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Annual all happiness and what I mean by that. I call it becoming the CEO of your life and by CEO I mean the chief enjoyment officer of your life you need to be your own CEO.

You need to be in charge of enjoyment in your life you can afford to get that job to somebody else. What about you are you your own CEO chief enjoyment officer or have you given that assignment to someone or something else listening to Destin for victory with pastor Paul Sheppard, senior pastor of destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont, California is always were glad to have you with this. It is God alone who gave your life and it is God alone who can give you a joyful life. But do you have a role to play in the level of your fulfillment on earth.

What does it look like answers come your way. Next, so stay with us or stop by Pastor Paul.net anytime you hear today's message you recent Destin for victory message on demand. That's Pastor Paul.net you can also subscribe to the podcast a Google podcast source modify whatever you enjoy right now. Let's join Pastor Paul as he shares today's Destin for victory message if I only had spouse. The bottom line is it's okay if you want to get married. It's okay if you want more money. It's okay if you want to do anything that'll enhance your life for the better. But keep in perspective and know that your renewed mind is what's going to bring happiness, success and fulfillment. It is what's in your head, not what's on your body or in your circumstantial life and so if you keep that in mind, you'll be all right. You can be happy and fulfilled. Regardless of your marital status. I need you to know that in no uncertain terms.

You can be happy and fulfilled. Regardless of your marital status, and how you do that, let me just give you a few points that help you really safe to be all yeah anybody can say that. But practically it's not too no, it is true, and let me give you some practical ideas to inshore that you are planning to live a happy, fulfilled life. Whether or not you hook up with someone in terms of marriage I want you first of all to learn the importance of investing in your own happiness. That's one of things you gotta do brothers and sisters invest in your all happiness and what I mean by that. I call it becoming the CEO of your life and by CEO I mean the chief enjoyment officer of your life you need to be your own CEO.

You need to be in charge of enjoyment in your life you can afford to get that job to somebody else. One of the biggest mistakes. One of the biggest pitfalls. I've seen people fall in is they get into a relationship and it's okay now. Now I got the one I've been waiting for the lawn for the first time in my life something because they finally have somebody listen know God didn't give anybody else the assignment of giving you life, much less giving you enjoyment in life you must be your own CEO. Whether you're married or single, you got a be all see the old you are responsible for your happiness.

You can hand out all you or me already tell you that you light up my life syndrome is a disaster waiting to happen. You can't be a person waiting for somebody to come light up your life if you let somebody come light up your life. You know what that means. That means they own the lightbulb and just as sure as you make him mad and yes you go make a man they don't have character they don't have substance, chances are you can recommend him one day where they unscrew their life and they walked out and now that you are back in darkness why you should never given them the idea that they could come light up your life. We may need to come to an already lit up.

Life don't let anybody meet you and you in the dark women when I can find no ability in a minute you got a have you bless your life.

Let them come in, sit, I'll have a conversation and see you and see whether not even I'll get to that later on in somebody's pitfalls about this whole relationship building somebody all date instead of evaluate but will will get to that. All right, so you gotta be your own CEO and you cannot hire somebody else to be your CEO they can't be responsible for your enjoyment. So let me keep it practical. What I do pastor discover and pursue the activities.

The friendships etc. that make you feel good and add value to your life. Jot that down if you need to discover and pursue the activities. The friendships and other such things that make you feel good and add value to your life. You have got really discover what makes me happy. And when you identify what makes you happy you got a pursue those whether there activities whether their relationships with certain people who gotta find when it comes the people you heard me say over the years, but I will keep saying it because we always have new people plus you need to be refreshed in somebody's truth. That'll really help you live your best life. You have got to learn. People come into basic categories. There are fillers and there are drainers and you got identify the fillers the people. When you leave them when you after talking to them after hanging out with them.

After spending time with them. They are fillers. They add value. They fill you up in a proper way is a good drainers are often necessary because really you have to minister to a lot of people who did not in your life so that they can bless you and so they are going to be drainers don't resent drainers. Some of them are supposed to be there is what you got a lot to do you learn to make sure you have more fillers or leisure filled up by the few fillers you have enough to handle your dreams because when you're driving overwhelmed you and you don't have enough, then you're just like a bank account that has more stuff going out every month, then it has income. Sooner or later you will going to the red and you could do that emotionally and psychologically. Pastor is preaching and being a therapist at the same time and I need you to understand. You can have more drainers than fillers and prosper.

So, identify and fillers. Common activities as well as in people find your fillers. One of the activities that fill me up make me happy if you need people and activity game nights and and sports and stuff like that.

Find it and enjoy it. Let it fill you up if you are more of an introvert.

My wife gets filled by Satan and have a block and that goes for I have never understood how do you get build a nut going all all but I learned early on we were married we come up on 39 years I learned early on that sometimes when I be itching like some daft priest and back when I pastor the church where we had multiple servers… The mega church will have an services. All we give and Sunday afternoon. I would be a little tired from preaching what was going to let me go get with some folks and let's go play cards in half and asked, and my wife. Every now and then in the early years of our marriage. She tried to hang with the model that a certain point in marriage. We realize that not the work for her. She said you go to that, sit here.

Got a book this couch is and check and I come home. She filled have been with about an outcome in not be whereby I'm just happy as our activities and people and I had to learn even with my hang out with some people.

We could let me and hang out because they would try to drain me doing my filling time is the past two and a come come to my card event and they come over there and all they want do is talk and asked me Bible trivia questions can animal same no but I can't do… Where my this message so you discovered.

Pursue the things the activities the friendships want to find your fillers and stay flow because you have drainers that's God's will.

That's what ministry is. That's what purpose is helping other people.

Purpose is always going to take you to wear something dreams you challenges you that's part of purpose don't have to be a purposeful person and you don't deal with anybody purpose and people go together. Why, because God so loved the world, God is into people. Even if you buy personality and temperament are into people socially.

You got at least be able to be in the people, to the extent that you got a minister to them when this is good so you gotta get this drainer thing right.

Thank God for the drainers, but keep them in their place. You were parent you got drivers.

They called kids and so let God bless you with the fillers necessary so that you don't get so mad with your kids that you end up going viral.

But again, I'm talking about that an upcoming message that I want to help y'all get straight even when things get overwhelming. God has a plan so discover and pursue the things that fill you make you happy add value to your life. I am big on quality of life quality of life is one of the things I am so big.

What is the quality of your life is ill but is not very very much of a quality life then you need to add the things that add quality. It's your job to look outward, somebody got to give me a purpose about going to be having some I don't think there's a link to my doc was aware as I to to fulfill yourself to be happy. Speaking of last for the Bible tells you, you need the land stay with us the second half of Pastor Paul Shepard's message is coming right up.

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So please prayerfully consider making a generous gift to Destin for victory today. Give online safely and securely from our website. Pastor Paul.net or give us a call at 855-339-5500. The book of Proverbs tells us that a merry heart does good, like medicine, coming up next reminder of just how important laughter can be used Pastor Paul with the rest of today's Destin for Victor message if I only had a spouse. Not all solar gradebook 1722. You're supposed to get Sean to laugh all in Bible chapter 17 verse 22. Mary Hart does like sin but a broken spirit dries the bones. If you drive my brother, you need to do some about it. Quit being dry and wishing that happiness and joy and fulfillment would come into your life really was good quality life job you have to be your CEO renewing of the mind. Paul said in Romans 12, you have to be your own CEO cheerful heart is like medicine and I mean you have to have coverage.

It's right in the Bible you can get medicine laugh, you know, if you were to make me laugh. I never did one time I had a listener say you're just clowning too much just clowning too much. The Bible says you need to be sober on this determinant that I clamp too much and I went, God bless him with a little dry bones because I laughing and I love making people laugh.

That's why it took me so long you don't know what this pandemic was shocked.

I was a little shock that I couldn't be in the room, which all is what I do preach the word and make laugh and I felt like Kevin Hart would know and for the first few months I was a priest and not I don't know how to do, but I had to figure out and I hated this camera noted and so you can see it's taking me a long time but now I think I don't get it all happen, but I can still do the best I can feel better when we do get back in Safeway now don't get me wrong, I didn't really want be in person service when the time is right. But in the meantime and I got a clown in the process and if you like it and if you want yourself a nice sober pitiful drab preacher does a whole bunch of them all over the web is about 24 hours a day, you could just go from one drive sermon to another draftsman but me myself I will make you laugh at least try one more thing about this person for filming stuff regarding fulfillment. You should discover and pursue the things God has shaped you to do. See fulfillment comes with you discovering and fulfilling your purpose. What's my purpose.

Glad you asked. Let me give you the answer no purpose is in you. It's already in you. You are shaped Rick Warren is the first one that gave me that language. Decades ago, and I'm so grateful to him for that. You are shaped to do something the Bible says all of us.puts things in us that we are to work out of us.

God is at work in you so you work out everything that he has put in you. The S stands for spiritual gifts and callings for spiritual gifts and callings because that's part of what you're supposed to do.

You are shaped to do some things in your purpose is tied to that you fulfilling the things that God is already put in you so examine your spiritual gifts and your callings what you feel called to do what people groups or what ministry do you feel connected to you got examined that eight stands for heart Jesus is a good man out of the good treasure than his heart brings forth good things. So God has put some good things in your heart, it's your job to look in their fine what's in your heart have a real hard for what groups of people. What ministries or how am I shaped in terms of my heart, my passions, to help people look at that. That's where you go to find fulfillment. A stands for abilities God is giving you some abilities and life has helped to develop certain abilities and every ability can be used for God's glory.

If you live in that renewed space of your mind that I just talked about at the beginning look in your abilities to get some of them are just natural gifts and some of our gifts to develop and disciplines you that you've developed over the years wherever you have a discipline and expertise in Samaria. You can use that for God's glory and it can be part of the fulfillment of your purpose. User abilities for God's kingdom P Stansel personality, your personality is ripe for you to fulfill God's will in certain ways. Don't try to be somebody else's persona you got yours stick with it and make it work for God's glory. And so the easy stands for experiences, all of us have had certain experiences and God is the ultimate recycler. He never devalues you by your experience transforms you even if you had awful horrible experiences you had experience of abuse you had experiences of neglect. You have been mistreated. Don't deny your past God will sanctify God will use it if you need healing.

We need to help you get the healing so that your experiences don't hang your future growth.

Because really when you come through the healing God's going to actually use the hell you been through to help somebody else get to heaven. And so you got a look at how you been shaped. That's how you experience fulfillment, let me close this installment in the series by pointing you to a single woman in the book of acts chapter 16 woman named Lydia, I won't turn to it in the interest of time, but when you get a chance read about Lydia who is she she is a woman who has Paul and Silas in his ministry companions are on their second missionary journey and as they come through a certain region will apply is the city. She is a woman who is there and God bless his heart to hear the gospel at Paul's mouth. She opens her heart. She was already one who revere God, but she didn't know who Jesus was. Paul preach the gospel plainly came to know Jesus was.

He opened the heart receive Christ, and Lydia became very prominent person very fulfilled and happy person.

Why, because when she gave her life to Christ she used what she had. She was a businesswoman.

The Bible tells you they're not 16 that she was a merchant of purple linens appropriate garments of purple cloths and she clearly had an exceptional business acumen see was in today's vernacular. Lydia was a boss that was a boss lady and she used her her well. Her resources for the glory of God, after she got saved. In fact the church at Philippi. When you read the book of Philippians that church was founded in her house. Paul preach the gospel to her.

She said I got a great property.

You can have your meetings here and they charge in Philippi started meeting and her house this boss woman who was a servant of God said, but right now I'm getting my joy, my success doing the will of God, and I never read where she ever got married. I don't know if she was a widow but she never married again for the time she knew Jesus. We have no record that she ever brought a man into her inner circle which advance the kingdom and she used her resources for God's glory. I came to tell you something, marital status may change for you. It may not change for you change for you if you expected and hope and will stay with me in the series goes on the keep on packing some things to make sure you know all into the pit of Marion Rome and spending the rest of your days regretting that you thought the answer was in having somebody having put a ring on it. The answer is you doing what Paul said in Romans 12, I beseech you, by the mercies of God, that you present yourself Lord is my life. I wanted to be happy and holy I want to be a worse report review I want to be a boss person in my life and lifestyle. I want to adventure kingdom. I don't want to bring some crazy person in the circle. I don't want to mess up that you want to leave so God have your way in my life. That means marriage. I'm open and smooth.

You are an open Lord bless me single collateral warning you just be what you are, whatever you do, let God have his way, and you will never regret the fact that you presented your body as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to the Lord. This is your true and proper worship.

Jesus is the source of your life. The source of your joy.

The source of every good thing that is possible through faith in him.

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