Developing an Honorable Lifestyle, Part 2

Don't let anger master. Don't let it go unresolved because when anger goes unresolved. It tends to take you into inappropriate thoughts and actions and what have you, don't let it fester.

That's where the danger is when you're not properly handling your current presentations anger be angry and do not sin. Do not let the sun go down on your anchor is Ephesians 426 and this is destined for victory with pastor Paul ship those two commands are vitally linked. When we allow anger to fester that we are more likely to sin much better to resolve it quickly.

Even if you have to take a few minutes or a few hours together. Your thoughts today pastor Paul warns us of the dangers of letting too much time passed between conflict and resolution that offers us some practical advice on dealing with her anger the right way. Stay with us here or visit pastor Paul.net to listen to this or any recent message on demand is pastor Paul, today's destined for victory message developing an honorable lifestyle be angry and do not sin here is point number two the first of the seven point we saw last week was when you speak. Tell the truth. Here is the second way that you gotta put on newness and brace newness. I worded this way manage your anger appropriately. Jot that down if you're making notes don't just when you speak. Tell the truth but number two. Manage your anger appropriately. All right, let's walk through that. Now I need you to look at the fact that Paul said that you as a believer have the right to be angry.

We need to start their some people think that Christianity is just that false grin and you walk around grinning all the time. That's not walking with Jesus. Jesus would be happy all the time you get that from the Bible. There are times when anger is appropriate. Let me just give you an example from Jesus ministry. Matthew chapter 21 verse 12. After he came back to Jerusalem in route to his destiny being nailed to the cross when he gets back to town. When he gets to the temple courts and sees the merchandising that's going on in the place where God's presence is supposed to be looking what Jesus did.

Matthew 2112 then Jesus went into the temple of God and watch this and you all out all those who bought and sold in the temple, and overturned the tables of the money changers and the seats of those who sold the you see what Jesus did on the website dear ones, would you please clear this out this is so inappropriate that's not what Jesus did he draw all folk out here and asking the leave, he was tossing people and you need to know sloppy copy is not an accurate representation all our faith walk. Sometimes it is appropriate to be angry sometimes what has happened to you what has been done to you is not right.

What has been said to you is not right. Sometimes anger is the only appropriate response.

So we ought to be glad that Paul said when you're angry.

Make sure you don't sin.

So what does that tell you that tells you that anger isn't necessarily inappropriate but you need to make sure that your anger doesn't leave you and to sin. I hope everyone understands that this is so important. God wants us to be people properly manage our emotions, especially the ones that could take you left and you need to properly manage them and so he says be angry but do not sin. Look at the rest of verse 26 of Ephesians 4 he says do not let the sun go down on your laughed, nor give place to the devil. Look at that again. Don't let the sun go down while you're still angry and do not give the devil of a whole was the way it's put in NIB and new King James it says that. Don't let the sun go down on your laughed when you're angry, means the same thing, nor give place to the devil all right. In other words, what you find in that passage is when looking at how to manage her anger appropriately.

He says don't let anger faster. That's why he says don't let the sun go down on it. Don't let anger faster.

Don't let it go unresolved because when anger goes unresolved. It tends to take you into inappropriate thoughts and actions and what have you, don't let it faster.

That's where the danger is when you're not properly handling your current presentations anger, so don't let it fester. That's what he means by don't let the sun go down on will pass away the minute they are times when I'm too angry really to speak properly and I want to address the issue right now just to mad bathtub just beyond it. I'm just too mandated by say something now is not global well I hear you I get you Paul not saying that you have to speak instantly. He's just saying that you need a little time to step back in the little time to get the car drive somewhere in the middle. Time to go on the prayer closet below. Time to just deploy our emotions together. Whatever you gotta do you know you so Paul says it's okay if you need a little moment fine, but make sure you don't let it just best to go on and on.

Don't be one of these people who can be mad was set me 10 days and thereby know you man.

Nobody knows why.

I just said some I just say something you have you ever met new people you're this way but you know people who you know what Imad noted mad but they haven't said nothing to anyone about the why Paul said that is not part of the new light. New life is you got manage your anger appropriately. So make sure if you needle moment, take a moment need to get away change scenery for bit change scenery for bit but don't go hour after hour after day after day in inappropriate anger. That's not being dealt with.

That's not proper management of your anger. Don't let it fester. The other thing you learn here in this passage we just read is don't let Satan influence your thoughts, words, or actions.

Don't let Satan influence your thoughts, words, or actions.

If you're going to manage her anger appropriately. You gotta make sure that you don't let it fester.

You're going to speak up when the time is right. When you're in control of your faculties and then you gotta make sure when you speak up or when you don't let Satan get involved in your thoughts, words, or actions. This is good on the need. This CD myself. All right, everybody needs to understand the way to properly manage your anger is don't let it go on and on and on and on and on and you have an address didn't. Secondly, make sure Satan has not to do with it. The fact that I'm angry doesn't mean I should give Satan a pass into my affairs with people not know we keep him out of our business as people of God all the time. That's what Paul says keep him out of your business all the time just because I'm angry that meeting.

If the writing on it. He's going try to love the sit right on your shoulder is a yeah and you know what when you start talking what you need to say is and you know how that happens and some is you all want to do and say inappropriate things. You know how to hurt them real good. All you gotta do with fill-in the blank and Satan is the one given you those suggested not Satan himself limited dual theology we say Satan we talking about the forces of Satan you have never personally dealt with the single entity Satan but what you have dealt with are demons that are under his rule. That's what you have. We wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against watch this principalities plural and powers pull rulers of darkness plural spiritual wickedness in high places. Plural you never run into Satan himself, but you run into his amps. His demons all the time.

Some of them are assigned to you at a walk around.

They hang around which you looking for openings looking for opportunities.

You shall believe in all that. What the devil loves it when you don't believe in him and his forces.

That means they can recall, have it your blaming somebody else. This is good alright so what you need to do is make sure doesn't vestibular manager anger properly. Make sure doesn't fester and when you're angry. Don't let Satan get involved: dim bulb.

Your thoughts and your words and your actions to sit until you say this you know that'll cut them real deep and you hear yourself saying something totally inappropriate just to hurt somebody and you as a child of God have gotta know that part of the new life is we don't do business that way in the kingdom will be right back with more of today's destined for victory message from Pastor Paul Sheppard who is senior pastor destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont, California.

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First let's rejoin him for the second half of today's destined for victory message developing an honorable lifestyle. Now how do you deal with anger properly then you said don't let it fester. Make sure to double dosing and get involved. What else Pastor, can you tell me about how to deal with it appropriately hears one of the things I want to say when you have been offended by someone or some entity whatever it is when you have been offended conflict for the person or people involved personally what you mean by that I mean Matthew 815 Jesus said, moreover, if your brother sins against you call and tell him his fault between you and him alone. Did you see that you and him alone if he hears you. You've gained your brother. But what you do.

He's sinned against you somebody this brother or sister. This is a gender of brother sister man or woman has offended you have sinned against you.

What is Jesus say to do goal and tell them his fault between you and him alone.

If you're going to live the new life embrace. Notice just because somebody hurt you.

Somebody offended you.

Somebody said something wrong or disrespectful or whatever the case might be, you might feel some kind away. But Jesus said, you don't deal with it by talking about that offense to other people.

Just because it hurts to you get to run to be and tell be. What a D what you have to learn to do is to do it.

Jesus way goal to a capital development or for you to do it face-to-face, call them on the phone if you could call them on the phone set up a time for them to talk whatever it is, but make sure it is between the two of you listen when you did such and such a thing. When you said such and such a vague.

I was really offended by that goal and show them alone, not other people going show them alone. Here's how you offended me hears that you disrespected me here is how you use sinned against me is the language here, and so look at how you deal with appropriately. You confront in a very personal way.

That's what Jesus also said in Luke 17, 317, three Jesus said, take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, what is he say we built him and if he repents forgiven.

I like that.

Jesus said, you have the right to review people.

That is sort of shaking your thing in the face and say I don't appreciate what you did or said I don't like it at all. You can so you will be an apology or I need you to whatever it is you get to rebuke them. That's a strong word. You get to do that life because your game is, I want us to be in peace. I want us to be unified.

But first I gotta tell you what you did or said that I don't appreciate a little bit and we have to learn.

Sometimes we refuse to be confrontational and we call it.

I don't really want to disrupt things well. The offense already disrupted things so how are you going to handle the offense and Jesus says if you gotta rebuke him, rebuke him going show and if in going and showing you have to shake your finger. Jesus said that's appropriate because the endgame there is I want to game I want to win unity back with this person and so that is the way we do this work of unifying ourselves remaining unified as the family of God in our relationships saves. Aren't you tired of this functional relationship.

Some of us need to be sick of it brought up in a home where dysfunction was the norm. When we say dysfunction that some people down the were difficult for me. That's because it is normal to you.

It is this functional but for you is none, but the family get together and you'll been that way all your life. I've seen some families may not have barely renewed until 911 is called know something just that that's the way they do life. I wonder who going to jail this year when they do they fight, they are due.

Listen somebody all are used in this function, you gotta realize God has a better higher plan for your relationship. You got more time to the Lord, come get you. You got more time on this articles being dysfunctional in your relationships tell people what they need to know from you directly there are ways that we can walk in unity. Sometimes you have to agree to disagree but that's all right it's okay to agree to disagree. As long as you want to be agreeable as you move forward in families. Sometimes you'll never see that issue alike.

So quit trying to get everybody on the same page about everything sometimes and while I'm sorry I just I don't see that the way you do now what we do well what you have to do is say okay let's agree to disagree and let's find a point where we can remain functional, where we can remain polite where we can get along, and we don't have to always agree there are some things once you know somebody position on it and you know you disagree with it will stop bringing it up with them because I know it we bring this up whenever don't get on the same page. So tell you what this is something that that we can talk about and so we just figure out how to function.

Remember what happened in acts 15 when Paul and Barnabas will get Ray to go on the second missionary journey. Barnabas okay let me go get John Mark and I'll be right back. We just got Paul's nominal he's not going without easily maybe not going. He's a cozy left was the first I do remember Barnabas you know that boy did that boy let the got a little hot out there on the road.

He went back home to his mama and soul supposedly not going to make a Barnabas who is the son of encouragement for several housing on learn if we don't get the second opportunity because although I globally want to go would be, and the two of them had to agree to disagree about discipling John Mark Barnabas said well I feel strongly.

He needs to get out there again and so he took John Mark and they did their own version of the second missionary journey, Paul found a new companion, a man named Silas and they did their version of the second missionary journey just what even though it wasn't exactly Kumbaya because the Bible says the contention between Paul and Barnabas was was awarded you sharp C sloppy agape isn't necessarily the right way to go. Sometimes it gets heated among Spirit filled believers. Y'all stop believing that be a spirit filled me to speak in tongues all the time and you green all the time. Neither is the case sometimes you talk in plain English and sometimes your frown and not grinning you keep the spirit of unity say I disagree with him but to the spirit of unity. How I know they maintain the spirit of unity because by John Mark being discipled more through Barnabas's love and encouragement.

He later was able to engage Paul in such a way that when Paul was about to die. He's in prison soon to be beheaded in second Timothy chapter 4 Paul says these words to his spiritual son Timothy, when you come to visit me in prison bring John Mark with you why because he's been helpful to me in the ministry, you see that Paul couldn't train them and in acts 15. He was too upset about the fact that he did better than before but this time, years have gone by. John Mark has grown up and matured through the patience of Barnabas. He's been reintroduced in the Paul's life. He serves him well. Paul says bring them with you.

He's been a great help to me in ministry. Find a way to deal appropriately with your people issues God expects for us to deal appropriately with anger with disagreements would not see at night I would people. Some of us have gotta stop throwing folks away. Every time we have a disagreement. Some of you all have the gift of tossing people out of your life that is not God's will. Yes, there are some individuals who have to go because they are toxic they mean you no good. Paul talked about people like that.

He told Timothy watch out for Alexander the coppersmith he has done me much.

He knows your my spiritual son for you and the church even after I'm gone cold. Louis was about to leave going to be martyred. He said watch out people you have to watch out. Thanks so much for being here for today's destined for victory message developing an honorable lifestyle look for any of Pastor Paul's recent messages online on demand@pastorpaul.net again that's Pastor Paul.net investor Paul Sheppard jointly now from a studio in California what today's message is part of a series. Pastor entitled embracing newness to talk about this newness and what that's all about. For a moment. Yeah, I was studying the book of Ephesians, like I've done over the years for a new approach to some of the concepts that Paul shares and I locked in on a few verses there in Ephesians chapter 4 and it dawned on me that spiritual growth and development will always have this threefold approach and what I mean by that is, Paul says there are some things you have to put off and then you have to renew your mind.

And then there are some things God wants you to add to your life and as I was studying that this time I thought well that'll preach in a way I probably never focused on in past Ephesians series and so I decided to take those messages and talk about embracing newness because you've got to be willing to take off some things in preparation for what God wants to do in your life then you have to allow him to renew your mind, so that when you put on the newness it becomes part of who you really are and so our spiritual growth and development really will always have those three aspects and I hope this series is going to make that real clear you know me, I like to be practical so I talk about really practical things because Paul does there Ephesians 4 for instance, he says y'all gotta quit lion and tell the truth and so I have pretty practical yeah and I had never really thought about that. Like wow he's right believers, but he then assumed that there automatically going to tell the truth because they're saved so he gives us the instructions how to put off line how to renew our minds and how to add truth telling to our lives and I unpack that in many other concepts in this series I think it's going to be a real help and blessing to listeners.

I look forward to hearing from you as to how God uses this series in your life but a great series so far Pastor. We look forward to the next several days as we discover how to embrace the newness of our life in Christ. Well we have a great resource to share with you today yours by request for your generous donation to Destin for victory. It's a booklet from Pastor Paul titled you're in God's Army now.

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