The Consequences of Anger

Welcome to the intensified Catholic child family. Wednesday October for unresolved anger has a destructive force that affects everything you do you open your eyes to its consequences as a key motivation and letting go of anger words and actions on our part without regard for the consequences as an indication of something first of all indication about immaturity and lack of wisdom, lack of consideration, a lack of concern sometimes because of something going on inside of us. We live in a time when people don't want to talk about don't want to think about consequences. Just do what you want to do take care of tomorrow. The truth is that all of our words and actions have some kind of consequence sometimes good, sometimes not so good and yet what we don't realize is where we are today is the result of where we were yesterday. That is we living with the consequences of yesterday and where will be tomorrow be the result of the consequences of what we are doing today what we are saying how reacting are we spend our time and so when you think about that you think about every aspect of our life. There are consequences. Well, one of those areas of our life that has consequences is anger. Anger seems to be sort of on insignificant things about us old.

Everybody gets angry. While that's true, but there consequences to anger, far more devastating than most people realize, and in this message, which is the second part of our series entitled letting go of anger. This message is all about the consequences of anger and you will be surprised.

I'm sure of how many consequences there are and how they affect us and I want to encourage you to get a pencil and paper and think about jotting these down because if you're an angry person. You say while everybody gets angry. No, but just think about it for a moment, it may be that you are angry and you been angry a long time and you just think that's nobody's business but yours and has no effect, and so will all know you go what I want you to see is this anger is devastating. So what I'd like to do is first of all to give you a list of the consequences of anger upon yourself the person who is angry. One of the consequences. It's going on in your life. So when you turn to the fourth chapter of Ephesians and also read two verses here and I want to say a word about these two verses because the very fact that Paul said this and wrote this in the way he wrote it is an indication that there consequences to anger. So beginning in the 26th verse of this fourth chapter, Paul says be angry and sin not recent how can you be angry and said not a document about do not let the sun go down on your anger and do not give the devil an opportunity. Now when he says the angry, and yet do not sin if it's righteous indignation. That's not a sin don't get into this anger that is a sin animosity and resentment and hostility toward someone else. The anger and said not so poorly saying is first of all there's a danger in this whole issue of anger because he says Bangor and sin not watching.

Then he says when you are angry. Don't let the sun set on your anger, don't put your head on the pillow at night when there's anger in your heart. So let's think about what are the consequences of anger in a person's life will first of all, it's very evident that there going to be is going to be a broken relationship between you and God you cannot listen, you cannot be right with God and angry at someone else remember what Jesus said, give anger against your brother before you come with elderly lay your gift, and he said big settle that so there's a broken relationship, a person says why am right with God. But I'm telling you right now if you don't know what so uncertain. On another note, you can't be right with God to do settle the deal. Secondly, the second consequences of broken relationships. When two people are angry with each other. They can't have the kind of relationship.

The two people who friends can have on intimate relationship. For example, husbands and wives cannot have a good relationship with each other as long as there's anger in their heart toward one another because he is what happens are critical spirit. When you anger toward someone. It's very natural. If you have a critical spirit because what's happening is you're justifying your anger and then it turns into being very judgmental. Well I'll tell you right now. Here's what I think about so and so and so what happens is a little bit just begins to multiply and it takes all kinds of different avenues and then of course there's the sense of unrest when a person is angry they are restless. Something's going on there is the absence of peace in a person's life when they are angry because that anger involves emotions. So where is happiness whereas joy wears peace as long as two people are at odds with each other and is anger. Some medicines well, but I work with them when I come home I'm happy when I'm at work, and have been on another you don't just have anger here and leave it there and come over here and everything is okay because remember it's on the inside you drive a thousand miles. You just as angry at the last mile as you were the day you left in the hour you left because that's the nature of it is this pinnacle kind of thing that penetrates every single aspect of the body and of the soul of a person.

Then of course there is the feeling, because what happened is a person is angry. They build the shield and this shield is that what because they got hurt that I want to get hurt again and so they had the shield so what does that do that isolates them to some degree because it can have the kind relationship because they've got this shield of this blindness barrier because they don't want anybody get nobody and so oftentimes they isolate themselves to the point they can't have friends because they hold their friends all and you said you met people who've been deeply hurt and they'll say will I will never, I will never give myself away again like that and I will never do thus and so and never, never, never, it's that shield their putting up and that's separation when there is separation.

There's isolation and the feeling of being isolated. You can work around a thousand people all hundred and 10 and if you are angry.

There's something about what's going on around you that there's something there that know by the what's happening you are you file it because you set yourself up for that. And then of course note that naturally leads the frustration and anxiety in a person's life.

Because if you're angry you never know what's going to happen.

You feel it. It's on the inside.

It weighs on your and you look around and who can you trust in a more and who could really be your friend. How do you know they mean what they're saying and so anger can just twist not only your emotions, but it can twist your thinking about a lot of things and then of course there is this whole feeling of emptiness. Because when you push people away, and you separate yourself. There's this intervening why because God listen God did not build us to live with anger, Bangor, and sin not.

He says and did you know that from the medical profession from their point of view they put high cholesterol, and smoking and anger on the same level when it comes to the effect on the human body is destructive and what I want you to see is this that anger brings about disease and destruction of the human body and it just goes own and own and own and think about if a person could stop and look back and think, oh God it wasn't worth what I've suffered. That's the deceptiveness of it and that's why he says look settle this before you go to bed you give the devil an opportunity to do what to destroy you, and oftentimes that is exactly what happens. Every system of the body were that your nervous system certain persons in one or every system of your body is affected by anger you say will feel fantastic for the moment. Anger is a destroyer and so you have to ask yourself the question, what's worth dying over what somebody said, the way somebody treated you. You can deal with any anger, if you know how if you're willing to if you wouldn't even admit first of all that you are angry so when you think about the consequences of anger so the master question. Are you angry with anyone who you anger toward so let me ask you this, no matter what they did what they said how they treated you is holding on to your bitter, resentful, hostile, anger worth holding on to that when it's of listen when its effect is upon you, and they may not even know it. What a foolish waste because you see this on though if you're angry you can take it out on somebody else. Somebody else suffers as a result of anger.

So let's talk about this whole issue of the somebody else we know what happens to us. We are angry.

What about how does it work on other people around us.

Well expression I would say to people who married and you think a little bit anger never hurt anybody. Yes it does. So what happens well when we are angry and we take it out on somebody else. It hurts them. How many women or men have wept half the night because he got hurt over something that husband or wife said or did is hurt. There is pain there in deep pain. Oftentimes naturally, there is a sense of separation because if your anger toward someone else.

They don't feel separated and the same thing is true about feeling isolated and shut out. You can live with somebody sleeping somebody your husband or wife. What I'm talking about, but if you are angry. There is no togetherness. Somebody is hurt deeply hurt as a result of of when we are angry and we express it toward them natural. There's going to be a broken relationship. I don't think parents realize that devastating effect of when their dad is angry toward them and he's a most important guy in the world and he's angry toward or a daughter who feels her dad's anger toward her all parents who feel that they kids anger told him of something they couldn't give them a couldn't do devastating. Sometimes our impatience. We think things are to be done a certain way. We don't realize what's going on in somebody else's life, pain, suffering, hurt and for us to heap something else on the because we don't get our way. Somebody is not a mask at you not have time devastating, plus the fact. Oftentimes when people get angry over what ever a man became angry when in the church shut the past of the death the next day a man makes up his list and goes down through his family and shoots a group of them in innocent people decide and then the next day in another country. This young man decides he's gonna killing spree and just kills all these people walks into a classroom and kills a group students are all angry about something. Uncontrollable anger because they wouldn't deal with it.

Did know how whatever they could all the innocent people. They dumped their anger on but taken their lives devastating.

That's what I want to ask you, are you angry and if you are what you angry about, and you may say will you just don't know what so-and-so did to me. Let me ask you this. Have you ever been crucified. Now I don't give me that Jesus stuff and have been crucified know you have you may have been hurt, insulted, embarrassed lot of things matter going on with you. But you know Jesus hanging on the cross he said to those who crucified him.

Father forgive them for they know not what they do. I have a responsibility as a believer to forgive no matter what anger doesn't fit who you are. Anger does not have to reside in your life you can deal with it by acknowledging the fact that you are angry and willing to come to God without anchor.

He will take it out of your life if you will, allowing because remember this anger has no effect upon God disable what is that the three things that I mentioned the first one is this, that our anger grieves the heart of God doesn't fit who we are grieves his heart, so you ask yourself the question will.

How could my anger grieves the heart of God because of who he is and secondly it hinders his work when people angry.

They can't do what they should be doing. Oftentimes an angry person God tries to call that person they say no I'm not going to this for whatever it might be. So the work of God is centered and 1/3 effect is this that God cannot pour out his blessing upon an angry person because it would be inconsistent with who he is and so God is affected where affected the people we relate to, or maybe innocent people are affected.

Anger is destructive, damaging deceptive kind of an emotion that does not fit who any of us are as follows of Jesus Christ and so I want to encourage you, whoever you may be whatever's going on in your life. It's not worth holding on to. It's not worth keeping in your grip in your emotions and your physical being the effects of anger is a destroyer you don't have to if you willing to deal with and I want to encourage you to give serious thought to what's happening to you on the inside when God has the best plan available for your life and you can destroy it through simply holding on to anger you got a divorce or your wife divorced two years ago and you're still holding on your son embarrassed you years ago or two weeks ago and you are absolutely angered to the depth of your very being. He has insulted you and harassed you once you give it up. Forgiveness is a powerful thing for good anger is a powerful thing. But instruction it doesn't fit in your life now. I'm going to have to stop right there because in the next message I want to deal with how we handle that anger and the just say we just ask other forgive you and let set that's not it.

That's part of it. But that's not all of it and so I want to encourage you not to miss the next message, when we talk about how to deal with anger. The truth is, it could save your life.

It can save your marriage could save your relationship to your children could save your job.

One thing for certain it will keep you from self-destruction and father how grateful we are for your awesome word when you said the anger and sin not, don't go to bed with don't give the devil an opportunity. It's your way of warning us and encouraging us to deal with whatever is there now before we self-destruct. Thank you for your awesome grace and your patience and I pray the spirit of God will sink these truths into the heart of every single person who listens and who hears in Jesus name, amen will limit is say if you're not a believer this morning. You can settle this by yourself. There's no way, but you can if you have Christ and someone explained here from moment how you can receive Jesus Christ as your personal savior.

He's the one who's all about forgiveness all about cleansing and all about a new life if you will, and to acknowledge your sinfulness you say, including my anger. Yes this to landlord have made a mess of my life. The sin in my life.

I'm angry. I do want to be this way. I know I need to be saved. I need to be forgiven. I need a new life. I'm asking you got there. Forgive me of my sin not based on my goodness. So what I'm going to do would based on the fact that you went to the cross. Lay down your life at the cross took my sin debt until you paid the price of my sin. I'm asking you to forgive me and the clansmen to come into my life and make me one of your children. He answers that prayer and when he does the Holy Spirit comes in your life. Seals use a child of God you say was that settle all my issues. No, it settles your eternal life. But then he begins with the Holy Spirit to work in your life in this cleansing process goes on some things and so deep within us yesterday in the full amount shows what's there that doesn't belong there and what will destroyers change your life. Thank you for listening to the consequences of anger. If you like to know more about Charles Stanley were in touch ministries, not by intense data writing back after the presentation of in touch ministries Atlanta, Georgia