The Integrity of a Wise Wife, Part 2

Naval renegade husband got himself into trouble be deeply offended David how David was on his way to nabobs camp joined by a couple of hundred warriors were prepared to even the score today on Insight for living. Chuck Swindoll re-creates the scene in first Samuel 25. In doing so we celebrate the heroine of the story.

It was nabobs wife Abigail, who wisely de-escalated the showdown. Abigail would speak to David in a manner that her husband could not will begin with prayer before Chuck delivers his message about the integrity of all why why not bless old God we will not be blessed. Thank you for the promise the Lord bless you.

If you do not keep us. We are awash in secure uncertain about the next step. The next decision.

Thank you for the promise. The Lord keeps you. If you do not shine the light of our lives are dark in this dark world that has lost its way.

Thank you that your face shines upon us and it is not frowning, it is gracious gracious to us.

Thank you for your grace giving us what we don't deserve, but we can never earn and what is impossible to repay.

Thank you for the pleasure of praise as we reach in the door you and for the blessing of grace is your suit down and touch us and encourage us. There are so many today Lord who lived their lives on the edge of discouragement. Life is hard, death and disease are all around us, the threat of that hitting us is a very real threat some this week have lost those they loved and hope that they would live, but they are not gone from us, comfort them in their grief. Some today fight diseases that are harsh and enduring they need patience. They need the whole of your healing. Should that be your plan. They need the resolve of what may ever be your wish and to find satisfaction in it help them as they wait and trust our country is in a mess.

We realize it every day of every week. Our leaders are not sure where they're going and the direction is often obviously the wrong direction. We need you to step in. We need you to guide us as a people we have proven again and again we cannot find our own way and the energy of the flesh, or even in the intelligence of our own minds in education. Help us Lord fulfill your promise that if your people will pray you will hear and you will heal.

We are praying you were hearing we wait upon you to heal us, whatever it may take whoever you may need to change change Lord we leave that decision to you.

Morning broke early today and we were reminded that it is of your mercies that we are not consumed, because your compassions fail not. There are new every morning great is your faithfulness. Thank you for the reminder. With every sunup you're there and you've not left us through the night nor through the day, seasons change, they come and go, but you remain the same yesterday today and forever. Oh great God, who blesses us and keeps us and causes your face to shine upon us, we bow before you probably waiting upon you and worship, speak to us through your word today in direct and personal way. I ask in the name of Christ are majestic Savior. Everyone said to search the Scriptures with Chuck Swindoll. Be sure to download his searching the Scriptures.

Studies by going to Insight world.or/studies Chuck titled his message the integrity of a wise wife as she is preparing the meal, putting it together, arranging for the donkeys packing it up. She also puts together a little special gift for David himself.

She was riding her doggy into a mountain ravine. When she saw David and his men coming.

They never met. There's been no no acquaintance before, and David is just been saying this and doing a lot of good it did to help his fellow we protected his flock in the wilderness and nothing we he owned was was lost or stolen.

He has repaid me evil for good, but God strike me and killed me if even one man of his household is still alive tomorrow morning, I mean David means business.

He's a warrior.

Remember he was not a fight, so to those ministering now, when Abigail saw David those men around him. Watch watch. She got off her doggy. She quickly got off the donkey and bowed low before him. Imagine it.

She fell at David's feet and said this is one of the great speeches preserved in Scripture. I accept all blame in this matter. My Lord, please listen to what I have to say I know Nabel is a wicked and ill tempered today, and he's a fool just as his name suggests, but but II never even saw the menu said wasn't even aware of it.

Now my Lord is surely as the Lord lives, and you yourself live since the Lord is kept you from murdering and taking vengeance into your own hand.

Let all your enemies and those who try to harm you be as cursed as naval and here's a present that I your servant have it brought to you and in your young men. Please forgive me if I've offended you in any way the Lord will surely reward you with lasting dynasty you are fighting the Lord's battles and you have not done wrong throughout your entire life. To put this on your record, your God's anointed you secure the treasure, and his treasure pouch with the lives of your enemies will disappear like stones sought from the sling with the Lord is that all he promised. It was made you leader of Israel.

Don't let this be a blemish on your record, then your conscience will have to bear the staggering burden of needless bloodshed and vengeance. And when the Lord has done these great things for you. Please remember me while Internet David said big old sword back in machine you can reasonably David Jesus done that God used her wisdom finds a way marvelous, marvelous to see this. A pause here and let that.

But the truth of it sink in. David melts he replied to Abigail I'm in verse 32. Praise the Lord love this about David course is a man after God's heart. Praise the Lord, the God of Israel, who he's got a sovereign God. He said you made me today.

Thank God for your good sense is the good word for wisdom. Bless you for keeping me from murder and from carrying out vengeance with violent hand process whereby the Lord, the God of Israel who is kept me from hurting you that you had not hurried out to meet me.

Not one of Nabel's men's men would be alive tomorrow morning.

Then David replied, then David accepted her present and told her return home in peace fellow Shiloh I've heard, would you have said we will not kill your husband saved his life.

When you read your Bible, give your mind time to imagine scenes you're not counting versus with a wristwatch: see how quickly you can get through it. If you do you miss it all come to life in it stand in the sandals sitting in the sandals of those in the scene go home, Abigail, and peace. Now knowing that her husband would now live. She returns home and him in our world. We reward quickly or we should one of the first things we do after someone does something great for us at least a thank you note at least a phone call sometimes will even send the gift to express our gratitude. Thank you.

Thank you. And if the gift was immense like my life not made all know not the old fool back home look at 3036 when when Abigail arrived home she found Nabel was throwing a big party and he was celebrating like a king. He was drunk as a skunk, well that's kind of a Swindoll paraphrase, but that's the idea. He's in there soaking it often.

She didn't bother to say a word, hard enough to talk to them but when he's drunk it's impossible. So she sinks her head on her pillow that night, alone and calls out to her God and ask for further wisdom. How to break the news to her husband. Notice verse 37 morning breaks breakfast time. She's sitting here he sitting there is the right moment.

So, if I may. She says to him hey name Sager neck yesterday.

David 400 others were on their way down here to cut you to shreds and kill everybody in the camp before they took everything we have, but I met a woman and I your there to let you live you guys a stroke. Send Daisy lay like a stone on the bed in verse 38 says 10 days later the Lord struck him in the diet that vengeance is mine, I will repay says Lord may him to jump in here and say to you, who carry grudges do you keep your sword sharp, do you wait for your moment to get back with you.

Please learn from this is a great statement of the enrollments 12 it says vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord, meaning stay out of it. You're not sure, wait, easiest thing in the world is to jump in and regret for the rest of your life. Lord struck you many died. Now back in the hills. The camera turns on David and the men when David heard the Nabel was dead.

He said, praise the Lord, who is avenged the insult I received from the ball and his Knee from doing it myself.

Nabel has received the punishment for his sin and then he sent a message back to the Abigail marry me.

Good choice David. Now she's a grieving the death of her husband. She gets the message from David, and her servants are saying will will pray in Jesus you pray while I pack okay. She gets it together they become the part of her wedding party and they hotfooted up the hills and while there's a funeral doors down the camp there wedding bells hills is 600 guys try to harmonize in the songs they sing to David and Abigail is there joined in marriage together a great source so good to want to do it again. So good, but they don't all him like that on on so don't write me on but sometime the do today since were imagining. Let's pause and imagine some lingering lessons we learn from the three main characters in this film. First, David. I suggest we learn from this man rash and angry reactions lead to regret unless I miss my guess, audiences large and who knows how large among a few hearing me right now there are some of you eaten up with anger you've been done wrong. You've been mistreated you've been hurt, it's true, not imaginary is happened is not fair and you got a chance to get the upper hand and all the lies back and do not get away you go to get at it and you're going to regret it was better to apply that the grade 4 letter word weight weight. I've never regretted a time when I waited for the Lord to move.

I've never regretted a time when I put the brakes on my own rash decision to send a letter that was ugly or to react to someone that would've been insulting through the wisdom of my life, or perhaps a wise friend to handle my arm or my shoulder sent in an email. I wouldn't go there for you and I thank God for every one of those restraints. We learned that rash and angry reactions lead to regret we learn from Nabel all insensitive and selfish people make miserable marital partners slowly jumping ahead before there is a wedding if you see that in the one you're dating one you're engaged to back off.

People often think well. When we married, things will change and the fact is, they will not get worse if he selfish before you married Gilbey's more selfish effort if she is narcissistic before you married she's going to be all about herself. After you married or hold it insensitive and selfish people make miserable marital partners. We learn from Abigail lies inpatient partners make the best use of timing intact. Her timing is her friend to tell Nabel when not to say a word, how to approach David the speech carefully thought through. It wasn't about her.

It was about David, don't bother. He is aware that is your reputation. He's a wicked unreasonable man. She knew the right word the right time, and by the way, no one needs to tell Abigail when to do which she didn't say much. As she was preparing the meal she never explained to her servants.

What she was planning to put it all together. Wisdom isn't afraid to act alone to do something courageous. She stood up to 401 angry hungry man with swords drawn and she appealed to David's intrinsic values. Think ahead. David, you will become king. When you do you want to be known as the murdering 10 of course not. We respect you as the giant, challenging the plan you haven't even tried to kill Saul and you had opportunities so much to learn.

Stories like this final word.

Too many balls who hear me. You are making life miserable for your family for your partner and just in case you happen to know Christ and you're now in a carnal state your bringing reproach to his name. Carrying on like you do, your impatience and selfishness are detestable their disgusting you've been warned. You been talk to you been advised you probably lost a job or two because of it. You're still doing it. This would be a good date of markdown is a data change your mate, your family deserves better than that. Certainly, your God deserves humility from you notice she bowed down when she brought her message to good posture to take closure Bibles bow your heads, please. You need to know Christ as your Lord need to be walking in step with him so that there's nothing between you and him called sin that's broken your relationship. If there is, this is a perfect time to confess it will come in humility before our Lord prayed with me will you hear us today our father as we calm acknowledging our wrongs. They have been many and yet your son Jesus is beautifully cleansed us from all sins and will forgive any sin that we lay before you and we do that now hear us as we confess to you that which is come between you and us so that our hands would be clean in our hearts open.

Thank you for the Savior's death when he took our sins and carried them to the cross nailed him there for giving us we praise his name. Thank you that he's coming again until he returns.

We want to remember his body. The quietness of this moment except our worship is sincere. Jesus it's possible that as you listen today you been convicted about your role in the home. Perhaps you're ready to take some steps to repair a troubled marriage will Insight for living is prepared to help you learn more about cultivating a healthy relationship.

Please take a few minutes to stop by our website you'll find a variety of helpful resources online@insightworld.org. Our topic today the integrity of a wise wife. It's the fourth message in a brand-new 12 part teaching series from Chuck Swindoll and then as we continue our studies. I'd like to give you a preview of what's ahead. This new series is called walking with integrity in times of adversity, beginning with the next message Chuck will turn his attention to the other partner in a marriage will be talking about the integrity of a loyal husband and then he'll tell the story of a courageous man who called out the king of Israel about his sin teaches us valuable lessons about confrontation in light of these topics, Chuck suggested a biography for you to read.

It's about Joseph man who modeled so many of the virtues we are addressing in our new series. The book is called Joseph a man of integrity and forgiveness. If you're looking for an inspirational book to guide your journey in the new year. We highly recommend Joseph, a man of integrity and forgiveness to purchase a copy, this if you're listening in the United States dial 1-800-772-8888 or go to insight.org/offer these daily visits with Chuck are made possible through your voluntary donations to give a contribution today. Simply visit us online@insight.or/donate or call us if you listening in the United States dial 1-800-772-8889 Davis Mike inviting you to join us with Chuck Swindoll talks about the integrity of a loyal husband Tuesday on Insight for living. The preceding message the integrity of a wise one was copyrighted in 2021 and 2022 and the sound recording was copyrighted in 2022 by Charles R.

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