Say the Right Thing (cont'd)

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We need to learn that what we say matters that God calls us, the people of God to be free from corrupting the carrying death, providing words, we need to be people who make a difference for good in this world hello and welcome to this Monday edition of Destin for victory with pastor Paul Sheppard, senior pastor at destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont California. Thanks for making this part of your day. Pastor Paul calls them dream killers and hope destroyers. People who choose skepticism over support speak words of decay and death rather than deliverance and destiny over the next 20 minutes or so, he'll give you three practical ways to begin the habit of life and encouragement into the lives of those around you. Stay with us here, or download the podcast on demand. Pastor Paul.net, modify, or wherever you enjoy your podcast now with this message say the right thing is Pastor Paul.

Let me spend the rest of this message time just talking to you about three ways to actually say the right things and they're right here in the Scriptures, so let me just use three practical ways that we can say the right thing here is the first speak appropriate words at the appropriate time speak appropriate words at the appropriate time.

Now what you mean by that pastor. I mean not only do you need to learn the right things to say but you need to learn to say the right things at the right time. Let me give you an example from Scripture.

In first Samuel chapter 23 you'll see in verses 16 through 18 very key passage. It talks about Jonathan and David. Now you remember David was four years a fugitive running from King Saul, a man who we had done nothing but love well and serve well but Saul because of jealousy and insecurity and being full of himself couldn't handle that David was anointed David was popular, even though David was serving him well and Dana wasn't trying to usurp the king's authority in any way, but the king got jealous tried to kill them and David for years was a fugitive because of that. So here he is a fugitive on the run and look at Jonathan who is Saul's son. The king's own son, still find David look at it.

Jonathan, Saul's son rolls and went to David and strengthening the his hand and the Lord wait, how is his son helping the guy Paul is trying to kill because Jonathan and David walk in covenant that some people in your life that you walk in covenant with that.

It doesn't matter what loved ones have to say this is somebody I have bareback and they have mine.

I want God's best in their life and they want God's blessing mine. You need to have some hope not to be a lot. In fact, I found that usually can find a whole lot of people to be in covenant with anyway don't even worry about it.

If you find the right you covenant people. You will be blessed beyond measure and David and Jonathan walked in covenant, and so even though Jonathan Knowles. His dad is trying to kill David Jonathan goals and finds David was on the run and look at what happens when he gets to him.

He strengthens his hand in God strengthen the fatherless and then we'll get through this because God is with you.

He is the man that his dad is trying to kill that's what I mean look at the appropriate word spoken at this appropriate time, or 17 he said to him, do not fear for the hand of Saul.

My father shall not find you will find you. Do you see what I mean when I talk about words that produce life rather than death is trying to get you to go find you your man of God and look at the next sentence he said you shall be king over Israel.

You want take my daddy spot look at this and I shall be next to you now wait now. Now we go on real deep peace that my father is not qualified you to kill you.

He said you will be the king and I and will be next to you now. By all rights in the situation the king's son is supposed to succeed him.

Jonathan, who could have every ambition to be the king after his father. He saying although God is already spoken his will, God's will is not that I become king. So I'm not going be the king. He said David you are the next king you're going to be my dad's successor, and then he says I am going to be next to you.

You give me a role in your cabinet I'll be satisfied. You just tell me what you want me to do in your administration and I'm going to do that.

Somebody who can have their own personal ambition to be the top dog. He says not know this covenant brother I got a strengthen him. He's weak.

He's tired he's disillusioned wise a man I've done nothing but love trying to kill me.

So he goes and finds him, and he tells them pop.

Let go find you, he is going to actually give up the throne because God is going to put you on the throne and he says you're going to be the king. I'm going be next to you.

Saul my father also knows this is encouragement is a part of the problem is my dad know that God's hand is on you.

He knows this and he got like it but just because he doesn't like it that mean he can do anything about it. This is God's plan and the two of them made a covenant that accompanied before, but they made a fresh covenant. Sometime when you're walking covenant will poke you got a renewing new challenges call for new renewing of covenant. You gotta restate what you already stated and so they renew their covenant and David remained in Horace and Jonathan went on back home.

Look at that now what does that teach you and me are words, the right words. He affirmed spoken at the right time. This is a time when is deeply discouraged. So we need some I to come strengthen him. What about you how good are you at finding the people in your life at a low place and making sure they, how good are you with the how good are you at seeing somebody discouraged. But by the time you leave them because you've spoken the right words at the right time.

They are encouraged. That's what God is calling for you to be through this passage here in Ephesians 4, Paul says you can't let corrupting things you don't show up when David is hurting as a man I tell you it is a really bad my father a right man is this guy be hard to. I bet you've already kill yourself.

What you don't plan somebody's mind what they will need to be thing about the event that was me.

I think I'd kill myself.

No, you come strengthen them and you come and say what the devil is planning.

God is not going to let come to pass in your life. I know the enemy has it in for you. I know people have it in for you. I know certain segments of society have it in for you, but those weapons on the gifts you are going to prosper because you are a child of God. What you say when somebody is lost the job or something like that and circumstantially it doesn't look good at all. You need to speak God's word don't speak what is speak what God says shall be speak what can be. So I will have a word from God when you know that our God is able to do exceeding abundantly above all we could ask the magic so you gotta build somebody up, speak something appropriate and speak it at the appropriate time. I see at the appropriate time because sometimes people say a good thing but they said at the wrong time.

If you speak good words but you say that the wrong turn when a person is not receptive to it. You still miss the mark you learn the same good things and good time will be right back with more of today's testing for Victor message from Pastor Paul Sheppard.

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Pastor Joyce me from a studio in California versus Québec into the rest of today's teaching say the right thing. You can have good motive, but you gotta check in time Joel's friend showed up because they want to check on the boy. They showed up in four days.

They sat with him. Sometimes there is the ministry of presence. The ministry of presence just be there so we'll still gotta learn when you don't know exactly what to say to everybody a favor and don't say anything just sitting there is okay just came to be what you meant and sit there anything I can hand you anything I can do for you know and sit some people always show up one of them now.

Don't know what they're talking about. So you want to be one of them you want to learn to speak appropriate words at the appropriate time be speak words that build people up not only speak proper words at the appropriate time, but speak words that build people up to the opposite of corrupting words are empowering words, the opposite of corrupting words all uplifting words, the opposite of corrupting words our confidence building words sometimes you have to build somebody there beat down broken down. They have low self-esteem or low sense of this is going to turn out well. They are mired in confusion are mired in thinking this is going to go poorly and you got to hold them up.

An example of that in scripted and lots of them.

The one that came to mind as I was preparing this part of the series is I thought about Gideon you remember in the book of Judges chapter 6. We told how the Midianites would just be enough for God's people, and God let it happen because he wanted to discipline his people anyway and so we let the Midianites do what they were doing and just login God's people out and the people cried to the Lord very Judges chapter 6 they cried to the Lord and eyes of God was waiting for them to cry to him and then he sent a prophet and said not look y'all brought this on yourself and so you just need to know that you can't do the wrong things and expect God to bless you and is worth all of us. You want to be blessed you better get your act together and do what God has told you to do in the first place.

Now I want to look then at verse 12 of Judges chapter 6 and the angel of the Lord appeared to Gideon and said to him, the Lord is with you. Watch this all mighty man of valor. Now you say okay big deal.

Lord would've O'Malley medic cause what's the big deal. Glad you asked answer is because when you looked at Gideon new thought many things, but mighty man of valor was not one of them act more like a wimp than a warrior, more like a defeated person than a mighty man. Gideon had no more experienced daily in one of the kinda guy who was quite average in every way. In fact, by description in this passage by his own mouth.

He said I am the least in my family and my plan is not particularly known for being anything special. I confirmand principal and I am the least and I average family among average flow. I'm not in the starting five on the basketball team. I'm at the end of the bench.

They don't put me in. They hardly put meal even when we are leaving by 39 points and is four minutes left. They don't even think the put me in the let the other guys rest I'm at the end of the bench swirl of the tile you see that guy if you got a fight you don't call them gentlemen, we are no fight. We'll call that's the Gideon of Judges 6 and that's the guy that the angel of the Lord shows up and says the Lord is with you all mighty men of valor, the Lord, what at the moment the angel showed up. Gideon was in a wine press threshing wheat noodle fresh wheat in a wine press he was doing it because he was afraid everyone on the open air. The Midianites might spot them. They come to call his we beat them up. That's Gideon Haydn in the winepress to anybody here that scan in but God looks at him and calls him a mighty warrior says I'm which you where but I which is what you gotta do some people build them up not telling them what is and tell it what can be as easy to say what is something you all are anointed to speak the obvious. You gotta learn to be anointed to speak. What could be what God wants to happen and you gotta speak God's truth. God's power. God's miracle working ability into somebody's life and that your job third and final thing way to to say the right thing speak words that all four people help or hope speak words that offer people help or hope in other words, if you not be helpful if you not to be hopeful. Keep your mouth shut.

Just don't say anything.

Maybe you don't know how to be helpful something you learn this principle I'm sharing with you. You're not used to being hopeful so into you learned just don't say anything. Stop telling people the negative experience and that the world is going to hell in a hand basket. Thank you so much know I need to know what God is going to do about it.

People who will stand up and say God I want to be used of you in these dark times speak words that offer people help or hope. Let me give you an example. You're very familiar with from the Gospel of John chapter 8 the woman caught in the act of adultery. Look at how Jesus shows us how to offer people help or hope.

Verse three says the scribes and Pharisees brought a woman who'd been caught in adultery, placing her in the midst, and said to Jesus, teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now, when the law Moses commanded to stone such women. So what did you say first of all, they lied on Moses.

Moses didn't say when you find a couple in the act of adultery grabbed the woman and Stoner. That's what they said they said she was caught in the act, which means there were two people with smart people with a lot of good smart things in this world, with none of us have learned how to commit adultery by ourselves UK due to analytical so there was another person there they waited for Brian to get out, put his leave in a winning grand woman dragged her out Moses assist on what you say you know I am out sometime.

I came back into the whole thing. You know what happened. Jesus first just read and answer the question, he started writing in the ground and whatever he wrote.

He then finished by saying okay those of you who are without sin going to cast the first stone. Whatever he wrote reminded them, but you're not without sin, what he wrote every night and I hear some I know.

I believe I know what dozen please where I was got their attention.

I will know what it was Jerusalem Holiday Inn.

What it was you numbers around but you get the point.

Whatever you got their attention and they walked away. Now watch this hope and help build on the first 10 of John eight, Jesus stood up after he's cleared out all the hypocrites said to her, woman, where are they the people who just drag you out here has no one condemned you. She said no one Lord watch this one and Jesus said neither do I condemn you weight the holy son of God speaking to said I don't condemn you. That's exactly what he said you know why he didn't come to the world to condemn the world. John 317. Income for condemnation condemnation was already on us because of sin. He didn't come to condemn the world, but that the world through him might be saved. So he said I'm not here to condemn you. You said I got rid all your hypocrite accusers then he's offering help and hope he says now go on and sin no more. That's not condemnation. That's hope he's even embedded in this you have to sleep with these men to try to be significant.

You don't have to lower yourself. You don't have to have a sugar daddy, come on, Jesus is given hope now you and I child of God are called to live our lives from this day all on saying the right thing here in this scene, Jesus accomplished a couple of things at the same time he convicted everyone of their sin. The woman as well as the crowd with the perfect blend of grace and truth. He saved a woman's life, because after hearing Jesus words, the crowd laid down their rocks and walked away. Two birds, no stones. Now his promise Pastor Paul Sheppard joins me from a studio in California pastor.

Today's message is part of a series of messages entitled embracing newness. Can we talk about this newness and what that's all about. For moment yeah I was studying the book of Ephesians, like I've done over the years for a new approach to some of the concepts that Paul shares and I locked in on a few verses there in Ephesians chapter 4 and it dawned on me that spiritual growth and development will always have this threefold approach and what I mean by that is, Paul says there are some things you have to put off and then you have to renew your mind. And then there are some things God wants you to add to your life and as I was studying that this time I thought well that'll preach in a way I probably never focused on in past Ephesians series and so I decided to take those messages and talk about embracing newness because you've got to be willing to take off some things in preparation for what God wants to do in your life then you have to allow him to renew your mind, so that when you put on the newness it becomes part of who you really are and so our spiritual growth and development really will always have those three aspects and I hope this series is going to make that real clear you know me, I like to be practical so I talk about really practical things because Paul does there Ephesians 4 for instance, he says y'all got a quick lien and tell the truth and so I have pretty practical yeah and I had never really thought about that. Like wow he's right believers, but he then assumed that there automatically going to tell the truth because there saved. So he gives us the instructions how to put off line how to renew our minds and how to add truth telling to our lives and I unpack that in many other concepts in this series I think it's gonna be a real help and blessing to listeners. I look forward to hearing from you as to how God uses this series in your life but a great series so far. Pastor will look forward to the next several days as we discover how to embrace the newness our life in Christ offers will leave a great resource to share with you today yours by request for your generous donation to Destin for victory. It's a booklet from Pastor Paul titled you're in God's Army now. It's a great companion guide to the messages earlier this month). Testing for victory one that explains how to be an effective soldier in the Army of God that securing God's Army now a booklet from Pastor Paul in our gift to you by request for your gift to Destin for victory call us at 855-339-5500 visit Pastor Paul.net to make a safe and secure donation online.

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