Stop Faking It! - How to Overcome Hypocrisy in Your Private Life, Part 2

The last couple of weeks we been discovering together how to live without hypocrisy. And today I'm gonna wrap it up. What I believe is one of the core essentials of our relationship with God. Private worship and let you in on what exactly I do in my personal time with God and I'm gonna pray that God will use the jumpstart your personal I hope you'll stick around.

I'm excited about our time together today is so very interesting program student to Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram chip serves as our Bible teacher of his daily international discipleship program early today. Chip wraps up his series. With an inside look at his daily quiet time.

Very practical, hands-on method of establishing a meaningful time with the Lord's day you have a Bible open it now to Ephesians chapter 5. Let's Georgia for part two of his message how to overcome hypocrisy in your private life, you must decide back.

You must preen aside when daily you can meet with the most important point in your life, where daily, you can make the most important point of your life. And then when you meet with him. Do you have a plan is what happens is if you set aside that time you don't know exactly what to do, is not very fulfilling.

You don't make a lot of progress and chances are he won't very long. I'm give the world something that I hope works may not, but I would like to walk over here and I would like to have a quiet time. Some people call the devotional life like to literally I mean no joke. Just have one in the yellow coffee. Make this kind of fun and what I want to sit down and just show you how I have done it for years.

This isn't the only way to do it and what I want to open your Bibles if you will, were setting. Ephesians right open to Ephesians chapter 5 and where we, then, is in this whole concept of being filled with the spirit speaking to one another in psalms and hymns, giving thanks for all things and we have a cover lightly to start with the verse that we haven't covered and all start with. Maybe verse 21 and go for about 10 versus just to give an example not, you'll notice that is kinda comfortable.

I got a place. In fact, I do my mostly the same place and I would encourage you some money and actually put a chair there and the reason I would encourage you to put a chair there because the goal is not to learn the Bible. The goal is not to master the Bible the goal as wonderful as these little boxes are for my fellow obsessive-compulsive friends and is so fun to check them off.

That's not the goal either. The goal is to build a relationship and so sometimes it's good to put an empty chair and say that's where Jesus sits and what I'm asking you Jesus is would you speak to me through your word and I want to tell you, Jesus. Today what's on my heart what's on my schedule and where I'm afraid I got some big decisions and rumor has it you're the sovereign King of the universe, and you probably know what's can happen today and since you died for me and you love me you you promise you want to lead and guide me and so I want to meet with you I want I want to know how to build this relationship and so with that, then I'll just come to give you a little preview the two Pro at each letter stands for something. The first P into prolapse is pray and ask God to speak to you so I mean I'm to do. This is authentic as I can.

Authentic limit, hard to do in a crowd. Father, I want to thank you for the privilege to hear from you and I know that my mind often isn't real. Wake and I asked you first cleared up and then I asked that the spirit of God would open your word, help me to hear from you today. In Christ name the second thing is then to preview often you know we trying get way too much out of something early and just preview read through real quickly, so I'll take the first 67 verses in will start verse 21 must submit to one another out of reverence for Christ wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church's body of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing of the water with the word and to present herself to him as a radiant church, without sin or wrinkle or staying or any blemish, but holy and blameless in the same way, husbands ought to love their wise as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church, as I just read your row quickly just to figure out what they suggest is going on.

Then the next R is for read and you read the passage a second time slowly and contemplatively and so I would kinda start off with okay submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. A key verb idea.

Here's submit has to do with relationships of wives K first relationship, submit to your husbands. How is into the Lord why the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church's body of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands okay shifted around idea submitting here talking to wives first.

Another group here. Husbands, love your wives will help just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her will. Why did he do that to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with the water through the word of wonder what that means. I'm dead serious. That's what I do. I had passage is meant washing the water. The word, and what's that got to do with anything and to present herself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless in the same way something about what Christ did for the church's gotta go with husbands, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He loves his wife loves himself. Think let that one sink and he loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church then I go back through and I think you suggest, think on that for a while. And what would God want to say to me when I'm not trying to be a Bible scholar on the trying to you know diagram anything just this one a meet with God.

And there's something about in the body of Christ submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. An example one is how wives are to do it.

Example to her how husbands want to make some observations and go back and underline keywords and circle words and phrases that are repeated highlight most meaningful verse to me and so submit to one another out of reverence for Christ in the circle submit just because it seems like somewhere from reading it a couple times it pops up a lot and then get underline wives and wives because that's the first group here. Submit your husbands in a circle submit founded again as into the Lord for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church's body of which he is the Savior. Okay, so wives submit Christ submitted now as the church submits circle that again, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything while submit submit submit submit.

I think this is for Teresa this really be good. You found yourself ever doing that the danger of occupational hazard. You start reading the Bible and you start thinking now I get a friend or a wife or a child that really needs to hear this and so I'm gonna reframe now on, I'm not just being honest as I was reading this is really being open with the Lord is part may be saying I could think of a couple applications for on this one about let's move on. Husbands found this something about how were to work in the body about loving and submitting an wives had the support of submit something as Christ and the church on you let her handle that one. Okay what about me husbands, love your wives okay that's my action word underline husband circle, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and circle loved again gave himself up for her.

I guess that's what love looks like will wind to make her holy, cleansing her by the I still don't know what washing with water with the word means. Well, not all you know what to pull a mark on the look that up by the dual research on present himself without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish in the same way, husbands ought to love their wives. This is getting ripped repetitive as their own bodies. He who loves circle and again his wife loves himself. After all, and no one ever hated his own body, but feeds and cares for just as Christ does the church, I step back and then I asked myself, apply a choose 1 Specific Way to put into practice is allowed to sit through here by now I've read a pretty short amount. I want to think it through and is much as I would like to jump up there and write a letter to Treece about some areas where submission would really be great. I realize that whatever it meant for the way Jesus loved his church, God wants me to love Teresa and son just can ask God what in a way that makes sense to her. What what would let her look like an I don't really know off the top my head so I probably pour myself a little coffee and leaned back and say Lord I'm just can sit here quietly and I know that you want me to love my wife will you love the church would you speak that still small voice might say something like will wanted to tell her there's a good idea and what's the most meaningful way to tell her what you say it all the time wanted to drop her a note letter my wife read okay and then as you write that down and start feel pretty good about myself and and once you get the fence fix that even talking about member when you took that walking. He said what are you concerned about and she said you seem to be very preoccupied with the church and stuff around our house is not getting attention just like the old are you kidding I don't hate to mess with it fence anyone make a phone call about that. I don't care about the fence.

It doesn't bother me.

I didn't feel like going to the cross that I did it for the church offense is not a big deal. Okay to jot down in my journal and drop my wife a note and then I'm gonna make sure our back fence gets fixed. I'm gonna do that out of obedience to God speaking to me today because I guess to be pretty hypocritical to get in front of people talk about not being a hypocrite and loving God and loving your wife and know for sure what it means to love your wife and not do it and so that's what I'm going to do.

I can't do this on my own. I can write my journal and I can fake it and blow it off later.

So the fight with Pete here is pray and ask God for power and wisdom to follow through with your application. Lord, you know, I get a zillion things going on. Last thing I want to do is get that fence fixed and I've got meetings to go to and I just want to tell you right now I want to stop first and foremost in in submitting to you out of reverence for Christ, love my wife when I get done praying. I'm going to jot her note. Tell her how much I love her and why. And before I go to any meeting them to me to make a phone call about getting the fence fixed got. I can't do this on my own. By the way, since I'm here the 9 o'clock with this guys him to meet with we you give me wisdom and power and direction and Lord.

I got some study time coming up and I don't this passage doesn't make sense. I don't how to write it out. I don't how to communicate it, would you give me what you want for your people this week and by the way, would you forgive me. I realize I've really been insensitive to Teresa, I'm sorry.

I want to want to build into her life. I want to love her the way you love the church and I asked for your grace and ask your forgiveness. Christ, then the last thing is I'm to tell somebody and I'm gonna tell someone how God spoke to me and I'm gonna tell and probably close friend and I'm going to try and do it so I don't act like why was holy this morning and I'm gonna tell them so they can grow what I want to communicate to you is that was a lot of time and I really debated. Here's what I'm finding.

If you don't do this if it's not the most important appointment if it's not the most important relationship you are destined to a life of hypocrisy destined your signing your name on the bottom of the list you are saying Jesus is the most important person in your life. You're saying I love God, you're saying is the Lord of your life when one your kids is in the hospital in ICU. You're crying out to God, I'm your child hear me what he's saying is what he wants is your heart and most precious commodity you have is your time and he wants to meet with you. He doesn't want you to go through little ritual he doesn't want you to play little game he wants to meet with you and he wants to love you and I will tell you if you make a 30 day commitment to meet with him and if your alarm doesn't go off and it doesn't work fine. You missed going to Disneyland. He's not down on get up and do it the next day, but if humans take 20 minutes and I'll be honest, you can do it anytime during the day but if you'll take 20 minutes and you'll do it. First, it will shape your whole day, you can spend 20 minutes with God and do what I just showed you there and it'll change 23 hours and 40 minutes and you know what guy came up afterwards is so good.

I'm so glad he did. He sitting is something my life I was everywhere and I knew God and I did a Christian for about five or six years and I thought all this pressure in my life really was reflecting Christ and I realize I did meet so I decided and for 30 days. He said the first 28 days. I really hear God's voice is that I just kept doing it Doing it Doing about 28 days 29 days. I can hear God's voice.

I would pray specific things and I sat quietly in the direction he said it was just like awesome enzymes to regular guy is on from Fresno. I just know well and that he said you know that I did it for about three or four or five months and then I got real busy and I went about two weeks.

I did meet with God and I start a meeting with him again and I can hear his voice but but since I'd heard his voice I knew I was going to stay in their can I tell you, God wants you to hear his voice.

God wants you to behold him. He wants to love you. He wants to give you direction he wants to give you the will and the courage to reconcile deep areas of your marriage. He wants to give you contentment in your singleness you want to give you power over addictions and send issues that you spend half your energy trying to cover up you are destined to be a hypocrite. All the days of your life unless you make personal worship. The most important appointment in the most Portland relationship every day, every day, and I realize that was a basic way to go about it. I did something with the elders because many of you your thinking might unite came to church and I watched Chip have a quiet time or so to try and do one. I've been doing that for 15 years. I mean, but how we keep it fresh, and so on. In the last hours meetings. I just went around the room.

I said guys under the teach on this later and I will mention anybody's names would you tell me how you keep it fresh honey keep exciting and vibrant. Your relationship with Christ is one around the room. One guy said I memorize a few key Psalms and I start and I recited him and I start with worship.

Another guy said I spent more time in worship, rather than just simply praying and reading another one said I just learned. Be still does get quiet and shut up before God.

Another one said is I often go out to either the forest or near the ocean and see creation and that jump starts my time with God and I realized the one who made that is who I'm talking to another one said its accountability.

Three guys that I meet with on a regular basis we keep track on how were really doing in this area. Another guy just said variety. Sometimes I journal. Sometimes I read Old Testament sometimes New Testament. Sometimes I read a lot, sometimes just a little. Sometimes I sing another one.

Sending Oswald Chambers. He just does it for me. I read that and that gets me started another guy said just changing locations do not always do it over here but keeping variety. One said just remembering I don't have to do it. I want to do. I don't have to do it. I just want to do it and then finally was a group of guys we open up and share what you're learning. So if those are some ways that might help you keep it fresh. I really encourage you. I really encourage on the back page him to get there just a second.

I want you to be thinking about this right. Here's what I want you to think about what you think about making a specific 30 day commitment to give God the best 20 minutes of your day for 30 days. You do that for 30 days. People will see a difference in you in three months you do it you will start seeing a major difference in you.

You do that for three years and you have people say I remember when you were point really short had a bad temper and really insensitive. But now you start hanging out with Jesus and you start allowing him to frame every day and you will begin living your days filled with the Holy Spirit and the fruit of Christ will be manifested in your mind and your heart and in your relationships, and it won't happen overnight its abiding now. The final thing I just want to touch on is this please don't get the idea that were saying meet with God for 20 minutes. I have done my God thing. Or, you know what you find as you start enjoying it.

I did 30.

I'm really enjoying it. I did 45 now got 23 hours and 15 minutes where I totally forget God.

I do my own thing that is not over talk about what were talking about is how do you jumpstart your day in relationship so that it bleeds into every area of your life and that's the final portion were gonna talk about practicing his presence, worship, notice in the very last verse here it says giving thanks right.

Verse 20 giving thanks for everything you do that for everything. If you're not aware of what God is doing throughout the day, the priority of practicing his presence. Worship limited to passages. Second Corinthians 10 five we are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God and we are taking. Listen to this every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. How could you take every thought captive.

If you weren't aware of what God was doing, moment by moment in your life or take this verse. First Thessalonians 516 to 18, rejoice always, pray without ceasing.

In everything give thanks, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus. How you pray without ceasing receipt God doesn't want you to spend an hour with them, or a half-hour with him. He wants you. Here's the definition it's the regular and learned practice of living, moment by moment, with an ongoing awareness and ongoing dialogue with God throughout your entire day. That's what practicing the presence, worship is it's a learned practice of living, moment by moment with an awareness that God is working and developing an ongoing dialogue.

The purpose of this is to live in communion with the Holy Spirit with an attitude of gratitude in every relationship and every circumstance. In light of the sovereignty and goodness is to live in communion with God. In practice, it's really simple. At the heart of this is that there's no such thing as sacred and secular is is holy to take a shower as it is to worship as is to go to work as it is to play with when your kids as it is to go out on the softball team.

You live before the face of God in the presence of God 24 seven and you are an authentic living sacrifice worship are now you spend in-depth time with your Savior hearing his voice, learning, sharing your heart you come corporately with God's people and you worship and insult you see him like never before and then moment by moment you get up when you get up he say good morning Lord. This is a formal prayer time we have in store for me.

When you walk in and if you're one of us men, and you have to you shave your look in the mirror you think you've told me that I'm fearful and wonderfully made to look like it this morning. I thank you that you love me and you get the shower and you're doing your hair and you say you know not a sparrow falls but you know every hair of my head you know what's can happen today and then your mind starts going right anxiety to get this many get to do this.

Having to pay the bill would, but one of the kids and you turn that you say Lord I do feel those thoughts coming on and as you get dressed you say Lord, would you help this kid is going through a rough time and you know the meeting.

I don't know I'm gonna pay the bill and then you go spend time with God and quiet yourself instead of zipping out the door and a cuppa coffee and toast on your lap and driving between traffic as fast as possible to get your heart rate up your stress level high and so that you bring nothing to your job. Except I fired up stressed out person you set your clock 20 to 30 minutes back after you've done that you meet with him, you get perspective and then you get your car you enjoy the ride and you look at the mountains you talk to the Lord while watching headlights in front of you and then you walk can you sit down you look at your desk and even why you're in a meeting, you can have a little conversation and you can feel tension in the meeting. You don't say anything we say Lord, give me wisdom here help me know what to say or what not to say Lord I see real anger. Would you work this out and then you go to the drinking fountain. Your talking and you know just awareness and someone ask you question God opens a door and you get to share to school but what going on in your life then you go to lunch and then during intensive meetings for three hours. You totally forget God. And then he remind you that I remember as an early Christian I started meeting with God it was so hard to build this discipline and I remember I do that, and the like. I'd get ready go to bed. I think she is I am. I'm not bottom God once the entire day we not once in a cell. Lord, I'm sorry.

And you know and then I started to grow a little bit I think about it maybe twice, maybe three times in about 10 or 15 years later, it would be just an ongoing conversation. Little by little every day and you live in is present in what happens then then do you still blow it does junk not in your mouth you still get angry.

Of course get guess what the Spirit does ingrown. We don't go there. That's right.

And you confess it in your own and your repent and see what happens and you don't send you your living in the light walking trip.

Be right back is teaching today, but if you're just joining us, you're listening to Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram chips message how to overcome hypocrisy in your private life is from his four-part series stop faking it. It's true. No one likes a hypocrite. Opus aspires to become a hypocrite, but we all know there are certain levels of hypocrisy, we turn to allowing our lives so is it really possible to live without hypocrisy. Absolutely in this series stop faking it.

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This had such a positive impact in the life of our church. In effect, today's message was one of the ones that shocked me. I have to tell you I felt I don't how to use any other word I felt a little hokey, I literally got in front of the church had sat down at a table and I had a real quiet time in front of our church and I went through the two Pro at method and I thought to myself either. This is going to be really hokey and people you and roll their eyes and say Ingram has lost it or it's really going to help him and I'm really grateful to say the response was amazing because this is been how I've been studying the Bible for years and years and years and so what I want you to know is I'm gonna go overrule quickly what that two Pro app stands for in case you missed it.

And so with that said, here's what the two Pro apt stands for is an acronym. The first P is you pray, the second P is preview.

You just read it rapidly. The are is you read it slowly. The oh is you make observations now as you're reading it the third time DA is you apply it you take one specific truth and put it into practice. The last P is pray and ask God's help to apply this in a way that will transform your life and the T is for tell tell someone what God taught you that day. It is very simple, but the response has been amazing is people of said I now have a system. I have a way to really meet God. Here's the deal.

The day is now for the church to be the church. May you live without hypocrisy for the glory of God go for as we wrap up today's program. I want to say thank you to those who make this broadcast possible through your generous financial support. Your gifts help us create programs. Purchaser time and develop additional resources to help Christians live like Christians. If you've been blessed by the ministry of Living on the Edge. Would you consider sending a gift today. You can call us at 1-888-333-6003, or if you prefer, donate online at http://livingontheedge.org will tomorrow chip begins a new series called momentum how to ignite their faith. So I hope you be with us for that for all of us here this is Steve Drewry saying thanks for listening to this Edition of Living on the Edge