The Detours of Pardon

My leash around. Also, Dr. Tony explains why getting the pardon we need depends on the part give us from taking care of. This is the alternative Dr. Tony Evans, author, speaker and pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas Texas and president of the urban alternative when we think of hostages picture people being held against their will, threatened in some way will today.

Dr. Evans talked about the kind of hostage who could walk away at any time, but refuses to go. Let's turn to the book of Genesis as he begins nothing and I mean nothing you are arriving at God's destiny for you like unforgiveness unforgiveness is that one thing above all else that will block God's movement in your life taking you from where you are to where you are supposed to go when you carry the weight of yesterday.

The place on the day and the progress to tomorrow unforgiveness is that one area that must be addressed. If you go to reach her destiny had a right to be angry better and hold a grudge. It was Joseph, a dysfunctional family. A dysfunctional father. So slavery subdues on just leave jail forgotten in jail have a right to be right to say life is not. It was Joseph. Joseph from chapter 37 chapter of the book of Genesis.

So God wanted us the zero in on this man's life again. So much of the first book of the Bible to because he wanted to show us the key the destiny one of the things that Joseph was going to grapple with you and I will have to grapple with detours.

God's design for our lives. Destiny is our creation and salvation by God, you're going to have to wiggle and have to deal with the issue of forgiveness.

First of all, let's define forgiveness because the problem is many people don't know what it is they don't know what they really don't forgiveness in the Bible means decision to know against an offender forgiveness do without decision.

Let's start with that is not first and foremost, any motion. Forgiveness is not how you're feeling in any given moment. It has to do with whether you have made the choice to the offense. Let me give you a measure of what you have truly forgiven the fence and the offender and are you still seeking revenge. If you see if this is your forgiveness has not occurred because when forgiveness occurs, the delete button is pushed. As first Corinthians 13 five says, you keep no record forgiveness on two levels. Unilateral forgiveness and transactional forgiveness you forgiveness is when you forgive the person having passport requested it of what they did to you unilaterally that is on your own without the involvement, granting them forgiveness grant unilateral forgiveness and so that you can keep going because nothing will hold you to your detours keeping you from your destiny like unforgiveness.

But then there is a second level forgiveness transactional forgiveness transactional forgiveness is where there is a desire for reconciliation and restoration of our relationship. It's where the person who was a Jew, is willing to confess and repent in order to restore what was broken. That's what I'm calling transactional life. The Bible regularly calls us to repent, because us to repent in order to reestablish the relationship so that transactional forgiveness because it reconciliation now. I want to show you in chapter 45 the steps you take to validate your own forgiveness. Very interesting object. Remember, this is a long story, and this is now 22 years later. This is 22 when we get we have these chapters with 22 years from the time Joseph was sold into the pit at 17 years old.

So this is Geo's unfolding, so you will some special moment that you don't want to miss out on but for right now let's look at how you validate your own forgiveness. Chapter 45 is one Joseph could not control himself before all those who stood before him. He cried have everyone go for me so that there is no man with me when Joseph made himself known to his brothers. He wept so loudly that the Egyptians heard it in the household of Pharaoh heard of it. What the Joseph Dewey sent all Egyptians out of the room when he confronted his brothers and he went. Now you know you're serious about forgiveness. You don't bring other people in who have nothing to do with the six people all Egyptians job, not involved with this job have nothing to do with this.

I'm going to confront the offenders but all I know a person who is not forgiven because of the gossip.

They bring people in who have nothing to do with who can fix it. They can't resolve it. They don't even know what I want to bring them into it because I want seeking vengeance. Forgiveness does not bring people into it. Have nothing to do with legally Egyptians outside of) dishonesty unveils himself to his brothers so that they now know it's Joseph which I think means you show them his circumcision because that would've been the thing to validate that he and his brother since the Jews were the only ones who circumcise the young males so he revealed to the fact that he was in fact the Jewish brother, but he also removed those who had nothing at all to do with. So if you are gossiping about the offense and the offense off. Forgiveness is not occurred.

Second, you know, forgiven when you send feel at ease with you. Verse four then Joseph said to his brethren. Please come closer to me when you have been forgiven. You say get away from me. He says, you give me room, close to me.

I am now welcoming you into my space makes them feel in his presence instead of making them feel uncomfortable in his presence. He says come near not get out of my sight. I can't stand you don't ever see you again get away from McNulty since company and these were 1.forgiveness creates a space where my transactional forgiveness. Now that unilateral web offender can come into a space they been extricated from because of their offense.

The next thing that happens verse five. Now, do not be grieved or angry with yourself because you sold me the next thing the true forgiveness will do if it will help the offender to forgive themselves when they've asked you to forgive and then he did one more thing while verse and go to my father, Joseph says and say to him. My father, Jacob, saving him thus says your son Joseph. God has made me law all Egyptians come down to me.

Do not delay what you Mrs. Patel, his brothers don't call and tell me okay in Egypt. When the minute you you not tell him to go tell daddy which ultimately was to protect them from the one who would've been hurt most by because he was seeking transactional forgiveness on this laxness you are blocking God from taking care of the if you're trying to pay himself God will pay you back yourself but God will stay out of it. The Scripture says this is my sample Lord will repay God's injustice gives away any doubt that without your help, breaks the law is a legal issue should be addressed, but when talking about vengeance. He says that if you read this you'll find out he did. Dr. Evans will have more for us on the link between forgiving and being forgiven. When he returns in a moment. Stay with us roles of husbands and wives.

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He didn't ignore me. But God something to remember what ever happens to you as the pass through God's fingers first.

What helped Joseph to forgive.

This was a painful situation. He flipped through. I want to look at chapter 41 and I want to show you what set him up for forgiveness and you have it for you to ask this, verse 50 through 52 now before the year of famine came two sons were born to Joseph Holman, the daughter of priest boy picking Joseph name the first NASA for you said God has made me forget all my trouble all my father's household name. The second Ephraim said God has made me fruitful in the land of my affliction. God set them up for forgiveness.

He gave them his family must not, gave him a whole new family. And he said my family and himself that he was no longer a family and naming his kids. He may want a friend that means God's name and let's go. What he needed from God, but the second Ephraim from me. God has made me fruitful.

What in the land of my affliction God has made me fruitful God has called me to forget that his pain will please blessing me when I am right you will see the goodness of God that is showing you look at it and said yesterday, God has provided for me today maybe three on the day he's blessed me in the land of my affliction on forgiveness blocks you from Lord's prayer in Matthew six. Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against you referred to in the chapter and he says what if you do not forgive, you will not be forget we all have to remember we got to start style story the need to forgive and the need to be forgiven.

There are very few people need to forgive who don't also need to be forgiven okay.

Forgiveness is a beautiful word when you need it.

It's an ugly word when you have to give it but we all need both words because we need to be forgiven and we need to forgive is when you do your will is in heaven will forgive you about your salvation about your experience with this John chapter 1 for now living in the supernatural. GPS is working on the place you God will recycle your pain to his purpose in excusing vengeance is mine, you ignore it. Nothing I'm saying you have a providentially sovereign God who can build his purposes in spite of it is taking without excuse you seen the movie. I'm sure 90% of you have the old movie Forrest Gump remember Forrest had a friend from his childhood days name Jenny one day Forrest and Jenny were walking along and they came across the shack in which she was raised which was also the shack in which he was abused by her parents when she walked by her all that she she looked at it.

She reached down, she picked up a rock and threw it at the shack and she reached down, she picked up another rock window. The shack she reached down to pick up another rock as she remembered the pain so as her energy would allow. She collapsed mess when Forrest looked at her and said gently sometimes it just rocks because no matter how many you throwing that shack is still some of us have been throwing stones at the shack that stop you know that not all the shack's stones Dr. Tony Evans will return in a moment with the final illustration to wrap up today's message.

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Dr. Evans will explain that God helps us grow into the people he wants us to be, in part because of what he wants us to do hope you'll join us to find out more. Right now though Tony's back with a final thought for those who aren't feeling free enough to forgive, to say something stiff, let me remind you about the bell and the bell tower was is on a rope and you pull the rope and then go all the because when they go over the rope.

The bell would still be swinging but it would slow down until it stopped because they were no longer forcing it to me. I want to invite you today to let go to Rome because as long as you pull that is not for me to bed. I'm sorry long as you when you make the decision to let it ring for little while until you feel it's the alternative with Dr. Tony Evans is brought to you by the made possible by the generous contributions listeners like