Three Decisions of a God-Glorifying Marriage

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The Christian worldview starts right now is God glorifying merit. That is a topical discuss today right here on the Christian worldview radio program for the mission is to sharpen the biblical worldview of Christians and to share the good news that all people can be reconciled to God through faith in Jesus Christ, I'm David Wheaton the house. The program in our website is the Christian worldview.org so glad you joined us today in the program for another edition of the Christian worldview just returned from the shepherd's conference I guess was late Sunday night of this weekend just had a another wonderful time of growth and fellowship at that conference nearly 4500 men from all over the world came to that conference and the preaching was great working to get into some of those messages. Not today, but probably next week in the coming week coming weeks on the program.

We have been preparing for a marriage of anything be speaking at today and tomorrow and so there's a lot of prep for that going on this week so I thought it might be best to ask you focus on that topic this week since is so fresh in the mind and as we go in the coming days will get to the shepherd's conference and there's a lot to talk about there as well. Probably some of you heard about a little bit of controversy that took on there in the Q&A session out there where the topic of social justice came up and I will play some of the audio of that in the coming weeks and I was that interesting moment. At that conference to here were some of the different pastors, preachers stood on that issue, but that's in future weeks this week were going to talk about three decisions for a God glorifying marriage now the. The one man one woman lifelong covenant of marriage is the first human institution that got established right there in Genesis 1 and two, and not only that but the the relational aspect of marriage that actually reflects the relationship that exists within the Trinity, father, son and Spirit's relationship there in the marriage reflex that is not good for man to be alone.

The Bible says.

The Bible also says that marriage is a a model of Christ and his bride, which is the church mean these are mega truths of Scripture ones that are can be just almost beyond understanding may have just such far-reaching ramifications that highlight just how important marriage is to God and should be to us, but the reality is, not only does the design of marriage the way God is not to go back to Adam and Eve, but also the course struggle within every marriage. In that course struggle is our sin nature that wants what we want and resists what God says and this is why there is so much conflict in marriage and divorce today but it doesn't have to be that way. The God who designed marriage gives principles not only that, he also gives the power to have a marriage for his glory and our goods that's working to discuss today on the program is three decisions that set the course for a God glorifying marriage. I mentioned that early passage in Genesis where the, the only perfect marriage who knows how long it lasted but was very long before they send, where the consequences of their sin was meted out by God when he said to even Genesis 316 said, I will greatly multiply your pain in childbirth, in pain you will bring forth children get your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you. This is that the really that that the course struggle here that that the design of husband headship and and the wife submission is going to be easily inverted. That's going to be the tendency and so this that the wife can resist God's establishing his headship and the oak or at the same rate.

The husband's going to take one of two roads. The natural tendency to be domineering or do mirroring, letting the wife lead so this is going to be.

The conflict is gonna take place. The temptation in marriage going for them to Adam he said, because you listen to the voice of your wife. You have eaten from the tree.

What was I commend you say you shall not eat from it, cursed is the ground because of you and toil you will eat of it all the days of your life so everyone who is had has a garden. Our yard knows this is the case is always weeds and and thistles growing up in those kinds of situations.

But not only would work become harder, but so would marriage as well become so much harder.

So one of the foundations of the talk about the foundation of a a God glorifying Meredith. I think that the term great marriage is is not necessarily the best term, because great marriage and he said great marriage that's really a perception of the two people are least one person involved in the marriage and not just a personal perception only talk about marriage is subjective. I think we want to look at.

We look at marriage will look at a more objective perception.

That's what that's what God says is more is the marriage glorifying to God is the one that follows his purpose and his plan because following his purpose and his plan always turns out for his glory but always turns out for our good as well. Even if we don't think it's going to turn out for our good. It does is God has our are good in his sites, so the foundation of a a God glorifying marriage, I think comes down to three decisions that everyone within a marriage has to make the first decision is will I believe in Christ but has to do with salvation. Justification will I believe in Christ what my faith in Christ. My going to be saved. Question number two is will I become like Christ. Will I pursue Christ. Why pursue Christ likeness. In other words, will I be sanctified in question number three is will I obey Christ will I trust him at his word, think those those three questions.

If you answer those questions within your marriage in your life.

Why believe in Christ will be saved. Will I become like Christ will be sanctified and will I obey Christ will I pursue him and trust him at his word, though. State, three things are decided in the correct way that sets you up to have a God glorifying marriage I think is very interesting there is a plethora of books on marriage me go to a Christian bookstore. They're just everywhere and are seven tips to know better marriage and so forth and so on there so many books on marriage, but interestingly the Bible which is the one book the perfect perfectly addresses marriage doesn't contain actually that much explicit.

Let's say how to use on marriage coming for sure. The early chapters of Genesis. As we just read earlier define marriage and didn't show the design forth in Proverbs talks about the character of a godly man and an excellent wife in Proverbs 31 and and of course there are examples of of good and bad marriages all throughout Scripture just does all kinds of those. But as you get in the New Testament. You would think. For such an important issue that there would be maybe a whole book of the Bible devoted to it you how to have a God glorifying marriage, but really it's not that way it's there's about three passages maybe for in the New Testament. First Corinthians 7, Ephesians 5 and first Peter three that really directly address it not gotten long passages but your 1015 verses here and there with very few principles given. So one of them is a mentioned his first Corinthians 7 it's a whole chapter and I can read the whole thing was can read the first paragraph or so and then the last couple sentences of the gives give some of these foundations so it says in verse 20 and seven starts out by saying it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Letter of Paul saying to the Corinthian church as it is good to be single and keep in mind he's writing to the Corinthian church which is in disarray.

That is, it's a has a worldly congregation there overlooking grievous sin in their midst. There's immorality in divorce marriage. The idea of marriage is totally misunderstood me.

Does this sound familiar with what marriage is like today. So Paul spells spells out some basics in this this chapter. First Corinthians 7.

He says good from fermented to touch one another to be single but because of immorality, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife and likewise also the wife to her husband, the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does, and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does stop depriving one another. This is the do the sexual union within marriage except by agreement for times that you may devote yourselves to prayer and come together against that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. So he starts out this chapter, talking with the question of will is a better to be single or married. And the answer is both yeah single this is his preferred because you can devote yourself totally to the Lord, but if you have the gift. The calling of singleness it's it's great to be married as well. If he says you are married, don't deprive one another does have a regular give yourself to each other within marriage so you're not tempted. From the outside.

So that's how he starts out the chapter and then he gets into divorce and he raises the at the sticky issues of of what what should I do if I'm married to a nonbeliever. And I won't get into that today, but basically he says to don't get divorced because of that stay in the marriage is a sanctifying dynamic within a marriage where there is a nonbeliever and there's a believer and impact your children as well so won't get into that, but any closes this chapter in first Corinthians 7 by saying a wife is bound as long as her husband lives. But if her husband is dead, she is free to be married or remarried to whom she wishes. And there's these these these four words only in the Lord. This is a very key little phrase in Scripture when it comes to marriage in the Lord. That is the foundation of a God glorifying marriage to be in the Lord means to be saved or or born-again or a believer or or regenerate regenerated that that's what being in the Lord means means adopted into God's family will come in the world dead in our trespasses and sins, but when we repent of our sins and put her faith in what Jesus did for us on the cross, dying for our sin, paying the penalty for our sin. Penal substitutionary atonement of Christ, then God promises to forgive us and to regenerate estimate get make us make us new created a new creation to make us reconcile us to him. That's what it means to be in the Lord and this was Christ's first command SE as he'd started ministry Mark 115. He said repent and believe in them to be in the Lord.

In other words, you're not in the Lord when you're born you to get into the Lord through repentance and faith and so this command by Paul in first Corinthians 7 is really the same thing. It's saying yeah if your husband dies, you're free to remarry, but only marry another believer.

So why is this because so often you see today that and it's so easy I think to get into a a marriage with someone who is not a fellow believer. So why is this so important to first avoid the that the first one is sort of obvious, it dishonors God. It disobeys what he just said in his word and in and in and expands upon this concept of mirroring only someone in the Lord in second Corinthians 614 versus don't be bound together, or the King James put the don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness or what harmony has Christ with both Lyle or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever notice sounds harsh to nonbelieving years for people to think avoid.

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Realizing but then in the next verse is the good news. But God, being rich in mercy, because of his great love with which he loved us, even when we are dead in our transgressions, made us alive together with Christ, so that's the first reason why it's important to marry in the Lord because if you don't, it dishonors God and if you do it honors God obeys God to be equally yoked with someone else. The second reason it's important to do this is that, stated implicitly in the in the first answer talking with the unequal yoke is that it just makes marriage so much harder and think of all the that the time that Paul was spending in first Corinthians 7. We didn't read it but talking about your married to a nonbeliever. Don't get divorced. In other words inherent in those kinds of relationships are going to be much more relational problems because your unequal yoke.

You don't the same mind you know, the same worldview. You may, you may share some common interests and believers marry nonbelievers all the time but it's not God's design. Mary in the Lord, you probably heard it been said that the most important decision in life is to follow Christ that that's actually the case, but the second is marry the right person in the right person for the Christian is another person who is quote in the Lord, your compatibility is important in marriage, whether having shared interests and values are similar backgrounds or whatever, but the spiritual compatibility. This this equal yoke of marrying in the Lord together. This is by far number one when it comes down to the found foundation of a of a God glorifying marriage.

This is of utmost important now to save her parents out there who are listening to a group of kids in the home teach this to your kids preach it to yourself and teach it to your kids because as James says we have an adversary out there.

Your adversary the devil prowls about like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

In the Primary Way, Satan devour someone is through diverting them in one of these two ways from from salvation by trying to steal the seed that's owned by the sower for someone to be saved, try to divert and distract you away from coming to saving faith and/or keeping them from marrying someone else in the Lord those of the those the two big decisions in life. And Satan works hard to try to devour us in those in those case that that is apps as I look back my own life that has been absolutely the case with me, even though growing up in a Christian home and making a profession of faith. Early in Satan tried to destroy me and in my teens in my early 20s, and there he made some headway. I will say that and then when it came to marriage. Same thing. There were several other you know girls that came into my life yeah and and that there were attractive qualities about them. They were necessarily bad people, so to speak. You know they didn't have horns coming out of their head, and your children of Satan and so forth. They were attractive or intelligent similar values and sense of humor. Some of me religious, but they weren't regenerated, at least most of them weren't regenerated and I really believe that that Satan because he knows how important marriages that he works over time to destroy a believer by having that believer marry a nonbeliever not marry in the Lord that that's the first point in the foundation of a God honoring marriage. The decision to believe in Christ. On the second decision of a God glory glorifying marriages, will I become like Christ.

Will I pursue Christ otherwise will I be sanctified once saved, will I pursue sanctification in the certain irony here because the key to building a great marriage or a God glorifying marriage is not focusing on building a God great marriage yes is not having your regular date nights are taking vacations or writing love letters or bringing home flowers or renewing your vows are watching your wedding video every year on your anniversary year. Not even tending a marriage retreat when those are all good things. Nothing wrong with any of them, but far more foundational than any of those external things is what's taking place inside your heart on a daily basis and are you as a individual and as a couple pursuing Christ likeness. In other words, are you pursuing holiness in your life this that's the purpose of the Christian life and purpose of marriage is a Romans 829 for whom God foreknew he also predestined to become conformed to the image of his son, conformity to Christ is the point of the Christian life. Remember Brody and I went to marriage counseling at the church where we were married they the required it, and so we went to that now there forget that the pastor Fred told us an enforceable he's gone home to be with the Lord, but he really gave us a wonderful piece of advice there that I had never thought of before. And many of you probably heard this was the analogy of the triangle if if God or Christ is at the top of the triangle and in the man is the bottom left the is the bottom right.

The the way to have a God glorifying marriages not to folk on your focus on your marriage, so to speak all be looking at each other, but look be looking up the legs of that triangle that the tip at the top work were Christ is never set your minds on things above, and as you're growing closer to Christ and going up there is also a a side benefit going on your also growing closer to your spouse and that is that that that analogy stuck with me. I think it's a very good one. I mean, just imagine if you were just like Christ with his degree of holiness in character and then you married in the Lord. I meant do you think you'd have a God glorifying marriage absolutely it is the character of each member of a marriage.

This the level of sanctification that allow us to have a God glorifying marriage so this is a lifelong pursuit. This is not something that you go to a marriage of banter you read the Bible and so while this is a lifelong pursuit of sanctification is the most important pursuit for the Christmas it's being in the word alone and together with peers and their spouses praying alone and together it's hearing the word preached sound preaching of the word alone and together it's it's sharing your faith alone and together. It's an being engaged in a body of believers. In that case will be together you'll sanctified Christians are as you become more sanctified, set apart for God's use your field and controlled and empowered by the Holy Spirit and people who are like that lately rarely create conflict.

They they forgive when wrong there there faithful to their spouses.

Amassing a perfect but there's just a much higher probability that those kinds of people think of others over themselves and their spouses doing the same thing. Well there and I have a great marriage, I will come back wall of the phone lines give it one more decision to get to so stay tuned much more coming up on the Christian review today as we talk about three decisions for a God glorifying marriage back after this. I'm David Wheaton environmental scaremongering is the favored tactic of the left to gain massive government control.

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We have one more to get phone lines as well.

For the first two decisions that lead to a God glorifying marriages.

Number one will I believe in Christ will I will I become safe and that that's so important because when your save. God gives you the Holy Spirit to be able to live out his word. You just can't do it on your own. You need a supernatural power inside of you to do what you can't do on your own and overcome temptation. Everything else to be Christ centered instead of self-centered and silky in marriage, so will I believe in Christ is the first will I be safe second decision is will I pursue Christ blood become like him.

Why strive to become be conformed to him. Romans eight that's so critical because that that's the point of increasing holiness in your life and in character development, and then when you have those that character development will that's gonna manifest itself in the way you relate to your husband or wife so open the phone lines now and with a couple questions for today and then make it to the third decision just a second is the questions to consider and if you have a have a common on this, you can call sooner toll-free studio line I worked on three questions. How is a part about this one. Contrast God's purpose for marriages. We been discussing with our society.

Purpose are society's purpose for marriage or how was a great marriage pretrade in our society today contrast to what our society produces displays or portrays a great marriage as to how would God says a great marriage should be. Is there more conflict in marriage and divorce now and if so why not know the obvious answer that will course, there is what is meant never been more divorce in America but you look in Scripture, there is all kinds of divorce going on in the Old Testament they were divorce their wives for any reason burn a meal and divorce him goes back the time of Moses and so forth. So this is nothing new or there is marital conflict. Is there more conflict in marriage and divorce. Now let's say in America, and if so, why do you think that is and what advice would you give couples to have a a God glorifying marriage to those of the three questions I contrast God's purpose for marriage with how society portrays a great marriage is there more conflict in marriage and divorce. Now in divorce. Now if so why and what advice would you give couples to have a God glorifying marriage, the studio number is 1-877-655-6755 is 1-877-655-6755 if you're not a caller. You can always email us your feedback.

Feedback is the email address feedback at the Christian.orc now while Bobby's and get some of you up on the call screen but I want to just five more minutes to get to this last point of a three decisions for a a God glorifying marriage now. We talk about the foundation being saved and sanctified with 1/3 decision has to do with some fundamentals and fundamentals are so important, and in everything in life you can't execute the fundamentals you're not going to be able to you. Do you need to do, whether in sports or business or anything so the fundamentals of marriage are are given in the first 11 knocking out the first 11 in 11 verses in Ephesians chapter 5. He's he's writing to Christians in the town of Ephesus in these the first three chapters of that book, he grounds them in sound doctrine in the next three chapters last few chapters, he explains how that doctrine applies to practical living in one of those practical ways of living is marriage and so he gives that the fundamentals of a God glorifying marriage in Ephesians 5, starting in verse 22, where he says wives is that message to wife in a message to husband here first mom comes to the wife be subject to your own house husbands as to the Lord for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ also is the head of the church, he himself being the Savior of the body, but as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything that goes on December 25. Husbands is the fundamental for the for the husband love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her so he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word that he might present to himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she would be holy and blameless.

So husbands ought all able ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He loves his own wife loves himself.

For no one ever hated his own flesh, but he nourishes it and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church because we are members of his body and he goes on to finish this portion by saying. For this reason a man shall leave his father and shall be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh that goes all the way back, quoting Genesis chapter 2 this mystery is great. I'm speaking with reference to Christ and the church.

Nevertheless each event individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband. Pretty amazing here.

If you think about it there's just one imperative for wife and one imperative for husband wiser to be subject to be in submission to their husbands and husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves love, love the church, not just as an aside, there is one other passage on this in first Peter three. He basically says the same thing wives be in submission to your subjection to your husbands and husbands, love and lead and honor your wife, not just as an aside, here most of society and I would say in increasing the number of Christians was say this this these fundamentals are outdated or are simply a a cultural per preference back in biblical times, or, or, in today's world to even utter that a wife should submit to her husband mean you will be quickly labeled a patriarchal press or if you say that pricing on a college campus or at your place of work sometime but the context makes clear, this is not cultural to that day goes all the way back to creation work quotes Genesis chapter 2 has the way God designed it so as for the call for wives to submit or be subject to respect their husbands. This has nothing to do with the value of a woman the capability of a wife. The gifting of a wife or her personality is nothing to do with those things. It has everything to do with trusting God's perfect design of marriage from the very beginning in the two genders he created. So to recoil in horror at this. What would be to recoil at the way Christ submitted himself to his father in all things you recoil at that when Christ said he's in submission to his father. What you don't. So we should recoil in horror at this as well.

Another words, is Jesus just as valuable is Jesus not as valuable or capable or gifted as God of course is it's about roles.

He had a different role than his than his, and his father. So this is also not about rote obedience to an ungodly authority were the husband tells his wife to do something sinful and never should obey that and is certainly not an excuse for a husband to be domineering so that's the first just not go to much more into that today is for sake of time, but that's the first fundamental for wives to respect Revere be in submission to their husbands. The second fundamental here is for the husband is to love their wives. Now you would think that was even need to be stated to love your wife.

Isn't that natural to love your wife and your married to this person after after all, will the answer is no is not natural to two out the love your wife is natural to love yourself. To love your own pursuits and to making yourself money and increasing your own position and buying things for yourself and your time, your sports, your shows on TV. That's what's natural in your in your flesh, but the command for husbands to love their wives is is not followed by a.

Here is not just love your wives to do nothing follows that says husbands love your wives is not just. It's just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her. So now were supposed to love her wives as Christ loved the church, met like being told by your parents okay go get straight A's and AC ASA SAT test. I like your genius older brother did. It's it's it's an impossible, unattainable standard to be told we were being told to love like Christ. Nevertheless, this is what husbands need to strive for. Even if it's unattainable and so this love is manifested in words both expressing love and also an action doing things that show you love your wife is basically saying, as Christ gave himself up the church.

It's basically saying I would even die for you and this takes a kind of decision of the will and empowerment of the Holy Spirit to love your wife not based on emotions or circumstances the time or whether you find her attractive anymore. Whether the love is even reciprocated.

It's really the kind of love what God does to save the lost.

God demonstrates his own love toward us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. That's the kind of love that were called husbands are called to love our wives but there's also a soul that not only were the lover wives and to be loved like Christ. But there's a so that like there's a why you want to do this SSO that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of the water with the word that he might present to himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing. Another words, the goal that Christ is trying to do with the church is to lead the church to holiness and sanctification.

That's exactly what why the husband is to love the wife and to leave her in holiness and sanctification to present her to God as Christ is going to present his church to God and holiness and sanctification. So this means that the husband must take on spiritual leadership in the home as part of his loving his wife. It means making time to read and pray in here and learn and teach the word to his wife and his family is protecting his wife from anything that would compromise her sanctification, and this is a tough one. This is a big big calling and it is possible, though more empowered by the spirit okay there.

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And then once a month and that will I pursue Christ. Why pursue sanctification.

That's how we grow closer to him and we do that and when both spouses are doing that in a marriage, they grow closer to each other as they have the character in them to follow the next decision will I obey Christ and will will I will obey his commands. For what for wives, will I respect revere and submit to my husband for husband's will. I love my wife as Christ loved the church and so those three decisions.

If you decide those in the right way, it's very likely you can have a God glorifying, there's a dozen means Gary perfect known it a perfect marriage of Adam and Eve that didn't last long.

Secondly, there still temptation. We still have our sin nature involve their but this gives you the least the chance the opportunity of having a God glorifying marriage or Coast Guard. The phone lines go first to Bob in Minneapolis. Welcome to the Christian world view Bob what is your question or comment on the subject of marriage. I want to know how."

The girl you're interested in truly saved where I grew up in goblets background outskirts of my life when I was 18 I met a girl at Bible school came from a Christian family photo somebody like me she seems like a true Christian, but one conflict arose in our marriage. She got a divorce and of course you know the Bible says we shouldn't divorce another fellow Christian.

The only grounds for divorce between two Christians was formed to have committed an act of sexual immorality.

So how can you tell if there truly saved you a great question Bible all hang up here just give you a quick answer on this one.

This is a great question because this goes back to the first point of how important it is to marry in the Lord and I just read reiterated for parents teach your kids the kind of person they should be looking for. If there if they're professing believers teach them the importance of marrying in the Lord because again the most important decision you make in life is to follow Christ.

The second is who you marry and who you marry needs to be in the Lord. So how do you discern whether someone is truly saved is a professing Christian versus someone who actually proposed esses genuine saving faith because lots of people go to church go to Christian college profess to be Christians.

Many will say to me that as Jesus said in in Matthew chapter 7. Many will say to me in the day, Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name cast out demons in your name perform many miracles and then I will say to them, depart from me, you practice lawlessness. I never knew you that that is the scariest passage in Scripture to to be thinking you're a believer to be talking like it, but not be genuinely saved. So to answer Bob's question. I really like the, the, the, with a single page in the and in the back of the MacArthur study about the answers this question the character of genuine saving faith there. There's two columns here.

The first column is these are evidences that neither prove nor disprove one's faith so someone can have any Versus I won't list the whole thing your own time, but it someone can have visible morality that can be a moral person.

They can have intellectual knowledge about the Bible about God.

They can be religiously involved in go to church and Bible studies. They can have an active ministry of their own.

They may be working for Christian ministry may go on missions trips, they can have actually conviction of sin in their life. They may feel badly for the single life. They may have assurance of salvation they made. Totally believed there say they may look back to a time of decision where they went to an event and raised her hand and walk the aisle but those things neither prove nor disprove saving faith. But here's the second list these things actually are the fruit or proofs of authentic true believers.

They have a love for God that these things are harder to put your hands they're not things you do the things you are all does that person have a love for God does that person repent from sin other words, these things are, you can find out by what they talk about you go get some hints as to what they talk about what their heart is as you hear them speaking what they do will have genuine humility in your life will have a devotion to God's glory rather than their own, though be a person of regular or continual prayer, though exhibit selfless love toward others will be a separation from the world they won't want to be in the world they want to take in what sinful in the world and rather taken with righteous from the word.

There will be spiritual growth in their life. There will be obedient living. This is this is a key one. If there is no obedience to God's command or very little obedience. If there's more practicing sin than practicing righteousness.

That's a real concern for someone who professes to follow Christ there be a hunger for God's word are they wanting read God's word. They want to be in it because that's how we get washed every day when we read his word. What is or is there a transform life. There are they living a life differently than when they say they had the point of conversion is about.

I hope that that answers the question a little bit for you but it does come down to the fruit of One Life records. God only knows the hearts but I will say that we need to be special when it comes to marriage extremely discerning as to someone we might be marrying is not just good enough for someone to go to church once in a while it has that person's heart been converted okay. Look at the one more call in Eric in Wichita Kansas.

Thanks for calling the Christian review your thoughts or questions on the subject of marriage. Today, well my question is that I was married on two different occasions and I've always proclaimed to be a Christian and a bottle of Christ.

But when I really sit back and evaluate a truly novel woes so the marriage was never actually formed in the bond of Christ. I don't think and my main concern is this. If I today banded. I have turned my life around the that I truly feel I am a Christian now if I decide to get married again through Christ and to have it blessed by Christ will be committing a say in all will still be allowed into the kingdom of heaven. Thanks for your car gets a really really good question and I think as tough a difficult one for me without knowing you well enough in hearing more of your story and hearing you more of your situation with the wise you been married to Ted to be able to answer the question clearly. I'll just say this that when we get married. I do believe I do understand the Bible to teach that there are some exceptions for divorce, which implies remarriage in those exception exceptions are the death of a spouse. Of course, the person can be remarried. Secondly, if there is unrepentant adultery. I believe that's a another exception for the Bible talks about in the third is the departure of of a spouse, not in other words, when one spouse departs and won't return. I think there is an exception for that as well so I can't answer your question directly. It's a good one maybe write me an email. I can think more about it is running out time you're in the program. feedback@thechristianworldviewed.org. Thank you all for joining us today here on the Christian world you radio program. We do live in a changing and challenging world where marriage is under assault, but there is one thing and one person we can count on entrusting Jesus Christ and his word. There is a guidebook for marriage there's a guiding light near the same yesterday today and forever until next weekend. Think biblically and live according we hope today's broadcast turned your heart toward God's word and his son to order a CD copy of today's program or sign up for our free weekly email or to find out how you can be reconciled to God through Jesus Christ go to our website the Christian world.org, call us toll-free at one Tripoli 646-2233. The Christian worldview is a weekly one-hour radio program that is furnished by the over comer foundation and is supported by listeners and sponsors request one of our current resources with your donation of any amount go to the Christian world.org or call us toll-free at one Tripoli 646-2230 3.2 a set Box 01, Excelsior, MN 55331 that's Box 401, Excelsior, MN 55331. Thanks for listening to the Christian will. Until next time think biblically live according the best way to stay connected to the Christian world is to sign up for our free weekly email an annual print letter the weekly email is delivered to your inbox each Friday and contains the premium for the weekend radio program along with links and resources associated with it. Upcoming events in the previous week's program.

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