What If Everyone Worked Harder To Love Each Other? Part 2

What would happen in this nation or any nation or significant number of people became lovers. This is family policy motors NC family Pres. John Preston doing this for family policy matter this week were pleased to bring you part of the presentation on the seven character traits of love presented by Dr. Gary Chapman at the North Carolina family policy Council's major speakers dinner event in Raleigh in April 2016.

Dr. Chapman is the author of the best-selling book the five love languages series, and he speaks to thousands of couples nationwide through his weekend marriage, he also hosted nationally syndicated radio show program and is the senior associate pastor Ed Calvary Baptist Church in Winston-Salem or Carolina will be picking back up for Dr. Chapman left off last week as he talks about seven character love. We hope you enjoy the program three is forgiveness letting people forget that. I call this finding freedom from the grip of anger say we get anyone. People treat us unfairly. God gets angry to everyday. Ephesians 426 as being angry sand not not a Santa Fe languor is how we respond in anger so forgiveness is being willing to forgive people when they apologize.

See Ephesians 432 says were to forgive others in the same way that God forgives us how does God forgive us if we confess our sins, God forgives us, people apologize. We should be willing to forgive, always willing to forget what it really if I don't apologize about was very very clear. You confront them. Luke 17 verse three Jesus said your brother sins against you go telling if he repents, forgive him, so if I don't come apologize. We go confronting and give them a chance to repent and then if I don't apologize after you confront them three times. Matthew says you treated like a pagan which means you pray for and you release them to God is what Peter said about Jesus.

He said when people revile against him. He did not revile back. Listen, but he committed himself to him. He judges righteously return the person over to God you release them to God. You put them in good hands because he's not only just God is a loving God if I ever repent God will forgive him and you can forget. In the meantime, you release you don't allow the anger to live inside of Romans 1219 says don't seek revenge because vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord for his courtesy 12 and speak of common courtesies.

Most of our parents taught us some common courtesies when I was writing the book I just wrote down some of the ones my mom and dad taught me see if it is a sound familiar to you. When someone gives you a complimentary gift always I thank you don't talk with food in your mouth.

I drove with that the nine � permission before playing with your sisters toys don't take the biggest piece of chicken when it comes to food tasted before you reject it and then say I don't care for that. Thank you for never entering someone's room without knocking and then say come in, please do your chores before you play ball when you see your mother and father doing something always ask help you wait your turn to ride the scooter sale becomes always meet her at the door. The hug like a goal. So you had parents to talk to some common courtesies. My wife and I might us a list of common courtesies on how to treat each other, one of which is I don't speak for her and she can speak for me.

Learned that the hard way.

This word courtesy. It is really it's far more than those common courtesies. This word comes from the Greek word to two words, actually. One is the mind and the other is the word for friend to be courteous is to be friendly mind is to treat other people as though they were your friend, you're in the car you pull into a parking lot that's packed but you see a spot and so you're headed for the spot. But on the other side you see a car come around the corner, what you do to.

But if you consider that person in the other car to be your friend. What would you do senses are you give them the parking place are about the way you talk to a telemarketer who calls you trying to sell you vinyl siding for your brick house ever so felt sorry for telemarketers. If you consider the telemarketer your friend. It might sound something like you know you know that I appreciate you calling.

I'm so glad you got a job and hope you do well tonight. I don't need the vinyl siding because he got a brick house but but I'm glad you got a job you are listening to stories from to listen to our radio show online information resources him with persuasion in your community website family. There's five realities that will help you be a courteous person and treat people as a friend, let me just give them quickly is the reality that everyone I meet is valuable and has potential for good. Everyone I meet is struggling with something everyone I meet needs love and everyone I meet will be enriched if I treat them like a friend. Number five is humility. Humility stepping down so others can step up to this.

This has to come from the heart. This comes from the example of Jesus flipping chapter to do nothing out of selfish ambition and vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.

Each of you should look not only for your own interests, but also for the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus, who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be held on to what he made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.

And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself, even further and became obedient to death, even death on a cross.

He step down so we can step up and have eternal life.

These are example 3 realities produce humility. If you understand these three things is no place for pride. The first is that I have nothing that I have not received second is that my knowledge of the universe is limited and Sir Isaac Newton was one of the wisest among us once said, I feel like at times on like a child walking on the beach now and then finding a shell that's unique, while all the ocean of knowledge lies before me undiscovered in all of us know a good bit about some things I been working relationships now for longer than I can remember, and I think I know some things about relationships.

I can tell you this, there are thousands of things that I know very little about. And that's true of all of us. And thirdly, is that I'm totally dependent on God for my next breath so you understand those realities are no place for pride. Number six is generosity loving people we generous people giving their time giving their money given their abilities to help others. I was visiting a friend of mine in the near Detroit that known for good long while and I was speaking in Detroit and he asked me if I would spend the night at his place with his with his wife and family so that night I was sharing with him that I had just challenged our church the Sunday before to give $500,000 to missions in our Christmas missions offering and we talked about a bit and he secured it.

I would tell you my giving story. I said no is alive. My wife and I got married, so we both were Christian before we got married we both tithed our income to God.

So when we got married. It was no big deal for us to give 10% of our money to God and he said, so we did and I started a little business that year and you say God bless my business and at the end of the year I said to my wife you know any gods bless us and I just been thinking that maybe we ought to raise our giving to 11% since you know things are going so well and she's a fine hunting. I'm happy to do that is not family said that we would know that every year since then every year we raised 1%. I said I love you been married. He said he smiled. He said 49 years.

You say that gentry was given 59% of all of his income to God.

God is using in many places Winston Churchill once said, we make a living by what we earn, we make a life. But what we do. I was in Westminster Abbey a few years ago when I found the grave of Christopher Chapman. I looked at it and thought maybe we related the day of his death was 1680 and on the tombstone where these words what I gave, I have what I spent I had what I left. I lost by not giving it.

Jesus said himself.

It is more blessed to give than to receive. He also said to whom much is given of him so much be required. I've to confess to you, that's one of the most sobering statements of ever contemplated, to whom much is given of him so much be required. One thing to help you grow and generosity might be to make a list of all the things of been given to you from your parents and other people through the years, and supremely from God and you reflect on what you received it motivate you to give them the number seven is honesty, caring enough to tell the truth loving person will not lie to get ahead in a marriage. A lot of people live to protect themselves. One young lady.

When we ask or could you give us the name of someone in her family who was a loving person she said immediately. My grandmother and we ask why she said because she always tells me the truth even when I don't want to hear it. I know she does it for my good to see were called upon to speak the truth in love, we speak the truth in love is not getting stuff off your chest.

That's not the thing you're speaking truth that you think will be helpful to the other person how to build honesty in your life. Maybe the end of one day any day.

Just take a moment to reflect upon it.

I say anything today that wasn't quite true, and if you find anything you ask yourself did you give someone the wrong impression. Did I deceive someone, and if so, go apologize for why would we want to be a lover when you know what Jesus said this is the way they will know that you belong to me. By the way he looked. You know when I was writing the book. I had the thought does love really stand a chance in our culture see the sociologist caller culture the argument culture and now we go beyond that.

Now we try to destroy everyone who disagrees with my conclusion was love is our only chance is not as love stand a chance.

Love is our only chance.

You were told that 77% of people in this country claim to be Christians. At least like running the claimant as their religion that we know not all of her Christians. But what if those of us who are became lovers. So I hope that you are challenged along with me. Had you asked me before started writing this book in working on this project.

Could you ask me if I were a loving person. I think I would've said the thing so try to be hope. I am when I dug into it. I realize I had a whole lot of room for growth. I'm still on the journey. I'm hoping God will use this book to challenge a whole lot of you know the journey and let's move will becoming more loving person, loving person, even by the Chapman North Carolina family policy counties made dinner event in Raleigh in April 2018. We hope you enjoy listening to family policy matters production and see family to listen to our radio show online, and for more valuable resources and information about issues important to families in North Carolina website and see family.org follow us on Twitter and Facebook