So You Want to Get Married Part 1 (cont'd)

Some of you won't have to have a gift of being able to find the problem is that the solution you need to ask God to bless you so that you can learn to find a solution in a haystack a problem.

Hello and welcome to Destin for victory with pastor Paul Shepherd, Senior Pastor destiny Christian Fellowship in Fremont, California.

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And when you get a chance to see when looking at him because he was living her life and the sirens were able to give the body. She came back when they only lost a husband but get back here and see he is taking Business. She is working hard. She has processes he only took a little break. But other than that see them doing it. We are impressed with that context that Boaz meets her, I'm telling you that you expect to look up with is not looking for woman on hold.

Not looking for woman undeveloped potential. He is not trying to get discernment. A word of knowledge to figure out whether or not you are an asset rather than a liability. This is tight but it's right looking for a solution oriented woman this year. Solution oriented. What I mean by that. She is she is maximizing the CLC is not maximizing the problem problems. She has no husband, no social security system got nothing to live on the phone back on years and years ago is in serious she has no son to come back and take a family enterprise.

This is not a pretty picture is not seen on the problem she's seen on the show. See you soon oriented solution oriented start living your life. From this point up so what situations can some of the things I can do this for some of you have the gift you have the gift of being able to find a problem in a haystack of solution and God bless you so that you can learn to find a solution in a haystack a problem because the man you hope to look up with is a man who has challenges and he knew somebody who can come along if we can do this, baby live believe God. Let's pray less.

Let's get this thing done. Don't get discouraged me somebody will know how to keep them and keep them moving things of God moving toward his destiny.

Someone who finds him weak moment of uncertainty and potential PCs you living your life that way your job not your family of origin. There is no reason to believe you'll be that way is a one and so we got to learn to maximize single women.

Maximize your life. Single woman said the ability to new challenges. Those projects projects marry men potential.

I see something wrong but I believe when I get looking for project project is taking him last to know what you need to be doing is talking to somebody and show how I'm coming to him. You got to be set someone to sleep as he sees you live your life would make him that he would want to hitch his wagon. That he would want you to be joined forces together because it is obvious that you are a woman who would make his life better and so you want to be positive you want to live your life from the standpoint of being solution oriented. Enjoy your life now looking for pitiful lonely woman tells Michelle bought into it. I know reaching to the planet and you meant well, but the reason you want a story where some plans on some knight in shining armor, men on a white horse and just find you on the side of the road and scoop you up put you behind him on the horn and you put John on his way to you all retail, retail, around the world. Don't know what they want to do with their right back with more.

Today's Destin for victory message from Pastor Paul Shepherd listen any Pastor Paul's recent broadcast. Be sure to stop by Pastor Paul.net anytime to listen on demand. That's Pastor Paul.net you can also contact us for prayer for make a safe and secure donation to the ministry online. Pastor Paul joins me a studio after today's message but let's join him right now for the rest of the message so you want to get married when we are conditioned internally to pursue that which seems out of reach that which seems like it will be quite an asset. The challenge of conquering the challenge of winning need to present yourself to someone when someone is what he wants and needs and to make him feel like he's like that woman know that's what you do every night every night. From one perspective when it comes to some single women. Not all about some of the general things that happen, and many of them say they feel the moment.

Meeting somebody you don't want that feeling you don't want to project. As soon as you say hello.

Are you the one like you might enjoy your life married woman be happy married marriage for people on pitiful the best marriages are made up of people who have decided they are not going to make each other miserable maximize their lives and join the forces together and see what God will do in the future they'll go hand-in-hand into a trusting God being positive and productive and unbelieving God that there are better things ahead of them, them behind.

So enjoy your life. Enjoy your life away for some and let you take you to see the world start seated by your cell phone world out here so that when you talk about when you go out and you're beginning to get to know one another and he said and I just got back from a lovely place in the enjoy being have you been in the enjoy your life time to get things in a single or married to believe God you single time you get the house in and so this is an excellent time for you to maximize your life as a single woman number two. Sharpen your ability to show kindness and appreciation toward others, including men you miss that. I gotta say that again and sharpen your ability to show kindness and appreciation toward others, including men, one of the things that strikes me about Ruth is the fact, as I said in an earlier message that she was polite she was and when she went into this field knowing it was somebody else's property, seeking to glean behind the harvesters and trusting God to give a favor when she came across the harvesters. She was polite. She said please may I glean here, she treated them well. Later on with when she meets Boaz and has her first talk with Boaz. He compliments her what she is doing. Listen to what she says to him in verse 13 to May I continue to find favor in your eyes.

My Lord, you have given me comfort and have spoken kindly to your servant. Though I do not have the standing of one of your servant girls issues are not coming out in the form of anger or resentment toward men now listen to me carefully. I want to say something. I know that there are a lot of women especially challenged in today's world when it comes to being kind and showing appreciation toward respectful men because of what you have suffered in your past at the hands of men. I am familiar with the statistics they are startling. They are alarming on how many women in the world and how many women in the church have suffered either sexual, emotional, or physical abuse at the hands of a man. For some it was a father or father figure for some it was some stranger.

For some it was some other relatives. For some it was a love interest or someone that you work with in your life.

Hoping to have a romantic, meaningful, significant relationship only to find him acting out of his own issues his own anger at your expense. I realize that that is a very real problem. I do not take it lightly. The church should, and support such women with all of our resources we attempt to affirm the fact that you need a small place to land a place to heal our churches to be places like that.

We are seeking in the church I pastor to be a place where it's okay for you to come bruise because we are going to be like the good Samaritan and do all we can to get you healed and get you on your way. You deserve special treatment you deserve. Affirmation you deserve someone to applaud you and say with all you've been through, by the grace of God you're still here and that's not a small feat because you been through a lot. Having said that, though, let me lovingly as a loving Shepherd, pardon the pun. Let me challenge you that some of you have an edge on you as you deal with men that have got to be dealt with.

If you are going to position yourself for what God has in your future. You cannot continue to act out on the men in your present based on the men in your past. You cannot continue to paralyze good godly people because of what ungodly people did to you and so I want to encourage you yes what you been through is very real, but I would encourage you to come out of that would to resolve number one you will learn who you are in Christ and get your identity from Christ alone so that you're not looking for a man to tell you who you are. What that will allow you to do is draw reasonable appropriate boundaries in your life so that people can mess over you in your present and future like they have in your past, and so some of us need to get to a place where we make a decision. I am going to be holding Christ and I am going to draw boundaries.

You can mess over me anymore. If you met me 20 years ago you could've done that Duncan got away with it because I would've assumed I deserved it or or I must because you get angry or something like that but no days.

All I know I am in Christ and I deserve to be treated as a daughter of the king you can talk to me any cutaway can put your hands on me can mess over me sexually because I am the daughter of a king.

I am the apple of his eye.

He loves me with an everlasting love. And he doesn't let me just hang out with any old body, and you got to get there draw your appropriate boundaries so that you are not in a position to be a volunteer to be victimized by some of the mistreatment that you suffered in your past and I would encourage you. That is a good thing. That's a godly thing. Some of us need the anointing to kick out some and you need to learn how to kick people out. I don't care was a relative. I don't care what your father or stepfather or whoever it is.

If they don't know how to treat you little deserve to be in your inner circle. Thanks so much for being here for today's destined for victory message so you want to get married before we leave you today have asked Pastor Paul to join me from a studio in California. Pastor Thanksgiving is just around the corner time for us to count our blessings. But you know for being honest 2020 spent a year what is been tough for us to see those blessings remind us why it's important to be thankful.

Even in times of uncertainty and unrest.

Yeah, I think being thankful is one of the fundamental values that we learn and I learned it as a toddler, and I think most people did you know your parents teach you very early on, especially billable church. And having folks walk up to me and give me something candy or a nickel or something like that and your parents teach you from the very beginning. Make sure to say thank you and that lesson is one of those bedrock principles that we should build our lives on. So now that were all grown and living our lives, we need to go back and remember, no one owes you anything and so it's good to be thankful. Just as a matter of lifestyle, but especially as we think about how good God has been to us. Even through our trials, even through our difficulties. God has been good during this year of pandemic. God has been faithful and helped us get through some very challenging times and we'll have a lot of thanks so I think that these are days when we need to take advantage of this built in holiday of Thanksgiving and to make sure we're grateful to the Lord.

In fact, in this month's encouragement letter. I mentioned one of 10 lepers who returned to Jesus. He healed 10 of them, but only one thought to go back and to worship him and give him thanks. I think that's the way we are to live our lives like that one leper and make sure God knows how grateful we are and how thankful we are that we have God in the Lord to lean on during the time of pandemic and epidemics right absolutely true. In fact, a one of my favorite re-sentence Scripture passages is where Paul wrote to the church of Thessalonica and he said, rejoice evermore, pray without ceasing, and in everything give thanks, it will do that.

I think I will be pleased in our lives will be richer because of thanks for those great words of encouragement Pastor Paul Justice reminder friends as our way of saying thanks for your generous donation would like to send you a book called 30 days to taming, worry and anxiety written by Deborah Smith to gaze this book is a great resource to help you discover how to deal with the stress. Life often tries to bring our way.

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That's next time in Pastor Paul Shepard's message so you want to get married until then, remember he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion in Christ, you are destined for victory