Built to Last, Part 3

The problem with many of us as we don't graduate from the school of independence and a lot of us stay independent probably staunchly independent and I'm telling you this is not God's will for your life partnership is essential for doing the will of God on earth and always has been. Hello and welcome to Destin for victory with pastor Paul Sheppard thanks for stopping by.

Nope, technology has made it easy to isolate ourselves, we stream church from our living rooms substitute Facebook for face-to-face conversations but God has a better plan, one in which we walk in oneness and in person with the key group of people today will be encouraged to foster the kind of intimacy and interdependence that are critical in helping us accomplish God's will stay with us now or visit pastor Paul.net to listen on demand. That's pastor Paul.net you can also subscribe to the podcast as modify Apple podcast or wherever you get yours now here's Pastor Paul to base Destin for victory message built to last.

Now we talked about the stages of emotional growth as we wrap up that message.

We talked about the stages of growth. The first being dependent all about coming to the world dependent completely dependent when you're born into this world. If someone doesn't take up your best interest at their priority you will die usually cannot survive alone will start their and then if we are growing normally and properly move from dependence to independence and we talked about the fact that independent like second step as you progress emotionally when you come into a sense of self Independence Day. Someone else has to be responsible for you, your welfare, your sense of self. They have to tell you, you are in all of that. But when you moved to independence. The idea is for you to develop to the place where you see yourself quite independent from the world around you, and I began to take pride in who I am, I began to take pride in what God has made me to be right second step where I come into a proper sense of me who I am. But the problem with many of us as we don't graduate from the school of independence and a lot of us stay independent probably staunchly independent and I'm telling you that this is not God's will for your life. You cannot miss the will of God as an independent person I will know we sing songs and we take pride in our independence and no one can tell me what to do my own person and a lot of us try to move into the will of God and the kingdom of God with that priority and God says you gotta drop that all good.

I haven't called you to be independent called you to be in the first stage which is interdependent where I know I'm not a dependent person. I don't need you to define me. I have chosen to take my sense of and graduate to we learn that destroying relationships that would be good and godly and helpful because we are in the relationship as a staunchly independent person can be independent and fulfill the will of God. God calls for inter-dependent. So how do I get there before I move on to the second building block. How do I graduate from dependence and independence into interdependence.

What are the steps I need to take. Well first of all you need to make a commitment to the great commandment Jesus said in Matthew 22. Thou shalt love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, ground zero for person would be in the will of God is to decide that I am a lover of God.

Why is that important to fulfill my destiny.

My purpose because God is the one who said it all in motion in him. The Bible says we live and move and have our being. God is the one who ordained what your life is to be about likely games and that point Ground Zero is a loving God with all your heart, soul, mind and notice Jesus spoken as a commandment, he said, please ask them what is the greatest commandment. And Jesus responded, thou shalt love the Lord your God is a commandment, God say, let me if you feel like it. God says let me because I am. I because I am your creator.

I am your maker. I am the giver of every good and perfect gift comes into your life. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end without me there is nothing or no one so loved the Lord the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, not even rolling in the right direction in your life until you have understood that basic premise that there is a God and you are not him him and you are called to love him to give your life to him because he is the one who gave his son that you might have life everlasting and soul. You gotta begin by fulfilling the great commandment in Matthew 22 and 37. Secondly, you want to develop a biblically-based self image biblically-based self image. It is important if you're going to do the will of God that you have got to root your sense of self and the word of God not listen to what the Bible says in Romans chapter 12 beginning with verse one. Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God this is your spiritual act of worship. So I begin by presenting my body to God. That's the premise of loving God, I give my life myself over the God. Secondly, look at verse two do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is his good, pleasing and perfect will. Number two. Not only do I love God, but then I have got to understand that I am to reject the world's definitions of who I am and what I am to do. I must be intentional about rejecting the world. I can take my cues from the world. What is the Bible hear me when it talks about the world. It means that it operates outside of the will of God system. The carnal system the ungodly systems that are all around us, the people who could care less what God thinks or says in his word. They're going to do what they're going to do and that system is to be rejected. Paul said, do not conform to this world. Don't let the world squeeze you into its mold, though not the world they find you.

Don't let the will give you your values tell you what is right and wrong because they have rejected the only objective source of truth and tell me what's right and wrong and you rejected the one who finds right and wrong, and so I must reject the while it is deliberate on our part to say no. We do not take our cues from the world we don't build our philosophy based on what people think, but rather the Bible says be transformed by the renewing of your mind. That's the only way Paul says here that you can fulfill God's will, his good, pleasing and perfect will now look at verse three. Here's what I really want to get to by the grace given me I say to everyone of you do not think of yourself more highly then you are rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of how do I move into the state of being where God can really get his will done in my life as it relates to relationships. Well, he says here you gotta develop a biblically-based self image. How do I do that all he says don't think more highly of yourself and you ought in other words, get rid of any conceit get rid of any conceit. If you are conceited you have an exaggerated sense of your own importance. You have an exaggerated sense of your own giftedness and specialness like that think they're all that and a bag of chips went exaggerated sense of self and exaggerated sense of their own importance. They think they are better than they are. They think they are more special than they are. They think that they have strengths where they're not really that strong, conceited, just themselves and anybody wrapped up in him or herself as a small package and doesn't know the Bible says don't think more highly of yourself, then you will within the next phrase says but think, according to sober judgment on what is that imply that implies not only should I reject conceit to be in the will of God.

I have to also reject low self-esteem.

Why is that important because when I thinking soberly. I realize that God made me who I am. And God doesn't make junk God made me who I am, not me. According to his plan measure given me, that is, there are some things he has placed in me to work out. There was a way that he wants me to walk with him and he wants me to relate jobs in this world way that he wants me to serve the needs of others, and so all that is built into my divine design. God designed me according to his blueprint. He knows what he wants me to play so I must think with sober judgment and there is no place for low self-esteem in life of the child of God still had the second half of today's destined for Victor message with pastor Paul Sheppard, senior pastor, destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont California. We want to thank all of you who sustained destined for Victor with your prayers and financial support, gifts that help Esther Paul share the gospel with a growing audience destined for victory is a listener supported ministry and right now as we enter the busy summer months when donations to the ministry tend to decline. Your help is very much needed and appreciated. So as God leads. Please prayerfully consider making your most generous gift to destined for victory today with some special thank you gifts waiting just for you. The details are@ourwebsitepastorpaul.net that's pastor Paul.net, something too highly of themselves, others think to lowly of themselves, but God's plan lies somewhere in between. This pastor Paul with the rest of today's destined for Victor message built to last something you might not be aware of people with low self esteem and people who are conceited have the exact same problem may have the exact same problem.

Whether you're conceited or you have low self-esteem that the same problem. What is that one problem you are stuck on self problem is it's all about me when you're conceited.

Whether you suffer from low self-esteem. The problem is you have ingrown eyeballs. You see, you all the time everywhere you look. Every experience you have is about me is about me weather is about how wonderful I am or how pitiful I am about me and the Bible says the only remedy for that is you must be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so I have to get into this word so that I understand that this finds me somewhere helps me to understand God's plan and purpose for me. This allows me to say to myself I am God says I am I can do what God says I can do.

God is my creator God has something for me to give me the grace to work them out. So I ask you if you want to be in the will of God, you must reject, conceit, and you must also reject low self-esteem and instead get into this book until this book is in you and decide I am God says I am I can do what God says I can do and so I should take responsibility. Here's the next thing I must do with God can take personal responsibility for God's plan and purpose to be worked out in my life.

In other words, I will not claim other people. I will not blame my circumstances. I will not blame side of the tracks. I was born on. I will not blame the city. I will not blame my gender.

I will not blame my socioeconomic status. I will not say I can't do the will of God be called point to something outside of me. I will take responsibility to say where I am does not dictate where I'm going.

It doesn't matter what you when you know you are in the will of God matter who you are where you are. Joseph was in place there by his own brothers.

This function is nothing new, and enemies in your own household. Nothing new.

Having people who are plotting your destruction. Nothing new will sing that song been through that what you're going through is nothing new there is nothing new under the sun. Joseph by his own family, but the Lord was with him in the company to keep the Lord is with how to get to the palace walk with you.

You are into his plan and purpose for your life become more familiar with God and his plan for your life then your surroundings don't dictate your life will determine where you wind up God alone holds your destiny in his hands so you take personal responsibility. I like the way Paul put it in Galatians chapter 6, beginning with verse three. I love how the apostle Paul says this he says if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself talking to conceited for each one should test his own actions. Many can take pride in himself. Once the without comparing himself to everybody else for everyone. Each one should carry his own load, says get out of the business got stopped looking around comparing yourself to other people be better off if I had that money be better off if I had this be better off if I wasn't discolored. This gender be better off one morning this had a functional families that would dysfunctional be better off. Paul says palace in business and know that God is at work in you both pleasure and he knows exactly where you are in fact his plan is going to take into account where you are and God will use your tasks and targeting testimony usual mass and give you a message so that you can share with somebody else, no matter where you live.

God can see you through preaching better and you say in a man, and so we gotta make a commitment in our relationships that we will be an open Excel. That's the only person you should take into a relationship. Be true to who God has made you, you will be a liability in my life, not an asset. If you're not true to you. If you are not your authentic self. You cannot play the role God wants you to play in my life. You gotta be comfortable in your own skin. Gotta be okay to be you is gotta be all right with you and your mind is Colby and me and I will play the role a lot God wants me to play but don't get in the business of trying to change the image because that's not God's plan to make me like you does not God's plan to give me my life.

I try to give you their priorities for your life and your portfolio.

Now this is the way I want you to be no no you don't define me. I am my authentic self.

I answer to God. I have chosen to graduate from the school of independence and place myself in a position to enter into relationship with you but I can only do that while I am true to God has made me so one this one.

This is the first building block for godly relationship. Secondly, love get what is said here in verse 7 to 18 verse one. Not only does the talk about the fact that Jonathan David became one spirit with the second part of verse one says and Jonathan David as himself. Love David as himself. What is that mean that simply means that Jonathan made the quality decision that he would act in the best interest of David all the days of his life. This kind of love is not rooted in feeling. It is rooted in a resolve to honor God made you to be, and always act in your best interest. We gotta understand that in our society.

We are so preprogrammed were programmed by our surroundings to think of love in these rather superficial terms. We said. I looked across the room so him or her and instantly I was in love know you want your trip and that's what you were doing.

I love you. What's your name.

Love the feeling really nice infatuation.

That's something I may just find your liver server is not feeling like kind of stuff relationships within the house of your life romantic feelings of love can be a feature from the ground to build certain features into a romantic passion driven love to be a preacher but it cannot be the foundation that will stand the storm that I have a stronger foundation and feelings. I have spent many years in ministry see running in my office. We gotta get mad between them just want to get in there driven by passion, but building the right foundation foundation is this kind of love. The Bible says Jonathan David as himself always act in your best interest not based on how well you treat me is not based on how good you make me feel when we say we are in love with is the fact that this person makes me feel good about me self.

I love the way you make me feel massive fields outside that you got a preacher replacing a foundation like you feel about you go that when they make you feel lousy about you all for little bit based your love life should because passion by definition is passive in both directions, seeing the same people. Next time I see him in my office one just look at each other, but now is passion. I'm sick of foundation see good looking house can stay in the most, but only a house built on a solid foundation to stand in the if we've been wounded in the past we can be tempted to use that pained isolators. That's right where the enemy wants us but when we walk in oneness with other believers in Christ.

When we declare our interdependence instead of her independence. That's when the will of God can be accomplished in our lives and the lives of those around us.

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