Creating a Relational Legacy, Part 2 (cont'd)

To create a strong and God honoring relational legacy you must always put people before prosperity property had personal and say that again to create a strong and God honoring relational legacy you must always put people before prosperity property and personal ambition.

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Let's join Pastor Paul in America. Shepherd now for their message creating relational legacy how you grew close personal relationship with his hand and we found there, and he also grew in his human friendships and relationships so regarding all of our relational dealings with other people ought to be the foundation of our relationship with the Lord as we dwell in God we should also be maturing and able to put up with something and put up with some people and takes humility to sometimes know that I was wrong I misjudged you I am sorry that maturation process. We need to be growing in humility and able to accept people to back part in top asked forgiveness and let God's love cover over all of that's exactly what we find in Ephesians chapter 4 the second part of verse two where Paul uses the term as he's teaching the vision church how to walk in unity. He says, bearing with one another in love. Some translations say put up with one another for bear one another. That's the sign of maturity. When I learned that a relationship doesn't always have to suit me in every detail the type not only all who are here screaming with a look at one another like it is frowned.

Some people as soon as you work the nerves that done, you'll go much less the other person growing instantly by the bed with one another. How do you do it in love seal is not up because sometimes love is in spite of the other types of love that we often do about Leo friendship love that's because you're my friend because we where we're compatible. In this way that that's fine and erotic romantic love. You know that that's because of but that's what the body will let you just have arrows and flail it demands that we have agape why that's the in spite of love, love God has for us. I love you and is not, you can do about that's what that means. I love you when you get on my nerves. I don't love that you're getting on my nerves but I love you when you're getting on my nerves and I'm going to put up with stuff I don't like I'm going to confront you when I need to confront you but at the end of the day.

I'm not throwing you away and so we gotta learn how to live by this Ephesians 4, and two, and just learned some you will just need to exercise your put up muscle your put up muscle was pretty weak let you down. Then the next person who really God did send in your life and they let you down. You immediately assign them to the other person. Some let you down but they had no ill will no ill intent, and they're willing to work through things with you just because you have somebody let you down and they flipped you off on their way out of your life. Not everybody is that way, have you seen somebody make the new person pay for the old person's mistakes, can we talk to a new relationship about damage last right yeah and you make them pay for the old person. Let this one prove. Let them learn how to be a friend who loves at all times, and a brother who is born for adversity because the right people will show up and when they get it wrong Bill hang around long enough to get it right. The good thing about being a believer is we first growing we don't reach a certain age where we got it all together and sometimes as we get older, I told you last week that my next birthday is this less than two months away and I will be fixed by senior citizen.

I hired Carrie and Medicare have now we we become a lot less tolerant of certain things anymore, but in Christ Jesus we ever reach that point.

Age where we become less tolerant with people. Now we may not enjoy this shenanigans but as we've been growing and aging.

We ought to be maturing and growing in grace where we have an expanded capacity to put up with foolishness and immaturity when we know our knees and pray over somebody pray for them and when you see them affirmed such great things for you.

Love you baby. My brother got great things in your future. We don't want to grow in tolerant people immaturity because we were one and make sure we made our methods and sometimes the people that he now they just don't remember when they didn't know back then that we need to grow well in our ability to put up with and to treat one another in live. Now we got about 11 minutes left. Were going to make a few of the key statements here is something I need to know to create a strong and God honoring relational legacy you must always put people before prosperity property and personal ambition say that again to create a strong and God honoring relational legacy you must always put people before prosperity property and personal ambition.

Why, because when you're gone. If you didn't prioritize people and your life was about your money and your property and your personal ambitions, what they say about you will not glorify God will be talking about a self-centered, not kingdom first person, the kingdom calls us to put people before all these things God so loved the world. I'm troubled that the church is so prosperity oriented. Yes I know, Solomon said money answers. All things but at the end of the day you've got to spend more time making a life than making a living. It's the life that matters make all prosperity is not wrong what is it money only means something when you spend it on people or things that change people's lives for the better so we gotta learn to prioritize about the conflict to say one more thing about conflict and learn to work things through my company brothers.

This is a passage on page and senior from Maryland I was with him as he was teaching a pastors conference once and he was on a section of his teaching, helping them learn how to help their people.

There were conflict resolution that he said let me give you an analogy that you have to use to help your people or you could use the help your people. He said imagine two mountain goats on the mountain and bail on a trail right on the edge of the mountain that is so narrow that they cannot pass one coming in one direction. One, the other, he said imagine a mountain trail on the side of the mountain. It's so narrow you can only go one direction or the other is that one does coming down one goats coming up. He said how do they both get where they're going and we set there we were in the conference a different moment and one brother spoke upset. What one got the one off. We all fell out laughing when we were trying to figure out what he was trying to get us to say so let me revise it how to get where they're going without one being thrown off the map and his answer was this one has the laydown and let the other one walk over and once it lays down lets you know where it's going and they can get up where it will be right back with more of today's destined for Victor message from Pastor Paul Sheppard to listen to any of Pastor Paul's recent broadcast. Be sure to stop by Pastor Paul.net to listen on demand. That's Pastor Paul.stay with us after today's message Pastor Paul joins me from a studio in California, but first let's tune into the rest of today's teaching, creating a relational legacy once again.

Here are Pastor Paul and therein lies our problem down there, somebody.

It takes humility to be the one to go down past learn less than because I humble myself before you just let nothing get past this little impasse so I can get on with my life. All I relationships are 50-50 that whatever it takes to get to 100. So sometimes you got to do any let them do the 20 alright so you got that now, let's finish up with this we got seven minutes left. You've got to put people before prosperity property and ambition is one way I want to encourage you to do that key relationships have to go ahead of work. Some of y'all spent all your time making the living and you don't pour into the people that God want you to pour into sometimes you can't work that over time, sometimes you can't take that certain project if it's gonna upset the balance of your family.

Sometimes you married people have a spouse who has gone through certain meaty season and you can't just throw yourself into some work project. You got a prioritize (sometimes a friend need you in a way that you gotta go out of your way.

I can use Fairweather friends all my company brothers no I know we all busy people and at a certain time in the evening nor do not disturb on your smart phone makes your phone not ring for certain people hot.

I told all of Yvonne the covenant brother I got a B in the favorites exception category. So if I happen to need you one night at 2 AM I probably won't do. I wanted to do not disturb. That's all I'm saying and and you just gotta know sometimes people need to and you gotta put people before stuff and before personal ambition and sometimes that's seasonal on cell. Sometimes a person is going through a difficult time and you give them access to you so that they can just ring your phone at two or 3 AM but sometimes because of what they're going through. You are making the conscious decision to make yourself available for their life.

Absolutely. So we have to learn if were going to prioritize people, then we have to make sure that we take into account what do you need from me for you to become your best self.

And for me to help you do that the Bible talks about the fact that iron sharpens iron. I gotta help you become your best. God has me play a certain role in your life and it can always be based on convenience, I have said to people in times of crisis where when I hear about the crisis.

Where can I meet you, and I am willing when somebody's in my inner circle or somebody is playing a role in my life. I will get on a plane and go where they are to help them.

That's what you see, Jonathan do with David Jonathan's dad Saul was trying to kill David for no good reason. Jonathan knew his David was in trouble. He's on the run 10 years on the run, but during that time there was a time when Jonathan found him normally fine for when you look at is I was a boy. I know my best, killing.

I know he must be in a horrible state of mind and you don't have a cell phone with so I gotta go find and he went and found him and when you get a chance to read it. Jonathan's the king's son. One of the reasons Saul is manacled. He knows God is appointed David to be his successor, and by right in terms of oil functions.

Jonathan would be a successor. But God said no. David is the successor when Jonathan finds him. The Bible says he strengthens his hands in the Lord. When you find somebody who needs your strength.

You gotta be willing to do what it takes. And not only did he strengthen his hands in the Lord. He encouraged them.

He said you are going to be the next King. Imagine the king's son, saying to somebody is not related by blood you will be the next King.

He said, and I will be under you.

That takes land that you'll see what I'm saying that they slam down your ego can be involved in discussing this is God's will, and we will make this happen. So look at your key relationships are you doing in their lives what you need to do. Sometimes we expect too much of people.

That's the other thing sometimes.

Expect too much.

I do verbally say let me close with this, let me remind you all I told you in the words of the great theologian Diana Ross if you need me call me no matter where you are, no matter how far just call my name. I'll be there that you can do.

Remember what no wind, no rain, no winter's cold keep that that's a covenant relationship when you tell them what now on the flipside, sometimes somebody really feels that way about you and you are on the other side of the mountain and they can get to you and I don't know the song said that they would they would do whatever it took on the side of the mountain as somebody who needed you was trying to contact you best you can do is text them from the other side of the mountain.

You know I love you right, but I can't.

I literally can't get there but I'm praying for you.

Love you. Take care.

Send sometimes is the best you can do when somebody can't be there for you. You have to remind yourself they are not my all sufficiency, only one is my all sufficiency when my wife when my kids when my brothers when my sister when my covenant plans can be there God is always the same back this morning. He is in math. He is our provider.

He is the one that will never leave you nor forsake you. He's closer than a brother. And we need to cling to that reality is our drink enough. Do what you have to do to build a strong, godly relational legacy because at the end of the day how much money you die with is not going to matter nearly as much as how you impacted other people's lives for the glory of God. People are not going talk about your car when you go but they don't talk about how you impacted how you met him at the point of their need and so we have to prioritize people over everything else. I want to say to you that we have to live so as to keep the end in mind because one of these days we all look Andre Crouch saying it well soon and very soon we are going to see the king and you don't decide to be old or sick to go.

So the best way is to live your life ready to go. I don't want to go while don't want to say if the government planned decimal things you want to do for God. I do plan to live and be ready to die.

That's what I got to say to you, be ready to go and leave them in their teens, believing in their 20s believing in every decade, funerals in every decade. I did the funeral of a baby that you got the little casket you can hold in two-way.

The baby just weeks and died and I had to do the funeral parents at their family just went and I had to comfort them. I remember saying as I eulogized this precious baby and comforted them. I said I wanted tell you one thing about this baby. This baby never knew the hate and the harm of this world, this baby only knew your love for a few months and now this baby only knows the love of God knows all the Lord gave me to help comfort but we have to understand we all even here, whether child or teenager or young adult adults checking out so live your life to God's glory. But be ready to go because we never know when that time is coming. Thanks so much for being here for today's destined for victory message creating a relational legacy what one of the reasons Pastor Paul loves being in ministry is that he gets to do it with you are destined for victory. Friends and partners and today as we do every week of the broadcast would like to invite you to partner with us by making a monthly pledge of $20 a month or more, please consider joining Pastor Paul, ensuring the gospel of Christ all over the world as our way of saying thanks for your partnership will send you a few welcome gifts including the latest edition of let my people smile. It's actually called the best of let my people smile best Pastor Paul to join me in the studio tester. What are some of the reasons why you put the service together. I like making people laugh because I think you can laugh and learn at the same time so I prefer to do that. I don't think we should bore people with the Bible and I enjoy sharing my sense of humor. It's a gift God gave me. I'm a preacher's kid.

My dad was a crackup in the pool. And I tell you if anybody ever heard him and then they hear me they know where my sense of humor came from. It came from my dad but I'm glad to be able to use something that comes quite naturally and use it just as a tool to engage people so that I can tell them the truth. Some of my listeners and some of the members of my church say you know is not unusual for you to have me laughing and crying all in the same setting and that's got a good because we need to be challenged but at the same time. It's okay to laugh and I appreciate the fact the Bible says laughter is like medicine and I think we could all use some good medicine every now and then I couldn't agree more. Thank you Pastor Paul friends when you become a destined for victory Parker by pledging a monthly donation of $20 or more will send you that CD as a thank you gift along with a few other special gifts. So, call 855-339-5500 to become a destined for victory partner.

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