What to Feed an Angry Man, Part 2

Today a message on controlling. You may have a great measure of patience today, but it makes no difference in tomorrow when the attack comes again tells me that you may want to Bible yesterday but it has no kind of credit on the got patients on credit. Every day is a new day and that's certainly true. We look at first Samuel chapter 25 today on Insight for living trust describes a tense moment when in fact his turn to write wanted to take the wise and generous woman named Abbott the dangerous will begin today with some helpful highlights from Chuck title what chapter 22 call the cable is trained 600 man to be guerrilla fighters, but David was behind the scenes fighting the wild tribes in the wilderness (he protected these shepherds from the attack of wild tribes and it was a common custom at the time that the sheep were shared, the owner, the sheep would pull out a portion of the money the prophet that he made and he would give it to the one who had protected his shepherds during the long period of time in which the shepherds were in the field needing protection, the situation with the sheep has to do with the fact that now they have come to seek sharing time.

See verse four. David heard in the wilderness that may ball that's the boss was sharing his sheep. So it's payday.

It stands to reason that affidavit is not a faithful job that this man be provided with remuneration for doing their work. Problem is, may ball is a stingy man. He will pay up in case you wondered David's member really doing the job. Look at verse 15. This is a report that ultimately came back to the to the wife of this foolish man will get to it. A little later but want to see right now.

The men were very good to us. The man is a reference to David's men in the field.

They were good to us. We were not insulted nor did we miss anything as long as we went about with them so they weren't thieves didn't take what wasn't theirs while they were in the field.

They were a wall to us by night and by day so they were faithful man.

They had set up a regular regiment so they would be on the job, morning, noon and night 24 hours a day, all the time we were with them tending the sheep. That's quite a report unless notice how this thing began to unfold. There are some natural conflicts. The first conflict is implied in verse three. It's a husband-wife conflict.

The man's name was may ball his wife's name was Abigail. They are different in temperament. They are different install of life. They are different in behavior. They are different in attitude they are different in philosophy to more different people ever got married in those days didn't choose their husbands and wives, mom and dad did the choosing. Sometime it worked out beautifully as in the case of Isaac's wife, Rebecca. Sometime it backfired humanly speaking, and may ball and Abigail were declared husband and wife, you better believe there were conflicts. What I want you here tonight is what the passage says not what you want to hear or what I wanted to. I want you to notice how this woman handle that conflict with the belligerent, stubborn, hard, deceptive, dishonest husband because she was in a dilemma at a very unique moment in her life and she could have gone one way or another. Interesting how she chose to go. Now the next conflict is the employer employee beginning at verse five when it was sheep shearing time.

David sent 10 young men. David said to the young man go up to Carmel visit may ball agreement. My name thus you shall say have a long life. Peace be to you piecemeal your house please meet all of you have a very gracious greeting from this this guy out in the field so they were they were told what to say. Verse seven.

Now I have heard that you have shearers.

Your shepherds have been with us. We have not insulted them, nor have we have they missed anything. All the days they were in Carmel asked the young man they'll tell you therefore let my young men find favor in your eyes, for we have, on a festive day.

Please give whatever you find and handle your servants, and to your son David. It's interesting. David didn't go he didn't intimidate, he didn't pull rank. He didn't presume on anybody just sent 10 men and said gather up what he brings.

Maybe it will be a load of lambs. Maybe it will be money whatever will take $0.20 to the conflict verse nine David young men came. They spoke may ball according to all these words in David's name than they waited at the handout and wait for the money. I didn't get any may ball answer David servants and said who is David who is the son of Jesse, the marvelous response. There are many service today who are each breaking away from his master, but you hippies out there in the field. David is the son of Jesse, is because it out of my life. Verse 11 shall not take my bread that's a rather interesting colloquialism my my my water by me that I slaughtered for my shearers. Guess where his eyes were mine mine mine mine mine and give it to the man whose origin I do not know what your boss doesn't verse 12 David young men retraced their way and went back in the came and told him, according to all these words. Now here's where it happens. Hold onto your seats. This is the same guy who months before did not retaliate and fight back in Saul's case and killing. This is the model of patients, which by the way, tells me that you may want a battle yesterday but it has no kind of credit on the day you may have a great measure of patients today, but it makes no difference in tomorrow when the attack comes again.

God doesn't give you patients on credit. Every day is a new day and maybe they hit David a hard time when men are hungry. They are easily angered, you know it's a tough situation or buys hungry, got angry in the least thing throws a signal that the pews runs all over them so they got the fire going to cease kebabs already registered your money on is in the garlic and green peppers in mutton all at stuff or maybe Legoland that do you know like a lamb with her hands out the field. He was already that the guy showed up everything with them.

Verse 13 very interesting response. Verse 12 David young men retraced their way went back and came and told him according all these words David said to his men. Each of you girded on his sword that you don't put on the sword have a discussion. I want to point that out right away. Each man girded on his sword. David also girded on his sword and about 400 men went up behind David while 200 stayed with the baggage 400 men. I think that it probably handled a ball or two.

We have a saying in our home and when you overdo something is like killing a roach with a shotgun.

You kill road to blow the wall out is no need to take 400 men to kill may ball out of Redpath writes in the book on the life of David, which he calls the making of the man of God. He says David David what's wrong with you why one of the most wonderful things we learn about you recently as your patients was Saul, you learn to wait on the Lord refused to lift her hand to touch the Lord's anointed.

Although he had been your enemy for so many years, but look at you, David. Your self-restraint is going to pieces and a few insulting words from a fool has made you see red. What's the matter David answer I'm justified in doing this. There's no reason why Mabel should treat me as he has. He has repaid all my kindnesses with insults. Also I be Trifled with me is one thing to take from Saul who was my superior at this point, but this sort of man this high-handed individual is to be taught a lesson not sure you never had feelings like that. As we read from David, but more realistically I know you have it incurred on the sword may be in your mind you set up your plans and you're waiting for your moment in your seething sort of anger on the back burner just waiting. David said it's not fair.

I have every right to at least a supper out of the weeks of work are given to this man. Let's go. He whistled and went after it is 1/3 conflict right now between anger and murder. He lost the battle by the way, so far. Now if I could for a moment ask you not to look any further. In the passage you just look up. Put yourself in the sandals of Abigail. Okay this is your chance. Maybe shouldn't put it quite like that. But you like to get rid of your man is your chance. You know, let's face it, she's lived with this guy and he's a faint and David.

She gets word from the servants a little later.

Davis, common finish of all she could say something spiritual like all my let's pray this thundering hooves leads are coming down the hill and she's in there praying Lord taken swiftly. Whatever search I made you, he said he put himself in his own in the shape it's time you learned a lesson. So that's where carnal wife thinks that's where carnal husband thinks or carnal employee thinks my chance soul. Now's my chance. He's vulnerable now is a chance to what happens is a marvelous woman while so we got 400 guys coming down the hill.

Verse 13 verse 14. One of the young men told Abigail Mabel's wife, saying, behold, David sent messengers from the wilderness to greet our master and he scorned them. We read the next two verses look at.

17 now therefore no one consider what you should do evil is plotted against our master and against all his household. He is such a worthless man that no one can speak to him what you think they like for her to do now is your chance kiddo.

David's coming.

Let's hide don't tell anybody just let it happen. By the way, it's interesting that they came to the wife and not the husband say he wasn't open. He wasn't approachable.

Another neat thing about a wise woman. She sees her husband for 40 years. She knows he is a perfect and she's open to those areas where he is blinded of those things in his life. She doesn't she doesn't agree that there right. She knows that their weaknesses but she's not defensive about that's part of the reason God gave that woman to that man if you look at it from a divine perspective, there is no better way to look at life in the week moment.

Abigail did not fight.

She protected look at 18.

What I got out I own ladies look at this, Abigail hurried took 200 loaves of bread 200 loaves of bread two jugs of wine, five sheep already prepared five measures of roasted grain, 100 clusters of raisin 200 cakes of figs and loading them on the donkey while all we do good in our family get six big Macs in a hurry. You believe that believable God see doggies bring the first catering service delivery read about the book early are well imagine your kitchen. I love the kids and do the dishes to finger thing right. She's a young man gone before me.

I'm coming after you and she didn't tell her husband may ball would say she did not tell her husband Mabel that submissive while that bother you. I was with couples at Mount Herman couples conference and I had a fellow asked me Chuck doesn't submission mean that the wife should stay silent wife was standing there watching. I said absolutely not.

He says I'll see you later Chuck.

We talked for a while about his concept of submission of the very best counsel a man can get comes from his woman. His wife who knows him better than anybody else on earth. The finest kind of constructive help and direction, and even exhortation comes in the life or the husband of the mate that's it's it's a built-in perfect set up.

She knows how to do it. She knows when to do it and she doesn't with the right intention. Now, if you will forgive me of something.

It sounds terribly heretical. There are times when the wife needs to act in favor of her husband and not say a word to is a case in point for her to have approached her obstinate, foolish husband, who was already bound and determined to stand up like a dummy in front of 401 Horstmann coming down the hill would've been instant suicide. Never let her take off and do that.

She did it in his behalf.

I'm not saying she acted in secret against him. I'm saying she acted without his knowledge in his favor. She ran interference for she saved his life. Remarkable. Go just picture this David coming downhill only thing louder than the horses hooves and stomach rolling down the hills stomach growling hungry on emphasizing again. Verse 20 came about as she was riding on her doggy coming down to the hidden part of the mountain.

Behold David and his men were coming down toward her, so she met that bullet drama here she is crockpot in her hand waiting for bringing gifts verse 23. Abigail saw David she hurried and dismounted from her doggy face before David balances about himself to the ground, or she had thought through what she was going to do and what she was going to say that's wisdom. She knew exactly her approach. It wasn't pitted from the hip. It was a thought through plan. Somewhere between the kitchen and the encounter she planned out what she was say and do.

So she fell down before David three things three things stand out in this thing in this account of her number one. Her tact number two her faith. Three. Her loyalty, I note each one is we can't unroll it here. She felt her face to the ground.

Look at her tact.

She says, calls herself, your maidservant six times and calls David my Lord eight times at the time 01 me alone. Verse 24 on me alone, my Lord, be the blame. Please let your maidservant speak to you and listen to the words of your maidservant, please do not let my Lord pay attention to this worthless man may ball for as his name is so is he may ball is his name and folly is with him. Like she knew her man but she hadn't run from their marriage. Note that she knew him fully and she said folly is his name, but your maidservant did not see the young man of my Lord, whom you sent when you set those 10 men, and they had they had that interaction with my husband. I wasn't there to give another kind of input but I'm here now is an advocate I like to stand as a mediator between this man and all of your men who have been unjustly treated 26. My Lord is the Lord lives in is your soul lives since the Lord has restrained you from shedding blood and from avenging yourself by your own hand not let this now. They let your enemies and those who seek evil against my Lord, be as naval now that this gift and she points all of these things. She has brought on the backs of these dogs let this gift which your maidservant has brought to my Lord be given to the young men who accompany my Lord please forgive the transgression of your maidservant, for the Lord will certainly make for my Lord and enduring house because my Lord is fighting the battles of the Lord and evil shall not be found in all your days where she had faith. She says David I'm looking at the next King. Don't mark your record with the murder your bigger than that. David, you have been wrong, but not arisen. The Answer Way Way, David take what I provided and turn around and go back verse 30, it shall come about when the Lord shall do for my Lord, that's David shall do for you, David, according to all the good that he has spoken concerning you, and shall appoint you ruler over Israel as her faith that this will not cause grief or a troubled heart to my Lord, both by having shed blood without cause, and by my Lord, having avenged himself. You have a bad conscience. David, you'll have to live with that track record. You don't need that when the Lord shall deal well with my Lord.

And remember your maidservant, oh what a statement. What a plea that's a good point to pause and bring out something that maybe is just a sidelight issue, but it stood out in my mind when you're faced with critical decision sometime you gotta do something very creative and is not a handbook that tells you what to do when those times happen. Mabel's life in the balance. Depending on how short David's views was with would be how long Mabel would live.

She saw that she decided it will take a lot of food in a pleading comment for me to turn that man's heart. I'm sure along the way she bring there's much more about Abigail's courage. We need to hear and please stay with us because we set aside several minutes to hear a closing comment from Chuck Swindoll coming up in just a moment. This is insight for living. To learn more about this ministry. Be sure to visit us online@insideworld.org Chuck titled today's message what to feed an angry man and whether your living with someone who's prone to lash out in anger or if you struggle with controlling your own outbursts of anger. There something for everyone to learn in this teaching series on David along those lines. You might want to purchase a copy of Chuck's biography on David. It's called David a man of passion and destiny and insight for living. We take delight in helping listeners and readers learn how to apply the truth of God's word to every aspect of their lives in this biographical study. Chuck's practical insights help readers to think biblically, no matter what issues they face. No matter how bad they've blown it. David's life as you recall, was rife with struggle and some major blunders along the way, you can discover what made him strain his journey of faith and how we returned to live a life in harmony with God.

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