The Bully in the Rear View Mirror

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The guy behind you is honking and is tailgating and is swerving back and forth. So what is a Christian to. How can you do your grace car driver. In this situation that's the question on the Christian card. I shall we need to hear from you this morning because you guys have some more answers. I do 866-348-7884 as a member to call in and join us with your BMW bully story, 866-348-7884 in here to help us out. So I thought I first should set that we are alive this morning from Park Springs, North Carolina at the dangerous hard boot camp part of this phenomenal ministry. The masculine journey radio show does of going after men's hearts in week and I've had a chance to speak, already with the men this morning. So were so excited to have this opportunity now to bring in one member of that team, we have Sheila, this is with a good heart, women's ministry as well. Sheila good morning Ronnie, we got this we got this bullying thing are other just this morning. I'm so excited she got up very early this morning to see in California we have Susan Boyd and she's the author of the book bullies how to handle them without becoming one and Susan welcome. It's so great to have you here. Good morning Susan can hear me now this I do, there's probably a bit of a delay because you know it's only like 3000 miles between us, I can always use my phone. Let me know. I'm back in morning out great. It is a great subject and course the NFL is brought as a highlight. You know it's all the rage right now everybody's talking about this bullying subject but as a Christian card I have to look at this from how many of us, and are dealing occasionally with that car behind you work on that. The BMW bully, but it might be a Bentley boy here might be a Buick bully, but undoubtedly there trying to pull you back there there flashing lights or honking horns are trying to intimidate you or your family, your you got your wife and kids in this car is scaring you what you do.

We want to call in this morning with your story and share. We got Susan here to help us.

She's only here to help us.

By the way with your BMW bully story but maybe got a boss exploiting you maybe want your kids at school is dealing with a bully. We got Susan. We got Sheila.

These are both people that deal in his field and so when we got people like this man must, with many counselors plan succeed so Proverbs tells us is: 866-34-TRUTH 87884 and then also this morning coming up in our appraisal by the real black book at the end of the show. That's where he search the Bible for hidden treasure crowd for discernment, lift up your voice for understanding honkers honking is a form of communication. Ask any goose. Ask any goose you happen to see a honk if you listen to them in the morning on Tanya.

It's a form of communication.

So what can we learn from these honkers. What can we learn from the hopper behind you, but maybe there's a hunger in front of you that you had been listening to. I don't know God certainly has me happy is really unserious. He is having on the hopper lesson plan all week long and I was sure that one coming up at the end of the show in our appraisal by the real black book hi, I'm Robbie Gilmore, the Christian card. I Christian card I show we hope this change the way Americans look at their cars. They need to be paid for no debt watching people going to the slavery of debt to buy cars for years and years is what broke my heart and I believe I got called me to do this radio show and a big part of that is not to need a new car every three or four years. They need tender loving care. Got a German name Michael my 1995 Dodge Dakota said, not 10 feet from you that you see those old tractors are out Alan still running since the 1940s. What you think. Well truth is if you maintain a car at last as long as you do and they need to be safe and driven safely really say wear your seatbelt and don't speak if you are truly following Jesus. In other words, he's my car ahead of you. You don't need to be blonder just with this estimate, Americans waste 96 million say that every week, say it again 96 million gallons of gas a week is wasted on speeding so we don't necessarily have a gas shortage in this country we have a sin overage and so we can all do our part by doing the speed limit. But this morning, this is a live show would love to hear your call 866-34-TRUTH 87884 to tell us what is your bullying situation where you struggle with. Again we have Susan Boyd the author the book on bullies and we also have Sheila come with good heart. Women's ministry is going to be an amazing show, so the best part is you guys so because 866-34-TRUTH 87884 we have Jim in Greensboro, North Carolina. Jim you're on a Christian card I show good morning like Mark how you guard your I'm doing good you got if you got answer force Jim yeah I got it whenever I wanted. Bully you and your driving limit move out of the way and let them get by and perhaps down the road, and I love that Jim I love your heart as just grace.

You know they might be having a bad day.

Who knows, they may need to get the hospital who knows what's going on in their life right this minute and say your given grace right to engage in. And as my mother would tell me preformed to writing is MIB really going through some that great great what what would you say Susan I like the kind you know the rate on the road while in Hillary, you do have less. I do have a correct article. One day I will go on The bill with someone who came out of nowhere and he was driving a fixed truck sample tolerated got out of the drug. Looking at maybe will you will be ready and what would God know the logic ignored and so you get back in the global Susan family didn't engage him in that conflict. Now you and I like your day and will meet you at Clayton County Route anytime as long as I Susan a kind word translated ransom like that. Yeah, that's amazing and I commend you Jim, because honestly I have this engagement and it was a long time until my own story of Yalta display shame.

Shame on a Christian card out right but here I am I I'm driving along and I'm driving the speed limit and this man comes up behind me, flashing his lights and whatever and he rolled down his window so the Christian card. I rolled down his window guy. He starts off he was calling me a lot of different names that were very colorful and I have no idea what I did to you but I have every right to drive a you know and so off we went in the light turned green. Thank goodness, and Jesus was on my side because a man drove away and I sat there going. What if you got a gun stupid and you'd be dead right now because white white you know, and I wasn't I was not Jim Jim I was I was a Robbie was one of those things and Susan later saying I didn't do the right thing really did not know what you know we tell you yelling right back at my yelling that I have on you hear me I got Jim working let you go. I got another hit over one of the good work you in the wiki where there would be engagement and there would go for the log in the coronary new car and expanding in no did not have happened, but that would you go saying it's really hard for one person to have a fight. Yeah right.

She is now legally gotta go to break can tell that this conversation is engaging and so we need you to engage by calling 866-34-TRUTH 87884 what you do about that bully behind you. We need to hear from you. Thank you so much for calling Jim. We got so much more, and I just think that sounds awesome Susan. I found that music some years ago on the subject use it because it just it speaks about about the situation occasionally wonder were talking today because the NFL talk about it. How about car bullying.

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We also have Sheila coming with us. She is with a good heart, women's ministry, because we are alive today from Park Springs, North Carolina, and twice a year. I got nothing is much more fun than coming out here with our band of brothers and we get to we get to join a bunch of men helpfully hopefully going after their masculine hearts. Finding out ways of Jesus can really give them the abundant life and one of the ways that we can have that abundant life obviously is dealing with people that are trying to intimidate us. In some cases they may be behind you with their lights flashing in their swerving a Mr. stuff like that. Now sometimes you get involved in a situation where you got to follow somebody somewhere I don't know if you been there in a person that you're supposed to follow his driving in a way that you wouldn't drive which puts you in an awkward position.

But now, what happens if you get caught in road rage, between one of the people you're fine, whatever. We just happen to have a little example of that, that she wants to share what I tell Robbie is that the warfare average grades is contagious. Just like you had said that they making pieces contagious so I will not point fingers at my husband that he he engaged.

He engaged another driver hey was participating in some right rage and satire. In essence, because you're doing 80 on the interstate I can't do it by placing you do it with your vehicle, which is pretty heavy and quite dangerous weapon and what he was not aware until after the event was Oliver, is that by giving into that impulse, he actually killed me.

Not he personally met the reaction to that advance caused a lot of reactions behind as vehicles and I happen to be part of that great cars that had to deal with what was unfolding in front of us say you know you get caught up in the moment. Sometimes, and what you don't think about is what's going on in your rearview mirror because your just looking at your enemy only interstate while Susan, we need wisdom and I appreciate your vulnerability here situation. But I would think that that one right when you get to folk. I like that were on a turned down they forget a lighter longer range of they don't see everyone affect them because they cut them off like it's something to wear. See you one thing a person can you take a deep breath and I don't II have a lot of control here.

I'm still in my car I'm back on here take it back. I turn on the radio talk show your show Iraqi city, people get angry ideologically and pretty eerily very now and look around, but I like like I behind you happening but I'm thinking okay. When they get angry and take a grant down the radio never did. My life began talking and never going to be an articulate telegram, let me just relax and think the broader picture and distract yourself with the music because the current location where Underage kickstand that accelerator yeah try to make that right and not strong and make it right thinking helpful take a bath, ground can actually calm, what's your story out there. We have Susan with us today. We would love to know what you're struggling with what we have these resources. We would love to help you out. That's over here 4866 the number to call is 866-34-TRUTH 878-848-6634 now on the whole subject of bullying. Susan I was thinking that Sheila and I share the same pastor whose name is Chris Johnson City church in Winston-Salem is amazingly gifted speaker and and he talked about that we often are put into situations where we are either faced with fight or flight. Those are the two apparent options that we would face, but he said when Jesus was in those situations, you notice that he always went with option number three that there was 1/3 option, but in order to discover the third option is what that's hiding behind door number three. Because Jesus is back there and you gotta go there to find it you not to find that in yourself you like a fight and fight. You not find it in flight. You can only find that is and spend time with God and and and and so it's kind of like that. One thing that you got it figured out Jesus so well.

I got Tammy and Winston Salem. I hate Susan got Tammy Winston-Salem. We got her, back to be back in a minute talk about this bullying and we need your call 866-34-TRUTH 87884 we got half a Christian card.

I so still, state treasurer of that behind his flashlight once racecar driver to do 866-348-7884's number to call in is always a chance to hear all the show today Christian card I.com and download the podcast incessantly free. We would love for you to take any show that's there. We have all sorts of interesting topics we cover through the years, as well as many many many articles on all sorts of different situations, it's Christian card I.com today we have Susan Boyd with us. She's the author of the book bullying, how you handle that without becoming one, and we have Sheila Kuhn with heart women's ministry herein beautiful Park Springs, North Carolina, where we are with a dangerous heart ministry today doing a messenger to do So much fun we have Tammy in Winston-Salem who's calling and I have a Noah Tammy in Winston-Salem. I'm wondering if this is my wife hello Tammy, good morning good morning I like about what going on I Lorraine at work and for many months now. I now more than glad. So Susan, what is this lady just seems to intimidate Tammy. She talks down to earth. She's condescending. She finds fault with everything that she doesn't seems to get a kick out of toner off.

I'll let you on what the provider and provider. Okay, okay, if you think you can do it you can guarantee it and help that it can one and we keep that something pick up and felt think it's repeated back to thinking get away without getting in trouble help them realize what you might think they say something he did consulting okay let me hurt you write you if you think any Islamic can bring it correctly repeated back something like that is staying cool things and taking 11 and I think people won't blow. He sat yes that's I one thing that will think you can count on the debtor what you think going on and they could beat very quickly if you criticize what you're doing at work, but she could think in general terms, but you don't care.

You never do a good job on I actually care very much about.

I like to hear what, exactly what it that you get your get the proving that you would like to improve fine and very now she can't stop by the character arc keeping people that they can honor that leaflet now you going to confront it you going to try to problem talking not taking time at your picture going to continue to not let And get your not engaging by I escalating making a beat and repeat repeat back pain think she could be fadeout like in a mill right after a couple think everything is given a Earth where you may need because the corporate that make that half the work and I'm really up you can get away with it that anymore. You know that that's something that not tolerate that people get away with all the time. I created my office, they should start thinking make you like ninja, the need to find someone you can talk to that story that can help you. Is there anybody at all well the only time when it occurred. Finally, their small company like the honor of the company and I try to talk to her. Lastly, and she did nothing let you know that the ligament earth and in whatever seatbacks he worked hard, like I know you work hard you know I'm not me. I don't like to be treated with respect.

Everything okay and it always landed no one around to really get the methane later time plan. There are people around a negative thing about me is really no wind that you can talk about yet.

Now like you can show show kindness back. You're not weak that it will and what Christ did he fit best example I can think that in any in-line with the Pharisees. He never showed leak back down that he never really got.

I wrote the book book on belief how to handle them because I did. I really think he's a great extent on that link I handle.

The cubit Gary Inlet to trick him. He didn't back down, felt trying but still Frannie Vaillancourt and I think I'll be praying for you Kami and continued to return anger and kind that he did not entrap him like a guess you talked about here. Don't let your characters everything can stay with you and everybody can I make it back very, very kind to her.

Which is not always an easy thing for me yet is that bad. My say that again. She let that I'm not here to have brand that we now I am here to be friends with everybody on the kind of person we have to beat Frank to work together.

All I know you want to be friends with everybody. Everything about me that now they because there is no one network that even had a clear that anything I think about our other than our people at work that Ali paid any I can't believe how she treats you. I can't leave that for fear I never contacted anyone concerning Alexei and I like to not cremate okay back that perfect example and I think you're showing a godly example to correct you really feel it because I didn't think it greatly.

He said. One would think that Mickey does it again what she will and I actually cannot repeat what you said before I have talked about each anyone else could you now tell me from the back. If you have a concern. I like it here because I would never talk to you about my now if they need something public access between your next that. Could you tell me something because I like what it felt a lot like well if you can think of me. Please let me know. I do like I'd like you not thinking thank you thank you don't I okay people, I bet you that if you write up the now. The think you still showing her who you are continually picked up finally gets real narrow and the bottom right wheel now and keep it. Now she's the type you want to keep things real.

Now to get a Kami that you will feel even if she doesn't change because I can sizing it up. Thank you for that one. Tammy Douglas, you know, I'm painfully, highly that's all it's all come together because Jesus is working it out. We don't know. I thought all right we got now is been driving through North Carolina hopefully still with us is the name on forever. Now you are on the Christian part of the show even make it repletion Connie no call back.

We got Mark and Louisville working on the card I show you to come, but that happens so you can cause back 866-34-TRUTH 87884 866-34-TRUTH this is your chance to have a good discussion with an expert on bullying was your listing all that she will you've got a lot of stuff. Experience in these areas. I'm sure would you have some wisdom. I think that with with the bowling since it is very helpful to be very specific that the other. The only thing that I think I hear season thing is that as much as they try to take into an emotional level and actually make you feel like they're attacking you as a person, the more that you can DT remove that emotion from it and try to deal in the fact and not the feeling. I think the more successful you can day. I have this.

This is a great transition really is in the my praise of a real black book where we search the Bible for hidden treasure and feel free to chime in here and with anything Susan or Sheila. We search the Bible for hidden treasure crowd for discernment, lift up your voice for understanding, now this whole idea of talking okay I have to save it. I found this example of honking out of these cars honking, but this is a different kind of honking communication and in Johnny.

Are you ready to dish to share the honking is honking. This is not New York City. Okay this is how there's there's a lot to be learned about bullying a lot to be learned about life in general. From this honking and not that I know you think you have lost your mind will God put me at the honking was horrible but I honestly was sitting in a tree stand and I was listening very carefully. Hopefully for a deer that never came.

Because God had in mind that I would hear these geese as I was listening to the keys, I noticed that there was a head longer and there were subordinate hawkers, subtle helicopters going off on all wrong and then all these other little hawkers there honking back all gone gone gone gone and you just heard that in the soundbite. You're the head hunger which is a guide to leading the pack you got all these hawkers and edit. You would think that this would be a little bit annoying.

If you're the head hunger. But you know what is the little hawkers. This is important. Hawkers layoff there's no more honking and then all of a sudden they start falling off and you start losing your keys when they are doing what they ought to be doing that head hunger, knows how far everybody in the formation is away from him. He knows that there with him and they are actually encouraging him that he has got a big task on his hands, because you hear all that talking going on. I got a bunch of people and responsible for your now when you're driving, you may hear this honking and in him and maybe the next time you go think about Robbie Schoon.

These people try to communicate with you there. Try to tell you something which we once did an accessory contest on the Christian Car Guy show in the winter because I want to come up with a Christian accessory that was the most creative and the winter came up with the rebuke yourself horn so when you pushed it, it said, you know, return a kind word with Raven. All you know it just had a proverb you know judge not, but actually when you think about it. When a person is honking it made well be that you're in the left lane and you'll believe one thing that maybe you're not seeing that the light turned green and you know what the dirty let you know it.

I think great.

All right, now I'm sorry I people can read that really I doubt real quickly. Didn't mean.

She nodded and I got I grommet break going great that I can blow out like You get there and email me oh I'm sorry ending. I went back like well that I felt that very you know I think if you cut off they go by day.

I'm sorry that you like they don't really think we doing on her neck and kind. You you know I was very good at was huge and actually done that myself when I know I did something like well I just did that.

How hard is it to Mauser.

Sorry your really show a sense of you know, sometimes I come around them and you know you just blow it while you just blew it. But the thing is is that this constant communication becomes way more important than I ever dreamed and I would be a little bit vulnerable here as I told you were at the park Springs camp. This is a wonderful ministry. I seen all these wonderful men get this freedom within the leadership.

The honking had stopped. They were no longer have that constant honking back and forth to one another and what that led to I think we can talk about when I come back as we still got more honking to come at 50 cargo show. You'll never hear, 866345 on wings like these the same list of the Christian Car Guy show this morning we're talking about what you do about that in the rearview mirror. Do and you might be honking might be flashing his lights.

We are so blessed to have Susan Boyd here with us this morning and Sheila could from the good her women's ministry, as we are here in park Springs, North Carolina exiting from start boot camp. Talk about the subject, but we are actually in our appraisal by the real black book where we begin to see if we can learn some about God through this and I will. I want to play the soundbite of the geese one more time, but this time I before you play it. I want to explain. Listen for the head honk her in the subordinate hawkers. Be careful because it that you can hear hawkers subordinate hawkers go ahead Johnny said he didn't know, respect played twice right through that curveball and and he but anyway if he gets it will play if he doesn't get it wrong.

The sea got these geese there honking you got the head honk her in the sport hawkers.

The real issue is are we hawking echo are you staying in that constant communication on right here about a lot of mornings I got a good quiet time going for you and I'm I'm on my way to work and I'm walking the dog is honking back at me and I fall off and get focus on some bills.

Next thing I know I'm honking off the wrong direction. I haven't honk and also fortunate for me to work for Christian radio stations when I get my car. It's a and I also know I hear somebody talk about Jesus and I went over well I hung up the phone about two hours ago and I hadn't picked back up again and so that constant communication Sheila.

I know that's a big part of your life. When he is and and and and I hear you're leaning toward the geese example that we had a wonderful example of that in Colorado app in the high mountain ranges where you don't normally get to get flocks of sheep will will grace and there's always the one that has the bell on and it's really interesting. He's got a bell that is voices different and then he will blade in his spell were wearing and then the other sheep, you can just see them, they'll just come over the heels I might not even be in sight but I hear that that voice or that bleeding and I think they come and they become one, as they're moving to a different place. It's it's it's a beautiful example of how to stay in communication with the one who's leading you where you need to go is: but are we here in the hall, so in I love that's what I love about your book, Susan is it takes us back there is a soup is a real solution to the bullying problem is, is to turn to our leader rights to live and yet also not allowing the bully you know Dan and and you outline. And yet it cannot leader and so is right now maybe their child is in middle school, or in high school and and you know they're big on bullying right now, but the little bullying is what really hurt somebody's self-esteem is a girls tarp on each other and I it's it's it's a scary thing hurt somebody's and pick somebody up to go to football game and the next thing you know that one becomes an outcast.

What what what might you suggest what I think about that kind your child one block that I can look at look at Scripture let Christ how included Eli Eric that you know that you people that left out. I mean going back and helping children to realize like any I know you know Jenny might not have and feel like you I like going and cannot anyone not treat knowingly anything you and different life now they can make a different line Christ made showing kindness when it is not necessarily deserve that's called grace.

I'm pretty sure that's how so awesome. Well, I think it gets back to be in a grace car driver and I am that's in, that's so much of what we face here in the Christian car graciously thank you for being with us. Susan God bless you again. Her book is a Christian Car Guy.com out of handle bully without becoming one in a course you can find out more about the journey of the best Internet radio show