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May 20, 2022 5:30 am
Connie Albers and Chris Hughes talk about the unique challenges that families face when adult children live at home and older parents move into your house.
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I would like to work on everything to do with family law, multi generational family living is like and what we can do within our own family. We always want to find ways to bring your family closer each other closer to God. So you want to listen and read family Friday Connie Albert today Connie like everybody want to mark your calendar every party leader Connie Albert will welcome the Christian perspective achievement does come with they were so excited coming to you from the campus Mid-America college and Mid-America Baptist theological seminary. If you are looking for place to go to school to highly recommend you need always bathed in prayer every decision, particularly where your children show or maybe when you have your listening going to school, but if you want to develop a great biblical worldview and go to school that understands the sufficiency of Scripture, the heresy of Scripture regarding CRT during this other nonsense even made its way and as many seminaries around the country today on encourage you to take a look at college Mid-America later life. Are you finished college and you will get smaller, more about God's word all my morning we have today. Mid-America was way ahead of the curve work yet, but now they're even better in the wonderful summer program online. You don't have to go to Memphis or some other branch campuses around the country. You can study whether your own home on the Internet.
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It going to be impactful for sure because now called care and America and around the world is rapidly changing. The last couple years but within the last year you know where anything the year mark world faced with a virus that radically change family livelihood income cost-of-living church and how we attended church and tell all speakers that you have learned that word. The culture engagements are going to be bringing their latest information on what's going on in her family and how can you get involved getting gay and pushback on the culture trying to break down family change how we worship the Lord and how we engage in politics in general felt after a few care plan account. Bring a friend go cramping or making a girlfriend or family weekend and come you will not be the point I'm excited about multi generational living and what a great topic to get back. It is a topic that people have often asked me about, especially of the modified all my children lived at home and I didn't think about multi generational living title display English is something that I family to Cairo and now I'm looking forward that light up.
I've been talking about the Danica that you got going to something like I wide open so that you can address problems before they arise.
That you know today and we kind of Park let multi generational letting is and if it could possibly work for you and your family. They are going to be a block away, going maybe to fit for our family or maybe it's something that we need to pray about wealth Connie Conley topic in our family that usually participate in this but for those who are listening this a term we hear a lot about order books and your different TV shows may be some of the Dr. Phil.shows but what you mean to tell our lesser what is multi generational living in our attic corridor. Basically, two or more generations living together and I not necessarily a mother-in-law suite often backed up merrily in the same household. Maybe sharing the same kitchen and living base. That's really what it means then it could be something as simple as your kids living at home beyond high school.
Maybe there are college kids or they're trying to get them their finances built up there living at home or it could be our elderly parents moving in with their For various reasons that will discuss a little bit. That's really what multi generational family living is not uncommon and other country craft commonplace. If you really American to Western tradition of 18 and out, but other cultures had been doing exactly for tree Americans that have now caught on and I would say even wisely like death. The idea that could be a really good effective way of doing life together. I am so glad you want to talk about this today in your travel all over the world for a while. We had produced his ministries and Indian bills mortgage is there but really since about 2011 we done a lot of work, ability, start 36 churches there, you're exactly right. Other ethnic groups of people in other countries are typically the Filipinos are very, very family oriented know in the United States. Like you said you 18 or 21 finish high school or later when you finish college nuclear got booted out and then they don't really reconnect in a strong way. Sometimes with her parents again. But that's not the way it is in many other countries, so that's one of the good things about legal immigration where people are, the United States is one of the good things that many of these other cultures abroad.
It is not just with openings and in Hispanic and Latin countries and others around the world, particularly in the South American others. There's a strong connection that your parents always tremendous influence on your life. I'm not saying that arrange marriages or that we can help. My daughter will go to Io in India laws of war there. Many of the pastors I knew that their parents because they trusted their parents to find a godly spouse for them many times and again I'm not suggesting.don't get nervous don't start emailing me or the one Connie Chris talking with and I'm not talking today about the spouses but I'm just saying the parents had a great influence caught you. You didn't know this all share a story of the time here, but we believe this on both sides me. My kids are like yours are no longer during college, but during Kober they both came back so the family did Nintendo necessarily, although I love images back did Nintendo serve the multi generational living in that sense both argue that he come back in many families listening. I know about what you can talk about labor year they faced at the one we moved to North Carolina in 2014 we knew my parents and Vicki's parents were getting older and so what we were looking for our final home were we hope we would ever have to move again. We wanted a home that at some point, understanding that our parents might need to live with us basically.
So was our house we live in the mountains and the mountain area what was on the country don't have like where you live in Florida basement that much where you live, you might not but but anywhere we are to do you. But where we are. A lot of people in a basement so we found a home blast work basically is two houses on top of each other that there's a separate kitchen and all that downstairs, and of and in so visual in my parents moved in, but it it created some challenges goes culturally in the United States is not traditionally I was done so we had to learn something from open today. You can share with us where we can learn about other families. So sometimes or cultural issues. How do other cultures learn to live together challenge you now that the trail and I think you are just mentioning how your home.
With that in a certain way with house on top of the house. Great example of how me that think that mindset hey there one day mom got a deliberate back or I will have you ever had a faith for when my kids become adult maybe were trying to encourage that reletting in you and I don't know what our children are facing being able to afford a house corrected really difficult market.
The idea of designing a home with that in mind is actually why it here if you are forward thinking and not because you're setting yourself up for less complex and greater ease and maybe not such a radical change in your lifestyle because you were saying it when your children go away. They move out. Then like UNDP you a jump start the empty map life and the life that doesn't involve your kids and your kids agile and maybe even planning dinner there anything you what we want ideally become more and not as a family unit. But when the children come back with his many, many, many time in case the boomerang canton shortfalls and financial issues that you now and we come back from the break.
Let's dive deeper into the back nowhere up on a break right now so closer talk today about something, the audio is like you got room this show is brought to you by generous jobs. The coffee company with the Christian perspective, this is the answer that Christians and conservatives have been looking for a coffee company that gives back causes you care about. Order your copy today at shop generous Joe's.and even subscribe to a subscription coffee plan and never forget you or causes you care about locking the fit step 15 feet of Siebel come to life this December. Enjoy nationally for radio host confounded citizens for American foundation to create a life-changing ship. It's one of the world's oldest and most fascinating travel during the faithful from all over the world for thousands of reasons. Religious clutter explores Christianity's most tragic, the rigid fight like the Wailing Wall don't flock with Chris through the winding alleyways of Nancy so he can visit the hand to place that I think you spent the Calgary Jewish fortress in the final feet firsthand when the event that the Bible took place touring Israel with Dr. Chris Hughes is a travel honesty like male citizens for American foundation.com and get ready for an unforgettable trip last a lifetime time creating a family. There is another line 39 years I've been helping relationship. I'd like to invite Ray sharing his light and joy. One American minute with Bill from this date, May 20, 1927 at 7:52 AM one of the greatest feats of aviation beginners. Charles Lindbergh departed Roseville Field in New York in a silver monoplane in the spirit of St. Louis.
33 1/2 hours later he landed in France completing the first solo flight across the Atlantic at 25 years old. He was decorated by the president of France, the King of England and Pres. Calvin Coolidge at the Institute of aeronautical sciences. Lindbergh stated it was not the outer graduate of the Roman simplicity of the Christian American. I was very talking about multi generational living your real world. A lot of people have the parents live with their children live with but for some reason you think that is not something that our culture were starting to see more of it is more expensive than code kids were sent back and just before the break.
Connie was talking about how other cultures learn to live together challenge for us. I mean I love my parents well, but you get used to your way of living in a Lumbee Grocer Does Not Used To Walk around and Were Able to Work or Your Liquids. What'd You Say That You like a Simple Thing with the Way You Dress the Way You Live in All the Food You Eat. That Was a Big Challenge This Week.
Dietary Change Is Sometimes Not Only Older People with Other People Differently Than You We We Try to Have Supper Together. They Were Living with Us.
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How Much Time Do You Have To Spend Your Family Unit Get to Spend Time Alone or Does Everything Have To Be Done All the Elements That We Need to Consider the Direction That We Feel God Calling God on a Limb Here and Say I Think That the Biblical Model of Family Doing Life Together.
I Don't Need You to Live with You Because He Wanted Children like Failure to Launch or Anything That When We Paint a Picture for I Can As We Model What Doing Life Looks like It May Mean Your Kids Back. It Might Mean Having a Parent with You Temporarily like I Had. I Made My Mom and Her Husband and Went Back to When My Mother Got L and I Need to Print an Opportunity Teach My Can How to Honor Our Elders and How to Put down in Scripture, God Never Tells Them Not to Honor Our Father, Not Just Government and Just Because of That Numerical Age We Always Honor Our Parents Give Me Retrieve My Children Will That Take Place in Our Life and the Value That God Places on Our Children Not to Write to Eat and Their Endeavoring or Not Everybody Has a Position on That and to Help Even Make It Work As a Another Five. All of Our Children Lived at Home after Faithful and Often Interviewed about This Because It Seemed so Foreign and Strange Us like Why Did You Get to Be Allowing Time to Take the Kids out Mike Goal and Your Goal Is to Get That Life That You so Desire That Our Desire with American You Want to Enjoy Life That Want to Go on Vacation Together Which I'll Just Went on a Vacation Together with Print Personalities and Then Worked in Dietary Needs of the Things That You Brought Affect Reasons Why People Are Choosing Actually Became a Big after World War II, and Then Again 2009 after the Housing Bug after the Housing Bubble and Prices Increased Again and Now Murdock Cannot Point Where I Homeownership Difficult for Young Family Getting into a Home. Maybe They Don't Have a Large down Payment down There That Mom and Dad Could Be a Married Couple When You're Married, Can That They Can Think Money to Be Able to Buy Their Own Home.
One Reason They Share the Car, the Burden of Homeownership Still Maintenance Upkeep That Can Be Shared and If You Have Elderly Parents Letting the Glutton Do Yard Work They Will Do Is Maybe I Did the Grocery Shopping or Maybe They'll Put You Prepared Food or They'll Take Care Of the Client While the Younger Couple Are to Work and so They Provide to Chuck Childcare Because Childcare Has Gone through the Rate of Help. The Older Generation Not Have To Pay for Living Care Which Can Be Eaten until an Elder Care Are Parent Resources Taken Love through Money Quickly That If You Can Make It Work Where They Lived Together. It Made Their Resources or Lease Extends Them Far Greater Number of Years. Their Shared Responsibility, Bob. Learning to Share the Responsibilities of Laundry in Upkeep and Maintenance of Really Serving Each Other and Looking for Ways to Serve Each Other the Family Closer Because I Curtail the Loneliness That Have Happened over the Last Couple Years of Isolation, Anxiety, Depression Which Can Come from Being Alone in a Single Place That If You Have a Honda Bustling with People You Can Share or Even the Emotional the Physical, Spiritual People That We Have Gone through down :-) Thank You All Find the Kid Stayed Home after They Graduated and Attended College Thing for Everyone That We Wanted Our Children to Get through College Debt-Free and If You Put the Clock on Spreadsheet Numbers Don't Lie and It Afforded My Children, Even Though All of Them Had Academic Scholarship. It Afforded Them the Ability to Graduate College Debt-Free with Money in the Bank and Then Not Lend Itself toward Purchasing a Homework and Buying a Better Car Than the Beer Car That They Had Going into College and Also Gave an Opportunity for Conversation so There Only Two of Blessing That Can Harm When You Choose to Embrace That Kind of Lifestyle, but It Might That Crafted the Mindset of Hate. We Know There's Going to Be A Lot Of Give-And-Take and I Fell I Would Play As We Come Back from the Break. I Know You're Coming up on a Break Here in Just A Few Minutes and I Want You to Interject That We Come Back We'll Talk about Where I Get the Advantages There Are Some Things You Work through in Order for It to Work Cut Eligibility.
I Want to Do Again Because Some of Those Issues in the Middle One Is to Just Get past Those Because People Are Living with This Is Becoming More Common in Your You Had Experience of It. Experience Maybe They Can Work Some of the Things That We Learned from Travail Make Maybe the Same Mistakes. There Is so Important. You're Just Occurring to Owner Parents. I Don't Want to Go to a Nursing Home. They Would Rather Be with Family and No That's Not Always Possible, but There Are Challenges You Know so Maybe Is Your Luck with Vicki Here We Were a Military Family Coming off of Our Last Assignment so We Were Looking for All, Not Everybody's Will Be Looking for All, but If You Are You to Think about Even Younger People Think That They're Moving to Their Firmer Home One Day You Probably Could Have Kids like You Said You Want to Go to College That Will Be Sure Bedroom after and and They Want a Certain Level of Privacy You Might Be Placed in the End, I'm Thankful That More American Families Start to Begin to Take Care Of the Parents. You Might Think Waterloo Signal and Are Somewhat like Connie Said It's Expensive to Send Somebody and You're Probably Good. You Know Your Parents May Not Be Owed by Force. That Means You Would Have To Pay for What Might Be Much Cheaper Just to Bite the Bullet. Maybe a Two or $300 Electronic Curricular and Deck with Richard $300 a Month Now Is A Lot Cheaper Than Paying the 07 8000 Which Really Can Be That Much or More Sub Job for Nursing Home Care down the Line If You Plan Ahead and and in Your Home yet. You Know That Is Ready for That, and Envelope, Which Is about Helping Your Kids Is a Occurred That It Was Almost like I Want to Go and Try to Remember Where Want to Talk about Talk about Your Responsibilities and Sheer Exhaustion, and I'm Hoping to Grow Quickly, but I Know Particularly When My Parents Came to People Warned Me You Know You Need to Have and Not a Bad Way. So, Just You Don't Need Have Understanding Your Cruises They Will Buy Themselves for Years and You Have the Same Wicket. There Was a Transition Out Of This with Your Case. My Expectations Were Different for My Adult Kids Only Work for 10 or 11-year-old Jo Lorraine, Antonella, You're in College and You Know Some Your Friends Live in Overall Paying Their Bills on Me and I Expect You Wash Close but You Wash Dishes You Need Help Clean the House Year This Is Your House, You Might Be to Mow the Grass What the Expectation Level You Feel about That. Connie but Not Built like You Need to Be Little You Need to Act like an Adult. I Will Have Your I'm Trying to. It Was about Being Mean or That It Won't Do Those Duties but They Need to Learn the Responsibility As an Adult Because at Some Point the Organ Wants to Start Doing More Detail You Feel about Illicitly Ending When You Children Get Married or Even If They Have a Roommate That Want to Live with Glob Want to Have To Get up in the Morning and Go to the Kitchen and Wash Their Roommate or Their Spouses Dirty Dishes before They Even Start Getting Her Morning Coffee. It's Really Current Being Considering Others Is More Important Than Your Stop Are Are You Are College Kids or Our Young Adults That Are Trying to Get Their Feet on the Ground. Maybe They Had Some Financial Woes and Back, but with Other Is Really Just the Act of Serving One Another so I Did Not like Coming down the Stairs in the Morning, the 15th on My Calendar. It Really Bothered Me Because like Okay I Can Live with the Map but Let Me Start My Day with a Clean Kitchen That May Not Be the People You but It Was Certainly Mine and It Wasn't Easy. I Truly Had to Continually Wrestle with Because Other People Either of My Kid Didn't Have the Same Level or Care If There Were Enough to Think with Clean in the Morning, They Could Care Less, and Maybe Conmen Late at Night That Were Said with No Transcript Are Our Kids Grow We Have To Change and I Just Want Does Not Mean That They Walk a Little Rest before They Set the Rules of the House Are They Have Been Mandate and Their Way or Else There's No Yellow Color to Paint the Door Locked from the inside to Keep People out Not Keep You in and Fill Learning to Live Together Just Mean Hey Listen, This Is How We Are Going to Do It and Reestablish Those Early on Me Now.
Hey You Getting Old and 19 Years in College That We Should Be Transferring Responsibility of Laundry, Keeping the House Clean. Maintaining the Yard Even Doing Repair the Home Is Something That We Should All Pick a Candidate Shouldn't Fall to Just Dad Which Involve Just Mom and Just Because Your College Given Baby so Mom and Dad, the Dictation Shouldn't Be Living As We Worked, Said Autonomy and Freedom in Real Life, but Don't Talk about Foolish States of America Has a Strong Christian Heritage, Most Americans Don't Know the Truly Important Role God in the Bible Is Indicated Radio Host and Founder of America Foundation, Dr. Chris, or Maybe Days in Our Nation Will Embark on a Journey of Discovering the Hidden Washington and Read It Cover Much of America's Christian Heritage up Close and Personal Look and How It Evolved over the Century, Learn about the Government and the Men Who Helped Forge This New Kind of Republic and Acknowledge the Creator from Its Very Inception the Truth about the Creation of about the Fate of the Mounting Father Christian Principles Governing America Secure Your Spot to Join This This Show Is Brought to You by Generous Joe's Coffee Company with the Christian Perspective, This Is the Answer That Christians and Conservatives Have Been Looking for a Coffee Company That Gives Back to Causes You Care about.
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Maybe Because Living with You Procured Your Parents Move Back in with You. You're Trying to Decide What That Next Step Will Be Yourself Boundaries for Your College Kids Living with You Again or Your Parents Would Talk about Somebody Advantage and Really Cut It. We Probably Should Do a Notion about the Support of A Lot Of Really Big Greater Ticklish That You've Been through That You Can Share with People out There Even Other Advantages A Lot Of Disadvantages of Having Your Kids Come Back to Your Parents Live with You.
Let's Talk about. One Is a Lack of Privacy You Touched on That and Honestly with Me Having Five Even Talk about When You're Kicking Back. Our Kids Were Here and As You Jump Curfew Gets Later Privately but That Curfew. Getting Later and Although the Jeff Because Your College to Me. You Can Come Home at 345 in the Morning or Not Come Home at All with Our Preaching Were There People to People Now and Why We Plan to Gather with Other People and Other People Something Were to Continue Even Began to Know Where You Are. Keep Them up at Night and in My Case, You Know, with My Kids Were in College. Younger Children at Home Though.
Again, You Have To Live with One Another with Document Kind Consideration, Courtesy Work in the Morning so If You Coming up on the Morning and Wake at That Because You're Hungry and You Bang around the Kitchen, Then Maybe the Little Ones Are Going to Wake up and Back Plate or Maybe Wake up Mom and Dad in America Follow Sleep and As You Get Older, Get Started Anyway. You Know so Unimportant That That the Private Key Issue Is You Need to Establish the Boundary Controlling the Remote Get to Be in the Kitchen Is the Kitchen like a 24 Seven Kitchen and There's Always Something Happening with Dirty Dishes. Is There Your Time Where You Help Mom and Dad. If You're Married If You're Single. Even If You're Single.
There's Times Where You Just Your Own Faith and so That's Kind of Have To Be Discussed and Work through a Common Agreement Needs to Be Made during Your College Kids, Your Adult Children.
Are You Married Children, It Might Be Living with You. Time Just down and Just Being Aware That Other People Have Certain Needs First Trying to Keep Her Quiet and Not Constant Noise and Chaos in Your Home. It Is Something That Can Be a Big Disadvantage If You Have People That Are Being Inconsiderate Living with You Have To Be in Iraq Because What Can Happen Credited You Hurt and Harm the Very Relationship You Are Trying to Build a Bridge That Was so Little about Those Rows with Good Luck You Will Go Where Always They Come Back Home. Mark Is a Really Big Party or Go out A Lot Anyway but Strictly with One of My Children. I Will Tell You Her Name Melvin Drove to Let You Know I'm Addressing Issues That… Letting Us Know When You Come Home You Know She Will Be Here When I Was Away Because of Thousand Miles Away. You're Keeping Track of Where Was a Reread It Will Actually Have a Truck on the Phone but Caught like Your Goal Is Something That Part Is Clear You Yes You Are an Adult. I Would Encourage Our College Students Are Children Who Come Back Is Is Not about What I Mean. I Guess It Could Be Productive in the Case of Most Parents Is Not about Controlling You. Like You Said, You Know, This Is Our One Euros Are Elsa Someone Opened the Door the Door like Your Close You Are in a Dead Sleep You Been Used To Live Alone for A While You Robert. Where Else but You Still Worry about Your Kids, You Know, and an Assortment Understand It Never Goes Away in Iraq. I Told Her, yet We Know That Everybody 35 Even Though It Know Where You Were Us but Our Spray Your Site into Your Just so for College. Your Parents Are Trying to Control but Just a Courtesy, They Come to Be up to One of the Morning Just to Let You Know You're Becoming around 1 O'clock. Control Thing Does What Your Parents Know Just We Worry about You Because We Love You. It's Not about Control. We Love You. We Just Want to Know You're Safe. And so You Could Remove A Lot Of Tension.
I Think A Lot Of Honeycombs At Least Your House Did Any of My Work Going Out Of Town but You Know They Been Away for A While You in the Case of Mono College and Then Came Back after Tobit or Even so, I Would with Us Right Now As We Record the Show A Lot. I Just Drove up to Visit My Daughter Last Night and She's the Middle Final Jeep Has Been Harassed Me Always.
Well, When You Come in like You Were about to Bother You If You'd like to Know If You Feel like You Need to Spend with Me and Then She Also Needs Privacy Because She Needs to Study for Finals and Knew What She Is Knowing That You Know What You Should Worry about and Understand Okay Your Finals in and I Would Bring into Dogs with Me into like You Go to Work and I Really Will Just That Little Bit of Communication. I Now Know to Give Her Privacy of Understand Why It's All Personal, Sluggishly You Know, so It A Lot Of It Goes on, but It Was Clear There Are Issues with Your Kids Come Back with You and Your Disadvantages Go Away to College I.E. Get a Parent You Got to Remember How You Are and Maybe That's an Experience of Creating That I Think They Want to Keep Their Kids from the Same Well Is There a Faith That We Faith You Want to Remember That Your Children Are Going Towards Something. There, Their Future Is Ahead of Them and We Want Them to Be Excited Want Them to Do and Be Fearless and Naturally Going to Be Excited Were Saying Goodbye to Something That Was Very Familiar. Kayla Met with That Weakness up As Younger Children or the Deep Conversation or Knowing Their Every Move Real Transition Happening between Mom and Dad and Can We Stop to Consider Their Need and Just Staying Home Now. I like You Trying to Cramp Your Style and Tried to Engage in a Little Moment and Then You Can Have like a Whole Week.
Even Though I Didn't Do That Especially Your Adult Children. Very Special. I Will Say That We Implemented Curfew and Whether They Think Had a 9 O'clock Curfew That Would Be Unrealistic or Even 11 O'clock Curfew Should Be Taking Responsibility Though It Take for Example If They Haven't Been A.M. Class. Then I Did Not Take Too Many Late Nights for Them to Realize I Finally Shut the Client Something Problems on the Natural Consequence for Life like I Curfew and It Was and It Was a Reasonable Curfew for a College Age and Again Because Were Not Forcing You to Lick Were Helping You Your and Invited Valuable Part to Our down and I Don't Stay up All Night Long, nor Do We Get out.
Well Actually Do Get out by the Morning, but I Don't Go I Don't Get the Five in the Morning and Wander around down the Hall with the Pot and Banging That I Can Make Everybody Happy at Work. So We Want to Be Mindful of What Their Needs Are like Biker Your Sweet Daughter Would like Nerve.
What What Her Dad Expectations and Chris. I Think That's One Thing We Want to Talk about Academy That Management Expectation Established That the Rules for the Most Part, like What Are the Rules and Boundaries within That That When a Child Does Move out for When We Are Situation Changes Our Relationship Stronger and Not Fractured with Little Important Because We Do Have the Continuing Even a Closer Relationship with.
But That Relationship Was Completely Different. As You Become Hopefully Friends with Your Kids about You and, Been Very Successful at Making That Happen. Well, It's Just I'm Not Being Able to Share Our Equipment. The Only Way, or Maybe Even the Right Way That I Want to Invite Parent to Consider the Option. Consider the Possibilities of What Your Family Can Look like. Obviously Chris You Can't Find a Specific Degree Daily Seeking and A Lot Of Family and When You Going to Require Their Children Going Away to College. That Takes Them from Your Steady Friend or How Our Content Especially Firstborn Door. The Children That Are Just Wanting to Embrace the World They Want. They Want to Get Out Of Mom and Dad Proud Because They Don't like Mom and Dad, but There Ready to Take on the World.
Okay, Too. Not 1 Right Way or maybe trying when y'all are all back together again. You can make it work and it can be beautiful experience doesn't mean it's easy, but as you know, as a married couple learn to guide yourself, you can't live a life nor am I not we really supposed to serve. Other than that doesn't mean the doormats and that doesn't need to be taken advantage of, you know, I adult kids living at home doesn't mean they should do all the work and yet we fit around know were now transferring that responsibility because we are all adults and we do have different habits and routines and preferences, your daughter, she quietly she got Danny and if she were to be living at home as ours where I found that they had to have music on. They couldn't study without a could not deal with a lot of people facing they were given not something that we had to intentionally and I think that the thing a quick note that this is the next document. Now what does that look like when you have to give Nathan defer to your own wants and preferences and when you need healing on your want contracting because either or not totally right or totally wrong if not wrong to voice your need not fear adult children or even your parents voice mercy of the family room right design named teacher organization or individual brands like the Energizer goes towards call today at 7042 crowded with viewpoints voice condition after a set of financial problems.
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I understand your struggle with 39 years I've been helping relationship. I'd like to invite Ray sharing his strategies to help you navigate life and joy. The United States of America has a strong Christian heritage, most Americans don't know the truly important role God in the Bible is this you radio host and founder of American foundation, Dr. Chris before meeting Dave Internation with Crystal embark on a journey of discovering the hidden cover much of America's Christian heritage up close and personal look and how it evolved over the centuries learn about the government and the men who helped forge this new kind of Republic and acknowledge the creator from its very inception the truth about the creation of about the fate of the mounting father Christian principles. We need government for America.com secure your spot to join this to Connie and I are talking about generational living will look like when you come back home with you were just adult living with you.
Or maybe you bring your parents back to live under your roof. How do you negotiate some of these things, you were talking about figured out how to make it work. What are some of the things you suggest.
Okay the first thing I think that that's an area if something happened if you get your feelings about that earlier if someone get their feelings hurt because let's say you are very adamant extrovert and I live in a home of introvert, though my desire to wake up in the morning when late I wanted everybody and think good morning. How is your body deplete what you think you look like I live with 1/2 I lived.
I called my kids that one, and even my husband. They wake up in the morning and they don't want to talk to me don't want to discuss their day. They need time, you have to be aware that you got back each person need like a true meeting with morning go with it to say good morning mom. What are you doing today humor me on all that takes is a little bit of awareness and conversation.
The UI defenseless in areas transcendent how we going to resolve them. I don't advise brushing it under one mean we don't want to Dr. Polito thought we also don't want to verbalize everything that comes into our mind and let it come out our mouth because nothing solid like Peter, we work praying and pray and ask the Lord to help find areas that community find areas that togetherness find areas where we need to be sensitive to the needs of other debacle principal something new. It laid out in Scripture, we want to find and discuss what the expectations are and and if you got elderly parents. What are the expectations well that your elderly parent. As I and you have probably experienced it can be very demanding and extremely time-consuming how they can no require you to be with them and talk with them and that we can got work to do. My husband and I both work out of our home have a conversation I had to have them with my mom that I wasn't always available that I have to have block time block right had to get work done and I would let them know ahead of time to plan my week. I won't be able to be with you on this day because I will be traveling or I but I will be back here and I will take you to the doctor. I will be the only hearing me play me how to set the patients and lay them out and then confidently work on tweaking them which take note intentionality and I do want you all only do your laundry like your bedsheet or your laundry okay is going to take care of the laundry that that happened just from doing life together in one home near the kitchen counter that with Vista lock door phone line. Well that's that Sheridan and we got that we realize. Note the community and were going to pick Janet sometime mom and dad are super strength there any whoever letting Eric I picture and maybe a picture elderly They are doing as their contribution and bike) when your kids like your daughter is under the gun with colic like a good finals week. I would intentionally have food available to me.
I made breakfast lunch and dinner if I knew they were typically stressed mainly important to test taking skills, general healthcare brain function make sure I would build that into my day one gray allow grace and patience from the long way and remembering your way some people have remembered that Heather right they thought it through and the right way and their living with people that was not your way. That's not mine and that doesn't mean we're talking about relativity. We hear to be flexible and realizing that that is probably the right way to change a tire by other people might do it a little differently in attire with changed or the yard will still get motor all the different things that we have to do the deal and some kid wanted to make it fine and others wanted to get it done that, we ask you remind each other that God made us different unique gift strength and talent and that each of us contribute something to the overall health and well-being of our family. Are you covered above. You think this is that I think what he is also the bucket. Remember to cover some of the things you store just" is something you do have to think about before you going on a meal of something like economy so much.
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Sometimes about somebody might have emerged to the needs of the working class or school or whatever. Same with dishes and cooking with my parents. My mom is a great cook and I want my kids to have the chance to experience your will, so I'm not saying the ridiculous thing about things you can't cook and I certainly took all the great good you in the end. So when they moved and that was a way I felt like my mother tribute would be a blessing you to my kids because they get to see that. I think you know, you know that I think about Google theology allowed Cook to make cooking the food is a social thing it's a you all of heaven. 70 people jerked him over which gears review the social thing for me, but also your work himself.
A lot of southern traditions and foods are being lost and and so I wanted you just know what real homemade biscuits a flight out of prison. Llamas indicated that we did we do that you wanted.
My mom asked me biscuits to make great gravy. Those are things you need to learn to write difficult with this is cool so I wanted my kids to cook some food stuff.
So when my parents came as one thing that I have to smoke did you cook supper so that was you, like you said, reset expectations, but probably what happened was there came a point where that was really beginning to be too much for her. No lien and we didn't necessarily coming to your cooking for 64 she had some health issues and so you got. Be sensitive to those things even if you set expectations. My mom loves the two have flowers or weed here before labor came to be designated in the you know who this is your you do anything you want this to show your picture and you really do other things but were not going to mess with this you can dig it up, put our biblical waterfall. I don't care. This is your and you can do anything you want there in a theater so a lot of men and women like the gardener no idea. Let's grow tomatoes and stuff so we we preset that it was difficult because I don't know that they ever we wanted them to feel at home, but I don't know you in their mind. Sometimes I didn't feel like they do certain things so you need to try to make it what it is good a job like that. I think sometimes of exploiting of this is new home forever. You don't want you to be a would you want, but what order you want to hear remodel what you want to remodel Autocare you can do anything you want another just for much for people to learn you were talking about how you like to get up early in just know that they got shooting biking to multiply an apartment wind down this at the said there so many areas we could have gone deeper and I know parents and and your listeners probably are having more questions than answers.
And it lets you know more and I'd encourage them to reach out to the shelling we can maybe I can wrap it up with you on others and their differences may not the biblical mandate anyway to make multi generational Reading work. The key element mother and perhaps going that you would like to see me change or just wait work likable week flexible common courtesy to other people. We were doing for the neighbor that we can get with each other and lawfully got to decide on an exit strategy. Because sometimes it doesn't work and always take the younger kids like college or young married or living with you.
We want to always remind each other that this doesn't permit situation and if it stops working will make will make a change. You can move out or will move mom and dad somewhere else that now this. For the season. This is what God is called you how were going to live life and work will change that beauty on choosing to embrace multi generational Reading all bars been here for a while till they write 24, 25 years old and Chris. They all gave me about.
And like change mother lived here and the mother lived out that paying for your family. We are fluid our family there fluid and we want you admin plow as their needs and our families grow and mature and try to point you made. I just want to stress that a strategy needs to be handled carefully because feelings can get her people move out probably end up back together again, you're still family you need to be careful and have lots of communication always love each other. Love God put God first ever to be an issue will copy what a great show as always you just know so much closer you can go to Connie I would.com he is so much greater buzz was her podcast every Wednesday. There's a new unreleased equipped to be working on another book is just doing this as a – you was a Christian perspective. Learn more about impacting the culture for Jesus. Visit citizens for America foundation.com. This is the Truth Network