Trouble at Home, Part 2

From Chuck Swindoll. We have set ourselves up with the mindset you have just as soon because you want to. You have the power in the person of the Holy Spirit to say no every turn in your life if you choose to say yes against the prompting of the Holy Spirit.

You may be certain you will live in the backwash of the consequences times when the consequences of our mistakes get passed down from one generation to the next.

Today on insight from Chuck Swindoll continues this passage will be reminded that David's midlife debacle with Bathsheba is not an isolated event. Sadly triggered a variety of problems that played out in the lives of his children. Chuck titled his message. Trouble you look at second Samuel chapter 12 and following. I want us to look into Galatians chapter 6 you turn there please and let's locate verses seven and eight, Galatians 6, seven begins. Do not be deceived, God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows this. He will also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh show from the flesh reap corruption, but stop there. Here is the principal we reap what we sow forgiveness notwithstanding, if there is anything we have been duped into believing in our era of grace.

It is the thinking that if we will simply confess our sins and claim God's forgiveness, then this business of consequences all taken away.

That is not the verse says the verses written to people like you and me living in the era of grace written to the church.

It's not a law verse.

It's not to Israel. It's to God's people, children of the King people under grace and the verse says don't be deceived, God's mocked. Whatever you sow you reap if you sow to the flesh reap corruption forgiveness. Notwithstanding grace means that God in forgiving you does not kill you. Grace means that God in forgiving you gives you the strength to endure the consequences.

It does not mean the consequences are automatically removed if I sent in the process of setting up break my arm when I find forgiveness from sin, and I still have to deal with a broken arm is amazing how little except in the physical realm, not a person here would deny that a broken arm is still a broken arm whether I been forgiven or whether I'm still living under the guilt of sin.

Certainly we have a broken arm must be set. It must heal the same happens in the emotional life.

When a parent willfully and irresponsibly packs against God's written word. Not only does the parents suffer, but the family suffers as well and that brings internal trouble that let me give you the consequence. See verse eight, the one who sows to his own flesh show from the flesh reap corruption these, the words are used to describe the consequence the pain of the harvest eclipses the pleasure of the planting. That is never more true than in the life of David second Samuel chapter 12 also said in David's life led to trouble the likes of which few fathers on earth will ever go through.

Let me show you from this passage beginning at verse seven and following some of the stair steps that went down in David's life, leading him to a life of misery. As a result of his sin. Now David verse seven, Nathan says you are the man, the prophet has stood before the king and his told him what no one else would tell them during the years time in his life. You're the one that took Bathsheba.

You're the one that had Uriah murdered. You're the one that slipped like a hypocrite. You're the man, David verse 13 David said to Nathan, I have sinned. When you look at the prediction that Nathan makes verse 10 under the guidance and inspiration of God.

Verse 10 the prophet declares the sword shall never depart from your house. Verse 13 says the Lord has taken away your sin, you shall not die. That's forgiveness but says nothing about the consequences all yes it does. It says in verse 11. Thus says the Lord. Behold, I will raise up evil against you from your own household. I told you it wasn't an easy message to hear because it isn't an easy message to preach. I have no platform upon which I live. That keeps me free of the very things I'm declaring I have endured some of the consequences, just as you, and no doubt before God. I will endure more because I'm imperfect and every time I make a choice to say and I can be sure my holy God will not be mocked as I turned to him and lay my life before him as I repent of that as I to change my mind and turn to him for forgiveness. God will keep me from death, God will guide me in his grace but he will not take away the consequences until I've gone through that. That he chooses for me to go through the sad part about it is so will some of my children so will my wife be affected.

In some cases, so will the church that I serve. That's true in your life as well. David is forgiven, but it says the God will cause the household to rebel against.

Now the general prediction we want to remember is this trouble will come upon David's household member. The beginning statement I made. There are two kinds of problems that a family can endure trouble from without and trouble from within and this is a case of the second David endures with his family trouble from within. I don't think there's any way to write in the sacred record awful kill this man lived with. As he looked back over the months that were going to travel through the night and trace the steps of the downward trend of misery because he sin during that 12 month period of time.

Okay Job chapter 4 verse eight is a verse you might margin in your Bible just in passing. Let me reaffirm the principle of Galatians 6.

By looking at Eliphaz words in Job 48. According to what I have seen, those who plow iniquity and those who so trouble harvest Hosea 87 says that Israel showed the wind and reaped the whirlwind same principle.

My friend John W. Lawrence some time ago, wrote a fine book entitled the seven laws of the harvest in this book he traces the truth of harvesting. What we have so should have that book it's excellent work to study. He traces it through seven laws of harvesting. I was intrigued by the second law again this week as I reviewed his book the law that says we reap the same in-kind. As we so listen to Lawrence words when David sewed to the place he reap what the flesh produced. Moreover, he reap the consequences of his actions even though he had confessed to sin and been forgiven for it underlined start market deeply upon your conscious mind confession and forgiveness.

In no way stop the harvest that whole line is italicized.

He had so he was to read forgiven.

He was, but the consequences continued.

This is exactly the emphasis Paul is giving the Galatians, even in this age of grace. We are not to be deceived, for God will not be mocked. What we so we will read and there are no exceptions italicized to know if you're reading we are tracking with me so far but I I think some of you are. I believe the feedback is said from your face is saying you're on target with the you see what our theology has led us to believe we have set ourselves up with a sin mindset and therefore to live with the guilt and the consequences we have told ourselves that grace means those consequences are going to be removed.

Meaning it's fine to go on and that same vortex sucked under the power of the flash, rather than what Paul teaches. You don't have to sin is sin because you want to. You have the power in the person of the Holy Spirit to say no to it at every turn in your life if you choose to say yes against the prompting of the Holy Spirit. You may be certain you will live in the backwash of the consequences which may be severe maybe slight. Unfortunately, Sobel innocent people who are closely related to now David second Samuel chapter 12 the general prediction is the sword will never depart from your house not learn from the last service that I can't get through this message not tried like crazy to hurry hurry hurry and on. So I'm gonna just take us through the eight steps in the room and wrap it up that bottom part next time I want to see the downward trend in David's life and take notes at least take note from moment to moment of what were reading and let it have an effect on your mind. Now verse 11 introduces us to the first of eight steps downward in David's misery, marital infidelity that is the first verse 11.

Behold, I will raise up evil against you from your own household.

I will even take your wives before your eyes and give them to your companion, and he shall live with your wives in broad daylight. The Hebrew word for companion is an intimate term and could very well have reference to one of David's own children. As a matter of fact, when you trace the prediction that is here into chapter 16, you find that is exactly what happened, his own son Absalom cohabited with his concubines look at chapter 16 and you will see it for yourself.

Chapter 16 verse 21.

It's a grim account but it's true. There will be marital unfaithfulness and I want to notice where it took place. Verse 20 chapter 16 Absalom said I have a fellow give your advice. What shall we do not to fulfill is a poor counselor. As a matter of fact he is a wicked counselor has a fellow said Absalom going to your father's concubines, whom he is left to keep the house, then all Israel will hear that you have made yourself odious to your father hands of all who are with you will also be strengthened so they pitched a tent for Absalom on the roof.

Where is it David first fell into sin and planted the seeds on the roof on the roof of the palace. As if to say, will rub his nose in it. So they pitched a tent on the roof of the palace and it says Absalom went into his father's concubines in the sight of all Israel, if you please. It was a sordid display of the flesh, as I suppose with announcement and with all sorts of shouting's that they call attention to what was going on and people to gather and watch him as he went in and now this tent experiencing in carrying out the very fulfillment of the marital infidelity predicted in verse 11 chapter 12 tell you that's a consequence to bear the shameful thing, let's go to the second back to chapter 12 verse 15 the loss of the newborn baby. Not only was there marital infidelity. There was loss of the baby. Nathan went to his house.

Then the Lord struck the trial that Uriah Uriah's widow boarded David is interesting, it does not call her, his wife, David's wife calls her Uriah's widow boarded David so that he was very sick.

Verse 17 the elders of the household stood beside him, verse 18. Then it happened on the seventh day that the child died verse 19 closes and they said he is dead was bad enough to have the experience of marital infidelity. But on top of that, ultimately, that which happened came the loss of the newborn baby, which added to the grief of this forgiven man.

There is 1/3 chapter 13 verses 1 to 14 one of David's sons rapes his sister. It's a disgraceful scene in chapter 13. There's a lot of emotion and it let me clarify something before we go any further I listen carefully. David married many wives and had many concubines from these relationships.

There were many many children born. I don't think we have a full genealogical record of all David's children but we do have it very carefully presented that between the relationship between David and Maia caught MAA CAH husband-wife. There were born at least two Absalom and tame are they were blood brother, sisters, same parents, mom and dad by another relationship David with another woman.

There was born the son Amnon a.m. and ON Amnon was a half-brother to tame our same father.

Different wives different moms got it now when you read this account. You will notice that Amnon, the half-brother is attracted to tame our half-sister. The blood sister of Absalom.

The reason I want to present. That is because Absalom comes to her defense later on. And now you know why she was to him very precious. She was like your own brother or sister true, brother, sister. Unlike Amnon's relationship with her numbers. One became it. It was after this that Absalom, the son of David, had a beautiful sister whose name was tame our and Amnon, the son of David, loved her it was a wrong kind of love. It was a physical love. It was an incestuous lust and you will notice he was so frustrated because of his sister tame are that he made himself till she was a virgin and it seemed hard to Amnon to do anything to her through the process of events. He had a friend named John a dad who helped set up the event Kmart was brought into this scene where the boy faked illness and he said to her. In verse 11. In a very direct proposition, come lie with me, my sister and she said no, my brother did not violate me for such a thing is not done in Israel.

However, verse 14 he would not listen to her since he was stronger than she suggests there was a struggle. He violated her lay with her. Then Amnon hated her with a very great hatred.

Note that after the brother rape the sister. There was us there was a sense of instant hate and he put her out and guess where she went to her brother Absalom. It says in verse 20 Absalom her brother said to her, has Amnon your brother been with you doesn't record an answer, but I imagine she nodded her head. Imagine that in the shame and disgrace of her experience. She simply had the strength just an odd, now keep quiet.

My sister, he's your brother. Do not take this matter to heart. So tame are remained and was desolate in her brother Absalom's house. Verse 22 but Absalom did not speak to Amnon either good or bad for Absalom hated Amnon because he had violated his sister tame our step number four brother hates a brother. Now David has a has twisted problem.

Not only has there been rape in the family.

There is now adult hatred when siblings despise one another and they grow to full adulthood and just spend the despicable feelings have grown in silence.

Bitterness leads to murder. Here is a classic illustration of brother hates his half-brother. Speaking of's of sibling rivalry. It's it's a vivid memory in my own mind of's some number of years ago outside the state. I had a funeral service for a man who died really young. He was in his 40s. He had a couple of grown daughters, a son that was a teenager and there was pressure in that family. In fact, the two sisters had not spoken to one another for quite a period of time when I take a call on the home to help assist in the plans for the funeral. I will never forget the sister came in and there was an instant and an instant sense of pressure and bitterness of one sort of shove the other one and then an argument broke out and they literally began a fistfight sister with sister tell you they hit the floor and they rolled around several times 1 foot went up broke loose. The, the little shutters that were on the dining room window. The table was bumped over as the other one had that one by the hair and threw her down. The chandelier fell and broke.

I was so glad I've had judo training in the Marine Corps to help pull them apart. I've never anything like that happened in my life. One girl had to be held in a room. Another girl had to be held by a relative who was there as we work through the final details of the of the putting to rest of the father and I want you to know that that this kind of hatred.

While it isn't physically expressed is not that uncommon in homes today.

Some of you if you're honest with yourself would admit there are strained relations between you and your immediate family and you've not come to terms with it and you don't plan to.

Who knows the put some of that is not the consequence of some sin in years past.

Who knows, Absalom and Amnon did not speak it says for two years.

Verse 23 for two full years. It went on, as something where in the world was David.

Where is the absent father but you know the only thing it says it all. The record and I read every verse from here to the end of the book. The only thing I find in reference to David as it relates to his daughter being violated by a son is verse 21 when King David heard of all these matters. He was very angry and it's all unary.

That's all incredible passivity, incredible preoccupation, his hand is somewhere else.

It has been for a long time these kids and raise themselves now. I said it was a hard message to hear dad's we are living in the generation of the absent father not tell you the mother is not designed to cope as both mom and dad is not her place. It is not her calling leadership certainly can be carried out as a partners is a partnership in the relationship between mom and dad with the children was never designed for the mother to be the sole source of discipline and authority listening to the Bible teaching of pastor and author Chuck Swindoll.

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