Hope for the Caregiver

American family rating IB Roseburg and I'm so glad that you're with us. This is the show for caregivers about caregivers it's hosted by character.

I'm bringing more than 30 years of experience to help you stay strong and healthy as you take care of someone who is not. This is the number one show the country for the family care and really glad that you take the time to listen. Our goal here is to offer insights and perspective.

Biblical principles and practical help to fellow caregivers who are journeying along the way.

Maybe you're taking care of somebody right now who has dementia in some form.

Maybe it's Alzheimer's. Maybe it's dementia of another kind.

Maybe you're taking care of a child with special needs could be autism, cerebral palsy, Down syndrome, maybe you have somebody in your life is blind and you're there sole source of of help or care. Maybe you have somebody in your family or circle around you who has a mental illness or an addiction issue or traumatic issue of traumatic brain injury and it's affected their behavior in a innate and intense way and you were struggling and you don't know what to do.

You don't know who to call. You don't know what to say you don't know how to function usually know how to pray.

This is the show for you.

Whatever the situation that you're in. This is the place for you if you're putting yourself between the vulnerable love one and somebody who is chronically impaired. If you're putting yourself between somebody who has some type of chronic impairment and even worse disaster. Your caregiver and I been doing this for a long time. More than 33 years caring for a wife who has a broken body 80+ surgeries. Both legs amputated 9000 doctors of treater hard to keep count up after a while. 12 different hospitals seven different insurance companies well over $10 million in medical bills and another hundred and 50 smaller procedures and only really counter surgeries is just ongoing along the way have learned through this relentless barrage of medical crises that seem to just never in.

I've learned that it is possible as a caregiver to live a calm or healthier and even more joyful life is not easy. Lot of work.

It takes some strategic thinking for us as caregivers to be able to do this and you gotta have some help. You gotta have somebody who's been down this road. Somebody who is faced this about somebody who has worked through some of these things, and that's what the show is all about and all I'm doing is passing on what I've learned from so many others along by a lengthy journey I've had people that have come into my life and given me great counsel that I've had people to come alongside giving lousy counsel quite truthfully. I've had Christians and non-Christians have offered good stuff and versions of non-Christians of offered really unhelpful things and foolish things, but I've aggregated what works and condensed down so that when you and I talk through this show that it's fluid caregiver.

It gets right to the guts of where you are is a caregiver and how you're feeling how you are doing what's going on with you. This show is exclusively for the family caregiver nephew not a caregiver you're going to get something out of this, but I'm not here for you.

I appreciate you and appreciate what you go through but I specifically here for the family caregiver and I am passionate about reaching them because III understand how difficult the journey is and understand how lonely the journey is that I want to make sure that my fellow caregivers know that there's somebody that is speaking to them.

I didn't have this through those dark dark dark years that labor to this without you. I was just floundering many times that about you but I know what it's like to have a meltdown in the hospital parking lot at 1 o'clock in the morning. I know what that feels like I don't it feels like to stay in my hospital bed and just few at my helplessness and be frustrated with God with life with everything. I understand all those kinds dynamics in ways that probably many of you never will have to go through, but in the process of learned a few things a few things that have have settled some issues for me and righted my course, if you will end up seeing God's provision in ways that I did not expect an absent God's wisdom in ways that I did not expect that I've learned things pretty much the hard way. I am the crash test W of caregivers of me and I failed it more stuff I forgot more failures than most people ever to make, but I have learned from these things and am continuing to learn and my goal is for this show and for our conversation here is that when you tune into American family radio for this one hour that we have that at the end of this time your shoulders will be a little square. Your breathing will be a little bit less labored in your heart will be a little less heavy and you will see practical things that can help you today and you hear in my conversation with other other people to call in things that was so that's my story okay I do what that feels like it will talk about these things will bring it around. I don't come to you and say hey I know how to fix your stuff because I don't, you will not fix my stuff. I do not affix your stuff that's not what this is about. It's about what Paul says in Corinthians that would comfort one another with the same comfort we ourselves have received from the God of all comfort. Paul said in another place he said look what you have that you haven't received. I gotta tell you what will I have that I haven't received. I don't have this wisdom that is just welling up for me.

I've received this from so many others, and all of it from the hand of God working through other people's lives to intersect me and explain things through Scripture through the preaching of the word through all these things and I've been able to glean these things over a lifetime, but do you have 30 something years to be able to catch up. Do you want to slog through this for that long to learn.

Some of these things into to grasp some of these things. I don't think he got it. I think the pressure so intense on so many people right now. So why stretch this out for decades. We can bang this out right now we could talk about it right this moment where you can feel like a man somebody understands the angst that I'm feeling somebody is getting this and I do. More importantly, more importantly, your Savior understands this. The I've learned to speak blue it caregiver I can do it. I can speak fluent character that is much that is my item I well-versed in this but it is our Savior's native tongue understand you.

You have a Savior that this is who he is.

This is what I've learned to do this is who he is and he himself this. This is very comforting to me. I have a wife who is wounded, she is broken. Her body is just broken. But guess what, our Savior is in love with a wounded bride to assess the church he's referred to as a bridegroom. The church is the bride. He loves a wounded bride where wounded bunch of people landed we are wounded, and he loves us and gave his life for us from the cross. He was caring for his mother and delegating her care while he stayed on mission.

We have a Savior that understands us, you have a Savior that understands what you're going through right now and there is a lifeline in the midst of this this great heartache you're dealing with to get you to a place of safety working to keep talk about that and take a quick break to go away. This is hopefully caregiver Peter Rosenberg so glad you show for caregivers about caregivers hosted by caregiver, I am Peter Rosenberg are bringing you three decades of experience to help you stay strong and healthy is to care for someone who's not. Glad you with this. Are you feeling that's the question we ask on this show about family caregivers.

I know your love.

What is dealing with all kinds of stuff Jake mounted but I'm asking you how you are doing and there is no wrong answer. I want to know how you're feeling and then let's help you walk back away a little bit from the cliff from some dangerous places for you as a caregiver we want to help you get to a place of safety that it caregiver long time 33 years and there wasn't anything out there.

Nobody knew what to say to me for decades, I had to just cut up plow through this as best as I could but have aggregated a lifetime of this in order to offer lifeline to my fellow caregivers. You don't have to have a machete and cut your way to the jungle anymore. There are people that have been through this and I have been through this and that we have a show and it's on American family radio and were were nationwide. This is the largest show for caregivers in the country in the world.

And aren't you glad it's on a Christian station. I mean really what what is the world have to offer to those of us who are doing this will cut hope this world offer 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 if you want to be a part of the show and go back to our conversation about opioids and in this is something nobodies talk about on the news from the pulpits, or anything else. But if you have a love one that is on opioids. It's affecting you. I promise you it's affecting you know it's affecting. But you don't necessarily know what to do. But, or how to even approach and these are behavior altering drugs and you may be under a doctor's care for the singer. Your level may be under doctor's care for the second are not abusing it understated.

I get that. But that doesn't mean that it's not affecting you in a negative way and your entire family and it is as important for you to get number one realize that and not fight against that and understand just this just the way this and number two to get some help for you and I can come in many different forms doesn't have to be expensive.

Help in the since were you going to unpaid somebody $300 and hours that there talk about you not to do that. First off you get this show how much you pay them for here you call in somebody's been down this path, we seven figures of opioids are filled for my wife with all of her stuff that she's dealt with it one time where it's it's hard to get an accurate count, but we had a one of the residence that was on duty when they brought into the emergency room back in 83 later told her prostitutes.

This is a guy that makes her legs that they stopped counting at 200 breaks that you think about that. What is that due to the human body. We have 200 bone fractures and then the 80 surgeries that I can count within the hundred and 50 smaller procedures. Chronic pain is a real thing in our home, and by the way it it it is a family affliction. If you have somebody in chronic pain, it affects the family of them say this over and over and over until you you will or RRR tracking with me on this to understand that this is affecting you it's it's it's own entity in a relationship whether it's a spouse like in my case or whether it's a child or parent or whatever chronic pain is its own entity in the relationship. There times when you're looking into the eyes of someone you love deeply and you're not communicating with them because you're communicating with the pain and if you if you can't remember that it's gonna take you down some bad places and it's really important for you as a caregiver to grasp hold that and to check in periodically with other people to grasp that so that it helps reorient your thinking as you will get off on this. I promise you that there is no mistake you go to make that I haven't made in spades.

I forgot more mistakes and you're gonna make so don't beat yourself up for that but learn from them and learn from others mistakes if I wrote a book wrote several books, so I do show so I can put it down and you know what I go back and read my own book my new book 7 caregiver landmines and how you can avoid them in one of the landmines in their is thinking that it's all up to me and that is a very dangerous place for caregivers. Things somehow this is all up to us. It's not and I have to remind myself that my wife has a Savior I'm not that Savior. So what you do a little test for me right now if you not driving up your driving.

Don't do this, but if you well you if you put your hands attended to.

You can't the tenant to because that's what Christmas it was, we learn to driver's ed way back when we had the horse and buggy. I'm not that old. I just looked at Ole Miss with caregiving dusty, but it tended to look at your hands now.

Who here sees nail prints in your hands right. Since you don't see nail prints. This is not yours to fix, but it is yours to be a steward and and show stewardship for as you journey in this you know that was her first job in the garden steward go back and look there to take care of Stewart's not owners. I didn't do this to my wife she got hurt before a better I can't undo it. You can't fight Alzheimer's. You can't undo chronic pain or Alzheimer's or Parkinson's or autism or mental illness or neuropathy. All these things are bigger than you, but you can fight your own behavior.

You can fight your own selfish desires your own issues that you deal with fears. You can combat that. But you can't do it by yourself. You don't have to. That's the whole point. You don't have to. One of the big issues at caregivers deal with this isolation we are. We are so secluded from good thoughts physically, emotionally and spiritually, we get secluded in this and we can feel isolated in a crowded room, we could feel isolated on a crowded pew. How many of you all of setting church you have to call and say this, but you, but you can if you want 888-589-8840 but having just just among yourselves. Just think about this having to sit in church and felt so alone. I did everybody else is around your singing victory in Jesus and your struggling and you're sitting all alone. I know what that's like you wondering how how does the gospel mean anything to to be in this situation and you're so bone tired. Tired, weary or frustrated.

Excuse me your resentful and you're wondering what in the world is all this mean that's what were here for the show.

That's what we do the show because I want you to know that the gospel is applicable in your situation that the hope of Christ doesn't reach into this that he hasn't abandoned quite the contrary. He knows you and he knows the plans that he has for you know the numbers you hair and I don't understand how is work at all these things that I have wrestled with God on this in ways that I hope that few of you have to say that I don't want you to because I think that the more you you you wrestle with God on this. The closer you get to know and the more you to touch him, but it does you're not unscathed in this subtle rob you of that. The intimacy of God that comes the wrestling with him through suffering. But at the same time. Please understand you will not be unscathed in this, but he will give you something that transcends this, which is under deeper awareness of his presence. A deeper understanding of who we years in this conviction of his great love for you and there times. I know that you are just hot tears are going on your face and you're just like mad to me just spitting mad but you don't know what to say. Don't know who to say it to them some very spiritual when you say it out loud does you have to be spiritual on the show is be real this be who you are, God meets you, just where you are. The old hymn below. Just as I am not just as I want to be just as I a have that's that's the way it works. Let him worry about the healing part.

He's much better than you and I and he will and he does, and this is how then did what you find is that you want to be able to extend that what you've received. Others in the process, the more you give that away the straw you get probably not love to tell y'all that I'm so altruistic doing the show and everything about it but I'm preaching to myself you because I got to hear this but I'm the only one out there that has a national radio show for caregiver so I can listen about show I can remold book as I got here this over and over. You know that old hymn sing them over and over again, wonderful words of life. I have caregiver amnesia. I have gospel image I could hear over and over and over again the gospel I got here wonderful words of life. Beautiful words, wonderful words, wonderful words of life and I need to hear the body to replay that over and over and over again in the midst of all these things about you how much you need to hear them over and over and over again. Yeah, I know you have a place you can do that. American family radio 888-5880 840-888-5888 for this is Peter Rosenberg show for caregivers about caregivers hosted by carrier Brian Peter Rosenberg. This is hope for the caregiver American family radio 888-589-8840 if you would be a part of the show.

How are you feeling and that is the question we want to know on the shoe artist go to Deborah in Texas. Deborah good morning how you feeling, Peter. Good good was what always, while I counted about 13 weeks ago and I told you that I do a class in urban character or Nami family assembly members that have allowed one with the mental element, and I'm also a caregiver to some adult children that have mental illness and gone is lastly now with our class and we have some crazy reports. I wanted to call you can tell you that I wanted to know how that's going with what's going on with it going really much of our family members and loved ones that have dual diagnosis with both the drug addiction and mental illness, and I know on your radiation this morning you were speaking about people that have an opioid addiction and their caregivers, and it really made me think that a lot of times someday, and it does have an opioid addiction also has a dual diagnosis of a mental illness and sought reports that they had. It was like severe depression mean almost like debilitating depression that was accompanied so many that are dealing with this with addiction issues. How many minutes of you.

I'm glad you brought that up. I am so proud of God for doing and one of our members had a landline who had a young adult who was getting worse with their mental illness and they had younger kids in the home and you talked about that that it is a family issue for the caregiver, not just for their loved one that has the problem, and so they found a halfway house for their little insulin end and now they can sleep at night.

They can take care of their loved one.

They can take care of their family members and their loved one. Everybody where they need to be which is a great everybody safe. Hey, that this is your computer support groups open to the public in your right and Nami and AAN I which stands for national alliance of mental illness and it's the family to family class. So if you wanted to, Google, Nami and AMI.org to find and Nami in your area because were in every state and in many country praise report that I had had an unwanted if there is your area to leak to lead where they can go is it is the group as a group have some kind of all the other website and in their texts out of the way you're calling from. In Texas, but Nami and AMI nine N. Hector in Dallas elicited fury out there. The Dallas area and you're pulling your hair out, you don't know where to go.

Deborah just told you. Okay so and and for those you not in the Dallas area that you're pulling your hair out. Nami is a great organization and they offer a lot of help to folks that mental illness is something that is often people the church don't want to talk about very much and we want to throw all kinds of incorrect diagnoses edit particular the church and and let's get some help for us out there that this is a tough tough issue for families and let's get some hopes of never think that was the other praise report. Praise report is one of our member had a young adult friend who had a map addiction on heart and mental illness, and now he air. He had wanted to be an EMT and he had gotten clean the drugs and here done really really well and now he had passed it and keep in here can be an empty that is spectacular.

That's what the picture that's a picture really of how the gospel works in her life that would when we ourselves go through recovery and I really look at recovery this since is is a is a spiritual term we are restored to God. We are he recovers a seat.

He calls himself the kinsman redeemer and then what happens is we are so trans-formed by this that it becomes a passion for us to go out and rescue others and reach others and and reach into their messes and their horrible situations with the hope of the gospel that sustains us. Paul talks about the growth interested comfort one another with the same comfort that we ourselves receive from the God of all, and that's what this this young man is doing the guy was a meth addict got himself cleaned up the power of the gospel and a lot of hard work folks. Please understand, recovery is not a a a an easy path. It's work, but it's a good work and it's a work that God will himself will will work through you in this and sustain you in this and revealed himself to you it's it's it's it's a model of sanctification and integrate great work Deborah. Great work on my credit report. If you have a right on Railroad. We have another family who had a landline that had an alcohol problem and mental illness and she was out of town and another was praying for her. She will start coming to our class for the first time and she learned a lot of things in the class and dialogue line is now incarcerated that she is in a mental health unit where she is getting help for mental health and addiction help that is spectacular. You know what incarceration is a lousy thing but it can be very effective thing and when you're dealing with addiction issues and so forth. Here, here, the three options for those you are who are struggling with addiction right now or leveled with addiction there go to sober up and get locked up or the go to get covered up those of the three options with addiction and and that's you know sometimes it takes getting locked up.

To avoid getting covered up by that I mean 6 feet under. So after I ever thank you, thank you for your work and I want to make sure to track your it is not a religious class and is 9 AM anything that and you know they wanted to be secular, so everybody would come right the guys it when I get gas across the interstate over here near my home, and it's not us is not a Christian gas station, but it gets me the fuel mate to get where I'm going to go or they can live my instructor Michael instructor and I are both Christian belief primitive people. We pray over their loved ones) over the result we break the 12 week, which is a short time but you know what the Lord take those 12 wings and he works miracles. Look what he does with fish and loaves of veg we can do between a man and a man who hey Deborah, thanks for the call appreciate you listening in procedure, this and thank you for for reaching in the people's heart ache with the with the light of the gospel. Do you are amazing and I and you call anytime you want to okay thank you, all right bye-bye Bill in North Carolina. Bill good morning how you feeling good morning, how are you will have fun that we had a field and feeling and and yeah, right. So let's start with bad yelping.

I will get to guilty the minute. Tell me why you're mad and mad because I minute I have to do caregiving big time from my mother and it's not easy know it's not why you mad about was drilled a little bit on that what what what's causing you to be mad about it, as opposed to just weary or frustrated or whatever what what what mad because I did not back or want to do that.

Who would you do it for before. Prior to this may have this he still love now I lot value repeating the process.

Do you like your mother. I love my mother. I'm not going thing with you just angry with life with God with yourself. What an angry situation that I find myself I'm angry. I that I'm here at in Anguilla and I am here this is me that's a legitimate ceiling well is not you know it it's it's it's angry worthy, you gotta do this again and it's it it's consumes you. And it's frustrating and all those kinds of things okay mail what he do it for you. This process didn't how you releasing some of that anger you do exercise it all. I do not. I'm a full-time elementary principal and I'm a full-time so caregiver and that I thought I get it little yes a couple questions here. Do you go to the doctor regularly.

I and was the report you pretty good shape yet fairly hushed as you wait I'm overweight you get out in your school when you're out when you're there. Do you get to walk around the school, a good bit idea you wear comfortable shoes when you do it have to, you know there's there's an app you can get on your phone tell you how many steps you've taken and in the more you're walking the more the walking Celts is exercised by the way, and and so if you're walking briskly and engaging on your school that Celts is exercising. That's a good way for you to cut a bleed off some of that stress. I call it the Delta doctrine the Delta doctrine is the sky was silly, but put this in my book of hopefully caregiver but it's a slide out of a Atlanta when Dale belted the flyer to becomes… Put your mask on first. You know they don't get open up that little bag of pretzels, which are surprisingly hard opened by the way, they don't tell you how to use that atomic suction device known as the toilet they think were going to figure that out but they do tell you every single time to put your mask on first every flight attendant every flight, every government agency I've never heard one of them say put your mask on second what is it look like to caregiver to put your mask on first will looks like breathing is just hold on weight is just to drink a lot of water and sometimes just go for a walk to cut a bleed off some of that stress can you hang on through the break. I know I would. You keep listening take a walk around the school bleed off some that stressed enough so that way hey this Peter Rosenberg… Hopefully caregiver will be right you ever struggled to trust God when lousy things happen to you.

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It's very very easy to do, but she's mad she's back in the situation. He is back in the saddle again abated caregiver and I get that I really get that and it's bad worthy it up. She's not the only one listening today that's mad about and if you're not mad about it. Give it time you will be just PennDOT and it it's okay.

I'm not here to attempt to beat you up for being mad about it. I must have an honest conversation but I can't fight some the things that my wife has to deal with but I can't fight what I deal with an art. She said she's overweight.

Okay bullets let's start with that, but just start with that and and she puts on her walking shoes and she walks from that album ever elementary school can respect us more that the elementary school that she is the Prince before and if she can walk around and start bleeding off some of that weight a bleeding ulcer that strength.

Stress busters nothing like physical activity to bleed some of this off eating get here overnight you not get out of it overnight right you if something happened, but you could take little steps today. And sometimes you can take a lot of steps of one day, but physically getting out there and walking physically doing something that's going to bleed this off stop drinking sugary drinks stop putting food and and and and things into your mouth are going to Accra freight that your stress levels instead to something physical and reach for some water.

That's what the Delta doctrine all about you get that in my book, hopefully caregiver wherever books are sold go out a lot.

There's an audiobook that cost less than a happy meal or about like this and you get the audiobook read the whole book, and even putting some bonus things on their and a few impressions because I can't and those… Sometimes a left like I could talk like Bill Clinton. I don't think I put Bill Clinton's voice of this. Though this book so fret not, but but the point is is that EE in the Delta doctrine you wait water and walked that's what it looks like to put your mask on first. Sometimes you just wait, you don't have to open your mouth and say things sometimes you bite your tongue and learn to like the taste of blood weight stands for. Why am I talking and you just you slow yourself down.

I don't feel the need to just speak all the time into situations because that's what that's when we get into trouble with all that region. That frustration starts coming out in our tongue becomes just a Leica razor that cuts ourselves and others.

We have to make a lot of amends for that been there done that. Still, there water weight water walk water drink to think drink water cool yourself to give you to put something in your mouth.

Besides, words, and give your sick chance to give yourself a chance to cool down and then walk when things just get gnarly, put on some comfortable shoes and go for a walk doesn't cost anything. Just go for a walk just walk bleed it off if you will listen to some music by audiobook. Whatever put it on your phone, put it on your iPad or iPod.

Whatever you gotta do and just go for walk and listen to something else besides the sound of your own rage. I'd love to tell you that there's there's some kind of brilliant way to do but it's not. This is how it's done, you can get here overnight.

You got to get out of it overnight artist go to Susan Oklahoma Susan good morning how you feeling I I'm not caregiver.

Currently, I am currently working. Just turn about mental air owner and I wanted to thank. I heard about Lonnie. I just wanted to say there other option other than Nani on the morbidity rate right now for the mentally ill people is not really good art.

At least when I looked black within the last 10 years.

It's not really good on and you know that Matt is trying to Prevent how government carries today as I was working to your comments about healthy eating and going to fight back and there other avenue to explore. If you have mental illness beside Nani that God's own molecular matter, such as looking to see if you have MTH FI at high rosary, which is the model will these are these are going to be hard for people to write down whether in the middle stuff like this.

These are fairly complex things. There are a lot of nutraceuticals out there. There a lot of other options besides this there are so many different things that people can explore and they need to. It starts with like with placing your hand and saying you need some help my mind.

There's a lot of things out there a lot of things after the people to do it. I really appreciate you bringing that to our attention. There's not there's not one size fits all for everything but the point is it for Pete people to raise their hand to say hey I need help and let started that if I would help looks like in Susan, thank you for sharing that. I really do appreciate that and we we we can't just sit there and think were going to go and get all these things squared away by just you one little thing that happens we we we got to go see a multitude was the Scripture says there's there's wisdom in a multitude of counselors. I think that literally I think that your pastor needs to be involved in things such as this your for your circle your family doctor or your your primary care doctor their support groups out there there organizations like Nami their order. There are other types of organizations, or other types of people that want to help with different types of nutritional a pass for you to go under lots of different things that we can do to to to do this but the point is when it starts with raising your hand and saying hey I need some help. I need some help and there is no shame in asking for help and it is not a sign of weakness.

It is a sign of wisdom. This is why I'm doing the show because I know that so many of you all also isolated. I get that. I know it. I understand. And in that isolation.

We flounder and we don't know what to do. We don't know where to go, we don't know who to call. So what I've decided to do was just go ahead and go to the airwaves start talking about it have this conversation. How many people are talking about this. We started off the show.

Talk about opioids and family caregivers Howdy people, or talk about this on a national level. No one me. I met you know and I don't want to keep pounding this issue.

Mental illness and caregivers.

We hear a lot about middle of the student mental illness do we hear about the caregiver. That's what were doing and you don't want. Just take a moment to thank AFR put this on the show on the on the network were the only ones doing it on any kind of national level regional level. Sometimes even local level, were the only ones doing it but I'm glad that we are doing it because I think as believers we have that responsibility to number one and number two would you rather us be out front of this with the hope of the gospel that somebody was offering something that is just you know I was the world offer. Think about this when you are in a state of distraught and dysfunction and all kinds of stuff, what that's what really does the world offer.

You see what's happening across the country more more states are adopting medically assisted death.

You got people at the governor of Virginia and now this guy in Alabama who basically say you know. But the child aside will have a discussion about it and they're just committing infanticide or wanting or advocating it. The nonspeaking life to these things, but we as believers can speak life to it and you have a good cry when I have a lot of tears in this, but it ought to be tears of rage that want to be tears of despair were going to weep, but we can weep together healthy tears and weeping endure for night but joy comes in the morning. That's what Scripture says and you know what you you will find a promise you, you will find this is 33 years.

Talk about this. You will find that even as the tears are drying on your cheek that you could laugh that you can enjoy life and you can see beauty and joy and excitement. Even while dealing with harsh realities. This 33 years. Anybody else tell you that okay yeah you could probably lifted eyebrows, questioned, but having caring for woman who suffers for 33 years suffers extensively as I said earlier to show 80 surgeries that I can count 100+ hundred 50 smaller procedures 9000 doctors and treated 12 different hospitals seven different insurance companies well over $10 million been going on since 83. Both legs amputated and there is joy to be had and she's getting in the studio recording a song here in another week and 1/2 with the incredible singer was surprisingly upset state to that she sing a song that talks about this journey you can love this understandable by wife could really sing go up to our website. Listen really sick and you can just be blown away because you cursing home.

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