The Irresistible Beauty of a Tender Heart - Part A

When he writes this to believing why go to unbelieving husbands he has in mind wife who was already repeatedly sure the gospel with her husband with the time, he has heard it all and he needs something stronger than just words and that is a life that he can see appearances change, nobody will look the same forever matter how much they try instead took us on how you look on the inside today on connect with Skip Heitzig Skip highlights how you can make a lasting inward change in your life.

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It's volatile. Her husband is not a believer she is. There's pressure from the state from the community and from her husband. What should she do should she just dump her unbelieving husband and go find the man of her dreams is a Christian are some who would say that's what you do now she can go free at last, free at last, God Almighty. I'm free at last.

Now Peter would say no and Paul would say no. As hard as it is to hear there's something else to be done before we jump into the text. No medical read something to you quote something to you by zig Ziglar who wrote this I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person. I do know that many people have a lot of wrong ideas about marriage and what it takes to make that marriage happy and successful. I'll be the first to admit that it is possible that you did marry the wrong person. However, if you treat the wrong person. Like the right person.

You could well end up having married the right person.

After all, with that in mind, within a jumping Gore-Tex and I give you three marks three marks of the tenderhearted woman. Don't worry women were to get the men equal time next week.

This is three marks of the tenderhearted woman in the name of this message is the irresistible beauty of a tender heart.

Three marks her actions.

Her attitude her admiration.

Her actions speak louder than words.

Her attitude is her prettiest feature and her admiration is more biblical than conventional. We begin in verse one of chapter 3 what we ought to begin her actions speak louder than words. Look what Peter writes lives. Likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, but even if some do not obey the word they without a word.

Maybe one by the conduct of their wives when they observe or watch or carefully scrutinize could be translated your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. See this a case of treating the wrong person. Like the right person and discovering may have married the right person. After all, as the Lord uses that relationship to win the unbelieving spouse would you let me take you back to the first century when this was written the Greco-Roman culture gave women virtually no rights at all. Very, very different from today's world.

An unmarried woman living at home, lived under a Roman law known as pot, tree, protest us the absolute authority of the Roman father over the child. In fact, when I say absolute I mean that Roman law gave the father the right if he chose to even execute his children without any legal repercussions whatsoever. He owned those children. He is absolute right and authority over those children so the daughter under that kind of a world was under total control and domination by her dad. Then came the day for her marriage.

When the dad entrusted that daughter into the hands of another man, husband, at that point, the husband was the owner of the wife, like he owned many things he now owned the life not telling you all this because some of you may have read ahead and you're wondering by now. So how computers words like six times longer for the women than they are for the dude at six verses to the check one verse to the husband.

What's up with that. What will now you know because the position of being a wife. In those days was much more complicated and much more difficult and so if a husband converts to Christianity.

The life is gonna follow to some degree, but if the wife decides she's in a follow Jesus there is going to be trouble.

So six verses are devoted there's a couple of basic ground rules.

Both are seen here.

Both are flushed out another parts of the New Testament to basic things that Paul and Peter here would say to a believing wife married to an unbelieving husband. One continuation stick with it. Don't leave them don't say because now he's a nonbeliever now I'm a believer. I've converted he hasn't. Now I'm in an unequal yoke. I need to dump that guy and go find somebody else know what Paul says in verse 20 and seven is that the unbelieving spouse is sanctified member that texts sanctified by the believer that is placed in a special set apart position for accessibility by God's Holy Spirit into the life of that person because of the influence of that believer. God has a unique access to reach and save a person, or sanctified by the believer. Second submission continuation and then second submission and that's his idea here wives. Likewise, meaning just like all of the other incidences of submission I've already written to you about whether government or workplace, or Jesus Christ to the father's will. Wives likewise be submissive to your own husband. Please do not hear that word wrong submission does not infer some kind of moral inferiority or intellectual inferiority or spiritual inferiority, just like the previous examples. If you have a government leader and you have a citizen and the citizen submits to the government later doesn't make the government leader superior or better person than the citizen. In fact, in many cases the citizen is far superior to the government leader, but you need to submit to keep order and that society or in the workplace a master over a servant doesn't mean the Masters anymore.

Intellectually better superior or any other means loftier but there needs to be order so submission a Christian woman and a Christian man are equal.

Galatians chapter 3. There is neither male nor female.

We are all one in Christ so marked that pleased especially you men who love the text every time there's a Bible text that says wives submit, you got it underlying highlighted in yellow memorizing every verse you know it. In the Greek submission. I love that Bible text that doesn't mean you join the military now and you can make you melt off 20 push-ups. Right now is not the idea of submission. It does not imply superiority of a male or inferiority of a female, but rather its full functionality of the relationship we have a problem. The problem is Peter speaking to believers telling them to submit to an unbeliever. No way to minute, wait a minute, wait a minute unbeliever you want me to submit to the unbeliever. How can I submit my life to somebody who isn't submitted to Christ.

Well first of all, you know you know this, that it doesn't mean that you can submit to him when he tells you to do something sinful and against God's will be very covered. You know that some of your husbands as honey, let's get drunk and knock off that bank on the corner okay honey I'm in a submit. You don't do that because it would be un-submissive to the Lord's will, so the idea submit to a husband is to respond to him to relinquish all rights that you might serve his needs. John Piper offers this the husband does not replace Christ as the woman supreme authority, she must never follow her husband's leadership in the sin, but even where a Christian wife me have to stand with Christ against the sinful will of her husband. She can still have a spirit of submission. She can show by her attitude and behavior that she does not like resisting his will, and that she longs for him to forsake his sin and lead in righteousness, so that her disposition to honor him as head can again produce harmony well set now look at verse want to get be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word stop right there. What word. What word is he talking about some do not obey this word.

God's word. In other words, if that guy is an unbeliever. He doesn't believe in Scripture doesn't rest under God's authority. He does not obey the word is an unbeliever continues to say if some do not obey the word they with out all word stop right there. What word is that her word, not the Bible's word did not obey the word so they can without a word he says maybe one by the conduct of their wives okay. This does not mean that a life never has to say anything in terms of her testimony of the gospel is to have this crazy saying years ago preach the gospel, by all means preach the gospel and if necessary use words okay it's always necessary to use words and Peter is insane don't speak, don't use your words. He arty said in chapter 1 verse 23 that we are born again, not by incorruptible seed or by corruptible seed but incorruptible seed which is about word of God so when he writes this to believing wives yoked to unbelieving husband's he has in mind a wife who is already repeatedly shared the gospel with her husband, but the time comes when he has heard it all and he needs something stronger than just words and that is a life that he can see you know what it's like human nature. When you hear the same message repeated over and over again. After a while you turn off to whether it's a Christmas story or the Easter story of Jesus died on the cross. We've heard it so many times it just doesn't impact us the same know when you're young you're a kid in your parents tell you the same speech over and over again to member what your reaction was semi-good. I was my reaction. My data like five or six of these speeches he would pull out. I can always finish and form annuities and essay and pull it out and eat. Saving a job worth doing is worth doing well know when I was a kid and I I'm listening to this and I am so not interested in this, although everything I remember looking back, that he said was so right and so good and so helpful but I just heard it enough that I'm turning off to it, so, so that's the idea.

She has shared the word with him. The time is come where he needs more than just her word.

I guess you could say nagging. Your husband will not convert him badgering your husband into the kingdom of God arguing with him will not be helpful any atmosphere of high pressure. Christianity is always not effective, and especially in the home ever try to think of it from the vantage point of an unbelieving husband. Let me help you. An unbelieving husband married to a Christian wife already feels threatened, already feels right, and here's what my wife is in love with somebody else that I can't see we got married we swore that nothing would come between us. Now, something has come between us she's in love with somebody I don't even see now suddenly I am demoted to number two on the number one anymore Jesus is number one is very offsetting so the precarious balancing act of a wife trying to influence her husband without alienating her husband to keep the equilibrium in the relationship goes on and he's thinking she's always gone on Sundays.

She's got those weird Christian friends. She sings the songs I've never heard of before.

Let's make matters a little worse. Maybe he's married to the kind of Christian wife was very very zealous and creative in her evangelism. So when he comes home at night. She's got the television evangelist cranked up to 10 inches like infuriates him what he needs to hear the truth or she decides to go into the garage at night and turn his car audio system to Christian radio with superglue or stuff tracks under his follower in his lunchbox or said his mobile device phone to John 316, or perhaps when they have family meal. She wants to sell all pray. Let's bow our heads and I wonder how many here would say yes to Jesus and razor insight transit into an evangelistic event and he's thinking I know this woman.

She's like a freak. Peter's counsel be a good life. Be a good wife. What William Barclay called the silent preaching of a lovely life that a great description. The silent preaching of a lovely life.

If you know church history at all you heard of Augustine or Augustine however you would like to pronounce it. Same dude third century bishop in northern Africa.

His mother Monica was a believer in Jesus's father, Patricia CS was an unbeliever. Augustine writes of the tension in the home and in one of his writings as if it's a prayer to God. He writes what happened. She served her husband as her master and did all she could to win him for you speaking to him.

Our view by her conduct by which you made her so beautiful. Finally, when her husband was at the end of his earthly span. She gained him for you. You get the drift.

He was converted by her lifestyle that he observed over the course of time the silent preaching of a lovely life so her actions speak louder than her words.

Number two gratitude is her prettiest feature verse three.

Do not let your adornment be merely outward, arranging the hair wearing gold putting on fine apparel. Rather, let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. Now this is not a legalistic band on fashion or style. This and everybody appreciates beauty okay and you're lucky to get away from it to $17 billion per year industry. We all like beauty, God created beauty Whitmire beauty.

When a person makes themselves look better is not a problem with that and you know it's not just a modern concept goes all the way back into antiquity did archaeological digs in Rome and they found that in 2000 years ago this was written, women dyed their hair sometimes weird bold colors. They also wore wigs and you know what the most popular color of the week was 2000 years ago.

Yes, a blonde way.

Can you imagine that in the Roman Empire 2000 years ago blondes had more fun if you're thinking all those it is worldly moments know they found these wigs in Christian catacombs so beauty and fashion was always a part of every culture, and even in the Bible, the bride and the song of Solomon is complemented for the ornaments on her cheeks and the chains of gold around her neck and the beautiful sandals that she wore her in the New Testament, Jesus gave a parable about the prodigal son, and when the prodigal son returns the father put a beautiful his best robe on his son and a ring on his finger so fashion is important and I'm saying that because I think it's possible for an unkempt wife to actually discourage her husband, but I have seen and heard preachers go crazy with this verse. Makeup is of the devil, while really I've heard of a southern saying I do know where I heard it from.

If the barn needs painting, painted like that one was. I looked in the mirror lately.

No paints can help. I'm kind of beyond the painting stage. But here's the deal paint the house okay the barn needs painting pain at 8000 but then go inside the house and furnish it with holiness. Deck it out with character. That's the point that Peter is making Proverbs 31 says charm is deceitful dude he is passing a woman who fears the Lord, she will be praised and you discovered right that beauty and charm are deceitful you going to a store to see those magazines up by the counter lose 30 pounds by Valentine's Day have younger looking skin in 14 days there's always that promise, that allure of beauty and tenderness in miracles. Peter saying hey it's fine to look good to get a spiritual makeover or in his words, incorruptible beauty, notice what it says incorruptible beauty, think about incorruptible beauty is corruptible. My right, the fashion industry. The beauty industry depends on one thing ready youth youth so that last year's models are today's unemployed. That's why they have to keep reaching younger every single year. Incorruptible beauty is different.

Incorruptible beauty doesn't rely on mascara or lipgloss or skinny jeans. Incorruptible beauty makes a woman look and be more beautiful as the years go on. See you can be stunning on the outside and ugly on the inside.

This is an incorruptible beauty mature notice of phrases to pick it up in verse four hidden person of the heart, look at that. Rather, let it be the hidden person of the heart. You know that you have one of those you have a hidden person of the heart. The hidden person of the heart is the real you see your reputation is what people perceive you to be your character.

The real you.

The hidden person of the heart. That's who you are when nobody's look young, the hidden person of the heart with Peter, suggesting that the Bible is mandating is that we as Christian believers, male or female. Get really concerned about the hidden person of the heart that wraps up Skip hi text message from his series box now you Skip with an important message. We love sharing how your support is bringing others closer to Jesus than ever before. Listen to this note, the listener sent in my family and I went found cyclic teaching in England and catch mainly because there are no Chechens in our area analytical that teaches the cost. Such conduct. Listen to Mr. I think every Sunday.

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