Coup D'etat [Part 1]

Pastor author and Bible teacher Alan Wright.

I have done youth ministry and clinical pastoral education. I've been a pastor for nearly 10 years at the time and I really didn't know what shame was pastor nation this month to Helen Wright ministries as you listen to today's message go deeper as we send you today's special offer. Contact us at pastoralan.org or call 877-544-4860 that's 877-544-4860.

More on that later in the program but as we get started with today's teaching and it's really the inaugural teaching of this series for yourself. Be yourself pastor out and joins me in the studio. That's really, it's good to be with you. I'm excited to hear what is audio taken from a conference where you have about 3040 folks ready to hear this is a unique setting we have in the past Daniel Aird messages on the radio that were from the original series that I preach. Originally called shame off you, but much more recently we put this into a conference format and just a setting that I love where we have maybe 30 people and that are learning and growing through all these messages about healing from shame and a we just thought this would be fantastic teaching to air on the radio and share with all of our listeners as if you were in the room with us.

The group with 30 or so people. So just in that sense, figuratively or literally pull up a chair and join the circle because we're going to now and in coming weeks go over what I would say is the most liberating truths I've ever discovered chicken or egg question which came first, the sermon series or the book that you originally titled shame off you when it was definitely the sermon series and what happened. Maybe listeners will be entered in this is that I had been in ministry for decade had been to seminary I had clinical pastoral education. I had taken courses in marriage and family counseling at the doctorate level. I was thoroughly in ministry and I did not really know what shame is, until I had a conversation with a Christian counselor and our church and we are having lunch one day and the subject of addiction. I think it was what we were talking about the moment I said what you thinks behind it and he said well that ultimately is rooted in shame. I said what do you mean by shame. He said what I mean by that is a feeling of vague or direct feeling that I don't measure up, and that there's something therefore that's wrong with me. I don't just make mistakes but there's something about me that is mistaken. I need to improve it. If I'm ever going to be really accepted and logged and as he began to speak about it, I started realizing that this was going to be important to me and it was going to be important to me personally and so we spent lunch talking about shame and I realize I had never read about it. Never I'm you knew the word but I thought shame you know Daniel was a word that would be used of maybe a guy in the gutter or something and all in some way made terrible, horrible mistakes.

Whatever we thought it would never apply to me was, basically, you know, tried to do the right thing in life and someone and is a Mori I started reading about or realize that lie that says I don't measure up. But I need to measure up had produced within me a kind of driven this evening. Even Christian ministry, and I started realizing I need to personally learn about this because I don't want to live as if there is some hidden force that's guiding all my steps other than the Lord himself in the gospel of grace, so I began pursuing and I thought you know what this is important and I'm gonna preach a message on it. Well, as sometimes as the case, I preached a message on it on out probably preach and more of myself than anybody else but boy the Holy Spirit begin to move and I think I preach for at least 18 weeks Colorado on Sunday nights total on Wednesday nights and just well it was something of a revival in our church people who had never common said I need prayer because of something traumatic in mama people who had never thought of shame like I got people who had destructive patterns in their relationship all manner of people began opening up your hearts to the grace of God like never before we begin to seek healing and transformation and it just went on and on for weeks and then from there Daniel. It just became something that shaped my life shape.

My family's life. All I was so thankful to learn about this before we had kids and I because I'm sure I would've parented with shame, rather than with the shame off you.

So I called that original series shame off year in a world that is always an shame on you. You're here, shame yourself. Jesus came to give us something totally different to take the shame off of us and I knew at that time.

Eventually I'd put it into a book of the Lord allowed and that but it was not till oh maybe a couple years later, that after I learned so much more than a put it into the book, originally called shame off you and then same exact book rereleased as publishers do sometimes under a different title for yourself yourself but same exact book that has helped so many thousands over the years and that's really how this whole thing got going and boy I tell you, it not only rocked my world, but for everybody else who started hearing it and that's what people been saying to me now for 20 years as I've never heard of this and for his changes everything. All guilt and shame are two words that did typically in the Christian will go hand-in-hand together, but there is a distinction between the two right well we all learn a lot about that your guilt is a real thing right but commit a crime guilty and II have guilt so were all guilty will we all have sin, we all fall short of the glory of God.

To say shame off you is not to soften up on sin was not what it means is not to say that grace means that you get salt on sin either as statuses, what's the solution.

All this and what we're distinguishing between is what some have called true guilt and and fault guilt but shame is something that's not just the same thing as false guilt and it's not even the same thing exactly's condemnation. What we learn is that shame really is a system of thought.

It is a whole stronghold of the house of thoughts a way of looking at life way of looking at your own life is subtle at times and you don't realize it. And then there are others who've been through the deepest and darkest types of trauma, for whom it is a poisonous been taken and very deeply is very toxic, but the conviction of sin is will discover is a good thing. That's a gift from God is good to know how we can go a better way is good to know how the grace of God can lead us into a better way of living. So that's the grace of God. Conviction of sin is not something to be ever shy about is not something we should run to this good is from God. Shame the shame that I describe in this series, Daniel is something we say it's it's toxic. Some writers talk about healthy shame and toxic shame. I never chose to do that because it just seemed a little confusing. So when we use the word shame. We use it only in the negative sense of that lie that keeps us anxious and keeps us distant from God and from others and oh there is so much healing available. I can't wait to dive into this material with our listeners will. This is the very beginnings.

If you're just tuning in, right now you're in a good place to start that it will go on many different parts of this teaching in many different topics, but you want to give us kind of some highlights on the roadmap of the various topics that we have right coming. Well you know the first thing is just a really have a deep understanding what shame is all about, and this idea that there is this what I would say like a hidden tyrant within us.

Imagine if your life is actually being motivated by something that you're not quite aware of what's motivating and it's destructive like a tyrant. We gotta talk some about how we tend to make oats in particular through a testimony of a wonderful lady named Grace. Fittingly, and how we can live not by our oath to God, but by his to send the healing go deep into the healing that can be ours. Sometimes we need to hear, especially when we really been her. We need to hear a confession on behalf of those who hurt us and we need the relief learn to forgive.

Talk about that arose for Rosen.

We'll talk some about how hidden all of this can be and what the real solutions are wherein talk about. As I said the difference between shame and godly conviction then you will also have segment in which we'll talk about the effects of a broken home and in the hope that we have if we been in a broken home, and how much healing there can be but how much we all need and want to mom and dad what we do when we have not had what we needed to talk about the scapegoats and why is it that we have a hard time with our boundaries and we become codependent and if you've ever had other people put unrealistic demands on you and you don't know how to say no that's an important episode oh will have a program also about what I called Agni victory. Sometimes after your greatest moments you can feel's oddly discouraged. What's that all about, and in the in Daniel, we were going to talk about all the theology of the new covenant informs all of this as we go to what I'd say is that the highest Vista oval and ultimately is letting go of idols and trusting in the grace of God alone so it's deep. It's rich with a laugh and cry were going to enjoy seeing the grandeur of God's grace and where to learn not just about shame, but we're going to be set free. That's the journey ahead.

It's free yourself to be yourself and that let's jump right in and will take you straight to the conference now with today's teaching shame and embarrassment.

Everybody has been embarrassed and some of us more than others.

I have had my fair share and some of that has been because I married a very interesting woman. But this story was actually totally my fault and it was embarrassing because I was a young man I had been called by the church.

I still serve an old church and I had moved to Winston-Salem North Carolina and I was getting ready for my first day at work. This was back before we had smart phones and before we had the digital gadgets and all that so I just had the old leather bound traditional daytime or and I had. I want to get started off right. So I'd already had appointments set up with leaders, I had the calendar was filled out.

I had notes that it been taking some conversations, but I was ready for my first day at work and I was about 830 at night and I was gonna start work the next day and I realize I could not find my day timer I was little I've been looking looking and I couldn't find it anywhere.

And finally, I was so frustrated I just said honey I sent you, we still go the mall I just start over and out. I was just about as fallible as you possibly began to two to have that be my my attitude starting out at the church but but we got to the mall. It was about 10 till nine. We had got 10 minutes to just run down that luggage store they sell those nice day timers grab one bite get back out and just found mood and so I'm just whatever you do don't get distracted by anything. I'm telling the wife we step into the door and I look over to the side and there are a couple young ladies and they've got some pads some notepads and and they are talking to these young men and what they look like they're taking a survey and I just told him I said all know there take a survey. We got no time if we get stuck talking to them they will never make it down to get a day timer sits where reducing it.

So I start to walk the other direction. One of the young women start walking towards us. I'm walking what I'm thinking about a karate chop.

I think about you know given one of these things to just get away from me.

Whatever you do as he interrupted her. She came over to me. I said no and I got no time for a survey and I'm sure maybe.

Hopefully it wasn't as rude as I felt like in my heart and that she said the word were not taking a survey I said a lot. I don't have it. She said no, aren't you Alan Wright. I've thought about saying no, no, just not what I said yes she said you're my new pastor. I recognize your picture from the mailing they sent out to us. It's worse from there. She said this is the horror of it. She said were not taken a survey. This is part of an evangelism training course and we can over your witnessing to these two young men and one of them is ready to accept Christ as his Savior, and I thought you might be the one to pray with Matt's embarrassments that play other story you have stories also about you embarrass your face turn red bear. That's not the same thing is shame right will have more teaching moment from today's series of blessing your life.

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We will send you a special offer Collison 877-544-4861 come to our website pastor in today's teaching now continues your once again is what we're talking about in this first segment throughout 12 is really something that is rooted in a major deception. It's a very simple deception. It is, it is a lie from the pit of hell. It is, it is foundational to everything that I have to say about shame and about how the gospel can heal our shame.

It is a simple lie that says I don't measure up. As I am, and I have to figure out what's wrong with me and I have to fix it if I'm ever going to be acceptable and what happens is it as soon as we believe that little lie, then everything is will be learning begins to build on top of that, for if there's one basic deception that sneaks into our soul that we would call shame then attached to that could be many, many, many others, I began to realize that this was an issue with me and in a very surprising way.

I was actually talking to a Christian counselor, friend, and he actually brought up the subject that he counts a lot of people who struggled with addiction and I asked him I so what you think is at the root of any said Shane. I said what you mean by that, and he told me just when I told you a lie that says there's something wrong with me. I don't measure up. And I need to measure up. If I'm really not acceptable and we started talking about shame and I thought was interesting because I've been to seminary I had done youth ministry. I done clinical pastoral education. I've been a pastor for nearly 10 years at the time and I really didn't know what shame was. What was even more interesting is I would've never thought that it was an issue for me.

I would've thought last issue that I'm facing is shame what he was describing. And so it made me think maybe I should look into this a little bit and I began to read some about it. I began to study the Scriptures thought I'll preach a sermon about this because this is an important subject. What happened was I went in and preach that that sermon and I knew at that time that this was something that was good to be huge in my life for the course of my life and for my own healing and when we preached that day and there was an invitation for ministry. Right from the beginning I saw that not only have the Lord anointed this. That is like people been waiting their whole lives for somebody to give them permission to be real and if there were an environment where people could be real without fear of being rejected if they could be love enough that they know they could be real. People begin to open up about SOMETHING never talk to anybody about before.

How could a problem ever get healed. If it doesn't come into the line, it hit me one time in a strange moment in which I was actually had a delightful night or two away with my wife and I was I was actually just sitting after after breakfast we read in the newspaper. I many years ago, and as I'm just entering this paper. There was there was a story in there about the Iraqi national soccer players. This was right in that period of time in which Saddam Hussein had been ousted and yet he had not been found, and yet either become clear that he was off the throne and people began to feel safe about speaking up for the first time and this was an interview with some of the Iraqi soccer stars I'm reading indeed is absolutely just my heart was just torn reading about what they were saying because there there*soccer player. He said I love soccer and he said, but I hated the idea of playing because before every game is Saddam's nephew, Rudy Hussein would call them would threaten them, especially before the important games and threaten them with punishment if they didn't win the game. This was news to me and then he went on further to say I love soccer. I just wanted to play for the fun of the game, but I so wanted to quit, but I couldn't quit because he had threatened my family if I quit on us in reading this article to begin his grip. My heart and I thought what lien why is this distant story seeming so real to me and sometimes when that happens you know it's good just to pause. Let the Holy Spirit speak to you, and I felt the Lord just saying this because as you begin to meditate on it more. I begin to come to this very simple truth that when it comes to life all of us are either living life for the joy of the game or we're living it for fear of somebody's disapproval. In other words, all of our attempts at success. All of all of our attempts to excel there either being motivated by fear of what will happen if we don't succeed, or by faith in the joy that accompanies it in the hope that a company is it the faith that says I'm accepted so I might as well I might as well spread my wings and fly Alan Wright.

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Be yourself and the teaching in particular today coup d'état. Alan is with us in the studio here in just a moment with our parting thoughts for today. Stick with us something is holding you back if you could change everything. Seems to me the timeless power on the faith vision spoken over I will never rise to our God given tension with it and move forward confidently under the favor of fees, I turned face every curse and blessing in your life and empower the people you have contact us today. Alan Wright snooper the power to Blacks.

We have a very special gift of $40 and more ministries copies of the beautiful had one for you to share suggest expression of our gratitude for your generous gift will also include a DVD to important teachings. Conditional content pastor only against this ministry, so please partner with us to help us reach thousands of people the gospel and the grace of Jesus Christ. And when you do, you'll become empowered to change the world year draws to a close this final month of the year partnership, seven 877-544-4861 come to our website Pastor Alan.org Baker and three with past rally and and is we put a bookmark you will come back with more teaching coup d'état tomorrow, but in this series for yourself. Be yourself, what's our closing parting thought today Alan. What if there is a hidden tyrant in your soul like there was in my this tyrant doesn't put itself on billboards, but it certainly lords over you, maybe you don't realize it. Shame it can be the motivational force and we don't even realize it. And I am inviting every listener to join me in the coup d'état to overthrow shame and replace it with the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, so that our lives gets fueled not by fear of failing not by the anxiety of not being accepted. But we gets fueled by the certainty that we have been accepted in Jesus Christ change everything in your life if you only caught part of today's teaching. Not only can you listen again online but also get a daily email devotional that matches today's teaching right to your email inbox free. Find out more about these and other resources at pastor out how to work that's pastoralan.org. Today's good news message is a listener supported production Alan Wright Ministries