Learning How to Forgive (cont'd)

Why do the people who I think will die before they ever say to me. I'm sorry. I release them in my heart with me. I don't express forgiveness to them because they haven't asked for, but to God.

I say Lord I want to send them to you so that I don't carry them around or their offense around it's too heavy a burden forgiveness. It's not a suggestion. It's a commandment: thanks for being here for today's destined for victory message with pastor Paul Shepherd, senior pastor of destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont, California. Jesus said that if we don't forgive others. God will forgive us today pastor Paul reminds us that those were just idle words. Christ model forgiveness for us many times most notably on the cross, father forgive them, he said, for they know not what they do. What today's message comes your way.

Next, so stay with us or stop by Pastor Paul.net to hear any recent destined for victory message on demand. That's Pastor Paul.net here is Pastor Paul. Would today's destined for victory message. Learning how to forgive some program denial you tell them how and when they offended you know what you're talking about said that the crazy making experience of telling somebody what they say and what they did look your rights, you happen that time of day it was about 917 in the morning because I met Miles at the stone scram resumes time a day you know what they had all and is I did you have this mixed up I never said I never did denial, defiant denial, and you have people who know exactly what they did exactly what they said they are the blatant disregard that blatant disregard for your feelings. They could care less. They know exactly what they did, they glad it happened. They wish they had hurt you worse keep backing up offer you when you tell them you do someday when deflecting or denying most the deal with that category you that I'm not supposed to do here is the answer.

You release them in your heart you release them in your heart.

So what's the difference. The difference is I don't express or extend forgiveness to them because they have acknowledged wrongdoing.

I can't release you because God has a release to only what you get released as you acknowledge your been wrong. Then God and I can release you until you acknowledge that you are going to judgment with your sin against me counted against you, so you gotta ignore the devil when he tells you been not forgetting nothing. Release me your custody and that they will have gotten away with them away with anything, child of God, that he said if you want to make him have to worry about holding them that hold them because they'll think they got away with it. Who cares what they think they are marching toward a judgment that they better repent and get prepared for. Because believe me there sin against you is going to catch up with them in judgment. Nobody gets away. We look at our justice system. He got off he did not get off. He might've gotten acquainted when he was really guilty but he didn't get off it just means he got off with our injustice system. That's what it is the injustice system folk who are guilty get off sometimes folk who are innocent are sitting up in jail right now. Didn't do a thing but the system said that guilty. I don't call it the justice system. If it gets it wrong, that much sleep when I thought about the rare exception, every body know somebody was innocent, who's in jail thereby know somebody who guilty who walking around but don't think because the system missed it. That God missed so what I do with the people who are defiant in denial have blatant disregard for me. Why do the people who I think will die before they ever say to me. I'm sorry.

I release them in my heart within me.

I don't express forgiveness to them because they haven't asked for, but to God. I say Lord I want to send them to you so that I don't carry them around or their offense around it's too heavy a burden you understand when you hold people. That's a great big job.

It taxes you emotionally.

It taxes you physically will mess up your life it will wreck your health. It'll mess up your family, your marriage, it will mess with your head will keep you from working the way you want to work on your job when you go out, it is destructive when you construct a prison in your heart, you become the judge the jury. The prosecuting attorney to go find him guilty on all counts. And when you find him guilty on all counts. Then you send them to jail. Guess where the jail is when you practice on forgiveness is in your heart you have to build in jail and so we all know you don't have a single jail cell. So we all know you have a blown prison with a bunch of phone up in your heart you can around all you know is the truth so we all got you got a cellblocks full of people you see he's open cellblocks. See cellblocks this when I got in solitary confinement. I only let them out to see the light of day you got folk in solitary confinement. You got a mold locked up in your heart all messed up in your heart and you have to be toward. Guess what that means you have to be in jail. Your self in jail.

The reason why unforgiveness makes no sense is because it messes up your life and the real sad thing is some hope holding people in unforgiveness thinking they're doing something, you are bound because you have to construct this prison and keep them fed and always in your mind last thing you think of when you go to bed first thing you think of when you wake up you always focused on what they did what they say. It is always impacting you.

Meanwhile, in the case of some of the focus must be the one who blatant disregard they have never lost a moments sleep thing about you and you waken about the 2 1/2 hours traumatized over them and they snore. You're killing yourself. I said it before but it bears repeating unforgiveness is like drinking poison and waiting for them to die. So what is Jesus say release him in your heart really is give to me now as their needs so you can extended to them, but transfer them to my jail because God says ranges of mine, I will repay, transformed my jail today.

God calls for you to load up everybody in your prison. Just bring the buses lined the buses up you 30 UN bus a y'all bus be load them all up to the jail was empty. Send them all to the Lord's jail shut shores down. Make yours, like Alcatraz shut it down and this is so important because forgiveness releasing them to God freeze you again.

Now I can go over my life, people unforgiveness so I got up I don't I don't forget because they ruin 15 years of my life you realize as long as you hold in unforgiveness to about the room. In the next 50 but if you load them up, put them on the bus send them the God's jail you now have the chance to experience what Jesus said he came to give us freedom from captivity. I'm not holding people anymore.

They did me wrong but they got to deal with my daddy I'm going on with my life now you some of you say, but I feel like I'm too hurt to angry to bitter to forgive them. Here's a word for you. You are not too hurt to angry to bitter to forgive. Why because forgiveness is an act of obedience to God. Forgiveness is not a function of my emotions. I don't forgive my offenders because I feel like forgiving them.

I forgive them because my heavenly father said send them to me and that's what I'm doing. I take them and I send them away. Now, I'm still hurt. I'm still angry I'm still better just because you say doesn't mean you don't have those emotions.

Please understand real presented by Christian love, pretend like suing the moment I got saved.

I looked at my hands and I have looked new after looked at my feet and they did to come testimony. Thank God. If you have such a startling wonderful transformational experience of coming to Christ that is great.

I promise you will sooner or later your hands are going look new, sooner or later you will come back down off of that high and you'll find yourself wrestling with hatred and bitterness with anger with the temptation to hold them in unforgiveness to wrestle with that as a believer. The only time you can wrestle with it is as a believer wrestling with that you hate him, bam, is over. I hate you. I plan always hate you if I can hate you for my grave. I would hate you, the believer though is called to a higher level of living we do have to wrestle with God you want this for me so I need your the only time you get the healing to help you meet is after you load those buses up and send those jokers on you'll never get healed. As long as you hold them you'll never get better, as long as you're holding your never get over as long as you're holding your never experienced soul healing will be right back with more of today's destined for victory message from Pastor Paul Sheppard, senior pastor at destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont, California to listen to any of Pastor Paul's recent broadcast visit. Pastor Paul.net that's Pastor Paul.net you can also contact us for prayer or make a safe and secure donation to the ministry online. Pastor Paul joins me in the studio after today's message but first let's join him for the rest of the message. Learning how to forgive when Jacob do back in the Old Testament Jacob said, Lord, I am sick of being tricky.

I'm sick of being a deceiver and get mobile people.

I got over all my twin brother have jacked up all my uncle because he got all call me going. When done, uncle Laban's house so Rachel one to marry her work. Seven years, thinking he working for Rachel's uncle gives Himalaya. One layer, but it worked the same year went about that when I was introduced into the wedding chamber last night and darkness and labored this woman all night. You know, I thought that was Rachel and I wake up in the morning and all you mean I tell you tricky folk. Now you can have her without having to hold this first signal seven years. You are down for Leah.

Now you want Rachel seven years old and the family and Jacob got sick of being tricky and being tricky family anyway. But God said, Lord, I need you to change me and post the best thing that can happen to us is when we bring our bitterness and hatred, and God dysfunction.

What I said to me you're used to getting sick all the way. Would you guess I could do the best help you can get is when you get sick of you for that point God could change you. Jacob wrestled until God sees his very name is that you're no longer Jacob. Now you're Israel.

Jacob means trickster supplanted deceiver Israel means Prince with God.

You can get before God with your anger, your bitterness, your resentment so that God will change it, replace it with love and peace will start sleeping better, you'll start the memories God will heal over time will heal so that the memory doesn't have the heart attached to it, you can remember wrong and never like it, but God can get you over the paying the debilitating pain of so that it doesn't hurt like it used now. Let's be real practical do I have to trust people who have wronged me know. I don't in fact, until they have a true time of getting sick of themselves.

True repentance and true transformation with God.

You better not trust him see a lot of Christians think well if I forgive you that mean if if you stole stuff from me because it used to have the key to my house that I trusted you and I thought you were stealing from me and so I confronted you and you admitted it and said you were sorry and so to forgive you. Give them back a key no. I can forgive you and lock you out. Here's why. Because if there's been no change, why what I give trust to someone who has a proven record of not being able have to wait and see if there's change going see if you go before God and get your stuff straight.

That's when I can trust you again when I see that God is been at work. Let me give you a biblical example. Remember Peter. Peter told Jesus the night that he was betrayed he told Jesus minutes before the betrayal you know, it looks like things are not shaping up to be too good tonight and I just will let you know. Jesus, that when all the rest of these jokers for sake you I'm with you I'm your boy Jesus is Simon. Simon, Satan's desire to shake up your life to sift you as we said, but I prayed for you. I pray and I didn't pray that you would get shaken up. In fact, is going to happen before tomorrow morning you will have denied even knowing me three times. He said, but when you are converted, strengthen your brothers. He said I'm going to use your failure to make you sick enough of yourself where you surrender to me in a way that I can change your life. He said, and when you're converted I'm going to use it as a ministry platform. Guess who preached six weeks after telling people publicly, I don't know who Jesus is talk about our failure but wants to know you can have is to didn't die the only one who can save you and Peter didn't three times. It's on the public record for the rest of history. Six weeks later he's preaching the signature message on the birthday of the church the day of Pentecost.

You said you get to do that they should never preach again denying Jesus how you guess to do it because the Lord used it as an altar call.

The Lord uses your failures in ways people don't know anything about people think your failures define you. God says I'll use your failure to start a brand-new chapter in your life. I will take you at your worse when you are converted when you will repent.

I will be in hills that as a platform to spring you into a new anointing, but the difference is, Peter wept bitterly after he failed see God looks for broken and contrite heart when David failed miserably and Nathan came to him with a prophetic word of judgment and admonition. He went down before God was broken and repent said I have sin.

God looks at your response to failure.

People look at your failure God, look at what you do after you fail what you will look for his forgiveness don't trust somebody who hasn't shown a break and I'm admitting I'm wrong. I'm sorry I blew it so soft you look for brokenness and sometimes when you see for when it truly broken.

They can hardly get their head up. I mean broken tears running from the mold running pitiful ugly but God loves it because he can change a person like that. You see these folk stiff back so sure themselves. Only you will see any sign of sorrow except the sorrow that they got caught some folk only started, they got caught don't trust him. That's no proof you forgave them that you gave him another key see. They took a few things out your living room. The last time you give him another key and they haven't truly repented and been broken before God and truly showing signs and evidence. John the Baptist called a fruit of repentance when they came out to dance that we will be back on these bring me fruit of repentance, show me that you repented. Show me that you have gone through some process where you have acknowledged her well and you are determined to let God have his way. That's what God looking for and when you see people and you gave another key and they have. They took a few things.

The last time this time they go back the truck up they call back truck up you'll be at work, you will know if you ever day wait to you at work. Neighbors will here be the you come home cleaned you going to have so don't trust him until he proven they broken broken before God willing to do whatever. Thanks so much for being here for today suggestion for victory message. Learning how to forgive before we leave you today. Pastor Paul joins me to talk about a special gift.

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