Younger Marriage = Less Divorce?

Family policy matters and engaging and informative weekly radio show and podcast produced by the North Carolina family policy Council hi this is John Ralston, presidency, family, and were grateful to have you with us for this week's program is our prayer that you will be informed, encouraged and inspired by what you hear on family policy matters and that you will for better equipped to be a voice of persuasion for family values in your community, state and nation, and now here's our house to family policy matters. Tracy Devitt Griggs thanks for joining us this week for family policy matters philosophy in the US is to live together first and to get married later in life all in hopes of avoiding divorce, but a new report flies in the face of that thinking the religious marriage paradox. Younger marriage. Less divorce looks at age religiosity and cohabitation for clues on when to marry and have the best chance of avoiding divorce or join today by one of the report's authors, Dr. Bradford Wilcox. He's director of the National marriage Project at the University of Virginia Senior fellow at the Institute for family studies and a visiting scholar at the American enterprise Institute. Dr. Brad Wilcox, welcome back to family policy matters right so let's talk first about cohabitation I've heard even Christian parents unbelievably endorsing living together for the kids, especially if that parent has had some difficulty in their own marriage but looking at the research what we know about the actual impact of cohabitation on the chances of a long marriage will you will water when you have the part of marriage glued to be blunt more than one person you are getting divorced or hire your marital problems also work well cohabitation which used to be a risk factor for marriage. 1 Good Way to compare before you know a strong marriage right so.

Another common misconception is that waiting to get married will decrease the risk of divorce does the data backup theory along with the smart move and Wyman some of our lunch from them on the Canada found was that young adult 20 welcome and having the most able marriages particular research and so here is what we call direct the pathway toward greater mental stability and no 20s, because you could be 2328 without you. What could be higher on the marital happiness side of the equation of the research. John just having sexual partners prior to millage is happier.

Millage is 20 welcome and partners prior to marriage.

Looks like the pathway toward long shot surprising to a lot of my writing partners having no earlywood, maximize your probably George doesn't back that assumption up your study was cut three prongs right so first was cohabitation. Second was age of getting married the third had to do with the religiosity of the people getting married in their likelihood of divorce. Talk a little bit about that particular pilot will real strong will change is no religion cohabitation agent Marist 145 20 if they're not religious, but intended to do well know what's important how you mentioned that the religiously raised in adults are much more likely to not cohabit and married directly in their 20s, so it look like in this particular study is being say maximize drug murder 20s and minimize your cohabiting both of which will interest on the marriages.

This research interesting. So so what you're saying is that as long as you follow the first two principles is not cohabitating and not necessarily waiting later to get married you can still take advantage of the benefits whether you're religious or not important in my own general foods regularly divorce between about 30 and 50% water body of work. John, all the people who are engaged in community are more likely to avoid all just like most things, it's a good idea to look at this study in context of the all the wider studies you could point what connection is there between, or should there be. I guess between religiosity and cohabitation, we drawing that conclusion appropriately in the Christian community. What was left common among the American earlier happening and they will conduct the challenge for clergy and lay leaders work comes to explaining what a great idea. Testing the relationship for marriage doesn't work equally well engenders the kind of more qualified commitment like this idea.

If things don't work out you know I can always leave this relationship in the country. Marriage and not be all in your marriage not being all in your spouse. That's a real problem. Vision tends to reduce commitment to the course you will partner to come engenders critical will you compel your spouse to some other part of the world where and no spouse is perfect and problems from dementia and your stuff. Not a measure up as well have been partner closure for the quality of your marriage on the road as well. Weekly radio show and podcast of Carolina family policy Council. This is just one of them anyway since he works to educate citizens across Mr. Lana about policy issues that impact families vision is to create a state or nation where God is on religious freedom versus families for life's cherished more information about his family and how you can help us to achieve this incredible vision for our state and nation. Visit our website and see family.org and see family.org and be sure to sign up to receive our email updates action alerts course reflexive publication family North Carolina magazine. We also look for you to follow us on Facebook, Instagram kind of lessons does this have for parents and grandparents can we do as were watching these young people navigate very difficult culture. By the way, for dating and finding someone to marry Quicken influenced you think that we can have on this younger generation driving the idea here is you want to encourage them to friendship and there is a decent chance of finding a spouse to encourage them to move forward friendship and sense of connection.

A variety of levels they share, commitment to, say, for instance, will do for them and other things will be the basis for strong marital friendship given permission to go ahead with marriage 22 2835 were present in our recently marriage, other opportunities to know someone volunteering for instance to the Boys and Girls Club for Habitat for Humanity. So when doing range.

Difficult things with someone you're dating character in their virtues and vices, but not actually moving on with that comes through.

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The couple in New York City could not cohabit are part of marriage and they said that made got married, magical first apartment their first Christmas decoration. By contrast, the friendly cohabit of the part of the hall special edition for their friends cohabit part of marriage by not grabbing intermarriage crossing the threshold that much more special and exciting to think about long-term you know you really are painting a picture that is so much different then the hookup culture, which I think dominates the dating culture right now. From what I've been reading is this old-fashioned thing. Or is it realistic that young people can go after dating and finding an appropriate spouse. In this way, the great question that I think clear courtroom culture, dating culture that is reminiscent of the way things were when my grandmother coming of age 30, but I think it is incumbent upon us to try to figure out new ways to foster relationships in person or cultivated between men and women who are in their 20s and encouraged to know where they become something of connection with someone to come of the Obama general you can steer clear of dating tender and rely upon the people in person in church or in college or were you at a local nonprofit voluntary or much if it were true courtroom someone done working out a series of images on a small screen okay so let's go back to get back to the to the study can impact that a little bit you. You gave us some generalities on what you found stark are the differences what kind of stats are we talking about between a cohabiting and not in marrying later and not to what we see in the annual probability of divorce is the married around 25% chance of divorce directly married in their 20s, cohabiting by contra someone not religious because cohabiting prior to 1/2% wars below 20% include east-west for someone. Around 30 and carpeted player there, mark the difference here at Stratus get information. I know you mentioned this a little bit.

But what's the sweet spot. Do you think when is the best time to get married. If you have that choice. Important personal here is to take some time to get to know people and to look for friendship covers a variety of different bases. You will do well to listen to serve the couple sitting your friends over the course you live sports you could be called a strong marital friendship. But what we are searching for that person.

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There's no reason married 24�5 or 2720 and 29 zero, thank you for quick need that kind of person told her 30 to 31, 30 5F1Q quickly here is giving people permission to marry someone or 20s a lot of guns on the work for strong marital friendship wrongful or just about at a time for this week before we go Brad Wilcox where listeners go to reach your report and follow all your other great research report is available, family studies, and the title in this business globally disparage her younger marriage, Lester Morrissey typed out on Google. You will come up to our website. Thank you so much Dr. Brad Wilcox, director of the National marriage Project at the University of Virginia.

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