Our Love Life

Welcome to the intensified Internal family curve writing October 15.

People think God is a harsh judge you get a different understanding as you hear about the kindness, faithfulness, and patience of our loving heavenly father deliberated to love series continues when is the last time someone looked you squarely on who love you. Many people don't hear about it longer. We just taken for granted the people on the sample that we love them a lot but the truth is, that's not true. And when you and I love someone. Often times we think that the way we express it is exactly what they did all the kind of love we have golfers exactly the kind of love they need.

Or that's what I want to talk about in this message today in title, our love life.

I will talk about two things. The quality of love that you and I experience and the quality we give and the way we are able to receive love and the way we give it, and all of us are involved every day in those two areas of their life. What kind of love that we want. What kind do we give what kind do we feel capable of giving someone you turn if you will to the most emotion packs chapter. I know over the New Testament apart from the one the deals across because in this passage of Scripture you going to find yourself somewhere. That's why they call this one of the greatest stories ever told because somewhere in this passage you can find yourself is the story of the prodigal son in Luke chapter 15 and wants to read that lemon through the 24 verses together because every time you read this you see something you've not seen before verse 11, he set a certain man had two sons and the younger of them said his father. Father give me the share of the estate.

It falls to me and he divided his wealth between them and not many days later he says the younger son gathered everything together on a journey into a distant country and there he squandered his estate with loose living that when he explain everything. A severe famine occurred in the country and he began to be in the anyone and attached himself to one of the citizens of that country and he sent him in his fields to feed swine and so he was longing to be filled his that is his own stomach with a pause at the Swan rating. No one was giving him anything to eat but when he came to his senses.

He said how many of my father's hired man have more than enough to bread but I am dying here with hunger. I will get up and go to my father and will say to him. Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your site.

I am no more worthy to be called your son.

Make me as one of your hired men listen to this next part and he got up and he came to his father.

But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion for him and ran and embraced him and kissed and the son said to him. Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your sight. I am no longer worthy to be called your son with the father said to his slaves quickly bring out the best robe and put it on him put a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet and bring the fatted calf killer let us eat and be merry for this son of mine was dead, and he's come to life again. He was lost and he's been found, and they began to be married. What I want you to see in this passage is this, that what Jesus is saying is look at this.

He says this is the way the father loves us and secondly he's saying to you and to me, look at this. This is the way I want you to love other people and look at this. This is the way I want you to be able to be love by the people.

All three of these are very important and that three areas that I want us to get here. Now we talk about our love life. If your love life is the way it ought to be even we would express that love with a certain quality that is there is a certain quality of love that God is looking for in your life in my life that we think about love. We can think about loving a feeling that love is far more than a feeling of love is only a feeling that we are all in trouble. Love isn't just some queasy feeling we have because feelings are very fickle. They come and go. Sometimes you feel good sometimes you don't. Sometimes you may feel God loves you. Sometimes you don't feel he loves you. Sometimes you'd like yourself and sometimes you don't feel like loving yourself. Love is a decision not a feeling God made a decision to love every single one of us eat in basement level anything about us. He based that love on his own attributes his own nature, and his own character is his nature to love people because were his creation.

Secondly, love is not just a decision.

Love is a commitment, love says because I love you on my expression of love to you is that I want the best for you. I want you to feel secure. I want you to be happy. That is if I genuinely love someone and I am interested in their security, their happiness, and there will be and I am committed to that if I'm committed to that, that I'm going to live in my relationship to that person or those persons in such a fashion as to express that that I am interested in your well-being in your security and your happiness, but is even more than that. It is an affirmation of something that if you love someone, you gotta be continually affirming this. First of all you belong, because I love you. You belong whether it's in the church or whether it's an organization without your spouse is sunny ability apparent. Because I love you I want you to feel that you belong. Secondly, because I love you I want you to feel worthy. You are worthy of my love and the love of others, you are somebody very very special.

And thirdly, I want you to feel confident that is that I believe in you. I believe in your abilities. I believe in your talents.

I believe that God has something in life for you.I'm sure that you can accomplish and achieve whatever God has set out to accomplish in your life but fourth of if I really love you and I'm going to endeavor to build you up in order to help build those qualities in your life that will make you the kind of person that God wants you to be so that you can become the person that he want you to be and that you want to be and last of all my love, if it is genuine love is going to be other centered and not self-centered if itself still is not to be love of its other centered. That's what love is all about just to love someone is very important, but there is a quality of that love that I think is so evident in this passage that I believe God wants us to be able to accept this from him and to express toward others and that is unconditional love that what is unconditional love.

Unconditional love is simply this, that I love you simply because you you and I don't expect anything in return.

I just love you know where in the word of God does God ever say imply a leave any kind of implication that his love for you and me is based on anything except absolutely unconditional love is a love that has no strings. It has no rules and regulations.

It has no fine print to it whatsoever that no foot notes in God's love and no addendum to it is just God's wonderful pure love for us unconditional love has nothing to do with deserving unconditional love. God expresses that in his grace, which is his goodness and kindness toward us, without regard to merit our work on our part.

And in spite of what we deserve. That's what grace of God's all about, and you see is the fact that we are imperfect human being that we all fail.

We all week.

We all send against God at times in our life. What is he do. He doesn't stop loving us. That's what the grace of God is all about knowing before he ever created is that we would not be worthy of his love for us. So what did he do, he provided his grace through the cross and what he is not only demonstrating for is his love, but he's demonstrating the kind of love he wants you and me to express one to the other.

Love is should never have to be begged for barter for paid for repayment. That's not what love is all about.

So the quality of love is very important that it's unconditional. Secondly is the expression of that love is one thing, love, and what about expressing and I want to read this passage because it's absolutely fascinating. I want you to jot down about six words, all of his express love in about six ways one of them is by acceptance. So if you just jot down the six words one of them is acceptance. One is not touching. One is by quality time giving gifts by words of encouragement, acts of service.

All of these are ways we express love toward each other now wants to look first of all the sea. How does God express love Torres did you know that every day of your life and mine. We live in the sunlight of God's acceptance of us. Did you know that you can't do anything to get God to reject you that people die and go to hell because they reject God, not because he rejects them and there is an ultimate rejection. On the other side judgment you can get God to reject you.

He's accepted you just the way you are and you see all of us who believe, is the except as the promises he accepted us in the beloved in his son. That's what he accepted us so everyday you and I live in his acceptance every day is the lower limit is touching. This is the weatherman he ran embrace the son God never touch me.

Yes, he has how do you think God touches all of us, he touches is in a warm handshake. He touches us through a strong embrace. He touches us God does touch us. The person who never is touched never hugged and never loved.

That's the way God is touching us through other people, likewise quality time you saw.

What's quality time with Gunderson utilizing the most important thing in your life is that warm, intimate, personal quiet time you spend with God.

Have you ever said Jonathan spent some time with and he said sorry not to visit this afternoon can handle no gods always signal ready for us to spend time with him to love him and to be loved in return. Acts of service, my friend, God is acting in service toward you and me. Then I didn't Jesus say I didn't come be served. I came to serve us with the problems doing all the time as he serving as giving us direction for our life.

Protecting those providing programming he's working always ahead of time you think about all the things that you you run into in life and he he was there before you got there working out details. He was there after you left. He's always serving as acts of service, giving everything you and I have this gift of God. Every good and perfect gift.

He says comes from the father, above, in whom there is no variables there is no changing about him, always giving his words of encouragement. That's what the Bible is all about. The Bible is a book it is God's love letter is God's. It is the story of God's redeeming love is his love letter to you and to me, you can take all six ways that you are not express love to each other and God's doing that in your life in my life every day and what is he want from us.

He wants us to do the same problems.

Now watch this. We say that there are six ways for us to express love. But you see I need to be sensitive as to how you need me to express it to you. You need to be sensitive to how I need you to express it to me.

Ellis look at the six.

I want to look at your list every moment now if I should ask you which one of these do you personally feel like you need the most.

That is when you line up all six of these, and we all want to be love.

That way, but what's the one that rings your bill up front what's the one that when somebody expresses that you that you really and truly feel really love the list when you and I express love toward someone and we are on number six from their number one you know what they're saying you love me all this thing on a pillow from you. You may be absolutely giving it all you've got. But if your expression of it doesn't touch them where they need it most. They don't feel it solo is sinless thing about this one.

Let's say for example that you are a woman and if I should ask all of you women today of all of these six. What's number one on your list. Most of you would probably say what quality time so let's say for example here you are you quality time. Love you. That's what you want. You just want time.

Your husband comes on this wonderful gift, and he says I look what I bought you and me. He is really spent some money and you taking you several. Thank you very much.

You never excited that he gets his feelings hurt because I mean he saved. He worked hard at and I will thank you very much and you know will also appreciate that little tap on the cheek a little hug yourself off maybe but that's about it.

You want a boy she absolutely most ungrateful thing I've ever seen.

Well, the problem is that you know she likes the gift but she she wants quality time is person wants acts of service. Don't tell me how much you love me just do something new, something short. So what happened you got people who genuinely love each other but what they're doing is they're expressing it the way they feel it in the print other persons looking for the way they needed and so when you got an espresso and a leader and the two do not know what it takes to satisfy Dylan's love and you got a problem and I think a lot of people live their lives. All their marriage or our sons in dollars for their children and their expressing love and and so often parents give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give. What's his son, saying hey touches the multimedia Etisalat and probably not everybody would probably almost the bottom of most people's love totem pole is giving them something because giving them something that may come from the heart. I myself am a giver and and I am real prone just want to give and give and give because that II just want to give something to somebody that I don't mind giving time.

I want to give time and all the rest, but I know that about me that I'm a I'm a giver and if I see somebody that has a need of something that I want to give it to members of his somebody that I love. I'm looking for something to give them to show them that I love that that's not an adequate way just to show love is one way and somebody else they just bowling over the mountains were just talking purple… If the rest of the expressions match their talk that's fine. But if it does now the talking world is not going to satisfy and so whether it's giving Encouraging Word's call. The time service it is making them as well as we have to find out what does it take to help the other person now there are those people no matter what you do, how much you do and how long you doing you will never be able to satisfy the because there's something there in their life.

Some wall that is been filled. Maybe something that happened way back yonder in the early days of their life growing up for whatever didn't feel love of the father didn't feel love of the mother. Whatever it might be that now they don't even feel worthy of love what I do. They reject you they shut you out. They turn you off they'll do something to drive you away if at all possible because that's their only safe don't get to close to me trying to love me will is that they will stop loving though.

I'm just saying that there's some people that you find it very difficult to break through because there's something going on inside of them. They don't know how to accept your kind of love no matter what you do you go through one through 6631. Start in the middle. Whatever you choose to do and somehow it doesn't satisfy because no matter how you tried to give yourself until that person feels worthy under that person is able to let down the bear into that person's will and pull back the drape and let you in. You can get in in this passage of Scripture God probably has crammed as many principles about law as any passage that link anywhere in the Bible and he simply saying this still hey wait a minute.

It is making a difference about your past, God loves you unconditionally and he loves you.

The same always and forever, and second, you have to measure up deserving and thirdly he knows exactly how to express now let me ask a question I want you to think about for just a moment.

Of those six ways of expressing love. What's number one for you. I know one thing God knows what your number one is asked of the want to say to you, no matter where you coming from in life. God loves you, but you'll never be able to experience that love until first of all, the Lord Jesus Christ, who is his son. When you accept him as your personal savior by confessing your sins to him and accepting his death at Calvary's full payment of your sin debt in full and accepting his forgiveness based on not your conduct or behavior promises but just because he said if you will receive them by faith he will accept you as his son or daughter the moment you receive him what you have the love of God comes in your heart. Then he will instruct you, teach you, enable you to make you capable of receiving his law giving love and receiving love to it is a learning process.

It's a learning process.

Rollovers but it begins in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and I want to challenge you if you've never accepted Christ as your Savior and you really want to feel the love of God in your life and all of us need. If you accept his son by faith, the love of God comes pouring into your life lavishly and through the Holy Spirit.

You will learn how to receive it, believing, experiencing and giving and my friend when you've learned to accept his love and experience in you've learned how to love others and to be loved in return.

You are beginning to live life at its very best, because love is what our life is all about. Thank you for listening to today's podcast. I love life. If you'd like to know more about her family, intense ministries and intense data lighting not casted the presentation and intact ministry in Atlanta, Georgia