Is The Machine Broken?

Posted 65 million and growing number of people who are putting themselves and to involve the level of the disaster. Everything do this every day and it is not an easy thing to talk about the practical we talk about emotional the spiritual, the financial the professional anyway that we can help you secure your again we don't focus on things that don't need a lot of work on what I can teach you how. Give it injection. If you don't already know, I can teach you how to argue with doctors. I can teach you how to argue and win with insurance companies. Once you learn it. That's a skill that you don't have to relearn I teach you how to do the laundry.

I can teach you how to do all kinds of things.

But once you learn those things you don't have to relearn what can't be taught one time and just walk away from it is dealing with the emotional trauma that sometimes goes on and that's something you got have constant reinforcement with and learning life lessons to deal with that on a regular basis, but one of those things here. Here's what they are going to support group every week. I got extra tumor three a week. Sometimes and it's been very very helpful to me that Mike set up a bit as three decades and you will think you need one you know God bless you.

I'm told I do, but one of the meetings I go to the Coke machine. There how they can get some some machines just get it right. And it's perfectly chilled for those you to drink, so does whatever perfectly to love this. The love this machine and all of this, the Sosa come out of there and it was so nice to us at their main have a nice refreshing beverage.

Well, what happened was this thing started taking my money where I got kinda frustrated with it and it did not honor the transaction that was implied I would give it money it would, in exchange give me something to drink. Having a little frustrated. Whether there's number to call. The phone call and hopefully get fixed whenever they came back next week or so and put money in it.

Then he gave me two sodas, which is Okay well think this is a balancing it out so I would give one to a friend. Whatever will bounce up and went back to take my money again and I got little bit frustrated and I try this again and again just can't take the money and even though it was on it look like it was working. Every thing seems be working in the family, I just got tired of giving my money and I just bought a bottle water the most lifeless alarming to this who even cares about my failures with the code which nobody really cares about what we do as a caregiver. Sometimes we put our treasure into an individual that may just be broken and they can't respond back in a way that we think would be appropriate or even the way that is appropriate. I can't do it. Now we can get mad about it. We can custom fussing kick and scream and hit the machine and do all the kinds of things that strategy will let Stefan first, the stuff that we want out of it, but ultimately the thing is broken and if you're looking to somehow get this thing to do different.

Which is to keep wasting our treasure and our treasure sometimes is our heart. I think that's the best way to do it, and sometimes individual you're taking care of can't respond back to you with the way that you are begging them to do so. This does not happen. So what you do when you don't go and find somebody else you don't go in and and try to do something that's inappropriate and unhealthy.

Learn to recognize it.

Okay, I'll find something healthy to replace that. In my case is brought a bottle of water.

That's much healthier for me than a soda. Anyway, what about once a relationship a part of it is.

Sometimes I think we get our self-esteem from other people will allow other people to speak to our self-esteem will allow other people to somehow pass judgment on whether or not were worthy enough by their comments about their behavior, and if they say or do things that hurt our feelings that we look at our self-worth in a much more negative light to function as a caregiver. If you're just so beaten down because the words coming out of somebody else's mouth that you're taking care of our destructive or painful hurt you.

Is it possible for you to consider the source and detach a bit from that and recognize that your self-worth is guaranteed by something far greater than that individual.

And that's what I'm trying to do here on the show is to is to equip you with that. So in those moments when it's just crazy enough that's only people that are taking care of aging parents who say things that are just so hurtful to them what lady was telling him, and she was trying to help her, but her mother had followed her mother's 85 years old her mother fall she has dementia and and and she was trying to get her mother back in a bit. You try to help her mother and her mother. She seemed most hateful, hateful things to her and it just broke her heart and it made her mad at all.

Discussing that she had to take a break from she just had to step away from it for a bit and collect her thoughts and have to remind yourself that all those things that her mother saying.get to pass judgment on herself worth they just don't they just don't they don't get to do that you have to consider that it just the machine may be broken and that's okay and if you look to someone else with your caregiver not to somehow affirm whether not you worthy as a person. Well, how far was I going to get you see God's is your worth comes from a much higher source in 19 argue with God. If you look to other people will even with the same people that say you wonderful can turn right around so your lousy what would even believe you got to believe in an external source far greater than people allege an echo make this the first time someone comes along and cast kind of suggest asparagus at your sketch dispersions which cast asparagus at which you get all of the folk about this and somehow think how my guys are not worth the thing I don't do anything you can't love freely from that position and when you're taking care of somebody you can't look to them to replenish your heart, they may not be able to do it.

They may be impaired. They may be under narcotics they may have dementia, they may just be having a bad day. They just may be being a jerk. Either way, you can still stay calm. You could still care for them and express that love because your love comes from a far greater source excluded Gracie earlier in Isaiah and when she was talking that young lady over in Ghana via video conference this week and she's been for the leg on her.

She said they that run are they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not graffiti. Gracie's double amputee telling this to another amputee were provided.

The leg forth are stained with hope and gracious in how you know what this leg to get negligible name of this legs will keep you standing with hope. Until we do this from Isaiah's a great script of theirs by the Scripture in Isaiah says that our names are written on the palm of his hands engraved on the publishing it knows your name and is your caring for that loved one is you're doing sometimes very menial task and you don't think anybody sees and you will think anybody cares you have one who provides you with inexhaustible love does determine your worth the see what you're doing you have a Savior look to that Savior don't look to that patient you're treating don't look to that love one to affirm you and it be affirmed in the fact that you have a Savior stretch that is life for you on the cross and died for you. Let that be enough and that frees you up to love that person no matter what they say or damaging can be at peace. They may revile you, they may see all kinds of stuff that you can be at peace merely to be torn up with all the stuff that's why we do what we do with this. You to give you practical hope real hope things that you could hold onto in the midst of craziness reach out take the hand that's offered. I am so grateful that you tuned in today to see you next week will go talks more about it as a stated