A Strong Family - Part 2

Welcome to the intensified Catholic child family for Thursday, September 8.

Do when your family has experienced brokenness of some kind. Today's podcast gives you Encouraging Word that help believers thrive in any difficult situation, God wants us to have strong loving family. So the purpose of this message is this is to give you the characteristics of a strong family.

It doesn't mean that you have to do every single one of these things, but it does mean this. These of the characteristics of strong families.

So some bonuses will how would you define the count of them not simply say this and that is remember a strong family, one in which the members of the family have love and devotion for one another. No other substitute just love and devotion formula that's the beginning of a strong family. Secondly, build biblical convictions into their life as a God. Now, that means you, you need to know what you believe and you need to be able to stand there with a word and if necessary, for example, you want them to have a conviction that Jesus Christ is the son of God and he's way to salvation. You want them to have a conviction about how they treat each other to love other people in the convictions about forgiveness and on and on it goes.

If you have those convictions you can teach them by demonstration. If you have those convictions no matter what you say it won't work they're going to do what you do not necessarily what you say and then spend time with your children. What's their interest and disable my kids to.

They don't seem to have the same interests are due and maybe you need to change your interest.

Maybe there was a make some adjustment depending upon the age of course so that there was kids love to do things with her parents.

It says what I'm doing is important.

It says what I'm doing, he or she thinks it's important that they respect what I do as well as I do it and so I can remember when I used to build little model airplanes. You know that stick and paper conjured my mom she come and see me doing that. And she would always say something complementary that she didn't know a thing were about what I was doing but she said all Charles that really looks at who you must be smart. I didn't they be very smart because I had a blueprint you put the stick input pins input sticks in your father put them altogether will dilute and prepay from you. Salem's but you know what she always encouraged me whatever I was doing.

She was always an encouragement you say, let's not. Very important because you see she didn't stop encouraging me make and model airplane. She encouraged me about preaching the gospel which encourage me all my life that word encouragement is a powerful word. It's a powerful action.

Everybody wants to be encouraged. Everybody needs encouragement in their life. At times there is nobody who is beyond the need of encouragement because things happen in our life. We can always have advisors we need to be able to tell somebody share with somebody kids, especially in someone to encourage you to do that then plan fun things together until they get a certain age than they're gone and you think about this you love them when they're small and y'all can do this and do that the term come a time when you know what they not interested in that they have their own world and what you want to do is listen. You want to build memories end of their life where they can remember what you all did together.

If you sat down with and and said that what you knew that you together he would talk about is fishing together betters loving that especially about playing games together. There's something about what you do together when not always agree but that togetherness that your husband or wife and you love your husband or wife.

It's that togetherness you like another words if you lover and you love him you want him around because there's something about this the way God made as he made his persons to love and and the beloved show interest and of course have to be willing to ask for forgiveness if you can ask for forgiveness. You can have a strong family. We all make mistakes and when my kids were young I would say to them about once every three months. I'd say all of that tonight at sufferance… Talk about if we have anything between us that we not talked about not dealt with the notices get it out make everything clean, says that fine. And so a few times that they didn't have anything. I remember one time I said so tonight. As for me, to live as they Becky do you have anything that you need to bring up the maybe have done.

Yes, I do. She didn't hesitate. She told me about something that happened years before that she had mentioned before, I've made a regulatory room, shut the door and the door.

I did not get she thought I did, and it but it was tight so she can get out. She was very young at that point all listless all these years and she was a teenager. Now, she's probably about 15 to 16 this happened when she was about six all these years and her little mind and heart. Was this thought my daddy locked me in a room by myself. It finally came out.

I sit back, let me just say there's no defense. I didn't like you in but I shut it and I knew that it was tight and on the you could get out so I will ask you to forgive me that I did that in all these years, it was back in your subconscious and and you probably for some reason, they never want to say it, and I'm grateful to God that you told me that because it really broke my heart to think that I would check her out about anything.

So summers as well add gets to personal you mighty right it does.

And if you're not man enough to take it and you never have a strong family. You have to give you we all make mistakes.

We all heard people without realizing that we do and when we do we need to say I want to ask you to forgive me.

You asked God to forgive you. He always does.

If you ask him to forgive you and they refuse that's okay. You've asked for forgiveness. You've settled your conscience.

You confronted. Don't leave anything unforgiven because, listen to me 40 years and now they'll still remember it and this destructive and is not worth it. You have to be forgiving and you have to be willing to say you are right I am sorry.

Please forgive me. You know that those in their mind makes you a giant because you no longer untouchable. Your father and you have feelings you what they'll do with their children. The same thing. If you look back in your family and the kind of influence your parents had that could be bad influence are good. You remember some things they did or said that you've never forgotten, never forgotten. It's amazing how those things will pop up in your mind. Then, of course, when a problem comes don't take sides. If you got up aborting or whatever it might be a 3456 kids don't take sides. This listen and say when you talk about this and think about it if you take sides. When you do is you you drive one away. You can deal with major problems without taking sense somebody is probably more wrong than the other. But instead of saying you are wrong while you always do this will never have peace in his family's long as you act that way all you doing is driving them away and sometimes you may have to say will you know I did give very good instruction. I think this my fault. We just have to release our pride and just say whatever is necessary at the time to keep from having a brawl of fight of fuss and divide the family and keep the family strong so listen carefully. Always be honest with you children about everything now.

For example, listen carefully, let's say that you are a daughter and you ask your dad about something and he was dishonest in Tay the truth and he did that to three times when this little girl grows up and she's looking for a husband and this young man of that young man, whatever might be you know what Stephen, her subconscious.

You can trust me on all you say that's not true. It is absolutely the truth when a person of such authority as your father is dishonest doesn't tell the truth lies or even call anything you want to what a child sees that here's that feels that carries that and what happens when it comes to men.

Listen carefully. Her experience with the most important man in her life is you can't trust him.

That's exactly what happens. So I want to encourage you to be honest, listen no matter what you say and do what you say because what you say is not what they can do. Necessarily, it's what you do is what they gonna do, and you can wreck their family very arrogant life. Then, of course, I'd say. Last of all, at this point be a refuge for one another when somebody is hurt and be there if you can't be there in person. Be there on the telephone, not by texting on the telephone. It's gotta be personal.

I need to hear your heart sweetheart you tell me, son. You tell me exactly how you feel and I want to know how you feeling when you hurt number listen when some member of your family hurts and you don't hurt you have a problem because they are your children their part. All of you. You should be able to steal what they feel because it is best that they come to you with some hurt.

Don't defend yourself. Don't just listen carefully and do your best to encourage them and to help them anyway. You possibly can walk through whatever they're walking through in life that you say will know what about broken homes. Is there any way to have a strong home once it is broken once is divorced once the separation. Yes, there is may not be as strong as it could be, but it can still be strong you say will had he do that. Listen carefully. The first way we started off we started off with two Christian parents together so remove that for a moment and everything after that you can practice in a home is broken and the husband's gone with the wife is the owner of the somebody else and you married somebody else. Whatever is going on there, you can still practice all of those principles. Every single one of except that you is is a different family and you have a major issue right up front and so I would simply say this. If the family is blended. If you your two children from her two children from him or whatever it if you dismember this stay physically and emotionally close to your children primarily your children stay close know it's if your wife takes them away our your husband takes the boy stays emotionally close to them. As you can because listen their party.

They came out of your mom is still your children and so mom and dad need to stay as close as they can physically and emotionally so that they never feel like that parents just left them and oftentimes that's difficult, especially if a wife or husband have had a terrible horrible divorce and now that the point of hating each other and your children. I think about the awesome horrible trauma and a child's heart who sees one day his dead walkover not come back old girl who sees her father walk off and not come back no matter what you tell them they can.

They don't understand that and I think of this dad when you walkover remember that you will give account to a holy God for bringing children into this world and you absolute dessert them, not realizing you tear apart and that child's hard their whole emotional being gets affected. You say regular with no they don't. They do not get over it, it's there is the scar as long as they live.

This is why you should do your best to keep that merit to give us some time. You can't know. But no matter what happens. Sometimes it doesn't work. Somebody decides he can leave Megan walk away no matter what. You can help that. But God will be there to help you and he will be no strength in you, and he'll be there to help you love those children in a very unusual way, then it here if one parent leaves increase your time of prayer and reading the Scripture with you children, the words you become the physical refuge.

The Bible says that we we live in the shadow of the Almighty. There was a bomb in the shadows on the some big bear and he says he's not shelter in our shadow and our keeper and when you keep reading the Scripture with those children the mom or dad's gone, and yet they understand and they have to understand you know we don't understand why we don't want to be critical. We want to pray that whatever is going on the life. Gotta work in their life, no matter how good you try to make it. There is a scar that is hurt and there's pain, but you do have a responsibility to alleviate as much of that is you can and then remind them that trusting God is more important than ever before. When when one of the 11 ones go, trusting is more important than ever before because now you don't have a fog you don't have a mother now we have God and what you want to drill in the event child's heart is God is your father, earthly fathers, but God is your father now and he'll provide your needs, your provider needs and I know in my life not having a father for those years, that we keep reminding me that our heavenly father was my father.

Now and that we we going to make it somehow in some way and times got pretty tough but she was always that encourage me and one of the interesting things you can do for those children is give him a verse of Scripture every morning that maybe God laid on your heart and the dis-asking still want you read this for your school is moaning and if you give them a Bible and they have a viable, then the and disable.

Maybe this evening at home eating dinner with us. Talk about this something that would apply to them. And if you gave it when I record you often a God says on your teachers and the way we should go here, God is with desire partners with little shelving settings to get that.

So you'll you'll know exactly what to say to them, and this is a wonderful opportunity for you to teach the importance of their personal relationship with God, and that no matter what happens in life are going to make it, we we going to make it. We don't have a strong family no matter what, it will never be as strong as it could be but will be stronger than most people allow others to become and so I want to encourage you, whoever you are.

If you've never trusted Jesus Christ as your Savior. You have a very difficult time having a strong family and growing strong children. We live in a world that's slanted against their kids in every way is something out there everywhere to destroy them mentally, physically and morally.

You are there refuge.

You are there help you need them. They need you. Everybody needs God, and I want to encourage you to trust Christ as your Savior asked him to come in your life. Happy to be the kind of person God wants you to be in be the kind of parent a godly parent that you need to be. You may be a son or daughter and you treated your family terribly. You say well that's been a long time ago. You know what they still hurt there still hurt easily forgotten in the Toledo you don't forget when people hurt you deeply as a child and they don't forget when you hurt them.

So encourage you to settle up any issues in your family asked for forgiveness make things right and do your best to honor your mother and honor your father and I want to sell you this morning all of us have responsibilities to their children. We responsibilities to each other, to love one another to help each other. Anyway we possibly can.

That's what being a Christian is all about, and I want to encourage you to take the notes that you have the day you can put on the shelf somewhere you be sorry when you need to do is to look them over, read them over and if I want to remember something that's normal. I would have a difficult time remembering to make a list of it and I live somewhere I can use it everyday. I just read over it read over and read over his what I discovered long time ago when something comes up I need to remember there is not because I read it once and not because I heard he wants because I knew I was in the easy for me to forget some of you not heard anything on importance all been importing all works. It's all truth. You talk about raising children, raising grandchildren and some of you grandparents. You can add to step in the position of a parent because your children have just blown it bad in their marriage but grandparents. There's something about a grandparent I'm telling you, I know that an idea of what's this is not with my own grandchildren when they got to be teenagers. It first. You know Mrs. Gamson then became a time of their life and their questions and then it was gives list talk and go to dinner with them and I will them to hear me. I want to hear what they're thinking, what they're saying in the center them. M's always be available. Call me or write me whatever you want to do you get in trouble call me you got questions, call me if you heard that some, no, it's grandparents make yourself available.

You are not to busy to hear your rent and they need you. You know what you will be you will be like an anchor to I can always go to games. I know he'll be there for me nearly the same for you. If you're not saved you are working against yourself.

I plead with you in Jesus name to give yourself to him asking him to forgive you of your sins and trusting him as your Savior and then let God work in your life and wife of your family. Thank you for listening to pipe to have strong family if you like to know more about tile family more intense ministry by end hats that are liking this podcast is a presentation of enticement in the green advantage of