Seven Words that Can Build a Marriage | Part 2

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Never change is found in the teaching pastor and author Adrian Rogers God designed the divine institution of marriage and is given us the tools to create blessed home.

Part one of today's message we learn that faith acceptance and contentment are crucial in a godly marriage.

Once we accept our God-given roles in the relationship and learn contentment in the home will receive the blessing of a harmonious marriage. If you have your Bible turn to first Peter chapter 3 is Adrian Rogers begins part two of seven words that can build a marriage.

How are we going to have a kind of a home that God wants us to have seven simple wars about outline they will all you have to do to write them seven words but these seven words are going to come out of this passage of Scripture that were looking at today and if you will take the seven words and inculcate them. I believe I can promise to you a successful family first word is faith.

FAI DH now look, if you will. In first Peter chapter 3 verse five draft this matter and old-time the holy women also watch this phrase trusted in God, I'm just operating right there and then they go down to verse seven. Likewise you husbands well with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife is under the weaker vessel as being heirs together of the grace of life. Now the grace of life means the power of God that comes in your life through faith is very obvious that in spite of all their faults and the peccadilloes Abraham and Sarah had an abiding faith in God or the Bible says.

The Bible says a three fold: is not easily broken.

When you take one strand, you may break rapid with another strand is harder to break but threefold cords are most difficult to break. What is the threefold cord that binds our homes together. The man, the woman and God.

Threefold cord is not easily broken secular not only the word faith is the same word acceptance acceptance. What now in chapter 3 and verse one. Likewise, you wise, be in subjection to your own husbands, that if any old way, not the word. They may, without the word be won by the behavior of the winds we accept one another, headship for the husband is not meeting the husband has greater privileges means that he has greater responsibility, but we accept who we are. We accept our God given roles so if you accept the headship that God is given you in the home you are a slacker a shirk or a failure as a husband and precious lady if you don't accept God's plan for the home you have a rebellious spirit now number three of the third word is the word contentment the word contentment.

Look, if you will. Now in verses three and four. Peters talk about the way that women adorn themselves in dress and he says who's adorning, let it not be that outward adorning of the planning of the hair and wearing of gold and putting on of apparel, but let it be the hidden manner hidden person of the heart and that which is not corruptible understood the phrase that which is not corruptible. Even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price and then again first Peter three verse seven. Likewise you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife. As unto the weaker vessel and is being heirs together of the grace of life_that phrase heirs together of the grace of life. Now as you study the life of Abraham and Sarah, you find that God had given them in spite of all of the faults a spirit of contentment. Learn the secret of content learn that you can get along with almost anything without almost anything except one another and God. Let me just invert that without God and one another. If you have God.

Yet one another. You have something to wear and something to eat. That's all you mean the Bible says having food and clothing. Raymond letters there with the content. If you and and wife, are you and husband God and one another. You have all you need to be content. One man had an enormous fortune and overnight he lost. I mean he was a big shot. He was like one of these.com companies. It is just crater he lost it all, then the seller may find home. They moved into a little apartment.

They looked around at this this small apartment living electric.

He slumped down in the chair and he said well here we are. She said no, here we go to here we are. We have one another and we have number four is another keyword is a word. Forgiveness. Forgiveness. Look, if you will again in verses three chapter 3 verses eight through 10 likewise be all of one mind, having compassion, one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous not rendering evil for evil are railing for railing, but contrariwise blessing knowing that ER thereunto called that you should inherit a blessing. For he that will love life you love life.

Listen, he that will love life and see good days doing today's lesson, let him refrain his tongue from evil and his lips that they speak no guile all married people must learn to forgive. Now the tornadoes have been sweeping through the Southland devastated.

Sometimes we read. We read of earthquakes in Turkey here recently and seen them destroy homes but you know what DOS and I saw the other day in a house out of the floor a little hole about that be coming. These termites just pouring out and going all the way across the same hello the courses going all Microsoft I mean this just coming out coming out coming out. Good night that for so beautiful up coming the termites. When we call the man ripped up the bulletin kill those critters of Matthew. One example writers.

I believe in killing termites, person kill those critters something friend tornadoes are terrible earthquakes are horrible. The termites destroy more homes. Anything you miss the termites of get your home is that little spirit of bitterness that unwillingness to forgive that that that spirit that carries grudge is what he says here in verse nine not rendering evil for evil are railing for railing, but contrariwise classic somebody does your evil lesson somebody rails lesson lesson.

The three levels of life. One is the hellish level where you give back evil for good.

Some people do that as the hellish level.

The second level is the human level that is good for good and evil for evil, you do me good on you. Good you do mean you hurt me are to bring us the most people live.

That's where a lot of families live. But what he is saying here is that heavenly level is good for you. Sometimes wife has to practice that sometimes the husband has to practice it but you learn to forgive. You learn to bless I don't carry around a Grimes the burden of bitterness splintering your finger.

Maybe it's down there deep enough and you see a new Seattle box bottom is a well that I could get that out but I don't know you get a needle and pick it out so well. Maybe the work is way on your sleeve that seem to be all right.

Then one morning you wake up and you got this incredible pain and this thing is throbbing. It is festered is infected because you get out. The Bible says don't let the sun go down upon your wrath. Forgive next is so important. I must rush own on. Here's the next word that this word is a communication communication look again if you will. In the chapter 3 verses eight through 10 finally, be all of one mind, having compassion one another love his brother and be pitiful, be courteous not rendering evil for evil are railing for railing, but contrariwise blessing for thereunto are you called the tea should inherit a blessing. Here's the verse abuse with communication. For he that would love life and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil and his lips that they speak no guile made Abraham and Sarah were so very different. So are Joyce and Adrian so therefore you have to learn to communicate. Proverbs 1821 says death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof again verse 10 for he that will love life and see good days letting him refrain his tongue from evil and his lips that they speak no guile that people want intimacy in marriage. The word intimacy are English word comes from the Latin into moves which means in most men need to learn to communicate. The problem is primarily with the man I asked Joyce I sent Joyce what is the basic problem in marriage communication. She didn't hesitate. She said men notice guys that women they whatever it is they save and three letter men and that is true we are the basic problem in communication plan to communicate make room make time for communication. Every man and woman for that matter, all plan for dates you want those dates automate him when you're the plan a date with God you want to have a quiet time with God every day. Number two, you want to plan a date with you, kid does not try to spend time with our kids and our grandkids person may have a date with yourself when you get alone sit down and think and pray and a quiet just meditating what you want to do and then have a date with your spouse go somewhere get out of the house and avoid all emotional. Since the subject and just love one another. Now here's here's the sixth thing I've really got to hurry as the next word and it is romance, romance.

Likewise you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge. Now look at the word well that word well literally means to live with when people are not married, and they they share the same house we say their living together their living together. By the way, you have no right to do that you living in fornication and adultery is is not adultery when I'm mad, I'm American, but else is adultery against the person you may be married to. It is certainly contrary to the laws of God and if you living at what you need to stop, but the Bible says that husbands and wives.

Those who are married are to dwell together and word limit means to share. I has the implication of sharing the same bed and what it is talking about here is the romance that is in marriage. Never let the physical part of your marriage grow cold. Actually, the word here says, look, giving honor to the wife you see that the word, giving honor comes from a root word which means precious.

You see your wife as someone as something precious when you give honor to a person what you're saying. That person is this that I believe in you. Everybody needs somebody to whom they are number one I said in our home. Joyce is number two but I'm about of all human relationships. She's number one. I am number one in her life and she's number one in my life and and how do you and how do you give honor. One way that you give honor is a sincere compliment when I preach and somebody says to me past. I was blessed by that. That's a blessing me if you will do is fine and if you don't want to do it after suffering but that's fine, but I listen for times when I preach a dog morning wag his tail and that if Joyce will say I was good that mean something to me. Husband wants to be admired and this admiration I wife wants to be admired and limit means giving honor and you need to honor the person that you married to all of this is under the heading of romance because all part of you. Give honor not only privately but publicly and you honor your wife never make any cheap jokes about your wife not funny everybody needs about 10 hugs and Tim complements a day everybody – Joyce I walk in the mornings when the weather's nice walk outside, sometimes on a treadmill is a place on our walk with is a curve that is far from here.

The back of this room. I call it the complement curve the whole time we were walking that they where giving one another complements just as many complements as we can get what time were walking on my walk would do it in the mornings just giving out complements and then at the end of that complement curve is a telephone pole.

I called the passion pole right there I give her a hug and a kiss and she gives me a hug and against, and then we go a little bit further, there is a little sharp corner.

That's the critical corner we get around as quick as we can have anything bad to say that the same methods we go around this corner and we don't get that thing out, friend keep the romance that keep good joy keep the excitement that I tell you grow up on my way home. I'm grateful for the cell phone. I called her and I say is love Mobile: in a home baby in five minutes you sensitize your lips.

Keep romance there.

I have a crush on him again.

Last of all prayer prayer.

That's the seventh word look at it again.

First Peter three verse seven. Likewise you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, having honor unto the wife is unto the weaker vessel and is being heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers be not hindered.

Learn to pray together prayer through is more than trite to say that the family that prays together stays together except the Lord keep the city, the watchmen weights but in vain. Except the Lord build the house, the labor labor is in vain. Learn to pray together you say pastor Rogers. That's a very strange thing because you gave us seven words about having a successful home but you never mention love you never mention love. Bring all of these are facets of that one thing: facets of love now God knows Abraham and Sarah were not perfect God really knows that Adrian enjoys not perfect.

Joyce comes close, but I'm light years away, but I'll take one thing were it not for God.

We never would've made. I know the arrogance in my own heart. I know my native inclination to selfishness and pride and obstinacy, but I'm so grateful for Christian home now summer saying pastor Rogers.

I heard this message too late. My home is in shambles. We been divorced, are you talking about Christian home. I'm not even married. Maybe I just all the good guys are good gals seem to be taken made I'm destined to deliver single life and really what you've done, maybe to encourage some people and instruct others just made me sad today because frankly that's not that's not the picture of my life. I don't see a future like you described.

I wish I could have a home that way but I don't know that I can say something to you, not a second-class citizen.

God loves you.

God has a wonderful plan for your life.

God has a plan for the single life as well as for the married life. That's another sermon, but it's a wonderful plan on say something else. If you have loaded and messed up our God is a God of grace and forgiveness and you never forget that God can mend a broken life if you give them all the pieces as there will I don't have a family you can have a family you can have a big family. Call Bellevue the one what a wonderful family, our church family is is a way for all of us.

And if you're hungry for God. You want to know that you say be on the shot of any doubt, would you pray and say dear God, I'm a sinner and I'm sorry for my sin.

I need you and I want you Jesus you died on the cross and shed your blood to pay for my sin. Thank you for doing that. I open my heart by faith now like a child I receive you in my life is my Lord and Savior take control of my life and begin now to make me the person you want me to be. Help me Lord Jesus never ever be ashamed of you, Jesus. I'll make this public this morning. I will not be shamed of you your name I pray, amen. If you prayed to receive Jesus just we would love to celebrate with you and invite you to find God's love page on the website. There you'll find answers, you may need about your newfound faith. Simply go to LWF.org/radio and click on the tab that says find God's love.

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