Essential Glue for Every Couple to Apply, Part 2

Today from Chuck Swindoll being right in our theology doesn't give us the okay to be demanding in our relationship. Remember that it doesn't give you the freedom to pull right on those that are biblically ignorant how pleasant and surprising to be around individuals who are well known and gifted and in demand would never make demands or expect special with all the forces working against the home.

What keeps a husband and wife from giving up today on Insight for living Chuck's window points us to a familiar passage in first Corinthians 13 provides the answer. This virtue rises above all other primary personal behavior draws together. So whether you're engaged to be married newlywed or seasoned husband or wife or something for everyone message Chuck titled essential glue every couple of father we we have trusted in many things that have failed lives, we have counted on people who have failed us. We have chase dreams that have failed us. We have followed our hearts only to find they were moving in the wrong direction. We have never encountered a day when we have followed you are carried out. The promises of your truth where you have failed today. Lord we live in a world that's lost its way to solving it by running faster slow us down in the midst of a frenzied society give us a sense of calm and quiet as we peacefully return to things that matter. It would be very careful to hear these things that will be taught us today as if we were the only person in the room. Please speak directly to each one of us deliver us from the age old habit of being grateful someone else is here to hear this, or even rushing to the excuse. If I'd heard this earlier. I could do more of my life. Maybe here this is it for the first time today.

As a result of hearing. May it make a difference in living Lord. There are many who would love to be a part of this room and the praises and songs of these times together, but illness, hospital experience a disability.

Whatever may have caused them to stay away.

Our hearts go out to them and we pray for them today.

Not only them but those who serve alongside them hard-working and careful physicians, diligent nurses, those who care for individuals and hospices and homes, loved ones and friends. Open our hearts of love these days. In this season of the year to include those who are different than we are. Those who have lost their way. Those who have turned against you, and selected a life of bitterness was who are confused, some may be in the very circle of our family. Somehow Lord speak through this lesson on love so that we are able to be different people with them in toward him. Our hearts also go to families that are lonely today whose mom or dad is in prison or serving in the uniform, out of love patriotism for their country. We pray for those families that are left without their loved ones. We pray for those who are in lonely and dangerous places. This set is the season of the year makes us especially tender. Let our hearts be broken.

Father rather than go about our work in a perfunctory businesslike manner and be a time when we wonder as we wander out onto the sky. Jesus, our Savior could calm to die.

We worship you today our father as a result of our work and our wages were able to give to you our gifts just as those of old have always done. And as you have done since your existence. Lord we have never known you to keep you give and give and give and give again so we learn from you how to do that. Be pleased in the reasons behind our gifts and the gifts themselves, is an overflow from hearts full of gratitude. Our father may our worship be enhanced as we give to you as we ask this in Jesus monies a man the Bible with Chuck Swindoll sure to download his searching the Scriptures. Studies by going to Insight world.or/studies and outlets resume the message titled essential glue for every couple to apply your parcel begins with three statements regarding priority. The first priority in verse one has to do with words and love is so much better than that. The second has to do with all my knowledge prophetic gifts. The whole ability to act on faith and love is better than that. And the third verse has to do with the sacrificial living right to the point of martyrdom and love is better than that revisited with me quickly. A higher priority than words is love verse one if I spoke or were able to speak with the tongues of men and of angels. If I had the language of the angelic creatures if I knew how to communicate with those who are six wind who filled the throne room of God.

If I had the giftedness to hold vast audiences in my grip with my words if I had the eloquence to say things as had never been said before and I lack love in the slaying of them I would come across as a noisy gong or an empty brass symbol if I could speak with any language in heaven on earth. I might as well save my breath. No amount of linguistic skill. No amount of eloquence can replace the presence of love without love. I have nothing value of value to say the second verse. If I am gifted in the realm of prophecy. I know all the mysteries and I have all knowledge. Just think about that for a moment highest priority here is spiritual giftedness and spiritual death. If I had the kind of faith that can move a range of mountains from one part of the continent to another just by claiming the moving of the mountains and yet lack love I am nothing. Nothing. Love is more valuable than prophetic knowledge and utterance. Love is more valuable than biblical awareness love is more valuable than personal faith, believe it, it says it, and yet we find ourselves pursuing an answer to the mysteries and an understanding of knowledge and and unraveling all of these incredible statements in the Bible about faith but Paul says love, that's the ticket that's the one essential few people to put it better than Dr. Ron Allen in his footnote on the Nelson study Bible what he says base of first Corinthians 13. The word agape translated love describes a love that is based on the deliberate choice of the one who loves rather than the worthiness of the one who is it is a giving, selfless, expect nothing in return.

Kind of love are modern throwaway society encourages us to get rid of people in our lives who are difficult to get along with, whether they are friends, family or acquaintances. Yet this attitude runs in complete contrast to the love described by Paul truelove. He concludes puts up with the people who would be easier to give up on convicting his belt when it works its way out. Now that we know the priority of it. One of the characteristics give me some for instances. I'm hearing some of you say well if you look at the list in verses four through the first part of a will come across over a dozen characteristics each one of them is unique. Each one of them worth your time. Think about apprise your life on the basis of what is said and you. It was interesting.

You'll find that there are more negative than positive, more love is not than there are. Love is love doesn't is more often than loved us what sort of bunch up the group into chunks. We can bite off digest okay. Let's take patience and kindness together.

Let's kick it off right there. Love is patient, love is kind.

We have a term of short tempered.

Interesting that would be in Greek micro through me. To me, as a word from which we get our word thermometer. The idea of heat or passion, or in this case, temper, but this is Matt role through media long temper that interesting. Love is long temper love doesn't have a short fuse. John Chrysostom use these words to describe her. If use the one who is wronged and has it in his power to avenge himself but restrained from doing so. All of us are stronger than at least one of the person or we maybe are able to pull rank on at least one other maybe several and even though that's true of us. When we have that opportunity. And they've done is wrong.

We restrained from getting back or getting even. Love does neither. What is also kind. What a great word. We lost it in our evangelical churches. I'm afraid we sorta left it.

When we left the Methodist Church heard a lot about it when you were Methodist. Here we are independent kind of gathering and Paul revives it.

It's not a Methodist term is not a Presbyterian term. It's not a religious term. It's kind kind. It means friendly, helpful, free of pettiness and criticism. As a matter of fact, this word kind is used of aged wine that has mellowed like the word mellow love is not mean we it means well is 80 Robertson called gentlemen behavior member the words of Jesus come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your soul. For my yoke is what you have same root word is kind. My yoke is kind, my burden is light.

I would love to meet up with more kind Christians you just kind mellow gentle sort of disarm a stone thing. Love is not jealous. Love does not brag and love is not arrogant. Let's group those together. The first term has in mind the idea of holding people loosely without suspicion. When you hear their name, you don't get suspicious if you love the furthermore love does not call attention to itself. This term brag see it here in the verse. Love does not brag.

This is called in Greek language are hidden in Greek classes complexly, not means. Once spoken only once focus. The only time in all the Bible all the New Testament where the original term translated brag appear so politics out of term expanding his day, and he puts it in here under the spirits inspiration, bragging is what we do. Arrogant is what we are why we do it.

Love doesn't do either.

Love isn't either. Love doesn't call attention to itself doesn't seek to be noticed.

I like the original meaning of the word arrogant is the word for bellows bellows years ago when your fireplace would get the message and come smoldered started filling the room with smoke you get these old bellows.

He is that part that's translated here arrogant it means to blow.

We get our word blowhard from that. I got rid of the mother whaler said to work young don't go up and blow with such noise. That's when you get harpoon and the same happens to us as a genuine humility when love has its way.

No call attention to yourself and you don't brag. Love also refuses to act unbecomingly. Verse five. It doesn't seek its own will or weigh our rights talk about convicting the word unbecoming is the idea being rude or crude.

It's a thought positively of being tactful and courteous saying thank you answering your welcome nowadays it's no problem when it be nice to hear once in a while you're welcome here. No problem no problem no problem within hidden within not being not acting unbecomingly is the old age worn word charm word we need to revive how we Stevenson taught me people are charmed into righteousness. We are never heard anyone say you know what he hit me in the kisser and I realized I don't have Christ in my life and the man just won my heart by punching me in the mouth or I lost that wrestling match or are there other guy treated me like dirt in man I want to be like him. I wanted to be a Christian.

As a result of that kind of knowledge silly stupid you know what Wenzel charm children. Folks want to don't have that.

That's what Christ gives love is charming doesn't act unbecomingly and I I love this. It doesn't seek its own meeting right in our theology doesn't give us the okay to be demanding in our relationship. Remember that it doesn't give you the freedom to pull rank on those that are biblically ignorant how pleasant and surprising to be around individuals who are well known and gifted and in demand who never make demands or expect special treat said that I have a longtime friend who left his former career to work as a business manager for a small Bible college as Joe got underway in the job he and the brain trust of the school decided that we need to get to school on the map because the attendance was waning, and they thought well maybe a good athletic program would work and they didn't have the money to feel the football team and all that goes with that. So they chose basketball.

I thought that would be probably the least expensive way to do it and we can attract students, especially with the winning squad and the Lord gave them virtually looked out of the blue gave them a marvelous coach who was not only Christian but was an excellent coach and and just threw himself into the program to what they needed was good players. You can have good basketball team. Without great players and how do you when I when you don't have any money for scholarship and you're competing with all the big school out of the blue.

One day the phone rings and the other in the lines is understanding of the business manager we've never met, my name is John.

He said I I I followed basketball for a long time. I hear that you'd like to get a team going nieces. II applaud that. I think that's wonderful. I love your school wants to grow from almost nothing to where it is and and I and I know your coaching the city be great is that I happen to know one kid who was could easily be an All-American. For some reason, got overlooked in the draft and are the college people that were tried reach out to the hotshots and he said I think I could connect you to get this widget would you like that and in course Joseph I uses better veggies got a couple of friends that might want to go to school with John was John wooden and Joe find that out weeks later the kids on board his two friends in common with them. They are not on the basketball court.

Joe realized Monday. John was checked it out and would never once through his name out. You didn't say and in situ agent thought it will be here with UCLA you are so grateful to be talking to me. I will put your school if you name the gym after me the John wooden, Jim not of that hi I'm John followed basketball for hay when you get big and sassy and you're really top your game.

Don't seek your own is a great proverb that says let another man praise you and not your own mouth stranger, not your own… You do good work, they'll find you sing your praises.

Just be sure you don't believe it will read your own clippings and for sure, don't write love doesn't seek its own way and don't you love is not provoked and doesn't remember wrongs done to it. It's an accounting term. It's the idea of taking into account are keeping on the ledger. The first office provoke love is not provoked, it means to have an outburst of irritability doesn't fly off the handle speaking to basketball the other evening I finished my study and the evening was fairly young and I thought I see was on the tube tonight.

Check with ESPN boom like I get into the pacer game right at the time when the beer starts to fly them out like body know we haven't hockey here.

I thought a lot because climate over tables are going on to punching fans and they will just knock down on think it is unbelievable. Good night. What prompted this in the middle of all of it Bill Walton who was one of the sports announcers all want to play for wooden by the way, watches this an almost under his breath, in an unguarded moment know if you remember saying these. This is a disgrace to our game is great lie and irritability is a great piece to the Christian just below the surface.

Emotions can boil until they finally explode and I'm afraid we witnessed a lot of this volatility today, not just on the basketball court, but anywhere people gather you're listening to the Bible teaching of pastor and author Chuck Swindoll to learn more about this ministry. Visit us online@insightworld.org. Now Chuck is titled today's message essential glue for every couple to apply and if you're prepared to dig deeper into this topic. I'll remind you insight for living provides interactive study notes for every message. Please take a few moments to review this popular resource. In fact, we were pleased to read a recent comment about searching the Scriptures it said I absolutely love the year-long study of Matthew. I was a little behind the daily broadcast but finally finished it.

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