So You Want to Get Married Part 2

Law to make sure you pay attention to this because men respond to and appreciate physical attractiveness memo so that we are all things wrong. The seven things initially because of their sin certainly appealed to us. Men may be from Mars and women may be from Venus but they meet and marry on earth and hello. Welcome to Destin for victory with pastor Paul Shepherd, senior pastor at destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont, California. Thanks for spending part of your busy Friday with us. Well, it's true, ladies. Men are visual creatures who are initially attracted to a woman's appearance, but that does not necessarily make them superficial. Today's message is geared for women, but men I encourage you to stick around to enjoy the way Pastor Paul describes the differences between the two sexes and also see the way a godly man named Boaz handled his attraction to Ruth while still treating her with honor and respect. Stay with us here or visit Pastor Paul.net to listen on demand anytime that's Pastor Paul.net Alice join Pastor Paul for today's message so you want to get married. Maximizing me what you return you long to make sure you this because men respond to and appreciate physical attractiveness memo so that we are all drawn to certain things initially because of their sin certainly appealed to us. The initial drawing point for a lot of men is a sensory appeal that something has no that he will look for substance and he will look for some other things but he is drawn initially because of a sensory kind of appeal is the way metal wire and women you know that on some level he will sleep sometime and talk like I'm doing now you know the reason I know you know and on some level because most of you when you go on dates you have taken some time and paying attention to the way you look and nobody had the preacher was sermon you have not all of you when you know you were going on a date. You took some time to think about what will I wear what compliments me. What makes me look good.

You put on your colognes or whatever it is and you did your head you made sure that you presented your self in a certain way appealed to me doing because you know some level that man respond to sensory appeal, especially their eyes and ears.

That is the way men are wired and you know it.

On some level just now broadening your understanding of true unmarried women with you especially when they're going through seasons where money is tied down women will tell you I can't even send them to Best Buy hello some electronics store. I can let him go by himself because sensory appeal mechanism you he will go into some electronics play remote and see when they were young as she thought, okay going to get married to be right back sees what she was going to run down the Best Buy batteries and see being married to this man to do that once the budget because they know that's knowing that man can handle sensory overload, so he will see big screen TV all over the place.

So please call him come over to this section will I buy already see that all men may know how we were in so they build outs in their picture. He has ever seen in his definition and all that you can take out you can see them be on the people all looking at it does all of these wonderful control right from the comfort of this house sitting there and the surround sound speakers and they put on a movie with beautiful sounds and watching Simpson we all know and went to this batteries is talking to a salesperson about this package. When you get back to me at all the speakers and miss receiver we made it so that it will fit into anybody and he went home to get batteries in his life in America with Jordan.

Sensory appeal is missing you why you got the company him to the store which what she's doing to protect protect sensory sensory appeal but you got to understand, understand it, man. When the kind of car he likes with the sports car sedan SUV. Whatever he's into. Watch him when a brand-new sparkling clean car that he admires goes down the street. You can be having a conversation.

In the middle of wool sensory appeal and what you that make them see a TV or hear surround sound the same. Hello, are all old women role that is not all it's wrong when he takes it to a place. It should be. The Bible calls us to places you know me desire to fall.

Once you understand this so ministries charges at a discipling man to teach them how to be a man after God's own heart. This is why her way to do it when you discipling man if you plan to talk about women not to teach them how to handle it would teach them to agree when he sees a will agree with that, she finds yes is not yes godliness will please you continue to look at her when her because she's not mine is no need of me filling my mind with because she is not then there was no point in me driving down the street about what God does not have for me in the proper boundary because love is gone to watching the woman until she is all stay with us were only about halfway through today's Destin for beeper message with pastor Paul Shepherd. We want to thank all of you whose prayers and financial support help Pastor Paul share the gospel over the world as we find ourselves living in a period of uncertainty. Your support is even more critical today because in times of crisis, people are looking for a reason to have hope for Jesus is that hope so please prayerfully consider making a gift to Destin for victory today.

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I'll tell you all about it after today's message. Ladies, do you want to honor your future husband live honorably before you even meet him.

Pastor Paul with the rest of today's message so you want to get married husband. No women are pretty situation. Case got on a vacation resort.

Some women with all see you coming down the street like some women know no woman you know you the woman you know you don't think she no proposition.

Yes I know pretty soon when you see that woman coming down the street in the name of Jesus. All I know my husband will be a man after God's own heart, Lord, relating three. Help them to be a man of God know you know she bought some of you know all you want to help them encourage them and pay appropriate attention to appearance, single women don't resent it. Don't resist it, just understand that in its context. It is a good thing you should preoccupy yourself, spending hours every day in the mirror on the wall, ridiculous changes, trying to do something that's not what Naomi was same for Ruth.

She simply say you want to respect the fact that since sensory appeal is an issue from and how there are some exceptions. Not every man on the planet considers attractiveness of very high thing on his list of priorities as he is seeking his route. Not every man that way.

There are some men who really don't care one way or the other. There only about the character and all that the substance of who you are and they could care less what you look like, but the three of them are the exception to believe God wanted all three like that and accordingly okay.

God bless. But I'm telling you most, you will find errors that you don't consider it too demeaning or too inconvenient to take some time and appropriately consider your personal appearance. In fact, it will send assigned to a man when a woman takes pride in give thought to the way she will appear to spend time together. It is assigned to him that this will in all likelihood not be a point of struggle because a man does not want to commit his life to someone who he feels like he is going to have to be in a tug-of-war to convince her that he appreciates her thoughtfulness in the matter of her appearance.

And so it will be assigned to him. Now the reality is you have to learn that you can do that, you'll get married and what have you go through in real life you have busy schedules and children and all kinds of things and he cannot expect a beauty queen every single day of his life and he will have to learn that you need to also meet him at a point of reasonable understanding to say listen, I am going to make sure that every season in our lives.

There are times when you can feel good about being out I want that same smile. I used to see on your face I want to do what I can to make sure it doesn't go away forever is reasonable. When I thought about being inappropriately fully preoccupied with something but take some time and pay attention before going to my next point. If you don't intend to do that now this is your call to make. I'm sorry it's never been a big deal to me and I'm frankly, I resent the fact that men are so sensory they just need to grow up that they probably just need to talk like that so it's a matter of immaturity that once he becomes mature he won't care that you look like, just as I am, without one plea if you want to be an icon of the now you go right ahead because I'm telling you that season is not coming in his life, unless you put it all away.

Okay eight years old, he will still know what he'd like to see versus what he just see so it's not a matter of maturity, but for those of you want to insist he does need to grow up in all that you don't plan to do anything if that's what you are going to be married and be that way. Single do not bait and switch. Don't bait and switch.

Don't fix all and in the last time he see you like that is on the wedding day, and from then on his like what in the world did I get myself into. Who is this what was I thinking it will grab his board when the matter.

Lesson number four lesson number 44 single women is also lesson number one for single men. This next lesson applies to both and then thereafter I'll be talking to men about things they can learn from Boaz. This is number four of you been tracking and taking notes number four lesson for single women and also simultaneously the number one lesson for single men and it is this maintain sexual purity at all costs. Thank you for those.

A man's beginning with verse seven, when Boaz had finished eating and drinking and was in good spirits. He went over to lie down at the far end of the grain pile approached quietly uncovered his feet and lay down in the middle of the night something startled the man and he turned and discovered a woman lying at his feet, who are you, he asked I am your servant Ruth.

She said spread the corner of your garment over me.

Since you are a kinsman redeemer the Lord bless you my daughter.

He replied this kindness is greater than that which you showed earlier, you have not one after the younger men, whether rich or poor, and now my daughter. Don't be afraid I will do for you. All you ask all my fellow townsmen no watch this that you are a woman of noble character.

Although it is true that I am there in 10. There is a kinsman redeemer Nero then I'll stay here for the night and in the morning if he wants to redeem good, let him redeem, but if he is not willing as surely as the Lord lives, I will do it live here until morning. Verse 14 first forays so she lay at his feet, until morning. You'll see where she lay. She lay at his feet, until morning. She didn't say what you know if you really want to man's attention. You can't lay there I think I need the school to ponder those covers and Boaz didn't say well how bad do you want to redeem me to preach BJ but we don't live PG live like this because we live in PG-13.

We live in our and unfortunately we got some in the church. Times change in cultures change, but the word of the Lord stands forever be encouraged today as children of the living God.

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