The Care & Maintenance of Your Child | Part 2

Are you raising your children to obey God. Listen closely to Adrian Rogers by Mr. Davis and theirs were many parents play a role in disciplining a child. Remember the word for that child's repentance toward God.

When a child disobeys his parents didn't want that child is gone. He sinned against God is not you primarily use and begins to sin against God. And so, say child, listen that his heart is broken because God doesn't want us to behave that way, welcome to love between the timeless messages, pastor, teacher and author Adrian Rogers in Mark chapter 10 Jesus revealed his great love children tremendous import to his king.

Our children are blessed gift in a bundle of potentiality from God which we are responsible for teaching and training up, though. It's not by any means easy. It is simple. If you have your Bible turned out of Mark chapter 10 will begin in verse 13 as Adrian Rogers offers insight on the care and maintenance of your child. The Bible says in Proverbs chapter 22 in verse six train up a child in the way they should go and when he is old he will not be part from when you start training a child as soon as I child is born you. So we asked as soon as I child is born a child should be laid in his mother's arms. Let me. That is bad training cannot begin to sue. It is amazing what little children can learn. Listen to what God's word says in Isaiah chapter 20 verses nine and 10 go home, shall he that is God speaking all and shall he make to understand doctrine.

Listen them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts you are what God says God said, give me a good just being weaned from his mother's and I'll teach that child. Dr. think and how is he going to do it when he goes on to tell us in verse 10 for precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept, line upon line, line upon line a little little little old friend listen you train a child, just with a tidbit here. But to admit their tidbit here in the child is listening, absorbing, absorbing, absorbing, what a wonderful time to teach.

When we have these little children. They want the Bible says when you rise up. When you live down when you walk in the way that's the way Jesus taught his disciples. He said, behold the store when I do so consider the lilies everything that Jesus saw was an opportunity to T we don't get created when there is a motivational speaker.

His name is Charles tremendous Joan.

He's a great guy and he knows how to motivate people, but he's a Christian. He loves the Lord. This is what he said I thought was a tremendous idea and he said to his boy when his blood was 14. He sits on in two years ago, and be able to get a drivers license and you're going to want a car and he said son I want you to have a car and I will help you to pay for your car but some of them want to do so and I have some books I want you to read and write a report and I'll give you $10 for every book that you read and write a report on I say get started and he said, remember, if you read as you all to read. If you read and style drive in style with you read like a bomb you drive likable. I think that's a smart fall back or something more. $10 a book today to get that kid a car, but the point is that he knew how to solve him. He needed new house encouraging. He didn't simply ram it down his throat listen communicate creatively and then I would say this in communicating with your kids learn to be read because I fail and we all fail, but children do not demand perfection but children hate crossing. They can spot a phony mile away. One girl said to her dad.

Dad you taught us how to succeed but daddy you didn't teach us how to fail. We need to teach our kids how to fail.

We need to let them see our calls. We need to let them see our faith. We need to come to them and say sweetheart I was wrong.

The way I talk to your mama. I've asked mom to forgive me and I've asked God to forgive me and I will ask you to forgive me, what I said what I did was wrong. When you forgive me for I spoke harshly to you or I misjudged you, friend. Listen. Be real. Your kids don't demand perfection, but they do demand reality.

So what I'm saying is number one communication okay.

Number two is the second number two not only communication but correction learn to correct your child. Ephesians chapter 6 and verse four and he follows, provoke not your children to arrive, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord someone is pointed out that some men spend more time training the dog than they do the children when they tie the dog up at night let the children run while fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord and that literally means in the discipline and admonition of the Lord.

Now why should you learn to discipline your child. Let me give you about five or six reasons why you ought to discipline your child number one. If you have any love let's out a volume to discipline listen. The word of God.

Proverbs 13 verse 24 he that spirit is raw data to some but he that loveth them chased at him.

The time is a will. I just love them so much I can disciplining you to love him you love you is makes you uncomfortable to do it and that's why you don't do it. God calls discipline, love, he says in Hebrews 12 verse six for whom the Lord loveth the chastening and scourges every son whom he received any father who loves a son or daughter is going to chastise that's on that daughter when they needed to not better than God. My dad used to tell me, son.

I'm whipping you because I love you.

I was sure he love me better than my brother. Second, not only because of the love for the child but because of the nature of human nature. Believe it or not. The Bible teaches that we are by nature children of wrath, the seed of rebellion is inherent in any child. Proverbs 22 verse 15 foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, you may not believe that that's the word of God. Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him now, folks, that's the word of God. Every time you talk about discipline is somebody going to accuse you of brutality you listen to the word of God. Now, children need to understand that there is a moral power in life.

They need to understand that they cannot have their own way, every time, and if you do not restrain that child is human nature is going to lead him to be a rebel, that child must learn respect and legitimate for you. Just as Amanda has the fear of God in his heart still loves God I child ought to have a legitimate fear. I hesitate to use the word because of the connotation, but also respect for authority. He who fears God the most love God.

The base there is no competition between the fear of God and the love of God, that doesn't mean we quiver and quake in the sight of God, nor should your children quiver and quake in your sight. I'll tell you another reason that you need to do this.

My dear friend when you learn to correct that child you're going to spare yourself a lot of heartache and a lot of disgrace juvenile delinquents are generally the result of delinquent parents. Proverbs 29 verse 15 the rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left himself bringing his mother.

Shane Proverbs 29 verse 17 correct. My son and he shall give the rest, yet he shall give the light unto thy soul. The first 12 years of a child's life he can learn certain things through the seat of his pants that he will only learn later, at the cost of great suffering and hearty. Now parents you need to have an eye on the future and quit trying to win a popularity contest with your kids. I would say another reason to need correct. You may literally save that child from going to hell. Proverbs 23 verse 13 withhold not correction from the child. For if David is Jim with the rod, he shall not die. Can you remember times when you thought you were going to die when your dad was whipping you. I thought many times I was within an inch of death, but it was no danger. God goes on to say, thou shalt meeting with the raw and shall deliver his soul from hail what is that mean that means that the child does not respect authority in the home is not going to respect authority in the school is not going respect authority in the government is not going to respect authority in the pulpit. He's not going respect authority of God's word. Now let me say a word here. The old King James English ear sound so harsh. Beating a child with the raw God does not have here at all. Anything that even smacks of brutality to a child God gave little children. The spanking place and that God says that if you teach that child. There is a moral authority in this world. You've taken the first step to leaving that child to salvation. Listen to the word again withhold not correction from the child.

Thou shall beat him with a rod, and shall deliver his soul from hell. Now those are some reasons you let me give you some ways to do some rules for this again, just like communication, you must start early. When should you begin to discipline the Bible says chasing my son when there is hope.

While there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying began earlier when should you begin how or when he are she is old enough to knowingly and willingly disobey.

Never use corporal punishment on the child for mistakes such as spilt milk are an accident, a bowel movement or something like that never whip a child for something like that.

That's terrible to do that. Never whip a child or spank a child for something over which the child has no control. But when you see rebellion and test you early, then their friend there will come a time for discipline that discipline need not be a spanking. Spanking is not the first act is the last resort. God says when he rebukes us as many as I love, I review and chase first to review before the chastisement. It may not be necessary that you whip it all speaking come before spanking. There are times for an explanation their time forewarning their time for a second chance. 1/3 chance support chant, but there comes a time when you must say were going to show who's in control in his own there comes a time when authority must be laid when you do that young parents. Be sure to keep your word. Do not me.

I will threats don't say if you do that again you're going to get a spanking and then the child might give spanking if the rapture comes, you spank them all the way you make certain that you keep your word and if a spanking is due administrative promptly Bible says in Ecclesiastes chapter 8 and verse 11 because sentence against Mabel work is not executed speedily. Therefore, the hearts of the sons of man is fully set in them to do evil, but punishment ought to follow the crime as quickly as possible.

A word of caution. Never, ever chastise your child in front of other people.

If you can help never humiliate the child never embarrass the child when chastisement is necessary. Let the husband and the wife present a united front. Let them both agree one may even hold the child while the other administers the punishment never let a child play one parent against another, never, never argue about the child's punishment in front of the child.

The child will play one parent against another.

When you do administer corporal punishment do a good job. Now that doesn't mean that you cause physical harm. I will make that abundantly clear. But do a good job.

The Bible puts it this way. Let not thy soul spare for his crying to see if you do a good job your spanking days may be over very soon a good spanking can last for a long time, and after you have given that spanking. Then take the child will love the child. Express your love that child never let the child get the idea that it was worth whatever he did because the spanking really didn't amount to much.

Anyway, always, always, discipline and love our Scripture Ephesians chapter 6 and verse four and you callers, provoke not your children to wrath. Have you ever seen folks deal with kids like this if you ever watched her mother and grocery store whack you can our wacky kids. I get out from in front of the television set is not discipline all your showing is that you're a bully you don't understand what discipline is.

You must discipline and love. The Bible says in James chapter 1 verse 20 the wrath of man work is not the righteousness of God.

When you chastise a child remember it is correction not revenge. So many of us sometimes get so angry that we don't understand that when I have our selves in control. I heard about a man who was pushing a little baby carriage and in that stroller was a child who was just crying and screaming and the father was say now now Albert, now Albert careful Albert easy Albert there.

They are Albert take it easy Albert, a woman said Sir I've never seen such patients how gentle you are with little Albert. All he said no he's Billy I am Albert easy Albert. Now the Bible mentions chastising a child with a rod. Why is that so you find an object and chastise the child don't strike the child with your hand. Let your hand be the object of love and caressing even in going to get that object and use make only after an explanation sweetheart.

Here's why daddy must do because daddy told you to do thus and such and you didn't do it because you did something that you are not done and that he told you if you did this you must be punished. And I want you know he loves. But that is got to keep his word and then without with firmness with gentleness in the right place. Never striking a child about the face or anything like that but in that spanking place that God has given you discipline and love and impatient. Let me say this and theirs were many parents fail in disciplining a child.

Remember to work for that child's repentance toward God. When a child disobeys his parents to know what that child is done he sinned against God is not you.

Primarily, he sinned against.

He sinned against God, and if I child will learn that to honor his father and his mother is one of the 10 Commandments that thou shall not lie.

Thou shall not steal, thou shall not bear false witness. Thou shall not covet all of these things are commands of God and so say child, listen daddy's heart is broken because God doesn't want us to behave that way now. Be careful you cannot be the Holy Spirit. You can pray for repentance and that child's heart. You can try to leave that child to repentance. But remember, the Holy Spirit must do that which C4 and pray for God that child repent. After it's over. Give the child let the child know that you receive that child kiss away the tears send them out to play men hold grudges never hold grudges, let me mention the third thing and I'll be finished.

First of all, I've talked about communication. Secondly, I've talked about correction. Now let me tell you that those two things ought to lead to the third thing that ought to be the goal and aim of every parent communication correction and conversion to lead your child to Jesus Christ that ought to be the solemn and holding goal and aim of your life is to bring the child to faith in Christ, seek an early salvation for your child, your child does not have to have a PhD in sin before he or she can get saying it is not unusual for little children get say when the race in a Christian home.

Listen to me folks 75% of all the people were saber say before the age of 15. Did you know that 75% of all people who are saved are saved before the age of 15. Matthew Henry, who has given us. Matthew Henry's commentary on the Bible on the best devotional commentaries on the Bible was saved at the age of 11, Jonathan Edwards, the great preacher preach that famous sermon centers in the hands of an angry God was saved in the age of eight. Polycarp, one of the church fathers was saved at the age of nine he was burned at the stake for Christ when he was nine childhood conversions. Last, I guess so. He died for Jesus.

The age of nine, Charles Haddon Spurgeon. I suppose the greatest Baptist preacher ever live, was saved in the age of 12, Charles Haddon Spurgeon later testified that he would've been saved at a much earlier age had somebody explain the gospel of Jesus Christ and him I wanted tell you something, ran a survey showed that 90% of all Southern Baptist missionaries at home and abroad. 90% were saved before the age of 11 of all our missionaries and the average age of conversion was eight years old. Don't get the idea that little children cannot believe in Jesus Christ. They can they should. The main thing to watch for dear friend is is that child aware of the fact that he or she is a seven not just that they've done some bad things but when they're aware of this terrible thing called sin, and they're aware that God is righteous and holy and that God punishes sin when it is so easy to point them to Jesus.

Be careful that you do not push for premature decision. We do not want you to vaccinate your child with a mild form of Christianity. So the real thing will not take but when you see that Holy Spirit conviction parents be wise present the Lord Jesus ask your child what they like receive Christ and you as parents have enjoyed reading your child or Christ. Your responsibility is not the block that child and not to show that child with the guy that child.

These three things, communication, correction and conversion make those your goal make those rain and I believe you'll be the parents of a happy child and you think God that he gave them to father, I thank you for your word Lord for the wonderful wonderful cruise that you've given us concerning the care and the maintenance of our children.

Lord, we know that we've all failed. I know that I failed in many ways with my children but I thank you Lord that you saw the desire of my heart Lord you are merciful by thank you God that you help us when we truly want your help.

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