Is there anything in your life that you wouldn't want your friends or your mentors find out about pool differently. Is there anything in your life that you wouldn't want your pastor to find out about. That's probably the areas where he say bring that into the light. Get a trusted friend who loves Jesus who can walk with you through that and some I think just even as were talking I want to give a little word of hope in this moment because I think if you're anything like me in that college kid you just felt so defeated he felt like this will never change you feel like you're the only one going through this. The apostle Paul would say first Corinthians 1013 no temptation has overtaken you or sees you, except with comments of mankind. See, we've all been in this while going through this work were all struggling and God is faithful. He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. He is faithful.

He's going to meet you right in that moment if you just recognize instead of running from God in the middle of that moment you bring them into it. But when you're tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can interpret and is often the community of God around you. That is his way out for you okay so what we do when it when temptation knocks recognize the source address the progression.

Identify the lie bring it into light and finally we need to remember what is true of you in Christ Jesus. You gotta remember you gotta reorient your life back to what is fundamentally foundational. He true of. He says this he chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.

He chose think about this God shows you. It wasn't just like man I just kinda gotta be a part of the got says I chose you to guide him to give you new birth, so what God has done. You can't undo have the confidence to give you new life through the word of truth. His gospel in you. Will you have a spiritual enemy who wants you to live in shame and guilt.

Here's how the enemy works, by the way you ask the set up allure were responsible for biking on it, but he likes to set out where you go hey come on get this in the new bionic you like stocking your experience in all accounts was a like and they know what he does that jerk is a jerk what you say it isn't, he's a jerk because he's known as the accuser of the saints so you know what he does is he entices you, and you bind on it and he accuses you he goes. How could you, what were you thinking are you kidding me, he accuses you and he wants you to live in shame and guilt Romans that it once is, therefore, there is now no condemnation for those of us who are in Christ Jesus seek the accuser is wanting to speak lies to you about who you are to keep you from running to your perfect heavenly father who has every good gift for you.

He wants you to keep you hiding.

See that's what Adam and Eve did in the garden. The minute we blow it we hide. He says come out of hiding come to your heavenly father who loves you say you remember, was true of you in Christ Jesus was true of you is not what the accuser says no, he's a jerk.

Stop listening to what's true of you is that you are adopted into the family of God. If your follower of Jesus was true of you is you are a daughter in the son of the King most hot was true of you is you have been completely forgiven. There is no condemnation there is no place for the accuser's word in your life was true of you is you are loved unconditionally by a perfect good heavenly father that is what's true of you and by the way, that will keep a backside from becoming a landslide. How do you you know have resiliency in the face of temptation friends. You gotta get back to what's true of you in Christ Jesus. I love this quote by John Bunyan on Easter Sunday Mike's kids and I are a family really Jenny that as we watch the Pilgrim's progress movie which was great and he writes this in his autobiography. He says I never saw all those heights in the depths and grace and love and mercy as I saw after this temptation to catch that. I never saw those heights and depths in the grace and love and mercy as I saw after this temptation, great sin, he says draw out great grace and where guilt is most terrible and fierce there.

The mercy of God in Christ. When shown to the soul appears most high and mighty great sin draws out great grace like hell Tim Keller says it about the gospel is the gospel of this, we are more sinful and fall in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the same time. Yet at the same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope, remember, remember to back would you get it in your heart, would you remind yourself the minute the accuser speaking. I know that's a lie. Your jerk shut up, get was true of you in your heart and your mind. I remember the turning point for me in my battle with lust as a college student that idea of shame that that was a reality for me. See shame says that is not that you failed, but you are a failure becomes your identity.

Not that you you know are made a mistake but you you are a mistake and my identity started to become that I'm a failure. This is who I am and I'll never change and I began to have such dark thoughts. Like the world might just be better without me is this heart ache broken moment in the turning point was actually a dream I had and I remember having this dream and in my dream I was walking into my dorm room and as I opened the door. The room was pitch black and there was an eight-year-old child that was me as a kid, and eight-year-old me blonde haired, scrawny, and the room is completely black, but the computers on an all you can see is the blue hue of the computer on the kids face and I remember in the dream gone like no, no, don't go there. Don't reach out.

You have no idea. You don't understand all the folks that are awaiting you that are going to get into the heart ache and the pain was the first time that I finally saw myself a little bit the way God sees me, not as a screwup is a failure. But how does this kid not that he was mad at me or down on me that his heart broke from and is in that moment where that I finally said I'm going to run to bring all of me before we go any farther I literally wanted in a run pause because I think the story that Ryan just told is one of the most important and profound truths that any of us can hear. See what happens when were tempted and then when we fail, we are overwhelmed with guilt and shame we don't feel acceptable to God we don't like ourselves. Those of you that have struggles with addictions. Whether it's pornography or a sexual addiction alcohol or drug addiction even of people pleasing addiction when you have an addiction and you've tried so hard. What he described is what I've heard over and over and over. And what I've experienced myself.

Shame says it's not that you did something bad, it's that you're a bad person, you know, if you did something bad then there is forgiveness in this restoration but if you're a bad person. There's really no hope for you and those are the lies of the enemy.

He is so evil he will actually trick us and tempt us and then after we fail and do the very thing he wants us to do that he brings pile after pile of condemnation that makes us feel like were so unworthy in the picture that Ryan shared is this truth listen very, very carefully for some of you this will be a breakthrough moment. If you can get it from your head to your heart.

Sin okay spiritual failure.

Fundamentally, is not a behavioral issue. It is a relational issue. Let me say that again sin fundamentally is not a behavioral issue. In other words, it's not what I did or I cross this line right went too far with my girlfriend or my boyfriend or you know I I said this I did that. It's not a behavioral issue. It's a relational issue when you move from I did something bad okay I guess I should tell God I'm sorry I should feel bad for a while. I'll try harder next time. The pattern is going to go on and on and on and on. This story that Ryan shared was a story I dreamed that God gave him. That reveals that sin is a relational issue. In other words, what he realized was it broke Scott's heart that God knows the consequences of sin that that sin created a divide between Ryan and God that sin when I sin, and you sin. We know what's right to do and we don't do it in and then we feel so bad and so unworthy. When I finally came to the point that I realized when I do something wrong when I think something wrong when I say something wrong and I know it's wrong, that it makes God sad. Instead of making him mad. It changes everything. I give you an example. My workaholism was a pattern that I tried to break over and over and over and I can give you lots of details but it was so deeply ingrained in one of the issues was a very selfish one on my part where my workaholism put a wedge in our relationship and I had a practice that over and over and over and over I would be late for certain things and my wife had cooked a wonderful dinner and I was late yet again. And instead of being mad at me, crossing her arms as she did. We were in marriage counseling at the time she had learned. Instead, to express that I feel message and I came in ready for another fight.

My workaholism kicking in my guild, my shame, and as I did, she served a beautiful meal and sat quietly with me, and then she looked at me with tears running down her cheeks saying I spent the better part of the day to cook this meal because it's how I say I love you and when you don't show up. It makes me feel like you don't love me and you don't care. Now it's one thing to be late right is 100 thing to you know I look at things different than her and I want my way and she wants her way. I will tell you this, when I saw that it broke her heart. When it had to do with love instead of performance or behavior. That was the turning point and I changed whose heart are you breaking be ready to change God welcomes you run to them today. You're listening to Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram, Chip and his son Ryan Ingram Marco teaching the series called resilient withstanding the storms of life. Navigating life storms is never easy, which is why Chip asked Ryan to come and share this message that brings such practical applications of the daily challenges culture is a powerful voice that influences our attitudes and our thinking so Ryan's fresh perspective on James chapter 1 provides the tools we may need to make a few course corrections for limited time resources for resilient or discounted and the MP3s are always free to order your copy or to send it to a friend visit us@livingontheedge.org Special offers all the out or give us a call a triple late. 333-6003 that's triple late.

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I mean we've all experienced that to some degree or another, but just know that we have a lot of brothers and sisters in Christ were discouraged right now all your latest book called the art of survival has the potential to bring a lot of hope and healing. If someone asked her what would you tell them about it. Dave, what I would say is I think were all struggling regardless of our background or perspective of discouragement to some degree and discouragement is really rooted in something called perspective, and we either have God's perspective, we see life through his perspective or receipt through our own lens, and when our problems are very up close to our eye the whole world looks pretty dark and winter problems get pushed back and we see things from a large and big perspective, then we can overcome our discouragement and the very last chapter in that tiny little book is how to slay the dragon discouragement of all the things I've shared people told me over and over and over. One guy said you know the first chapter was good.

I really really like the second chapter but the last chapter that was awesome. That's what got me over the hump so I would pray that that little book and especially that chapter I can help our brothers and sisters that are really struggling with discouragement. It's called the art of survival. Art is an acronym ART a is the attitude that helps us navigate adversity are is the resource God offers and adversity. NT is the theology guides our perspective in adversity in a world of chaos and confusion. Chip explains there's an art to survival skills honed by practice that lead to joyful endurance. No matter what.

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