Good Good Father

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But what he sees the father do whatever he does, the son also does. In like manner for the father loves the son and shows him all things that he himself does. And he will show him greater works than these that you may marvel for as the father raises the dead and gives life to them. Even so, the son gives life to whom he will. Where do you think most people in America in the West get their understanding of fathering or being a father.

Where do you think people understand the concept on how to be a father.

What you think most people get it from television TV sitcom's comedies. That's where someone some writers in Hollywood have sat in their basement written out a script funny cat.

She intriguing and they funneled them through the television into our homes and that's where most people understand the concept of what it means to be a father. Would you agree with me this morning that the image, the image of fathers, the respect towards father has been declining in the past 2025 30 years. Would you agree with that on TV is as have the whole definition, the calling, the position of fatherhood is being redefined for us and is completely contrary to what the Bible tells us is how fathers should be today's message when first and foremost focus on the Trinity how God the father interacts with God the son, but there is a deep message there for all of us as fathers on how to become better father using my children are grown there gone, you are still a father. You still have a calling to before we get into the message. Here are some questions for all of us. What comes to your mind when you think of God the father, what comes to your mind when you think about the relationship between the father.

This first person between the second person how they interact with each other, what comes to your mind but if you're thinking nothing. I never really gave any thought on it and spend time thinking about how the Trinity interacts with each other. Okay, let's get down to our level more closer to home in, what is your understanding of being a good father. Where do you get your pattern for being a good father to your children, ladies, here's a question for you because you're thinking.

Why get the message is not for me it's all for the men let him have it, here's a question for you. Are you supporting, encouraging and helping the man in your life to be the best father God has called them to be the mess is not just for fathers and mothers.

The messes also were children. Are you if you're still at home obedient to your parents, especially her father's so many applications on many levels. And here's a question I ask every week and this question is the same. Are you saved, do you know Jesus Christ as your Savior. You see, you cannot go to the fatherless to come to the son. Have you been to the son. Have you been to the second person because you cannot get to the first unless you go to the second.

So this morning were going to try to answer the question, what does it mean to be a good good father, like our heavenly father. So number one to be a good good father, like our heavenly father like him. You have to be the initiator and the pattern setter for your family for your children.

Listen to verse 19 listen to what Jesus says. Then Jesus answered and said to them, most assuredly, most assuredly means amen amen means I'm telling you this is a bullet point most assuredly, I say to you, the son can do nothing of himself.

But what he sees the father do for whatever he does meeting the father does, the son also does. In like manner. Some scholars have said that this when Jesus made that statement. It was not just about the Trinity. You could also pretty much made the sun, a small S typical son and a father is small F it.

Typical fathers what Jesus was saying was in an earthly setting his son will follow his father's example. Either way, it doesn't matter whether it's in the Trinity, or rather as an earthly relationship.

The point is this is the father over the F word father with a small F who is the initiator and the pattern setter for the children everything rises and falls on leadership. Would you agree with that where we are is because of leadership same in the family where your family is spiritually man, it's your business there rising and falling on your standard in many homes where I have notice as a pastor is the poor wife who is doing the job of initiating and setting the pattern. Where is the husband.

What is he doing either.

He's chasing the dollar or he is sprawled out in front of TV are there there there in the garage messing with some stuff or feeding some habit or some hobby they're not doing what they were supposed to do what they've been assigned to do. That's why the poor wife has to step in and do his job. According to the pattern of the Trinity is always been God the father who sets the standard. He is the one who initiated he is the one who sets the pattern in the family followed, and by the way, when you really begin to do this, initiator and patterns that on the first things you have to do is to reject all the bad patterns in your life man have a way of idolizing people other man would you agree with that man. We have a way of idolizing men, especially if they are related to us like a father, grandfather, uncle, bosses, supervisors, superior officers, instructors, coaches, some paint men who have made an impact on our lives and we are so grateful for them. We feel like we need to pattern our lives after them, not give these men were following God. That's also if these men were father.

According to this book wonderful, but if not, that's a huge mistake because your dad must've been a great man and he loved you very much, but he was not a good father. Don't follow him make you kids dressed like this and make them do that in the listener this in the listener that all those things. And now those same families all crazy and the principal, but we didn't consequently were always there taken all these notes in these files and booklets and everything just because someone said is from God, but it was not from this book, you follow the man. You can follow the father. I was at camp back in summer. This young girl I've known her before and she's a counselor and she came and said I would discover dull times a week began to talk and she began to share about her family and I was I was now lost for the first five minutes of conversation.

I'm I'm listening in and she's talking about how the abuse and all the craziness that they went through and all the rules and all this this and this asset. Tell me again who are you talking about and she backed up and gave me the name of the person father with a person is an in the news right now with tons of lawsuits because he was abusing people and women of the time while he was teaching us how to raise children. Someone will have to answer to God for that.

But in the meantime my challenge to you is this. Don't even listen to me unless I'm preaching the Bible and mass this morning, a lot of stuff that is out there is not biblical is man's idea on how to be a better man is not God's idea you want to be an initiator you want to be a pattern setter look to the father.

Let me ask you this morning as we go further and further into this, men are you being the godly initiator and the godly pattern setter in your home you want your children to be good are you being good are you following Jesus Christ. When the tuning to be insured until Motown are you in charge are you in charge. How much is that a priority to you and ask you better question when you get home from the church. Would you discuss do you criticize everything from the sign all the way to the back door and then get home and as you wrote eating roast Turkey roast the preacher. Here's a statement out and make it somebody else did. Whatever you do in moderation. Your children will do an excess, and when they grow up, and you begin to drive and you safe on chart knowability.

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While raised you and charging you know better know what you did was you dragged him here and you told them how miserable you are and then when they left they said never again when you tell them you better go the go, what you don't even like it like it might want me to go you like it you like the music you like that you like anything what do I need to go open time ask again this morning. Are you following God the father. As you pattern, or do you have the wrong pattern in your life that is a day to reject those wrong patterns and follow him. He is the initiator. He is the pattern setter list a little further show love in different ways how to be a good good father be the initiator in the pattern setter but showing love in different ways. This is what Jesus says in verse 20 for the father loves the son and shows him all things that he himself does. This is the second time in John's Gospel that it says the father loves the son the first time is in John 335, the father loves the son is, and has given all things into his hand twice the same subject, but a different predicate. The father loves the son has given all things into his hand and then previewed in the 520. The father loves the son and shows him all things that he himself does the first one father loves and he trusts his son with everything he has.

The second one. The father loves and he reveals to him all the secrets and all the mystery same thing. The father loves the son, but two different occasions to different objects and by the way, something even deeper. Are you ready go deeper and pinch your nose and dive okay in John 335 the word for love is our God upon in John chapter 5 verse 20 the word for love is file in two different Greek words are being used in English, it all comes out. His father loves the son. Now we don't need to go too deep into that because the words and still mean not much or else they have a meaning and the meaning is this the father was telling the son that he loves them enough to trust everything over to him. That's his way of showing love in John 335, the father loves them enough to not hold back anything from him all the mysteries are your thinking what's the point men. There is no set way of showing love to your children as long as they know that you love them. There is no set way into what we've done in our world and the sum of these conferences and seminars. We are trying to force-feed personal preferences, personality traits, when Rebecca was born and I was so scared to death of being a father. I was 21 years of age. I was like man I don't know what I'm doing. I had a good father still do let me know he was not a perfect father's. I was like, man I'm really going to be a good dad.

So went to the library got all the books on fatherhood and began to go through them now into the bookstores and the Christian book stores and got the books and then back in those days in the catalogs you gotta call them up, but send me this book and send me that book to you are going to add that one to begin to go into these books. I quickly realized it was a problem in all of what we were getting out of these books was where the authors personality traits rather than what a father is supposed to be some of them portray the father as a as a military colonel you know he he he's the masculine. He is strong he is outdoorsy toe the line, don't you live in so the masculine the growth father that I read some other books in the father was more like a psychiatrist or counselor to tell me honey how you fumed. I would understand everything about you and I want to know where you coming from. Who is right. Neither sometimes you have to be like this is the law. This is what you will do. End of story. Other times, you have to be sensitive and say I'm here. Go and cry understand we are been there. Being gruff does not make you a bad father and being mellow does not make you a good father.junket that through your personalities as the occasion demands let the children know that you love them.

That's what the father does, and that amazing how the pattern for fatherhood is in this book.

And yet we run everywhere looking for.

I want to be a better father. I would be if I want my husband to read this book honey wives of women have come to music. Can you give me something for my husband to read like I get back to you. I never do wash up at the poor fellow to haul that messing up like not. How about getting him and encouraging him to follow after him books when you walk with him.

Guess what begins to happen. His nature begins becomes your nature and then you begin to live a life in your children begin to know hey dad, is this way, but just because dad to ensure that all my ballgames and dad wasn't there here that let me ask you this morning. Are you one of those who love to recline on the couch and talk about all the things your dad and do for you know I'm talking about is very popular to sit back and say let me tell you how my dad was a bad in the mess.

I am in today is all because of him. Shame on you. Your dad pay all your bills. You have a roof over your head that you have food on the table you still standing and breathing. We showed you love. If you're too dense to realize he showed you love and the way he knew best folks, you know what we've done. We tried to use the psychoanalytic analytic approach and were trying to superimpose it back to an older generation, saying I wish you had done this for me.

He did the best he could have a name, and on that under the circumstances. He did the best he could hear some point. Please don't miss this. Do you understand the love of the father towards the sun. You understand how God the father loves the son in different ways different occasion, but the love is still there and by the way, what kind of love it is that he gave his son to die on the cross as love to not just for us but also for him. So here's the question do you show love to your children in different ways, as you occasion demands this morning are you holding on to some grudge against your father, because he did not follow a certain trait be the initiator be the patterns that are like him, you set the tone for your family, especially spiritually number two showing love in different ways in children. Whether your grown children or young children at home appreciate the love that is being shown to you. Don't complain when we better be grateful. But here's number three. Raise your kids to surpass you listen to verse 20 I am telling you folks, if you only go back to this book and make this book party life and let God the father be your pattern have how it's all your problems solved why have all your problems solved. Listen to verse 20. This is what Jesus says and he meeting the father will show him meaning the sun greater works than these that you may marvel for as the father raises the dead and gives life to them. Even so the son gives life to whom he will. That is a deep statement but I want you to miss this father will show greater works than these two.

His son, that you may marvel. The father has all authority, all power, but what he's saying is I can get all the glory. But I want my son to get all the glory. Don't raise your hand, but how many parents here this morning how many fathers want your kids to do better than you did use the raising office to if you don't sums wrong with you. Honestly, I want my kids to surpass me, whether it's an education where there is an success weathers and wealth. I want them to surpass me and everything that's normal where to begin this from from God the father. Did you know that even lost people have the same mindset when using the get because we have been created in the image of God that is part of our DNA. We want our kids to be more successful than us where to begin. This is because God the father was the son to be more successful than him.

Listen to more specifically for as the father raises the dead.

What you mean by that. Physically he brings people back to life after they've been dad, but guess what could happen for the sun.

Even so the son gives life to whom he will not just physically dead but also spiritually dead me ask you this morning. What is more difficult to bring you physically dead person back to life or to bring it spiritually dead person back to life. I'm alive but I'm dead and to bring me back to life but even though I die, I'm still alive.

More alive than I've ever been. The father said I'm nothing to do this.

In fact, son. I want you to be the one doing this, Jesus brought Lazarus out of the grave after he prayed to the father but how many millions of millions and millions of people has Jesus brought out of the spiritual grave I am you are all of us who is doing the greater works. The sun is listen listen further verse 24 most assuredly, I say to you, he who hears my word and believes in him who sent me has everlasting life, and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life. Most assuredly, I say to you, the hour is coming and now is when the dead will hear the voice of the son of God, not the father but the son of God and those who hear will live. This is not physically dead people like Lazarus but spiritually dead people. Millions and millions and millions of them coming to life never to die again, please listen is in the father generous is in the father humble isn't God the father generous and humble to his son and he can do it. He has all the authority powerbase is no son I want you to do and does does the sun strike around saying, look at all I'm doing. Look, I'm better than my daddy is that he did this, but I'm so much better than him. Is that what Jesus said, listen to what Jesus said verse 30 I can of myself do nothing as I hear, I judge, and my judgment is righteous, because I do not seek my own will but the will of the father who sent the father is humble and generous to the son. What does the sun do in return he gives all the glory back to the father may ask you this morning. What will happen in the this nation and our community. If fathers began to model themselves after God the father. What will happen in our world today.

If children begin to model themselves after God the son, most of us are wording to throws in some nursing home where they'll be almost every day.

What will happen. What would happen if we have the same mindset. I want my child to do better than I did. I wanted to be successful in hard to be successful, and they turn around and say and we give our parents all the praise for this because we would not be where we are without them. Reality check.

Guess what's happening in America today. Millions upon millions of kids are coming into this world and there is no dad there is no dad in the picture.

The dad left a long time ago. He got his thrill and he walked out and millions and millions of home. The dad is is there but he is sprawled out there's nothing he is doing many homes.

Dad is there and he tries but he is in stock and we want revival in our country. This is revival you look back to the object because you are made in the image of God would happen if fathers today spoke like Joshua did in Joshua 2415 and if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the river or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house we will serve the Lord man you are the thermostat of your home.

You said the spiritual climate and will it be easy for you. It's never been easy. Will you have interference. Yes, it will be but graciously, humbly, lovingly you seek to do what God the father has assigned you to do to be like him. You are the initiator you are the pattern setter you have to show love in different ways and children that you need to appreciate the love that has come to you, even if the words I love you have never been mention I say that to my kids every day folks.

I show them love and much more and much deeper ways than just telling them I love you and I want all of them to surpass me specially spiritually. Thank you so much for joining us today. You know the Trinity is not some stable doctrine. It is very relevant and applicable to our daily life. Specially our family lives. If you do not know Jesus Christ as your Savior. Today is a day to receive him in your life in your home. For more information visit us online@clearviewbethe.org and for today's sermon. My blog site@avedonshaw.com