So You Want to Get Married, Part 3

Recognize the signs that it's time to find your wife. I want to say to you single brothersthing your single guy recognize the signs you have grace for every season. God ordains for your life but you gotta recognize when seasons may when US God for a sign sometimes to give you more than one question is how can you recognize them hello and welcome to Destin for victory with pastor Paul Shepherd, senior pastor, destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont, California. 12 the past two weeks. Pastor Paul's meticulous to the book of Ruth, a Moabite woman who had lost her husband. Ruth followed her mother-in-law, Naomi, to Bethlehem, where she met a man named Boaz. That's where we pick up the story today is Pastor Paul share some of the lessons for the life of Ruth and Boaz, including the signs until single men. It is time to find a wife, stay right here or visit Pastor Paul.net to listen on demand. That's Pastor Paul.net now here is Pastor Paul. Today's Destin for victory message so you want to get married women who look in your Bible and we are currently in a section of this study that I've entitled, so you want to get married. This is the section chapter 3 of Ruth where Naomi and her mother-in-law says to her it's about time I find a husband for you because you have been so faithful to me and she gives him instructions with regard to requesting that they would find a kinsman redeemer in Boaz. They needed a kinsman redeemer and so they only gave her instructions and I am using this period of our study to pause and speak to singles unmasking mad people to stay tuned in, because all of have singles that were either raising or singles in our sphere of influence, and you need to help instruct them in the truth of God's word so both singles and married. I hope you're well engaged in this section of our study we spent the last couple of messages speaking to women.

Lessons that you can learn from single women. We looked at goals and in the last message I left off making the last point to single women, which is also the first point to single men from the life of Boaz and that is to maintain sexual purity at all costs.

Maintain sexual purity at all costs. I got an email this week say some folk walked out on this point. I said well God bless them as they go. If you don't like being in a church where you go to be told that God has a standard of living for you there anyway you won't be told that.

But I'm here to declare to you the word of God won't back down for anybody word of God is true even if it makes a liar out of everybody and if we get uncomfortable because you will bless NSE that you do and people. When I pointed out the book. I'm not judging anybody on the plan what the Lord who is the judge of all the so I got no apologies. And when they come back if they come back to me preaching the same old gospel maintain sexual purity at all because I want to pick it up from here and get the next point to single men who can learn some lessons from the example of Boaz. Here is point number 24 single men recognize the signs that it's time to find your life.

I want to say to you single brotherssingle past your single time recognize the signs you have grace for every season. God ordains for your life but you gotta recognize when seasons change, seasons change in the movements of God in your life.

Look at that pattern throughout the Bible you remember when Elijah was sitting by the chair because he had pronounced the famine. As a result of God's people being in idolatry. God said I'm going to put you through this famine and show you that I am the Lord, and so they went through a period of time, spoken by the mouth of the prophet Elijah.

For years they would be no way, nor do I Jim himself had to live through that. And so God sent them by and told him to drink from.

And God commanded the ravens the fly in and feed him and he was sitting pretty for a while. The next season he would just drink from the brink and then the ravens would fly and got them so they could meet the prophet's autoreverse line and then look in that manner so they can go on any and that was a whole season, but the Bible goes on to say in first Kings one day dried up, and when God gave a new command said, I'm not afraid to hear of your city. The I'm now sending you that feed you go there because I want to not only bless you, but I want to bless her by testing her faith and obedience that he had to get up from the book from his comfort zone and move on into the next season of his life and that's what you have to do.

God bless you and your season but he will bless your pastor season and so brothers I will ask you to recognize the signs at this time to find your life. There are various signs. First of all the physical sign one of the signs in your life could be physical, what you mean by that I mean the apostle Paul in first Corinthians chapter 7 was very very plain that while he enjoyed singleness and recommended it for everyone who could handle it say that it's not for every body and he was very specific about this business immorality. He said something can handle it because they want to be sexually given. The only way to be sexually active.

God is to be married. You heard about that in the last message. So Paul says in verse 72.

Since there was so much immorality, each man should have his own life, and each woman her own husband. In verse nine he says they cannot contain three notice what he said you can't contain pray and fast.

If you can't contain what's wrong which is the Holy Ghost.

Any quick fix.

The apostle Paul said, you can simply means that you need brother on and find your wife and get ready because in mallards. As I said in the last message sets is one of the job, marriage marriage in the job and benefits package that includes tax, no job, no, but I want to buy what department do you work and will check it out with working. I just want the benefits back. Call security and get you out of there. You can get a benefits back and don't have a job. Sensitive part of the package of the job of mallards, and so Paul said you cannot contain then long-term solution. According to the will of God is to get married so that the physical sign. Secondly, there was some emotional sign you're finding it more difficult to handle the demands of your life without a life under that's the case man that simply means that you need to understand this is your season to find your life you will get up under the emotional load and share it with you and help you and strengthen you and encourage you inside the Bible is very clear by God's design that when Adam had job responsibility. He was naming the animals. He was having dominion anybody had a companion except him and the Lord himself said you know what is not good for man to be alone. Not good for man to be alone, he said, so I will create a helper suitable for him to. The Bible says if you read King James it says help meet a lot of people today have taken that inflated helpmate. That's not what it means. Help me meet as a keyword, it means suitable. God said, I will create a help appropriate.

The monkeys had their companions in the male and female, and on Monday couldn't help Adam this companion but couldn't help him create a helpless bowl and so the Lord put him to sleep body and created everything he would need to complement and to encourage and strengthen and support him. The reason why men often wonder why their wives are ahead of them in their thinking started back in Genesis because he was asleep he was on the dysplasia.

God created the city will no city was already thinking that he's okay but at least you don't always let them know Megan is in making the second half of pastor Paul Shepard's message is coming right up. But first we want to thank all of you who support destined for victory with your prayers and financial support, gifts that help pastor Paul share the good news of salvation in Christ with a growing audience destined for victory is a listener supported ministry right now with uncertainty still lingering all around us, your help was needed now more than ever because people are looking for a reason to have hope and pastor Paul is committed to sharing the hope of the gospel all over the world. So please prayerfully consider making a gift to destined for victory today and when you give the gift of her own to share with you. I'll tell you all about it. After today's message. What are some things you don't know and there are some things you don't know you don't know that's were following the Holy Spirit's leading can really help pastor Paul with the rest of today's destined for victory message so you want to get married extension on the house when he came she knew she had no money but she knew her marriage but she would live. When you read that scripture it says she went to the problem is they came on and because she wanted to make sure the because she wanted him to have access to the house and then she said to him, something about building an extension on the house and as I come through town somewhere to stay.

What you think about God and so all is extension would be more so to speak, and so she took him up on the shore and everything but you think we should put this out the window here. The sun comes in one or two we'd all be on all the imagine him sitting down and bragging that he built an extension on the house and let them know it all the time. It was late helper suitable for him, is everything and he wakes up and see partners also no indication in your life right now that you have a keen sense of lacking that life partnership. Another side of the leader himself who knows about you, what you don't know what season you're moving into sometimes leaves you and whatever the spirit leaves you got understand that your job is not to try to figure out what he's doing but you just gotta know once you know that is the Holy Spirit. Don't be misled but once you know what the Holy Spirit then you follow him to lead you in this area. It's time for you to shift seasons and to find your life that happened to a friend of mine in Boston. He was he was so engaged in his ministry the Lord to give them a ministry about halfway house. He bought a house as a single man and dedicated to the Lord and he would do jail ministry, but it was finding that as men would come out they had nowhere to get adjusted and get prepared for life outside and so he is out to the Lord started bringing these guys and was ministering to and he would help them with vocational training and help them with applications and resumes and all that but most importantly he kept discipling them and put the word of God in them so that they would not become repeat offenders and he was so active in this ministry as a single man that he really hadn't paid attention to the other signs in his life and he said one night sleep and woke me up out of a dead week and told me to start praying about your wife and he said I rolled out of bed, got on my knees and and said, Lord, if you know it's time for me to get married in. I just want to put this in your hands and I'll just trust you for this you lead me, and I'll follow and then that's season somewhere in the season where God had him playing about getting married. He went to a service. A friend of mine was one of the revival at his church and he went to a service and so the Lord this woman to come up to him and say to him in the midst of this service.

The Lord told me to tell you that the wife you've been praying about is here tonight and they had not talked of course, but this was the Holy Spirit's doing, and he sounded okay go and he said as he looked over at a woman that he had known for years that relationship he had never dated are never really thought about dating her and the Lord said to him that your wife and he did something that I'm not sure with the wisest thing after service he went up there is a guess what the Lord will give merit.

She said well you have not spoken to me and one man got away. Don't be a man. Don't take somebody else's word for what is your life at stake here and so she waited on the Lord for herself. The Lord eventually confirmed her, they are married to this day.

Sometimes the leading of the Holy Spirit helps you to discern that it's your time and sometimes you have an obvious destiny connection that's what happened with Boaz and Ruth Whitley comes back with her mother-in-law, Naomi with a show that she was to be with Naomi because her destiny was connected to this woman see the place. She's never been to know their culture, seasons, learning to their God is what she knows her destiny is tied to Naomi and so she follows Naomi's instruction in gold into the field. The Bible says that it turned out she ended up in the way and God and Boaz together in a wonderfully supernatural way and sometimes will just see those destiny connection whenever you walk with God will give you those divine appointment place at a certain time to meet certain people who are part of your destiny and so you gotta learn that there are no accidents in the framework of God's moves in your life, but he is strategically positioning you, so it's time to find know why you're saying one of the signs manifested in your life brother.

Don't try to outlast your single-season it will work every day, every season, and when your great start running your next season. Not a single man trying to hang out too long and singleness, and the result is we have too much sexual morality even in the church say amen. Whatever you can and the word of God is clear, don't you think I'm field line things up you get married and let God help you get it lined up but when it's clear that you are running out of your graceful singleness. I want you to know that the word of God. It is time for you to begin the process of finding your wife now with regard to finding your life that takes me to my next point for single men because the Bible says in Proverbs 1822 he finds out why finds a good thing and obtains from the Lord. He finds a wife. This leads me to the next point know a good thing when you see one know a when you see one. Now let's dissect the passage he finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtained from the Lord. Now if you want to exegete Scripture you got a look at every phrase and understand what God saying to you finds a wife pause right there not even find a woman who the woman finds a good thing.

What single man is like chasing women and not looking for wife, you will find all your life you will be a Mac Junior and all you have girls and later all women but you didn't understand when you came into the kingdom of God in the kingdom with a woman not wants to be a life not every woman to be equipped to be anxious to me why because the life according to God's design and help suitable someone who is going to be seen in you when the same way that Naomi actually someone who understands that to fulfill God's purpose in her and so he finds a wife, not every woman that is a why not brother some of you are good at finding women because you are looking for the wrong things. Looking for a woman who could be looking merely for the superficial pleasure of meeting with a woman who is looking for why you not only consider the way she looks, but you make sure that is not even the primary thing Boaz wasn't looking for a woman he was looking for a wife and because he was going about it God's way. He found the answers to his prayers and Ruth.

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