Because I Said So! - Part 1 - Part A

Gentlemen, our children need to see their parents as people who also bow the knee and respect and honor to a heavenly father that we let them know I to have a father whether my father or mother passed away. I want to honor my father in heaven.

There's a steadiness that have, Abraham Lincoln said for Amanda train up his child in the way that he should go. He must want that way himself. You want those newsmagazines on your way to check out of the grocery store never paused to take a look are often water to cooking magazines or perhaps a hold the core measures of the respirator about fashion or celebrities have one thing in common, the bold, pink, orange and blue headlines are all about relationship working whose artwork whose are just beginning.

So why do we care what today your and connect with Skip weekend division Skip Heitzig reminds us that we are wired for relationships for the fact that people continue to buy and read those shows is that so, how do we step away from publicity that surrounds celebrity relationships and get an accurate and godly idea of what God intends for us.

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As Exodus chapter 20 verse 12. So if you have a Bible Bible lab I hope will turn there is really here. Skip, there were two paddle boats that left on the Mississippi River toward New Orleans. They left together as it were going on the Mississippi River. They came next to each other. Two of these paddle boats and one crew member shouted to the other boat were faster than you guys you guys are slow in the other crew said no will beat you there and so they challenge each other to a race. One of them started falling behind on their way to New Orleans because he didn't have enough fuel he had enough coal for the trip but not for the race. So he started throwing the cargo overboard until he discovered the Capt. discovered I can burn the cargo just as well as the fuel well that boat won the race's ironic won the race, but burn the cargo and by the way was a cargo boat.

It was meant to take cargo from one place to another place in this case from Memphis to New Orleans.

Here's my question. How much cargo precious cargo. Are you willing to burn to win a personal race for yourself at the expense of the cargo of relationships in your family so unrestrained pressure untended priorities.

Number three I'll say on steady parents unsteady parents that you might be thinking now wait a minute, Skip this is a commandment for children, not parents, but every parent begins as a child grows up and has children becomes apparent and raises children that will one day become parents.

So this is perpetuated cycle and what ads to the rocking this within the home and the violation of the fifth commandment is in many cases, unsteady parents who will not make the right kind of spiritual commitment.

Okay you remember Joshua, who stood up before the people of Israel in chapter 24 of that book and he said choose this day whom you will serve make a choice now whether it's gonna be the gods that your father served on the other side of the river or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you now dwell. But as for me and my house we will serve the Lord Jesus take his claim spiritually as one who as a leader of a nation as a husband to wife and as a father to children, me and my house we will serve the Lord, ladies and gentlemen. Our children need to see their parents as people who also bow the knee and respect and honor to a heavenly father that we let them know I to have a father whether my father or mother passed away.

I want to honor my father in heaven. There's a steadiness that happens within the home because of Abraham Lincoln said for Amanda train up his child in the way that he should go.

He must walk that way himself. So it's one thing to say train up a child in the way that he will go and when he is old he want to part from a but you gotta walk that way yourself if that's gonna happen. You know hundred years from now it won't matter what car you drove it won't matter what house you lived and what kind of clothes you bought in war. If you look cool or not, it really won't matter in 100 years, but it will matter what kind of relationship you had with son, daughter, parents, grandparents, grandchildren, all of that will read consequences in the future.

Let's go back to this commandment and see the scope of this specifically. Let's read it again honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you now the sentence is a commandment it's in the imperative of the subject is understood you. Anybody who reads it. You honor that's the predicate object father and mother noticed it doesn't say honor your father or your mother take a choice.

One of the other, but the ideas you honor both of them. There's interaction with two parents that is implied in this commandment in one hand, you might say this is a strong rebuke to homosexuality.

The homosexual community is trying to redefine the whole concept of family through homosexual adoption, but from the beginning, God said, for this reason a man will leave his father and mother be joined to his wife.

The two will become one flesh.

So God's design. From the beginning was home with two parents raising children to honor them. Both of them now.

That means you can't say well I love my mother but I will never show any honor to my father. You don't know what he did to me when I grew up I read honor your father and your mother will talk a little bit more how to do that next week, but both should be honored any sort of set this foundation.

I want to read something to you not like you to listen to it. It's from Armando Nikolai. He was a world-famous Harvard Medical School psychiatrist quote certain trends prevalent today will incapacitate the family destroy its integrity and cause its members to suffer such crippling emotional conflicts that they will become an intolerable burden to society if any one factor influences the character development and emotional stability of an individual. It's the quality of the relationship he or she experiences as a child with both parents.

Conversely, if people suffering from severe nonorganic emotional illness have one experience in common. It's the absence of a parent through death, divorce, or some other cause apparent inaccessibility either physically, emotionally or both can profoundly influence a child's emotional health.

I remember when I was first saved. I have grown up in a home with a very strict, aloof, authoritarian father figure. We weren't close. He just wouldn't allow it.

And I remember when I got saved. There was a sense of self-righteousness that I had.

Now I know the truth and he doesn't and I felt it gave me the right to preach down to him and I'll never forget the evening the Lord spoke to my heart and said go humble yourself before your father and tell them you're sorry for your bad attitude. I thought me I'm the same one now I'm the one who's got it right. He doesn't the Lord said exactly why you should humble yourself, you now are my child you are the saved one. I hold you to a higher standard go humble yourself before your father and tell them you're sorry for your bad attitude. That was the start of turning our relationship around was honoring my father even though there were things that I felt he had done that were wrong and reprehensible. So both from the text specifically father and mother should be honored and both parents should agree on discipline again.

Think of the text.

Father and mother, father and mother, a father and a mother in a home should agree on discipline otherwise.

If your disciplinary tact is different, one from the other. All you're doing is raising a manipulator, one who will figure out the system. How to play one parent against the other and that'll transfer into life and also both should agree on expectations they have for their child. If the rules in a home are contradictory, the expectations are contradictory.

It's gonna be impossible for a child to keep this commandment not only is there this interaction with two parents, but something else about this commandment. I started snooping around the Bible and discovered that not once is this commandment mentioned, not twice, but a total of 8×8 times twice in the Old Testament and six times in the New Testament is the commandment repeated not alluded to not reference not examples of there's numerous occasions of that, but simply repeated to honor your father and mother eight times I'm sharing that simply to say if God says something wants that to be enough. If he says that a times we are to listen carefully. Finally, more specifically, even though the commandment is very plain. Anyone who reads this honor, respect, reference your father and your mother did you know that over time, like so many of the other commandments, this commandment got added to tampered with, and water down. That's right, people started taking their own traditions and interpretations and raising them above the level of Scripture itself. We have an example of that. I like you to turn to it in Mark chapter 7 Mark chapter 7 where will close this morning. Mark chapter 7, now in this chapter, Jesus is meeting with a religious elite. The Pharisees, he quotes Isaiah and he says Isaiah talked about you guys your hypocrites, you honor me with their mouths. Your hearts are far from me.

Verse nine all too well.

You reject the commandment of God, that you may keep your tradition for Moses said. Honor your father and your mother, and he who curses father or mother, let them be put to death, but you say, if a man says to his father or mother whatever profit you might've received for me is core ban.

That is a gift or dedicated to God, then you no longer let him do anything for his father or his mother making the word of God of no effect through your tradition which you have handed down and many such things you do. Did you know that in the mission.

The oral law. That's part of the town with, it was written down. It says it was a greater offense to say anything contrary to the rabbis, voices than to contradict Scripture itself. They started elevating people's traditions and their traditions over the plain commandment of God honor their parents. This is what they did. They said yes. The commandment says honor father, mother, however if you dedicate everything you have, to God, your bank account or camels your tent your chariot when your parents get older and they need something from you. You can say, well, I'd love to but I can't because it's all been dedicated to God, to be used for spiritual purposes, so therefore parents didn't have the benefit of their children honoring them because they had added to reinterpreted this command and we say that's preposterous.

That's ridiculous yet, but we do the same in our culture, we reinterpret the laws of God. Well, they don't mean that.

Now we reinterpret the laws of adultery we reinterpret the laws of murder.

We reinterpret the laws of honoring and respect and authority and we might have excuses. I can honor my mother and father there, not even believers was that's an excuse I can honor my father and mother. You know what they did to me. They didn't love me so I don't need to respect them. So this morning. Let's walk away with just a few thoughts showing the first and foremost is that relationships the very core.

The very precious core of who we are getting along with family members, mother, father, child, we were wired for that very thing we were wired for program to do is a very thing that is being challenged because our relationships were affected by the fall of man, remember Adam and Eve they send it was a strain in their relationship. It passed on to their children.

One murdered the other. So yes we were wired for nurturing relationships and yet it's been affected by the fall.

Keep that in mind number two it's been attacked by our culture. Progressive postmodernism scientific naturalism. All of those other isms have attacked the fifth commandment try to re-alter restructured the meaning of the family and sadly it's been neglected by the church.

The church of Jesus Christ, it seems, is all too willing to accommodate to the winds and the value system of this world. So what's my message, simply this site. Your culture be countercultural be revolutionary in this one. Break the trend fight the culture break the cycle reverse the trend. If you get anything right.

Get family right because all of us are children of parents who are now raising children who will one day be parents and you know the biblical truth. Whatever a man sows, or sows. He will also reap. I want to illustrate that not from a Bible verse, but from a song from way back when mean a long time ago. 1974 Harry Chapin wrote a famous song called cats in the cradle. He said when he sang the song before you say it once for the one of the first times is that this song frankly scares me to death because I don't want to do this. My child arrived. Just the other day you came to the world in the usual way but there were planes to catch and bills to pay. He learned to walk, while I was away and he was talking, for I knew it. And as he grew, he'd say I'm to be like you, dad. You know I'm gonna be like you and the cats in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man on the moon when you coming home dad I don't know when, but we'll get together then son you know will have a good time then my son turned 10 just the other day. He said thanks for the ball. Dad come on let's play can you teach me to throw I said not today. I've got a lot to do.

He said that's okay. And as he walked away.

His smile never damned and said I'm going to be like him. Yeah, you know I'm to be like him and the cats in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man on the moon when you coming home dad I don't know when, but we'll get together then son you know will have a good time then Willie came home from college just the other day, so much like a man. I just had to say son, I'm proud of you can use it for a while. He shook his head and he said with a smile. What I'd really like dad is to borrow the car keys. See you later. Can I have them, please. And the cats in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man on the moon when you coming home son. I don't know when, but we'll get together then you know will have a good time then I'd long since retired. My sons moved away.

I called them up.

Just the other day I said I like to see you if you don't mind. He said I'd love to dad if I can find the time to see my new job is a hassle. The kids have the flu but it's sure nice talking to you, dad's been sure nice talking to you and as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me he'd grown up just like me my boy was just like me and the cats in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man in the moon when you coming home son.

I don't know when but will get together then dad. You know will have a good time then whatever a man sows, that will he also reap. I'm not sharing this with you so you feel guilty about what you've done in the past.

I believe that what ever point in your life you decide to make things different to change the got a lot of that mean everything will be perfect but God will honor that and nothing gets families together faster and better than the creator of families and when a mother or father son or daughter, a grandpa or a grandchild comes to the heavenly father through his son the Lord Jesus Christ. There is necessarily changes that will take place in one of them will be in humility and a desire to love and forgive an honor and respect your family relationship should end in contrast to what difficult in our culture that begins with a relationship with Jesus you'd like to know what it means to follow Jesus like to begin your journey with him right now. Visit connect was gift.com and click know God and learn how Jesus can change your life teaching you just heard was the second part of a message titled, because I said so it's part of our current teaching series, God's top 10. This series is an in-depth study of the 10 Commandments and it's available for you to purchase from connectwithskip.com all 17 teachings are available as an audio CD package for only $39 plus shipping and come back here next week Skip returns with part two because I said so Skip weekend division is a presentation of connection so you guys never changing true ever-changing time