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February 24, 2022 5:00 am
You know it's been said that the most unpleasant truth is a safer companion than a pleasant false, you know we all have blind we all need a friend that person is willing to tell us today we'll talk about how to be that person had received the truth but we don't want to stay with. Thanks for joining us for this Edition of Living on the Edge with Living on the Edges of international teaching and discipleship ministry the Bible teaching of shipping under this program to choose a short series by impacting one for us to both give and receive admonishment to explain that every great relationship is built on trust and how that trust opens the door for us to speak the truth before we get started if you're new to Living on the Edge missed any part of the series can always catch up. The other chip and without turning your Bible down to Romans chapter 15 part two of chips message how to speak the truth in love now you about that person that God might just want you to be his voice to speak 11 1111 enough to tell the truth for freezing this and gets right back into it is because sin destroys a believer's life. We use this verse we share the gospel email. Romans 623 for the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. The wages of sin is death. That's not true just theologically true just with regard to salvation.
The price tag of sin is death. What staff New Testament. The Old Testament separation examination from God. You know when I sin against my wife.
It produces a distance when I sin against God produces a distance and then there's consequences if I see sin in your life or you see sin in my life.
If you see my life going this direction in the Scripture clearly says that she be going this direction and you don't tell me I'm getting and destroy my life and never just destroys me. But then the ripples I'm destroying this up other people don't.
We all know that we all have friends we thought, the marriage broke up. The partnership broke apart the king was going astray. We didn't say anything and then destroyed them other people that other people other people you see admonition is God's antibiotic in the body of Christ says like an infection is like cancer cells, admonition needs to come early and hard and lovingly bombard that infection with the antibiotic of God's truth spoken in love you save people.
Where would I be if someone didn't cite your lazy preacher I still be given lazy sermons and I'll tell you what God would be as annoying as final reason is because we are members of one another. Romans 1245 says we are members of one another just like a human body. Once someone we respect crosses the line of Scripture, not our standards but of Scripture. Unchecked is like a herd like a herd of sheep. We follow in the church loses its salt and its light when sin is not dealt with it soon becomes the status quo you read the reports right, one out of four Americans claims. What they're born again in America out of four people in America claimed that a personal life-giving eternal relationship with Jesus Christ was a holy God's creator was all-powerful not only got one or two options on this when I look at the divorce rate in America lack of integrity in America. Memorials in America education in America when one out of every four Christina's is a Christian assault like this only two options here one. A lot of people lie with her talk about or the other, which I think I think your sincere they're not salty and they're not like and somewhere along the line.
This is what happens you will will know you. The Bible says this and that's wrong and this is right and then some respected leader or some group does that we turn and think – I always thought that was wrong. That verse. I guess maybe that verse doesn't mean what it just clearly says will. He's a leader and that's a big organization or that's influential church. And guess what happens. So people do it and then people do it and then people do it and so we have a church full of people instead of sharpening one another to love and to good works and holiness into righteousness and purity, but people always looking at someone who is less holy in sight. Patient are doing this other Christian watch that you do this with their money.
Other Christians let their kids do this. Other Christians and you know what we have. We had a prophetic sick anemic church but basically the driving pulse of the church in America. Jesus Christ is how individual Christians can be comfortable can be happy.
Be self fulfilled and get their needs met and if this church doesn't do it off-line. One in the calling of the church of Jesus Christ is to be salt to be like to be 11 to be holy to be righteous to be a kingdom of priests to meet other not prudish, not down your nose at people, but in a winsome, godly, holy, white, with a separate life doesn't happen is not much anabiotic all of us are telling our wives, our friends about things we see in people's lives. Instead of telling them now. It's important is so what we said we said that this is really important to God commands it will develop deep relationships.
We all need to protect the church. Logical question is see God commands if I needed it will help me help others. Why don't we do living for three reasons.
Reason number one.
You already know about the confrontation is difficult. Some of us would rather die than bring up tough stuff with people we are peacekeepers instead of peacemakers peacekeepers status quo status quo. The local met people like me, like me, like everything's okay everything's okay.
It's called pseudo-peace. That just means that you're putting wood on the fire you're putting plutonium tubes into the reactor because man it's gonna blow. That's what peacekeepers do.
Peacemakers say let's get it on the table. Let's deal with this now white small whites manageable. We hate conference.
I confrontation I love every time. I know all that I got addresses I get a big knot in my stomach and I usually can't sleep the night before.
It's always 100 times bigger in my mind and now I've learned it really plays out to be. But after I've seen the havoc and pain. Not speaking the truth in love produces what I'm so committed to this, our staff would say he is he so committed to it is scary. I want to receive it and I want to give it because what I learned is the pain is too great when we don't. Second reason we don't do it is we feel that I mean honestly, don't don't part of your thinking yeah maybe I should. I see this and this person's life, but you dislike what the kettle calling the pot black and who am I to speak into another person's life of me I struggle with this and this and this and this and want to talk about that but please go through the logic. If you wait until your perfect to speak into another person's life when we speak no time soon. Now there's some competencies prerequisites before you speak.
Your adequate back having to speak will cause you to grow third. We don't know. I think this is one of the big ones. I mean, you feel that your motion to talk to him. I gotta say something you know will I just don't know what I'd tell you very specifically how to sew this point and that wrestling match in your mind. I'm praying God's warning and getting to the point where that person that friend, coworker, that child that person you're in ministry with that person is drifted away.
That person is involved in illicit affair that person that you know struggling in an area I'm praying that if you're right at the point now reducing God.
Okay, I don't do this, you know, I don't want to do, but you commanded.
This is the most loving thing I could do. Gotta fuel show me how I'm open, but I feel what you want to do in the first how how prepared toy need to be. The question then becomes who is really competent to admonish from Romans 1514 and from the rest of the New Testament. I think there's three characteristics before you go out and speak to anyone. These three things need to be a part of your life and your experience verse and requires a life full of goodness. Did you see that in the line is I'm fully convinced that you are what full of goodness this term in general means that were living a holy, righteous life.
The ideas of clean up our own act before we move into another's life and clean affairs now classic passage on this is usually misquoted and even worse, it's misapplied Jesus words are cultures got this one down.
Matthew seven right, three through five. Who are you right.
Who are you to take the speck out of your brother's eye. When you have a log in your own eye right before that. So anytime you go to anyone you say I really need to talk with you love observe some things and I don't mean are my opinions and talk about you know this is this is black-and-white. This is really clear in Scripture that you know I love you and immediate responses. Who are you to speak into my life in a read that passage is second, and carefully weigh you very interesting. It is a warning it says cleanup your heart your life. Let God examine you get the log out of your eye before you take the speck out of your brother or your sisters, you hypocrite. It goes on to say and then you know what it says.
The assumption is you will take the speck out of their it is not never do that. The actual application is just the opposite. Read carefully the application is deal with your own life first so that you will in fact take the speck out of their life. So let me ask, what is it that you need to deal with personally and privately before you go talk to that friend.
Where is God speaking to you we need is a God I'm sorry I need to repent. I need to deal with that so that I can go talk to them. Second requirement is not only a life full of goodness, but requires a life filled with knowledge same passage. Romans 1514. The idea here is that you're filled with God's word. We must be careful to admonish with regard to the absolutes of Scripture, not in areas that are extra biblical when you go and talk to someone.
This can be your opinion about something you know I really don't think that you have these kind of fashions and those kind of fashions are those, shoes, or whether you were lipstick are not all that jazz. This is about knowing God's word and in very clear black-and-white biblical issues you speaking to people's lives and in the word study to give you 12 or 15 specific areas in the New Testament where we have examples you want to know where where we have freedom to admonish concerning false teachers. Acts 2021 when people involved in any kind of false teaching or false teaching is moving in. We are stepping concerning false doctrine. Second Timothy four concerning disunity and personal relationships. Philippians 4 when people are at each other's throat we need to step concerning immoral behavior first Corinthian's five concerning diligence in corporate and individual prayer for the study of God's word. You see people sliding in those disciplines concerning the health and well-being of another first of the four pulse essay Timothy, let me admonish you, you know you need to get your diet right because I'm concerned about your health. There may be someone you so you know what what you're drinking what you putting in your body, or how you're working is killing you. I love you speak to concerning boldness and identifying with Christ. Second Timothy 178 concerning how to relate to the opposite sex both before and after marriage. First Corinthians 7 concerning perseverance and endurance through trials and people ready to give up second Timothy 44 James one concerning materialism and money. First Timothy six concerning the use of the neglect of your spiritual gift. I got that one concerning gossip, spreading rumors, giving false or misleading malicious reports Peter to concerning pride or arrogance in a person's life. First Corinthians 4 concerning the loving of the brother. Those are all black-and-white issues. Those are issues that when you see him in my life. You have a moral responsibility to come and say to me Chip. I see materialism reaping in your life or least ice. I see some things I don't understand Chip.
I see arrogance or pride creeping into your life, as evidenced by these comments that you made chip. This inkling of immoral behavior in light of seeing you walk out of that building. That building with this woman that I didn't know now you know. Tell me what your sister and Tommy were sharing Christ in their fine you get to be filled with the word finally and I think this is the most important. You can air almost anywhere. No error here. The third characteristic is it requires a heart filled with the whole passage. Romans 1514 he he he he says brothers first Corinthian's 414. He admonishes him and he says not to shame you, but as listen as beloved children. Acts 2031. What is talk with these elders in his warning of any's admonishing pieces you remember when I was with you how night and day with tears. I did it out of love.
Second Thessalonians 315 is a rather Ephesians 64 as a father does children well worth the point where let's talk about how to do. I believe by this time, there's probably most of you are least pondering or thinking about someone you really love you know there's an area in their life that if it continues, it will destroy them, and may destroy family. It will mar the testimony of Christ. It will bring destruction into their life and God will not use and it will it will completely render them useless if unchecked, so how do you do it.
Let me just give you real step-by-step plan.
First, examine your own life. Examine your own life before God get a loan, get your Bible open to God for something that I need to address before I talk with them.
Show me sit quietly will show you second examine the word whatever the issue is you don't go to people with vague you go to them what help me was every time. People admonish me to really help me.
They shared passage. The authority is not you and your opinions. The authority of Scripture. You come alongside is a brother sister eye care and you say I care about you and see this truth right here what I perceive so far as your life doesn't align with that truth and you show them the truth, you read it to lovingly caringly third.
Examine your motives on our staff with little saying if you can't say it. Love, José. Keep praying and taking that as many off the hook if you're angry, and which by the way, often is how you start off the people right I'm angry because she said this is even this income and you realizing a major problem in her life. Well you don't get to go until you go because you're one goal you care about them. Fourth set a time to meet privately, don't. Don't you know get all fired up about this and bumped into him in the hall table.
People everywhere really want you fill.
Five.
Ask specific questions to confirm data and disarm situation you sometimes you do have data and it may not. It may look one way but ask a few probing questions before we make some Fiat state, a member once the staff member came in my office and looked around, shut the door and this is what I remember in my mind may not be quite as big but it was funny and it looked really sick and talking to second to bless a nice picture of your wife over their kids over here. Take a look at me with the who's it's real pretty girl right of your coming right out here who's this woman in your office and was like I really think this is an appropriate coming as it is my sister and I said thanks I appreciate I think she's can keep to you know what it set a message and he was asking the question to confirm the data. See that's what you gotta do is you may find out they were sharing Christ in a bar or that was an innocent relationship so pass before you leap in six tenderly point out the sin show them the Scripture that applies to open your Bible show seventh if possible, develop a game plan timetable and follow-up meeting for support and follow through.
I say if possible because now I warn you, my experience is against this.
My experiences when ever you really love someone and you go along and you go in tears and you really care 90% of the time the responses very, very positive, but not always see the issue is not how they respond is not your responsibility. The issue is will you do what God wants you to do what they do with the truth spoken in love is their responsibility. But if possible, you don't know just dump and say, well, good.
Now you got but then you say okay what's again plan what to timetable who may not even be human who can help you deal with this area you need to get a Bible study or there's a group of men or group omit women working on this work. How do you help the person. The goal is to love them dreaming align with God's will and get help not fusing point, but it conclusion admonition is God's antibiotic for the church done biblically done biblically, it is the most loving thing you can ever do for all concerned Bellamy to be action step you ready is there someone who needs to hear a word from God through you in your relational network yes or no. Just yes or no. Is there not may not know faint well maybe your sword know is there someone whose life is in juxtaposition to what is the clear will of God, not wanting to do it is another issue but is there someone today right now that needs to hear from you yes or no, no, I'll think about it later, and no, I mean right now is there second, do you love them enough to speak to them this week yes or no and you can be honest and say that much.
I want to risk the relationship, how to keep it superficial.
If there destroyed if things happen while I can live with that. I want the rejection. Okay, yes or no do you love them enough to speak to Myrna, trapping you with these questions are by design and without apology.
You can save marriage you could save a person's life. You can save a person's job. You can save a future you could transform the entire course of a person's life.
If you love them enough to admonish and final question with God's help. Are you willing right now, today, to commit to pray. Examine your own life and then fill in the day this week is application for this message. How to speak the truth in love of his series love one another. We will see the bracelets or at least heard the phrase what would Jesus do you know WWJ be Jesus's answer is simple.
Love one another in this miniseries triple focus on 1 Specific Way to model Christ's love to others. Accountability will not only address how hard speaking the truth in love is but explain why it's crucial for spiritual growth. Don't list the practical ways to be a truth telling friend and how to humbly receive correction to learn more about the resources for love one another or the other parts of the series. Just go to LivingontheEdge.org or call AAA 333-6003 that's AAA 333-6003, or LivingontheEdge.org app listeners top special offers before we continue. Here's chip to talk about something that's really close to his heart. Let me ask you a question.
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What's the standard. What are you gonna say what what does the Scripture say about this. Number three. Examine your motives be really really careful. Why are you doing this step number four. Set a time to privately meet with them. Step number five begin by asking specific questions to confirm and disarm you want to be a loving caring friend whose probing and pulling out the truth, and the number six tenderly point out the sin show them the Scripture that applies to them when I say show you the Scripture. I don't mean that you throw in Adam like a dart like three here's where you're wrong but there's a tenderness in your heart. You see, this is what God says and every command. He once you good you want you to get back on his path so he can bless you and then the final step, if possible, sit down with them and develop a game plan. So are you ready who's the person that you can bring God's love to in a delicate like a surgeon, you know, like a surgeon who uses a scalpel, not to hurt, but to bring healing and restoration. Oh God this is so hard for us.
We you help each one of us had that meeting and have that talk to help save and restore these people that we love a man as we close, I want to thank those of you who regularly gives to the ministry of Living on the Edge you're making a big difference in helping Christians live like Christians if you're enjoying the benefits of Living on the Edge. Put art get on the team would you do that today. You can set up a recurring donation by calling us at AAA 333-6003 or visiting us@livingontheedge.org app listeners top donate. Thanks for doing whatever the Lord leads you to do well for all of us here.
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