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We are talking about this in the first Saturday in August. He does believe it's already August. Where did the summer go you can speak it's okay I don't okay I got it over the summer rental and hopefully better questions later in this. I know that would surprise you but that wasn't a tough one.

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I'm excited about. We are on a quest today as it did say on her intro were on a quest to find masculinity if you do Facebook today and check out that the question we have is how would you define masculinity and just beckoning on there and put your own definition of it, but were not talk about that today and talk about what it is today is often seen as one was really meant to be as a masculine group as men then also individual masculinity's were talk a bit about that today I'm excited about the show are you Dennis are you excited about children. I'm very excited Sam, you sounded on swing for the music math fail.

That's good will start with the clip. Actually it's it's a movie called, not easily broken. And in this scene you what's happened so far in the movie is a man's wife that had kind of a struggling relationship and she's had a car wreck and she's in the middle of rehabilitation and he's thinking about this topic of what is it to be a man… And how this plays out and working to come back and talk about tell story about anatomy God made Adam instructed him to do three things. Cultivate protect down through history, men have always been measured by how hard cultivate how well the wives and children in the old days when the southern minutes, providers, somewhere along the line and changed when he started becoming the maybe it was because the man forgot how to be heroic because women didn't want to be protected is the pain in life where man's reasons for being he was important Dennis were talking before the show likely to paraphrase some of this from my wild heart is those kind of a similar thing what was being said about Harkey paraphrase a little bit of that passage from a book John Etheridge was saying was essentially that society is taking that away from a man that society that we that we don't know how to to to have a masculine identity T anymore and were not sure society really wants us to be.

Society wants us to go a different way. With that I know that that one time you heard him speak and he talked about you know on the talk shows us a world of men miscible you you. You've really grown masculinity you try to make him women and there's nothing wrong with being a woman were made uniquely as man or woman in God's image doesn't mean that a man can't be loving doesn't rally LOL oh it's a question for Robbie. All right, I thought your fall asleep yesterday. That's part of a big department masculinity is David is the perfect example of a man after God's own heart. And yet, and obviously could take on Goliath, but one of love or hate it. He was will take Solomon who wrote the song of Solomon and that's a love story of love stories, and in fact I don't know that I ever would've completely grasped the concept of love, if it works about thinking of it as good an answer out a quick question for you.

Now if you think that Jesus Christ was Jesus only strong was the only tender as you read the stories of Jesus in the Bible what you hear about him there. Such a balance because he is the ultimate warrior in heat.

He took on Satan and one all of our sins so he is a warrior but look at the love and the compassion he gave in masculinity.

There's a balance we have to be a warrior. We have to be strong as a leader to guide our sons, but we also have to be gentle with our sons to show them how to love and how to feel love the same for our daughters, and most especially our lives.

So what is it you think 20 think it is today that society says a man needs to be enough. If you would say listening to whatever show you want to listen to and it's a called a man bashing show for lack of better term, what it what are the things that they're saying a man needs to be here. He needs to not be what he needs to be soft and tender in understanding any doesn't a doesn't need to be a tough guy. He doesn't need to be of a bully which we can get out a little bit. We were not saying that, but doesn't doesn't need to have any fighter any reason, beware in all the right stuff and get his hair straight just right and but I think I think what society is saying and what even art our culture saying what commercials are saying what shows are saying is it's taking out that toughness of a man right in toughness is needed. Sometimes Robbie's you think about the topic of toughness. When one is a man need to have toughness and in life wherever your family is going to need protection. You walk around today.

You know there's going to be all sorts of things that are going to come in their going to try to take away the purity and lots of short and that's where a man can step out as far as toughness is concerned, there's lots that clipped out is not just to protect, there's the cultivate and the work part and I find all that really fascinating like where's the masculine aspect of cultivation and even Jesus obviously spent a lot of time on that with the parable of the soils talk about planning, but I love your eat your idea of when we get our fruit think it will be on the spot. Yeah, it were always cultivating some level right were planting seeds of something in it and what fruits can be produced by that is really the question and answer the questions on whether were cultivating or not, but we cultivating the things to produce the fruit that we want to have in our kids. We cultivating the love for them is Al you're talking about in a way that shows in toughness when they need to be tough. You know in a chosen tenderness when they need to be tender and that's really a balance that you have to cultivate yourself, in yourself to show them in the most the time. Can they break a cycle absolutely the most the time kids will repeat what they seen and so that leaves a lot in our hands. If we have kids to do it and I want to step back for second on the aggression thing where I'm not bashing that the talk shows or whatever. I think the year they take on a problem of aggression and there is a problem with aggression society today. We can ignore it might be just because there's bad parts of it you don't throughout the whole to meet him throughout the whole thing that that would where would Army be without some level of aggression, where would police officers need to have aggression. World football beat which I left about without aggression writing that it's not all bad finisher. There was another example in the book that I found really interesting. A lot of listeners are probably remember Columbine and what happened there and and certainly the aggression that those young men showed is not were talking about when they went in and they start shooting up some of the fellow students, but there were examples of true bravery from from some young man, one that opened the door so that others could get out and actually lost his life. I believe another date that covered up young lady that does acts of bravery and strength encourage in the face of all that, I think that's really what were getting at absolutely not even from 9/11 you had the plane where they they rush the cabin in on at their own peril saved lots of other people and that takes an active willful like a better term aggression, I must step in here, do something, it needs to be done and it takes courage takes all that back to the cultivate thing Robbie.

If you are you are asking us earlier what cultivate me and so how would you explain cultivate in today's world be back in Adams world cultivate really meant some degree I got a grow food and all those things.

But what does it mean today. Lots of fascinating word and that you plant seeds if you're a salesman that we which have been most my life as a car salesman you you plant seeds in order to try to sell products, but you you plant all kinds of seeds if it in the faith world by teaching Sunday school or even doing a radio show you plant seeds at home and with your relationships you plant seeds in friendship and sometimes you plant bad seats and they grow up real ugly man. Yeah, you gotta try to sometimes going on cultivate you weed that garden a little bit and try to pull out some as bad seeds and hopefully none of us can be perfect, but hopefully along the way. You know those bad seeds are produced just a few weeds. We can pull out and in the crop will still continue to grow as we talk about this topic a work note is work.

The definition of a man today.

Now I think people lit that defined them.

But I wouldn't agree with that. I think that it's got to be a balance because you you have 24 hours a day.

If you spend eight hours work. What are you doing to get eight hours of sleep. What are those other eight hours. I think those are really what define you marginally waiting and drive through its think that is in the clip range. I like to cook, as it makes us think we all talked about different times this week where it really made a stop and ponder some things that's appointed some eclipses it's going to hit you little differently than he hits me that has Dennis it's Robbie Vinnie and I think that even in that clipped it's good I don't also agree with the statement a man as measured by his work that I think that is a society look and I think it depends on what you define as work is it your job is that your work or is it is your work.

What you do for the time you're awake, you're not asleep time you spent with your family how you treat people at work.

Note at your job and check in on. We talked earlier about football and then it's what you don't have the microphone on when I go ahead and talk about. We have a fantasy football league this year and in Dennis thinks he's gonna win it handle to the risking weld that there is a downfall). A draft Redskins and it's going to be all over grim fantasy football league this year and I'm in a draft a couple generations for my friend Benny yes I can come in and and please him on that. But the way will you just be a part of it.

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Delivering pizza some nights. Great group of people come out and thank you for the pizza. It was great how pizza was awesome, and I'm having a hard time staying awake now. Thanks guys for this. At that full feeling. Vinnie wanted to talk with you a little bit about this topic are cultivating when we talked about it before the show. You talked about what cultivating looked like in your generation was strictly family structure I was cultivated by my grandfather and my father, my aunts, my grandmother, you know it's not just wearing the pants to be cultivated to be the power of the family, but it was strictly a family structure today. We have such a big difference and I don't really know how I would look at it. I know it's happening that stay-at-home dad, well he's a dad. He's not a mug you know and I find that very difficult. But that's a financial thought of in a family you got women that work that make twice as much, much more money then the man makes so okay now the logical thing is the other go out to work and you stay home and take care of the kids. That doesn't change his title. He said dad not a mother and masculinity to me as well.

I don't know if pepper myself on the shoulder here, but my journey and the doors that I opened up in the rooms that I went through to get to where I am now.

I like the person that I am now. I feel that I'm more of a man today some soft and more understanding in all aspects of life. There was times in my life when I couldn't, I would see situations people amongst husband and wives that I thought was totally stupid but it was ways of handling it and most people don't handle it right. I think I taken up enough time now and I know that I had another question for you at where were you as a kid on Sundays me yeah I was at Grandma's house and you better make sure you record and was out.

I think I told the story to have I done that on the radio thinks are okay. I love baseball and I was pretty good at it and we had to play a doubleheader and you know there was no way that you wish your dad or mom, you know, I want to go to movies with the guys or I got a play ballgame.

I got no 1 o'clock you're at Grandma's house know if sands abuts you know, and we played a doubleheader and I was too ashamed to tell my friends, 14 and 15 is 60. I gotta get home I gotta go home and meet otherwise not on bus my head anyway. I stay for the doubleheader and so the goodness I seen the call come in my father's car. It was about 1:10 come in right across the baseball field. No stands and that you know in center field and he came right on the film directly at me. I was a page 1st baseman and many many many years.

Naturally, I jumped at her. When I ran home from Matthew many years ago my dad had the pleasure of taking care of my dad and I asked him. Is this what would you have done if I can jump out of the way, I am not kidding. It is, I would've killed you deathly different time and effort are infinitely at different it would. We were talking about. Yeah, just the differences in society. You rub your talking a little bit about the shows a crack on your age is not that our carnage, but what were some of the shows that about men or manhood that was on when you are drawn up. It was father knows best, he met types of simplistic lot my world but and then you know my three sons in the shows where the dad or even Patty Duke you know those shows them the father was a father of wisdom in somebody that people would turn to for his strength and and for his direction compared to some of the stuff we see to let some of the shows Dennis you're talking about that kinda made an impression on you that the rooms that UL listed was you asked are you guys look so much like it's hard to tell you partly were brothers we sing alike to close on the shows.

Is that really so different aspect over the last several years that truly saw this movement of what's a man look like in societies evening TV show. I remember in the 70s when one data time came out. There was no father at all. I couldn't believe it, just surprised me that just know why would you want to have a dad family. My dad lived in a whole other state so in a course that just I could imagine having a show without a dad in the other one was married with children and I remember watching that thinking you know why ignoring the dad where they treat him like that everybody else was they really seemed off and he seem like he just was checked out because nobody cared and this really struck me at that really pulled me away from TV for a long time. You see this move from your dad is a part of the solution to the problems and I'm facing to your dad. Just a stumbling block in my way of life and I and he's gonna just be kind of bumbling there's one that I saw. Not too long ago I last man standing where the kids have different political views from the father but they still love and respect the father and and that's something that we need to get back from you may disagree with your father and you may be very wrong and that but by the same token, you still show love and respect for a father who shows love and respect for you absolutely, and we kinda dovetailed off of it and from the standpoint I took us there, but just to see that society has changed some of our perception of man. What what you mean to be a man and so we talked about and at first go to God created us to do certain things to work to cultivate, protect, if that work is a stay-at-home dad that's taking care of the kids and doing homeschooling or whatever that looks like it is to work, cultivate and protect now what does God have to say about you this when I listen to a clip from a movie that you probably wouldn't expect it would be playing it's from the Lego movie.

Yes, the Lego movie didn't hear their own Lego movie and it's it's a kids movie. But a lot of times in kids movies are some real truth in this clip you have a good guy who thought that he is been told that he special is realizing he's no different than anyone else, to some degree in the bad guy and listen to this interchange between him and the bad guy in where it ends up you bad guy you are the most talented, most interesting and most extraordinary person in the first amazing things you are special and so my so is everyone. It's about us right now it's about you and you still can change everything so well as you listen to that clip about being the special do you believe that your special yes okay you believe Dennis is a special yes is what that clip speak to your heart remind you of is you listen to my son there are times when he makes mistakes and I have to snap them back into reality show them what's right.

But he still special doesn't mean he's the bad guy in when I have to do that I'm not the bad guy either. We have to do in the way where there is balance and that Kelly goes back to the warrior. There we were talking about earlier on. You have to know when to show love and window be firm and we were talking about. You don't have to be the bad guy like times we don't see ourselves as bad guy. Robbie was asking about this before the show but we minutes or souls of the bad guy do we see ourselves a special and if that's only two choices which side of the equation gonna land Iraqis you listen that clip about the special you have a favorite saying that you told, I think everyone but me and I don't know why.

Well let me to have rectified this right now. Isaiah 61 clearly declared that this is the year of Sam, this is the year of the Lord's favor that Sam is the Lord favorite 22nd of March. He said it was a year then well it's your years like the kind of Lego movie. It's everybody gets triggered. Everybody is there and that word favor is similar to the word grace. In fact, is the Hebrew word for that and and it's an amazing thing that to me and the more I soak in that and I see that no matter what happened, work wise, cultivation wise protecting lies from God standpoint.

Robbie is still the year that Rob is his favorite, or still the year that Sampson's favor or whoever you're listening insert name Al Dennis Betty how we get a day.

You guys got months and years you had a you had less of a journey back. We did. I got a Monday he did he did he get a Monday term special Dennis.

What makes us special.

What makes the listener the person listen this right now is special. What makes them special when she special first and foremost as you were created in the image of God himself.

He is your father and you are his son, Diane, and he loves you daughter your daughter to be not a lot of you not only made in the image were uniquely made in the image and reminisces I really mean to you be uniquely made in the image of God says what wrong really cool picture and Dr. Michael Brown pointed out this way be of the day on and George went dollars.

Similarly, that everybody reflects God or sees God in a very unique way. And so you get a chance to talk about that show that however you reflect God, and with in with the way your butt when you put that together we Dr. Brown put it is like an orchestra or the way that George MacDonald put it, is like a big field of flowers it when you put all of them together you gets his incredible harmony, but nobody can think that their view is special.

You know they take up the whole trumpet section, and we uniquely clear that Gloria got us another glorious is if we don't show it world is that it to show your glory and live like you're special this week and believe that you, as a man talking and then it's okay to be a man. We need to be men and ladies. Let your man be a man and we appreciate listen to mass and turn the radio photomask Internet radio.org Vincent we have coming up with a death can't come up in September.

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