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Love is attainable. I mean a hopeless romantic, but I found it.

Do you believe in love at first sight and leaving last first chasing true love coming up on Sunday morning. Today is also Super Bowl Sunday with Cincinnati's bangles taking on the Los Angeles Rams. Koppel has taken a closer look at America's game and shares a life lesson we can all learn from the agony of defeat she is three years for firms with the Saints stool is nothing you can do you can just rail against the night football friends handle defeat particularly well especially want to burn coal costs accrued to the Super Bowl.

What I want to say no but there may be a lesson. On Sunday morning to a trailblazing comedian from a pioneering television show Jim Axelrod is in conversation with Chevy Chase Chase was the first one to say those decades and dozens of films later might be time for Chase to take a look back. Was it odd that suddenly you're the guy on the cover of magazines. No I feel pretty strongly that I was the funniest conversation with Chevy Chase later on Sunday morning. Luke Burbank looks in on weddings where the bride and groom have stand ends plus thoughts from Jim Gaffigan and Joseph Tallon, his mom back with us on this Sunday morning February 13, 20, 22 will be back after this Valentine's Day we sent Susan Spencer in search of true love. At least the meaning of true love and were happy to report she's back with some lovely news is when anyone in 2004 National Geographic photographer Jody Cobb set off on any reporters dream assignment go find the love and capture it on camera saying to say that there are three stages of love last romantic obsession and long term attachment started with lost leftover girls spring break in Cancún this people know you were coming. I was really out of place on the beach. I was overdressed you were dressed I had close on stage to romantic obsession or attraction required a trip across the ocean to Italy you're obsessed just takes over your whole life is a state of need. You can't eat. You can't sleep. You can't think straight or photographs from the streets of Rome and Florence certainly make her point.

Can you imagine a world with everyone in that state of romantic obsession, we would have roads we would have bridges whenever back snow around looking at each other without being met. Which is why. With any luck, romantic obsession becomes attachment found a couple in Ohio 20 children 2021 children as attachment that yeah 75 grandchildren and hundred and 32 great-grandchildren.

So did you come away from this feeling like true love really does exist. Of course it does. It's a universal emotions. The strongest emotion will ever feel so maybe it's not surprising that, according to a CBS News poll, 86% of Americans agree that true love is real and even more encouraging. Two out of three say they know this because they have experienced it.

How would you define true love. I think it's sole recognition like you see each other deeply. The person becomes a part of you like your arm like your nose, you are considering them with every move that you may.

This is the first book that is the first to leave Williams has written the book of love more than once she's a best-selling romance novelist part of writing romances is now trying to solve the unsolvable. What brings people together. What makes people stay together.

Love Shane and he loved her but don't necessarily expect to find real life answers on the printed page. No one shows and a romance novel the work that it takes to sustain over a long period of time. Why don't you nobody read every day in and day out of getting the toilet paper I'm at the gas station. Do you want anything, you know it's a fantasy and Ashley now in these weird times. Everyone wants an escape is what we see in movies, compared to what we see in real life, life, textual movies are especially romantic comedies, usually about an hour and 1/2, so this is amazing what a great view screenwriter John Patrick Shanley story of a somewhat quirky love one human Oscar, you are the 1987 romantic comedy Moonstruck that he says at first he wasn't sure about pairing share with the much younger Nicholas Cage but love works in mysterious ways so the screen test was incontrovertible. They were born to us what tells you that the way their eyes light up when they see the other person with bold hunger, aggression, desire, when somebody looks at you with negative excitement that you're alive.

Do exist, they could talk to you halfway home ourselves and to break our hearts. I love all people and die if you actually are deeply enamored of the person you want something from them.

Try the truth we do.we do dog wakes them up to my God, it's happening. Time is running through my fingers that I'll never get it back. I should do this tomorrow may never come.

I could be hit by a mail truck let's go. This is love, which you think is harder the falling in love part or the staying part falling in love is outside your purview.

It happens to maintaining a loving relationship with another person I'm always hearing God's. It's a lot of work. You don't believe that you know I'm a little work ethic area to describe primarily is a lot of work. Seems to me to be excessive body if a little work appeals to you. Psychologist Arthur Aron is your guy a research professor at Stony Brook University. He says his steps were keeping the love alive, are proven to be effective.

For starters, try doing novel and exciting things together.

If you've never going to an opera go to an opera if you've never kayaked on the river kayak on the river to the idea is that when you initially with some so much excitement forming a relationship connecting with this other person which you get used to, but if you do something new and challenging with the partner it's associated with the partner in your relationship, so it helps rekindle and you as a scientist absolutely believe in true love yes affect. That's what made me start starting. I fell in love and affect the person I fell in love with became my long-term collaborator. In fact, my wife, and they been married for 47 years. As for our other love experts.

I was single for a really really long time and was sort of getting into. But then, but I got on the dating apps and I see this beautiful man and then we went on a date and it was magic and the date just never ended. Do you believe in true love. What I don't think.

Love cares if I believe, like gravity, like climate change, it just is just is.

Have you found true love in your life more than once.

Some people have loved me, and I have loved.

It's been wonderful part of my life an important part. Now you are cordially invited to a wedding unlike any you've ever seen Luke Burbank explains, we are gathered here today. It's almost Valentine's Day and love is in the air, as evidenced by this intimate and informal wedding took place just last week in big Fork Montana.

I do with the power vested in me, but there's just one thing. These aren't the brides directly stand ins for a real bride and groom were thousands of miles away. I was this possible because of an obscure Montana law that permits double proxy marriage illegal wedding were neither person even sets foot in the state. Everywhere I go people disco double proxy marriage.

What's that SST we had the sounds you think Allison has been Flathead County Clerk of District Court since 1993, which means she oversees all legal marriages. It was about a decade into her tenure before she even heard about this law, thanks to a call from a lawyer looking for a creative way to marry a couple that was overseas.

I think I literally said to him on the phone dear Kimmy, the laws been on the books since Montana became a territory likely started to let young minors who come west for work marry their sweethearts back home these days, at least one person getting married has to be a Montana resident or active member of the military is a complete bizarre piece of code, and as far as I know there's not a single other state in the union that allows double proxy and here in Flathead County.

It's become a big business. 80% of all wedding in this picturesque corner of the treasure State or actually by double proxy including 295 last month alone in 2019, we did 1200 and then call it. So in 2020. We went from 1200 a year to 4200 and then in 2021. We did another 4300 marriages.

This is so crazy this phone so we have to shuffle, but we were to start functioning and it got insane.

John and Teresa Kennedy run Armed Forces proxy marriages out of their home in big Fork.

It's one of just a handful of companies that perform these marriages before the pandemic. They say the average around 40 weddings per month how many of these weddings did you help facilitate last year 2000, you stop counting because it just becomes Lotta work for $750. The Kennedys will help a couple file all the necessary paperwork becoming legally married in Montana might sound like an way to walk down the aisle, but it worked out for Rachel Frenchy oni and her husband Michael. He's currently overseas but they got married last March ahead of his deployment unsure if they'd have time for a more traditional wedding email saying mountains of glacier Park on irenic HN and how long I hadn't started singing the leading being legally married actually allows Rachel to know more information about her husband's whereabouts when he's deployed and there are other benefits to being married in the military for one getting a basic housing allowance which helped Jacob Seifert and Ameena Kamal saved to buy their first home for us as a couple starting out it sounds. You know you committed some trite this financial thing was important to us that that really upset when they got married in December 2018.

Ameena, a political campaign or was home in Florida while Jacob then an Air Force senior airmen stationed in Korea with Tom and Teresa's help. They took the plunge.

But that didn't mean Ameena was quite ready to tell her family that she gotten married in Montana via the Internet. They just blanks and my mom had to take some time to accept that.

I kept it from her new that when we did it we had goals in mind.

We had a vision and we knew we were each other's person I'd I was like you Teresa is proxy for Ryan Weaver to Karen about to be your wife. I love this were in the moment you're standing in for some your you're doing something that we feel is a patriotic duty on our part. So much so that Tom, Teresa, and their employee Rachel Bo Dick perform actual vows on behalf of their clients. Even though there is no legal requirement to do so.

You ritual as proxy for Maratha bass take Ryan Weaver to be your husband on the day we were there Teresa and Rachel said I dues on behalf of five couples asked us to do that because I know that it means the world to the people that remain and it's such an easy thing for me to do another stack of licenses for you. Meanwhile, Peggy Allison, who at one time had never even heard of this quirky law has a new problem. Double proxy marriages have become so popular. She worries her office might not be able to keep up.

So we should probably just stop the interview right here so that you know we won't have anything to air this could be a big problem for me. Could be a problem for my office because I got my hands full height podcast. It's me Drew Barrymore all my goodness, I want to tell you about our new shout to his news podcast and in each episode mean a weekly gastric and cover all the quirky find inspiring and informative stories that exist on the wall because well I and maybe you do too. From the newest interior design trend Barbie car to the right and wrong way to wash her armpit also working to get in the things that you just kind of want to leave and were not able to do in daytime television. So watch out. Tristan is ever you get your podcast. It's a good news on the got onto a lot of interest of a different kind football on this 56 Super Bowl Sunday whether the bangles of the Rams when Senior contributor Ted Koppel finds real meaning in the final score when the go jigs and his bills you to drink his sports reporter with a personal bias provides that sometimes missing among professional sports commentators is froufrou perspective. Rule of victory in the strikes was three weeks ago in the magnificent employee of going between the bills in the Kansas City chief was three drink every reason to believe that his beloved boules one game away from the Super Bowl, but that you still have not found one in the immortal words of your good girl over the Ones it's good this game is going to overtime and overtime if your team gets the ball first schools Tristan's corridors to be a touchdown.

You win. So getting the ball first can be a big deal.

It is decided by the flip of a corn belt was a coin toss. If you can get back 1 foot when it isn't quite that simple projects what the odds favor the team gets the ball for the chief scriptable the trees. I'm not a fan of overtime rules manifold when both of congratulations with cheese on a hard-fought victory. Mars gracious the quarterbacks showed close to those young men demonstrated something that the country is all but forgotten how to win with dignity and blues with grace in the days afterwards. There was this really compelling gesture from she experienced me $13 donations to the charity set up by Josh Allen quarterbacks of the bills. Jason is a sports columnist for the Wall Street Journal troops friends made some versions of $13 donations 13 being the number of seconds it took the Chiefs to tie the game and send it to overtime.

This resulted in hundreds of thousands of dollars and it was really touching thing. When you consider how acrimonious that ending could have been Jason. I don't think it will come as a shock to refer to what I'm driving at is the question of whether our sports friends are capable of doing something that are political firms are incapable of doing. I think sports mercifully is one of the last places where we still have commonly accepted facts when the scoreboard says 3027. We don't go around and say it was 4238 and I think that is a significant difference between our athletic platforms and some of the other platforms in our lives about sports that I think kids learn pretty early on, which is maybe this time I won't. When annual when maybe the next time if I work harder when we all have to play by the rules to have the game be meaningful.

Condoleezza Royce national security advisor and Secretary of State in the George W. Bush administration is a professor at Stanford and a lifelong passion for football for four years in the garage. Let it be known that she really euros to be Commissioner of the National Football League.

Not anymore.

But as I've gotten older and wiser.

I started to think that maybe it's not that great at top it all out to staff and probably a wise decision between charges of racial discrimination and sexual harassment in the league. It's become a very tough job in the sometimes of course those enforcing the rules get it wrong and that lives in the commission is left to us was the king was three years ago in another playoff game between the New Orleans Saints and the LA rare 2220 game drew breeze loss of half of the sideline just completely takes the Saints receiver mystical is really egregious you could rightfully argue The same from scoring Super Bowl just was allowed to happen ever to anybody in the stand that I received. You may have recognized this particularly rabid since friend is James Koeppel who sometimes also dabbles in Democratic Party politics. I was just have to do some that the Commissioner did apologize to the coach and no grandkids feel terrible about it.did anybody think of bringing a lawsuit a lot of people dumb about turning New Orleans worth his salt salt. Plaintiff you know you all to move. Blue what happened were still in a situation where games are very often left to subjective decisions and visuals on the field friends so to eat right.

Ultimately, though, in sports and in politics. There is final authority and an understanding whether was handed down by someone in the striped shirt or a black robe, fair or unfair for the good of the sport and sometimes for the good of the nation you live with it as Al Gore did in the wake of a 5 to 4 Supreme Court decision that delivered the presidency of the United States to George W. Bush. Let there be no doubt while I strongly disagree with the court's decision. I accepted for the sake of our unity of the people and the strength of our democracy. I offer my concession. That is how democracy has to work. It is really important that that rule that understanding that I may not like the outcome but I am going to respect the outcome. That's extremely important.

Now I will say there's something that's also forgotten that about 2000, there were people on the other side. Some of them in Congress who said he's not really my present so started started really have to get back cents that our elections are the test of democracy and that when there over so we comparing a bad call for ballgame Supreme Court decision that caused Al Gore the presidency. Not even close. At some point in football and in real life. In order for the system to function. You simply have to accept when there are no further appeals should reach 60 court decision recounts know you're talking about 2020. I don't know how many different recounts that all find the same thing. No back at all anything other than minor discrepancies that happen in any election in the country just bleeding so the change is not really see where her refusal to accept the notion currently in a few hours, though, about 100 million Americans will gather before their televisions to bear witness to one of the few remaining national events were accepting the final score as fact remains a widely accepted practice now all thoughts from our Jim Gaffigan well it's here. Super Bowl Sunday, America's most American holiday.

Why don't the half time. The spectacle of what Sunday has become makes perfect sense. America turned Jesus's birthday into a shopping spree Independence Day into a barbecue and memorial day into a white sale, but somehow Super Bowl Sunday is become an exact reflection of who we are today's game will feature a mix of blood pumping patriotism, violence and pageantry dressed up in good old gluttony and consumerism. We will eat while we watch the game.

Is there anything more American than eating while you watch other people be active on television and on like a Thanksgiving turkey or Christmas fruitcake today is about eating things we actually enjoy nachos buffalo wings, sub sandwiches, pizza, anything you want. This is America's day wouldn't be Super Bowl Sunday. Without some incessant unapologetic consumerism, the lifeblood of the American soul and economy. The commercials that aired during the game will not be viewed as interruptions but embraced as infotainment which we will immediately post about on social media, turning the country into an enormous involuntary focus group. America needs this Super Bowl Sunday in my lifetime we've never been so divided just two different sides to different realities people little body versus people that are right. We need a day to sit at home and route 14 with an opportunity to do that like an hour from Saturday night to Sunday morning. Chevy Chase is in conversation with our Jim Axelrod about a life in comedy three years running and I'm no slouch sell yourself short judge tremendous slouch. It was all right very 1980, when Chevy Chase made and it still here today the year after a near fatal heart failure.

The hard things all we removed his relentless, deadpan like this much better. Funny, why did you leave SNL or caustic and raunchy as we got to see for ourselves. During our conversation that of all those characters which one is closest to the pledge because it really was pretty much what party it all still makes it hard to tell if Chevy Chase is just joking what you think of Saturday Night Live now takes no way that I can't tell if you're joking or serious answers that Witt was the foundation for one of the most successful comic acting careers over the last half a century. The first to say where Jase and you're not the first weekend update the fall down breakout star from Saturday night lives.

First, that included Dan Aykroyd. Well, my wife, Gilda Ratner, the oil was about the supreme court decision on the definitely not just John Belushi seem to have a special talent for getting under Jason's skin anytime I could find a little peace if there was any resentment. It came as no surprise to chase suddenly you're the guy on the cover of magazines first among equals was at odd no I feel pretty strongly that I was the funniest laugh it off when he left during SNL second season. Chevy Chase Hollywood heavyweight Scott parents good and the three amigos, among others, did more than $1 billion at the box office during the 1980s. Those wonderful movies.

Good God that with my mark of success getting movies and making them funny I could really write my own stuff. Tell people where to go this proposition until my feet people where to go. Seemed important to him and still cease to be now is that we love the bottom. Fletch was closest to you as a person, attitude smoke, I'm getting to old sayings will smoke you Cornelius Crane chase was born into an old blind New York City family dates back to before the American Revolution's parents divorced when he was young he always ask a comedian like to become a comic part of it come from the pain. I think if you speak to many comedian so say the pain fear comes from their childhood. He loved to hang out with his father, a book editor who counted Truman Capote and Norman Mailer as friends but he lived with his mother remarried and abusive man psychotherapist.

That's when pain and fear presented themselves with product for my mother did he hit you. Yeah, it I was afraid all the time.

Growing up and I still have a lot of sensitive shape may be wanted take those people out bullish bullies which might come as a surprise to many who felt his staying as they've crossed pairs with Jason over the years Everyman should be punch in the face of the right of passage is clashes with the creator and castor community. His last big role cookie which are true from the show. After several seasons in 2012 were just the latest headlines dealing with Chase's conflicts and behavior going all the way back to SNL when you read that stuff and people at Chevy's been a jerk. Those unfounded cheap shots. I guess that the ashram I don't give a crap what no Chevy Chase certainly does not.

I am who I am and I like I don't care.

As part that I don't care. I thought about that a lot and I don't I just care and as the reception makes clear theaters where he now shows his films and takes questions. He's got plenty of things just don't care. Celebrating something what are they celebrating uses a drunk at 70 Chevy Chase is who we which doesn't include a whole lot of introspection.

I don't look I try to be honest I know that I know that doesn't help me.

I suppose I'm I'm served by the fact that I can't go any further with this, you can't go deeper yeah Amanda could create a video off the top of his head for his friend Paul Simons hit you can call me yeah I learned that in a car going to the place where he recorded your learned it on the way over yeah never needed to go to bed and still doesn't when you would like to work. Would love to work again, will you know the wife I give a crap work on the eve of this Valentine's Day Josh Seth talent his mama back, reminiscing goes way the season for love. What do you think about when you get the word crush clash when you have a crash on somebody else to use that word. I think it kind of the process feeling physically basically who remembers physically starting to where you want to look pretty. I guess you think you might remember the first time you had a crush on Irving Aronoff Q is very sweet and very nice person to have cherry Cokes together after school down the street talk about the soda shop in America. Did you ever kiss Aronoff kissed him once. Really yeah what was it like what happened when you guys split up. Irving was upset when he started dating another series had a plaything for couple weeks and then he had another boyfriend and then three weeks later he had another place so compelling is that somebody like he's the one that got away their but not him.

How does it make you feel to talk about this stuff makes me feel all sweet.

If you make what role do these kind of memories have in your life. I think this maybe once in a while crush is now crash somebody a 65-year-old old me.

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