Grooming Red Flags

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It's time to light the way to freedom. This is lantern rest. We tell the stories we talk about rest and we empower you to do something about it was once said, let it not be said I was silent when the welcome to lantern rescue and is just continues to amaze me what all God is doing and we talked recently about this event that was held down in Florida and so really cool. We have several of the volunteers.

Alanna rescued her to be on with us today, but first off Whitney, can you give our listeners a little bit of an idea of what went on down there in Florida and don't make me that way. I had a lot of working on a company working on putting a tournament three entering and and we worked on the community and area account. I we had people reach out and get it down in Florida a week prior to the event recap the word out about what manner what's going on for lantern and that human trafficking and fell in in doing that. We came across a agreement that was going to have experience that not expected to be able to take part in administrator on one of I wanted. I went down to hear when one of the local beauty actually and grandmother on happened to be working there and told her I love it out why that little did we know three days later, her daughter came to her about her granddaughter on having a conversation with a older man on the Internet and email when her daughter came… It starts to what we are talking of making human trafficking and joking parallel. We really had any opportunity you speak with her at managed actually showed up the event. The grandmother get initially not try lantern cable not the key to talk with her and pray letter and you and she was very concerned because her granddaughter was 13 maybe 12 or 13 years old. I'm not very old, and met a gentleman online that lied about ancient show will get deeper into that story or narrative in a little bat that she was very concerned and she really just wanted to have tonight to talk to about it and tucked it. Talk about that reality of human trafficking and the things that go on with that for her.

It was really a God thing. Place someone in her path every day for forgetting the conversation with her daughter really neat opportunity to be a part of in ministry opportunity for all of us as well. Since for such a time as this. And so when Telus you know from your perspective. You know when you got it on this, though, when he found me happy and with a family so that the mom in the 13 and younger daughter and follow and opening their parents were very, very supportive and very also there's an air of what we find out your child talking to an older person online. A lot of parents – kind of a my anger but I don't hope that with the punishment almost when they approach their kids because there you don't know how to they were trying to have an open door policy.

Great job talking to her, making her feel humbled by the same type how that they were kind of no little a little mad that the situation had happened to begin with.

I think a lot of that probably also self blame, so we had a conversation with her and the young girl was uncomfortable. He could tell she was a little maybe a little ashamed and yet we hear about is you think you know a lot more about you. Do you think your parents with young anymore. You can probably think you get caught, you realize that what you're doing is potentially your own life and your safety. It is hard to predict the a lot of embarrassment and confusion around really well and it was really the parent wanted to be so open and involved in their child's life like that and they immediately went and in part because of the rep help them and that was incredible, and whether what tuition are not what they could have led to his really the exact problem. The best showing that she was able to talk to her parents.

Whenever there is an issue and her parent were supportive of her and she also knew she had better guidelines of what was a long line of what could cause issues with moving forward so well just be another one of the volunteers there that we've we've had on the show a few times before you know this this conversation led to sort of springboard information. It really felt like a lot of family should know right. Oh yeah, absolutely.

Early prevention is something not really need to be talked about school and church is allotment of not just talking but if you can, general, and confusion comes from online tradition and grooming from family, you can meet my people in your life. A lot of people.12 abused children and then also on the other side topic. Usually position themselves to gain access to individual and so the more that family and at risk youth can learn the better they would be prepared in the future when they encounter so you have a chance. Obviously from this all through the stuff that you do through social media share stuff with families.

What are some of the things that you share what we share the village of light how we have like open transparency policy with our children and how we recommend that some questions you can get from your children are really really hard to answer and get fitted in our lives, we can overlook by something being flogged and just sum it up, you stage your emotional and Mohammed are supposed to act this way a lot actually indicated that something could be wrong and when we pause and are able to dig into that really I figure out what's happening in our kids live the better we are not as well critical aspects as they were able to talk about this and everybody was accessible so Whitney, you know what what are some of things that you think are listers can glean from this couple of things I think you know the generation that up-and-coming clad different. They think for many different talented yet outgoing out my mom what quickly like a cake my arms reach an email think because we are from an older generation arcing. Mike that my part and ask me how they enter into that of the human trafficking and not delay the world anymore to stomach it does happen, it does occur, there's this element don't like adding an online credit and we don't have to come in and jerk are kidnapped from her hand taking it come through the Internet. When you hand in phone eight years old in our 10 years old to 15 years old and they build this manipulative relationship like daddy. There's so much of an open door policy you have to have your children that they do feel comfortable coming to you about this question and clearly this girl in Florida need.

I think that her parents and begged the question that he was willing to discuss that and you my my other mission field if you will, is on hike with Peter L you and Peter have speakers listening you guys down the front lines of some of the situation. I would encourage your teachers and meeting people have family members that are in the airline industry you're on the front line.

What can be what can be problematic in how how things are you hopping contender trickle down.

I felt situation where prior to really knowing having the knowledge base of what trafficking wise. I would have thought they had an x-ray view that the child a really pathetic situation and specific person that comes to mind, but I have built a very strong relationship with her on that her mom weighed her for drugs.

As a young child, and so those are things like appearance personally. It's hard to understand how you prepare for your child to to handle any kind of situation you down the course and a little bit different because there is a addiction involved in now, but think that we, there's probably a lot more that a good non-that were even aware of some extent, but is learning to look for that thinking with your own children learning to open the door and hard question. Another balance I think you have to kind of work around and I had young children know how I can discuss anything with them a little different, and you we had a statewide rate and fell. He knows that if that were to setting. There is an immediate threat and I need you to be Corsini and pay attention to what I say right though. There's also we talk about things like you have places that people don't need to see or touch right and having conversation not waiting for something to happen before you have the conversation on that element of balancing out. I don't want my child to be afraid of people I need them to know that balance between good and evil in the world and even Paco had Christlike compassion people you know it's a finding that balance is very difficult in the world that were in. While I would you crush the a lot of really good point, Mary. So I was fantastic. That is a good way to put it. It is not the world of Europe and America. When the lights turn on. It is a predator there for whatever nowadays a predator that Artie in your home there on the phone or on laptop job is a great point to bring up were trying to involve the generation to understand the younger generation and try to protect them in a way that we don't really fully grasp yet having the open conversations is really the best way to do and having a relationship where they feel comfortable coming to you and talking to about that is so vital, so that that's an incredible point you brought up there and I doubly think that when you concerning even if your long you think there's something going on. Maybe it really is a 13-year-old boy that also like the same toy that they were talking about online or whatever conversation what maybe that's right then you know you father be wrong and be situation then be wrong and it you know you're not having something more. So I think about a lot of really good point break. We come back for more information that families can use as well as ways we can pray for James about the time the right national rescue operations for people suffering from human trafficking specializes in sending you a special operations law enforcement and intelligence personnel department with host nations and assist them in reading specialized combat on genocide, terrorism is a nonprofit charity offer services free of charge. Human trafficking is relevant to the second largest from elected estimated $50 billion rescue was developed rapidly to combat trafficking and operates through training, a national network of women and children six labor slavery and facilitates for operations right now and see how you can support a welcome back to Landon rescue today show fresh altered event in Florida where actually, our team had a chance to meet with the family that was experiencing some grooming in these kind of things and have to listen to that rainwater. Some of the other things that the people should be no sensitive to that are on the front lines will be run airplane or teacher or whatever field room in the world like you mentioned teaching you are, the aggressions reverently you think it come in every week. Relationship interactions with children and adults.

Well we know talk about what you want to look out for changes in behavior that are very out of the normal for them or in a lot of situations here in America. Went to get traffic in their starting to be groomed by the loverboy of fact that their new hope boyfriend by giving them gifts is they can generally or event isolating a lot more bringing in the mechanically how they got them.the warning signs a lot of preaching reactive touches there.

It looked so that we very concerning and really, what is the most beneficial, though, beyond all of that help you there read by their conversation started with the most important is having a conversation and being a soft place to come talk to and always being approachable and understanding and not making people feel like they are the criminal you want and understand that you are there to help them. You are not looking at them as they done anything wrong and a lot of my five you know the people in your life that you know I would notice that one of my nephew you suddenly change his behavior even if it happened gradually. You know what happened, where we claim 20 malarial try to hurt things. What's going on here. I got a notice in your in your life and gather your very active in this as well. Yet, a lot of times I try to blame grooming to people that don't understand as something that you would be like that would just impact I should think changes in behavior can be angry or it can be depression and it could be even something that doesn't mean that I them always wanting to go do something that regular always talking on their phone to someone you don't know and don't recognize the number, name of anything that they kinda don't want to talk about and/or secretive about exactly work not on having transparency and having been able to talk you, but you also be able to come and talk to them and like continue to understanding is important, but also like allowing them know the world protect our children and so much and as long as we can. It's often not apparent because they want to protect their children and instead won't bring up the topic.children that those children should hear and know and then by the time they do bring it up late and they've Artie seen or experienced this kind of material or hall or view and then edges can become to sensitizing minutes from the world culture other people instead when you're able to calm and express and talk to them about it honestly.

Let them know about the dangers of it and why it is important to talk about it as well with me about what you said about balance. You really don't make everybody just totally paranoid. So if you got some other ideas along along those lines, you know, it really so very young when you're talking to your parent. Why on his six-year-old applicant that he and him particularly have a heart for all people. He prayed that he would have a heart for the least of these guys but sometimes that can be I don't world war and I don't want that to be taken taken and more advantage of exactly reminding hand that you people have the ability to be good but there's also not good people out there to see you have to figure out when your heart tells you is not a good situation to be in or you have the feeling like when my mommy mad near what my mommy be worried about me now. Anytime you have the hearing anything about that and come talk to mommy tell mommy, daddy hello. You know your grandparent talk to somebody when you there's somebody around you that might like a nice person but maybe you just don't feel right, you even at that age they had intuition now and they know when something a little bit half are they comfortable enough to come to you added the key is apparent in facilitating that relationship that allows them to say you know hey you know don't know uncle Johnny is you know, he said something that made me feel bad or feel whatever.

Let them have the opportunity to talk to you without you, just being quick to dismiss them because we so often do not apparent or you overlook it, and there is not a moment that you will regret not paying something or saying something versus not think something if it end up being a situation that could have been prevented.

Now note taking the time to have that conversation. Taking the time to address someone, even if it feels really out of faith or you feel your concern about what the class back and be on you know being able to say hey now at night and you know what I'm talking about or not getting an honest answer, but can learn to pick up on the sign is.

A blaze of people that are not the best intentions for your child from your perspective that I I like completely yet I have ever click everyone can think back to top it when you did something and you stuck your stomach drop you like that look like I did something wrong. You know that feeling and make sure that children know that it's okay to have that feeling and that needed to come and talk your current billing. Oh, vital. Another thing I wanted to bring out that panicking my mind. When you is wanted times into the getting groomed here in AmeriCredit we have a one-way effect. Also, another another way they can be used in traffic and found a family and a lot of kids ending when I grabbed your family that have to hug and kiss everyone in the room. Whether you want to or not you get so desensitized that you feel like when people really don't want touching you. You kind of have to accept it because you had to do with the child at all yards with respect in the order. Their family love them no matter how they touch me or or interact with Manso six FX, though it had to do that. I'm sure other people out like important to allow children to not apparent. However, I do think it's important to allow children to choose when I want to have physical contact that again being not not force them to be doing the kissing and hugging when you get the family them so they understand that they have sovereignty over their own body and they can make a decision and when adult or trust the person says they're trying to manipulate them into a physical sexual relationship.

They don't feel the obligation to do so completely I teach my kids and everything and it's not disrespecting other people confess and think for themselves on hearing very much so like they they hide. They do have the freedom to express their want and their feelings about me I my parents were much like you talking about doing that and that's one thing that I kinda changed in my parenting because I want them to be free to express that doesn't mean that they always get their wishes, but I do want them to learn to speak for themselves and to advocate as I get a chance very often to counsel with guys through boot camp similar ministries in that it been abused or their daughters have been abused or you know what I'm getting into those almost every time it's a family member or neighbor almost every time. And so if there someplace that we really want our kids to be sensitive. This is when were with you know uncle Johnny and Emma and all those, stuff you know, Jim is going to be balance. So W have some really helpful information. What you know when it comes to give our kids instruction along these lines, yet I was loving what Whitney said about how he mentioned not good talking to her father on but other trusted adult. I think it's really important for we have a conversation not yet. The medication with you and your child but you mentioned the other trusted adult that they could go to on.

If they were to get lost somewhere like in the mall or grocery store like they could go. It did to get help you to look for to ask the question because when you don't prepare them for the kind of thing and then something does happen and they can't come to you right away or finds you, they need to have the people that they can feel comfortable talking to knowing who to ask for help in a situation of grooming if they are scared they are in trouble or that your angry, disappointed her and they need to know that they can talk to someone else to might not do that as well so I think that it's important you open that up. Then they can go to grandma or two with you church to a counselor or to someone at church and know that they can talk to the people and they will also get help and it doesn't have to adjust your life you gotta a last word from the Spanish think everyone for the vacation. I know it's a very uncommon book topic, but it is vital. It's really important and if you, the worst thing to find out of your child being abused for a long period time and they come in here talking about it so is uncomfortable to come their own for it better to like what you said earlier it better to have the wrong but never once again with the Japanese in room thank you so much.

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