Sexual Freedom: The Poisoned Oasis Part 1

Extramarital sex and divorce are choices when life all concerned. Too many people, even Christians.

A high price in the long run, the sexual revolution has a dark side, we better count the cost stay with church in Chicago this morning to serve as clear teaching helps us make it across the finish line test results are the snare of the enemy is easy in a culture that promotes serial monogamy and has no issue with sexual affairs date when I stop to think that my heart breaks for this culture and the ones who are hurt the most are the children in an age of sexual looseness in an age in which there is divorce in so many different relationships in affairs when we need to do as Christians is to stand against this culture. First of all, for ourselves and then for others I'm holding in my hand a letter that was received here from a woman who says that their marriage was eroding and God's word, brought healing and she commences for the ministry of running to wind that talks about these kinds of issues and has been a great help to them that my friend when we receive reports like this. Remember it is your report because running to win is not the ministry of a man or an organization or a church.

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Click on the endurance partner button and let me give you that phone number quickly once again 1-888-218-9337. Now let us go to the pulpit of Moody church opening our hearts and our minds to hear a warning but also hope for those who are ensnared several years ago there was a deacon here at the Moody church to left his wife and took up with another woman, and many of us try to help them to understand that this was a bad idea tried to restore him to God and to his marriage, but I remember he told me he said you know, for years I have lived in the desert and now he said I have found an oasis in your telling me to go back to the desert, so he left his wife and he went with the oasis. 11 years later he wrote an incredible letter to me it would be worthwhile reading the whole thing but I won't read any of it because of lack of time what the bottom line was, he told me how God had been disciplining him and all of the problems he had in his second marriage and the difficulties and the bottom line was this that things are so bad this always. This is so poison. I wish I had stayed in the desert really do fool ourselves. Don't way we like to fool ourselves.

We think that we can break God's commandments without those commandments breaking us as many of you know this is a series of messages titled seven secret snares, and today we come to immorality or sexual freedom. However, you may want to call it. We've talked about such things as alcoholism and gambling and pornography. But now we come to the temptation that is a possibility for all of us. Thousands of people have said I will never commit that sin.

But they've ended up committing it. Someone has written these words. This is where your game is played. Everything else is warm-ups and practice the real game is played on the field and on this field only. The devil is very smart. His name, he doesn't come to many of us with all kinds of hideous terrible things he comes with that which is beautiful length of billing and that which is going to invigorate us and meet Ed D need within us to satisfy our curiosity and to meet our need for companionship. All those things. In short, to give us an oasis problem is that poisoned number of years ago Mary Whelchel used a story that was sent to her. She's the director of our women's ministries and I'd like to read it to you young girl was walking through the woods one day when she almost stepped on a snake when she saw the snake she pulled back in horror, but to her amazement, the snake cried out to her.

I'm so glad you came along. I'm so cold and I need a friend, will you please pick me up and put me under your coat so that I can get warm and will you be my friend fear. The girl replied why can't possibly do that your rattlesnake and you will bite me. I can pick you up know the rattlesnake answer. That's not true.

I promise I won't bite you. I really want to be your friend and after all I'm not a creature. I am rather a creature of God's just like you and I'm so cold please pick me up please. She began to feel sorry for the snake and sat down to think it over. As she looked at the snake. It became more beautiful to her, with its many colors.

She noticed its graceful lines and then gradually it began to look harmless to her. She got what you know he's right. After all, of course, God created him and just because most rattlesnakes bite. That doesn't mean this one will is a very nice snake and shouldn't I be willing to be a friend when someone asks me so she said to the snake okay yes I'll be your friend and she picked up the snake and put it under her warm coat immediately.

The snake bit her pain and poison flooded her body. She cried out in pain. Why did you do that.

Why did you bite me, you said you wanted to be my friend as the snake wiggled away from her returned and said with a smirk.

You knew what I was when you picked me up. Yes, we know what it is but oh how we would like to believe the Devils lies we will one to believe and the more you look at it better. It appears maybe it's not a rattlesnake. All you say what I'd like to do today is to give us a quick biblical survey regarding sexuality to understand ourselves to understand the way in which God created us to better understand our temptations and then we shall also end with words of warning to those who never been involved in sexual sin, but also for those who have.

That's the agenda. Now you know when I preach. I always want you to listen obviously but I can't think of any message I've ever prepared where it's so important to listen to the whole thing. This is a difficult message to be able to receive in bits and pieces so remember, it's my responsibility to speak. It's your responsibility to listen and I hope to God we and at the same time. All right, first of all, take your Bibles and turn to Genesis chapter 1 and two Genesis chapter 1 and two were we have sexuality and creation were going to hurry over this very quickly. But you know that when God created man and he created all the beautiful things he said it is not good for man to be alone.

Many of us second that say old God, thank you for knowing that it is not good for man to be alone when he created man. He created them from the dust of the ground. He made Ahmad man ladies when you're disappointed with those never forget our origins. Okay they made Ahmad and he breathed into his nostrils and and the man became a living being that when he created woman. You are a member of course it says and what every reading chapter 2 verse 21 the Lord God caused the man to pull in a deep sleep and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and roasted up in the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man and he brought her to the man she came from his rib. Don't you admire me for avoiding all jokes about this that come to my mind. We shall bypass them all. I want you to understand that when God created woman he separated femininity masculinity and after that the desire to be together.

The desire for companionship and for sexuality will be strong and unrelenting.

That's the way he created us obviously sexual desire therefore is God-given. It is in voluntary. It's not something you choose. You don't say well I want to have these feelings in the desires you are born from now what you do with them is another subject, but but we cannot get out of the fact that God created us as sexual beings and may I hurry to say. Therefore there is no shame that is involved in this properly on you know I've seen parents who shame their young people regard their children regarding sexual matters, and the parents are doing it because they think I'm going to try to teach them that is evil and he's going to stay away from sexual sin and the opposite happened the opposite because not knowing what to do with these desires and being shamed, the child falls into sexual sin and we've already learned that the roots of addiction are always secrecy and shame there for those parents with a healthy understanding of sexuality are in the best position to help their children have a healthy understanding and to keep them morally pure so that's sexuality and creation. Now let's talk about sexuality and marriage for just a moment, you'll notice that God brings the woman to the man and he says in verse 23.

This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called a woman, for she was taken out all the man that's the marriage ceremony right there.

No marriage involves two things. First of all, it involves a covenant and agreement to live together, and I take it that those words are the covenant, she shall be in effect. My wife is what Adam is saying, but it also involves something else. It involves you see the sexual relationship, and God goes on to say for this cause a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh they will become one body soul and spirit. I've to put in a parenthesis year marriage involves both the covenant and the sexual intimacy you can have one without the other and you really don't have a marriage. Sometimes young people feel this tremendous obligation to marry the person with whom they have had their first relationship and their reasons for that is will explain in a moment, but it's a bad idea may be a bad idea.

So what we need to do is to counsel people correct on these matters. Then you find in today's society, people say well you know we live together but but we don't have a marriage relationship. In fact, you don't need a wedding and then they always ask that question with such a sense of self-confidence. What's up piece of paper. Anyway, Ellie years ago my wife and I sold a home that we owned and people decided to buy it and they said were going to give you so much money and we agreed that that was a good thing. Why didn't we just shake hands and say it's a deal that's all where reputable people your reputable people. Let's just shake hands. Why all this business of signing all of these documents, God only knows how many we ended up signing a secret and he's not telling.

Why sign all these documents because what's up piece of paper. Anyway, can't you just hear it answer is look how I want you to know that we had an attorney. They had an attorney. We signed documents they signed documents. Why is it we are saying in so many words is look friends, you might be reputable people, but we want you to know that if tomorrow you're driving down the street and you see I was for sale that you like better than this one half news because you're stuck with this one. Thank you. That's what's happening in a marriage ceremony tomorrow. You see somebody else tough new body. We were there we saw it happen.

We've got a piece of paper are now when the Bible says that they became one flesh. They became one flesh. Just like in a metaphysical sense same word is used in Hebrew when it says here oh Israel, the Lord our God is one Lord, God the father the son and the Holy Spirit one in the very same way they shall become one flesh. That's what marriage is all about. Now let's move on and talk about sexuality and alien bonds. What is an alien bond and alien you know is a foreigner and alien bond is a bond that is not sanctioned by God. It is a bond that breaks into that God-given relationship breaking the boundaries and smashing the intention of God and ask you to turn to a passage of Scripture is found in the New Testament in the book of Corinthians. It sheds more light on sexuality than all the secular books you will ever read. No matter how many have been written, no matter how many have been analyzed, no matter how much sexuality is talked about. You will never find a better understanding than in the creator who made us than this passage of Scripture.

You'll notice Paul says, and I'm going to pick up first Corinthians chapter 6, and I shall begin in verse 15 do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself. Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute never.

Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her for it is said here is what shocks us. The two will become the one flesh, but he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. The apostle Paul takes an alien bond a relationship with a prostitute, and a sense of one of the most degrading alien bonds because there's no pretense of law. Nobody saying that this somehow was a loving relationship is wrong must base on Monday. It is, it is that in itself most degrading form a relationship where there's no pretense.

I noticed the apostle Paul says they become one flesh. For God says the two shall become one flesh doesn't mean they're married. Like I mentioned a moment ago very important to understand because there's no covenant, they have the relationship without the protection of the covenant, but that's an alien bond. The estate and alien bond may be a homosexual bond. It may be molestation is any bond that actually is outside of the realm of a man woman relationship with a covenant in marriage. That's an alien bond and God says that when there's a relationship outside of that is still true that they become one flesh. And when you stop to think about what that means is that this intruder, this alien bond has some incredible consequences may I give you a few very quickly.

First of all, I imagine. Now imagine the power of the first bond. Imagine the power of the first bond because you see, you have the image of the man and you have the image of the woman and they are being joined together in this relationship, and therefore it is powerful. I didn't bring it with me deliberately because this message would get too long, but I received a letter which I dictated a reply to this past Friday from a woman who heard me speak on this over the radio. Amazing letter all that she can think about. In her present marriage is the first man with whom she was bonded. He was not a Christian. And so she broke the relationship and now she's in a relationship where her heart actually is somewhere else and she says it is on the verge of destroying our marriage while I think of a young woman who came to me, tears running down her cheeks and dropping onto her lap, telling me a story of how she was seduced by an older man in a church and church acquitted him and called her the one that was responsible. The terrible situation kind of unfairness that often exists and there she is weeping but she says to me, even though he did me so much dirt if I saw him today on a street corner and he said let's run off and be married. I'd marry him. Why was her first bond so much power and at first bond. Now what if that first bond is not at all even a consensual relationship with its molestation. I think for example of Roger whom some of you know about who died of AIDS. Many, many years ago understory was so remarkable that I actually had a taped but he said the way he got into homosexuality is an older man introducing him to it molesting him as a child and you begin to think that that's the way you are. That's the imprinted that is left on your soul, and therefore that's the direction in which you go, it has that kind of power anyone of us could've ended up in that lifestyle. If we had been molested by someone who is trying to bring us into it when I was at Exodus International great work. By the way, working with those who struggle at various levels of homosexuality, you discover that 80% of all lesbians were molested by their father and uncle a babysitter or whatever you understand why not why it was done but do you understand the consequences because now all parameters are taken away all of God's protections for this relationship have been removed and now the child hating man. Understandably so, begins to gravitate toward the same sex and try to re-create the same experience and able to do so in some measure and therefore inking that they can find fulfillment in this relationship because of the fact that they were violated as children. That's why it's so important. I mentioned a moment ago when we talked about children. It is so very, very important. Jesus said that he who causes one of these little ones to stumble were better for him that a millstone were hung around his neck and he were drowned in the depths of the sea and today I speak to some of you who are abusing children, whether sexually or otherwise.

I've said this before from this pulpit but I need to say it again stop and stop it power of those first bonds. Another consequence and that is the tendency to promiscuity.

I remember a young woman 26 years old, tired of being a virgin saying it's my turn. Everybody else is doing it.

I might as well.

She said that when it was over, she could almost hear the words in her mind. This clears anything say well now that you're defiled, anything is possible. Again, a whole system of immorality that when she became pregnant she did not know who the father was one alien bond, causing her to spin out of control because seal the boundaries are gone now. I think of man wanting to get even with his wife visiting a prostitute ending up in that whole lifestyle for years and years and years until he was exposed the power of these alien bonds. My dear friend, this is Pastor Luther I'm sure that you understand that these messages are incredibly important.

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