In That Moment of Desperation

As caregivers we have so many things that hit us all the time and we can't always nail these things down by ourselves. Who helps you what does that look like I'm Peter Rosenberg and I want to you about a program but a part of. Now for almost 10 years.

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Some of the issues were to go after a good beach, strong doctrinal, theological type issues because it anchors our soul. Some of us can be just day-to-day stuff.

For example, I was talking to a guy this week listening to the program brand-new and he's taking care of his mother with Alzheimer's. He is in his early 50s.

She's in her late 70s his finances are running dry.

He's lost his job. He struggling with all these things, and the on-ramp to the conversation with me was that he reached out his okay where are some experimental things work or some medicines or what have you heard about. They can reverse Alzheimer's stuff. I've seen some ads and so forth about. I cautioned him heavily against following those kinds of things and going on that particular rabbit hole because there are a lot of people to go to prey on people that are desperate in their snake oil being invented every day. I'm not doubting the legitimacy of things that slow the process down but to my best knowledge they haven't found a cure for Alzheimer's and even if they do, he still got other problems. One of him is he doesn't have a job in the financial cost of taking care of his aging mother without Alzheimer's can still be great. So the real problem in this case is not necessarily a cure for Alzheimer's, which may or may not be out there. The real problem is he is not a good financial situations on good physical situation. He doesn't have a job and he doesn't have a lot of resources. What you do and I asked him about his job prospects. He said will, I am striving for Woburn and other things to try to make some money when he can and I said well one of things I've learned and let me just preamble this I don't give out enormous amount of ice on the show.

This is not an advice column or advice you okay I am to share my own experiences that I have found that there is not one thing this going to change everything. It's a series of things, at least in my life.

You are member that story of Steve Harvey to let this guy is ghetto by the lottery ticket in the letters of flex $370 million or something like that just an insane amount of money.

The guy was in front of him of the line by this ticket save man I really need this, I would be. This is he sick hello do you hold that you need to have $370 million. What kind of trouble are you yeah I thought that's you know will said we weaseled at the okay.

If I could just get this, but it's not. That's not how this works for the most part. Sometimes it may happen, and God bless those folks but that is not where most of us live the vast majority of its incremental steps. So what I recommended him to do it again II give advice. Haltingly, but I said how about going through your monthly budget and cutting out is many things as you possibly can and is it even if you find $200 a month you could hire somebody once a week maybe twice a week to come in and help bathe your mother private person that you could just heart committed to this if you found $200 a month and I said as far as your job situation.

I understand it's tough and you may not be able to find that job. This would allow you to do what you do, you may have to have a couple of side hustles you know you may be driving a car doing rideshare with Uber lift or something but that you may also be able to work from home for people part-time and intake on certain projects.

I don't think there's just one thing. This is what I've learned in my 36 years. There's not just one thing I've had to build entire life working around Gracie and stopping and starting at a moments notice. But stay in productive and it's you have to have a little bit of innovation and creativity. And don't just look for this one big thing keep making these small incremental steps and you know how a set inconsistent with Scripture was not that word is a lamp unto my feet.

He doesn't give us the whole searchlight. Here he gives us just the next step.

The steps of a righteous man are ordered by the Lord and some symptoms were to step out in faith. Okay, I'm gonna do this, but if he could find no couple hundred bucks a month in his budget that would provide some care for and that I appointed him to some things. Some resources I have a my website that the people can sign up for and in you can organize your life a little bit better.

All these things work together toward something. It's it's not waiting around zero cable Lord I just the $370 million of the lot you it doesn't work that way is a caregiver in the in life it's due the next right thing was the next right thing will simplify your life. His mother has Alzheimer's. She's not imminently terminal so this could go on for 5 to 6 more years. What kind of shape is he going to be and then or you or me.

So what can you do today, next week up today right now that can simplify your life. One things we talked about he and I talked about with much cable bill. The unique cable is anything good on the unique cable do you do you know Grace and I got rid of people we we have apps everything we do zaps with whip smart TV.

The apps and we are very selective of what works. Gracie likes to watch the Discovery Channel so I have the discovery Is a lot cheaper than no cable bills. Look at your phone bill. Do you have things that you're paying for on there that you just don't need.

Also, there are things that you can divert money and I said don't spend money, see if you can cut money at the divert that in the things that you really need. For example, on my phone. I have an app on my phone I pay for every month it's like for five dollars but it tracks all my miles and allows me to categorize them by medical business or whatever so that what I do my taxes.

I've got a report of mileage with no medical trips for mileage that's that. That adds up go to the pharmacy going to the hospital going to the doctor's office those things add up. That's a good use of five dollars a month roughly and so those are little things we can do to start streamlining and simplifying your life to make sure that we are maximizing to the best we have simplify, simplify, downsize, downsize, what do you really need. What do you really have to have the simpler your life the less you have to take care of the better you go to be able to serve as a caregiver. Okay, it's just basic economics reduce cut tighten up and allocate resources better in the number one resource to allocate these you you are the best physical resource.

Your loved one hands, and so if you're stretched so thin do it. All these ancillary things, how are you going to be able to function as a caregiver in that crisis of that crucible and that pressure cook okay simplify cut reduce reallocate all of those things and more talk by this, but I would open up with that. This is Peter Rosenberg… Hopefully caregiver will be right back. I will circle back to what I talked about in the last block with this fellow's talking to who stinker was mother he's in his 50s now financially it's very difficult throughout the subject of taking on some of these multilevel marketing opportunities that he sees on the Internet and so forth that you can do and if you will bear with me for a minute. I would very much like to address that issue for us as caregivers. As you can imagine somebody who has his own radio program out in the public eye has a platform and has the ability and desire to communicate to people. I've been hit on by so many multilevel companies over the years. They see me coming from a mile away.

They wanted latch on us all you to do this you do this and I have succumb to some of that sometimes just out of desperation to do something different to make a little bit extra money because things are tight, or whatever.

At the okay I can do this and they're pretty good at this and you know they have wholesales techniques.

The loop people in particular people who were feeling the pinch of desperation who feels the pinch of desperation at times more than caregivers, but we do have you ever felt that way, have you ever felt like I can go to my job. I had to quit my job or have to take a lesser job. I can't pursue the Career want to pursue because of my caregiving responsibilities and that causes you to feel this angst and and squeeze that you're frustrated. There are companies out there that recognize that sort of thing and have a script prepared for you on that, and I'm asking you to be a little more careful. Don't just take these things are, I don't disagree that some people can do very well in multilevel marketing things and so forth mostly as the people started to make a bunch of money off of people who they enlist in it and and then they keep promising them with that. ^ In front of them, but they never really quite get to that level.

Some of them do, but a lot of these types of organizations are going to be Didion's.

You start off with a lot of zeal you spend little bit of money. You'll start talking to all your friends and family about this sort of thing and it becomes uncomfortable there have been one or two that I have seen and actually one that I participated. That actually does what it says it's going to do in the litmus test for me as do I use this product all the time have I seen success in it in my life that is tangible to me as a caregiver that I would even want to tell somebody about it. And there's only one in all the years I've been doing this is only one that does it for me.

That's the kind of scrutiny that I placed on them and I look at my life as a caregiver.

What do I need every day and I look at this program. For example, with advertisers and so forth for the podcast and other things that I do do I want to represent the company or product that has no relationship to the family caregiver for example pizza. We all like pizza but how is that part of my mission and my message which is to strengthen the family caregiver will is not so. Therefore that's out when I'm asking you in your life, your mission, your message don't grasp that things there are people that want to hook you what this stuff and if you ever feel if you ever feel like you are pressured to join some type of multilevel marketing organization or have this kind of product. Whatever. Always feel free to go out to my website and send me a message and asked me what I think of it, I may be wrong but it never hurts to have somebody who you know is objective to give you some thoughts on it you can always posted on our Facebook group. If you want and let the Facebook community there.

It hopefully caregiver on our group page is a private page that I'm I'm the only administrator for an asked the group what they think get somebody else's opinion besides the person trying to recruit you or sell you on the stuff okay. It can be a real trap for us and frustrate his end again.

There are companies out there that prey on desperation they get this thing down cold and I not telling you that they're not going to work. I'm not telling you that it's the silly bad product or bad. Whatever does it meet your needs. Does it fit with what you are trying to accomplish. What are you trying to accomplish. I believe that as caregivers we have to have multiple side things going on the cold side hustles. You gotta be hustling all the time and you have to be extremely creative on how you go to make a living while you service a caregiver. You can't go and and be you know a surgeon and work 50, 60, 70 hours a week and service a family caregiver easily okay because you could have to stop at a moments notice. Sometimes, particularly when you have chronic impairments going on you can't do certain jobs are not to be able to be an astronaut necessary to be a full-time caregiver so your limit on your career opportunities we get that. But that doesn't mean you're limited on your potential of what you can't. It just requires a little creativity and always go back to Scripture. If you if you get confused if you're looking for something in your thinking. I don't know you are a good place to start the book of Proverbs. If you want to get an MBA.

God's wisdom go to the book of Proverbs you read one that corresponds to that day of the month. For example, and just do it every month just read it and read it in multiple translations because what it does is it helps you understand economics.

It helps you understand relationships it understands devious behavior and people all kinds of things little point out and it gives you God's insights in this Scripture says that that word is a lamp to my feet. He doesn't give us the whole path laid out is just the next step or two that we can see that's all and see what that's all we need to see if her trusting in him and you never make good decisions when you're doing it out of desperation and panic and fear, calm yourself down, get someone else to help. Call me to have a conversation with somebody who's been there find somebody that you can trust that you know may give you some objective insight ball for entrepreneurial things and there are some multilevel marketing things out there that really work for people they really work whether there work for you are not in your situation as a caregiver. I don't know that I promise you this.

If you do it out of desperation out of panic at a fear you're setting yourself up for a more challenging time that I not say that you have set yourself up for failure.

But you can make success a whole lot harder if you're doing it out of fear and desperation do your due diligence really research this and ask yourself some hard questions do have really feel comfortable promoting or talking about this product of the service to people I meet on the street to family and friends.

Whatever do I really feel comfortable with this and if not why not. And in essence hard questions. It may be the absolute best fit for you, but do it out of a sense of strategic thinking, not fear. Do it out of a sense of purpose and mission not panic and so that's a decision I make it. II have been every couple of months I have somebody wanting to recruit me into something this and I evaluated by give him a fair shake. A lot of times I'll say you know okay you guys provide all the stuff for me for free and will talk about it, you podcast or 000 do this but I'm I'm I'm not going to die let them invest in me.

At that point that usually when they go across the way psych is a really want me to purchase from them and I'm like no you're coming to me. You see my audience.

You see who I am and no I'm not, you put up 99/100 disappear within about two conversations. The others I do my due diligence with I spend the time with, but I just I am amazed I can almost script out with the go to say to me and they got the next best thing is this really help Gracie. This will really help you in don't you want your love want to be this give her any of that stuff. I'm not saying the wrong but make sure you're doing that of strategic thinking before you agree to any of the stuff before you spend one dime on it.

Go back and pray about it. Spent time in Proverbs about it. Look to Scripture get some insight. Why are you doing this.

What are your goals. What are you hoping to accomplish all of the above and then if you feel like it's the right call. Pull the trigger. Let's go, but if not, if you have any hesitation. Ask yourself why why are you hesitating on this and be willing to wait for the answer be willing to spend some time thinking about okay, thank you for your indulgence on this. If this means nothing to you just disregard this part of the program, but I have a feeling that a lot of you are struggling in this area and I just wanted to touch on the Best Buy buildings and one follow-up caregiver.com and send me a comment or question. Whatever you this is Peter Roseburg will be right as caregivers we have so many things that hit us all the time and we can't always nail these things down by ourselves. Who helps you what does that look like on Peter Rosenberg and I want to you about a program but a part of. Now for almost 10 years. That's legal shield less than $30 a month. I have access to a full law firm that can handle all kinds of things. If I get a contract put in front of me if I got of dispute was something doesn't matter, I've got full law firm that can help me navigate through all the sticky wicket is that we as caregivers have to deal with power of attorney medical power of attorney will every bit of it as a caregiver. We need someone who advocates for us and that's why I use legal shield to go to caregiver legal.com look on the left-hand side versus legal shield to selected turns purple this pick a plan to give you some options if you don't need to do those go selected, check out and be protected. Starting today that caregiver legal.com.

I want to build upon the last blog about not making decisions out of panic and fear that I placed think this is a trip for all of us as caregivers because we are desperate at any given point were living with just unbearable circumstances and anything that promises even an iota of relief. We often grasp it all right.

I'm saying we I do that I don't know if you do that or not.

You tell me is that something you struggle with coming because if I'm in the wrong ballpark. Let me know. I'm just speaking for myself that this is been the temptation for me. This is been the struggle for me to just like okay maybe if I do this, then okay, dishabille, better, or if I do this and this will help or okay you have the art discuss problems in this is got this great product or service. Are you saying that these particular vitamin pills will help you. And if I'm the only one please let me know and hope for the caregiver.com just what the gist of your message hey Peter, you're the only one shut up. But if I'm not the only one indulge me for moment because I think this is a problem for us is caregivers in that we are often find ourselves making decisions out of desperation and that is no way to run a railroad and in light of that if you bear with me and wanted to the story well over 30 years ago.

Gracie was struggling with the reality of what happened to her lower limbs. Both of her legs took the brunt of this terrible record 83. So here we are back in 1990 and 91, and she's tried so many different surgeries to say that right leg particular, which for all intents and purposes was amputated at the time of the wreck with a ribald graphic back there surgeon said we done everything possible to say this leg and all that's left is amputation.

When you're ready will have that conversation. Everybody in Gracie's life, including me. Embarrassed to say had an opinion about this and Gracie understandably was struggling mightily during this time, and to try to be respectful of of everyone else that wanted a way in which was very gracious of her but unnecessary because really it had only to do with her and I guess, by extension, me, but mostly just her. There was two ladies that came up we really know them.

That will but they felt the need to jump into our lives and they told Gracie that she was in rebellion if she went ahead with this amputation and they prophesied. Can you see the air quotes that I'm using on that prophesied in air quotes. Can you see that they prophesied that God would heal her leg in June and this was in February. Okay, so they're taking this 25-year-old woman who struggling with one of the hardest decisions. Anybody could have to make in their telling her that you are in rebellion to God. If you do this, that he could heal you and you surgery scheduled for March. This was in February well imagine how it had made her feel at the time I wasn't adept at dealing with that name and claimant crap and bad theology creates confusion and it can often lead to shame, guilt, and no small amount of resentment appropriately responding to people who spiritually bludgeoned the suffering that's what they're doing well tuned to appropriately respond to them. It takes a lot of practice time and and quite frankly takes sound theology, but I was naïve and inexperienced and it left Gracie me to flounder a bit while we were searching for solid footing, so to speak, and in the clamor of all the. The opinions and the pronouncements from the prophesying folks combined with our self-doubts in our fears and it created a wall of noise.

It felt like a stack of marshaling ups at a Van Halen concert if you can picture that now that is a December spiritual, but some of you know with that and Gracie found herself sadly in a storm of speculation by family and friends again. She was 25, with the toddler in her young heart was heavy under the awful dread of having a looker surgeon in the eye, instructed to amputate her right leg.

She set an appointment with our pastor at the time his name was Bob. She lived into his office on her mangled right foot. She had a cane that her dad made for Cedric. You still have that came today.

It's a little shorter. That's part of it. Let me explain, and she became a double amputee. She wanted to be taller so she's taught her that she with us before. So the cane was too short.

But we kept it just sit on the reasons she also wanted a size 7 foot so she can get a better selection of shoes. That's a separate story all right this just just leave that alone.

But she limped in his office and you are left leg was carried the brunt of her damage right leg and the seat she made in their she sit quietly there in the study, and he looked over her recent Gracie that she told me all this leg up on their Gracie. He looked over recent Gracie. This room is off limits to every other voice telling you what to do with him say my job is to help client in the noise so that you can hear your heart and God's leading and Gracie sat there for more than an hour while Pastor Bob said it is desk.

No words passed between. They just sat there quietly were now. Finally she looked up at him with tear filled eyes.

She said I'm terrified of doing this, she whispered, gaining strength, she continued, but I can't live this way any longer. It's got to come off nodding her somberly. He assured Gracie he be with her through the ordeal and he kept his word.

In fact, just before she went into surgery.

We were all praying in the room and they were there. We left to go down the hall and the last person to speak to her before she went through those doors into surgery was Bob. He rushed to her gurney's are egg a little choked up what I think about it. I've never seen this and he rushed and he whispered something in her ear and she just nodded. The tears went down her cheek.

I never asked her what it was that he said that's between the two with and then she went into surgery. Sometimes the greatest gift that we can give to those who struggle with brutal decisions is to clear the room quiet, the noise just sit with Scripture affirms that while God's explanations are rare.

He doesn't feel this compelling need to explain himself. He's got all by himself.

His explanations may be rare, but is presence is constant and I think about that with Pastor Bob you he he allowed Gracie to stillness in time to be alone with her thoughts, but God goes even further than that.

He assures us that even in our lonely thoughts and our lonely hearts.

He's always with us more than 100 years ago a guy that you may have never heard of his name was Pastor Cleveland McAfee and he was rocked by the death of both of his nieces, his brothers, little girls. They died within one week of each other in the same week.

Things have basically of diphtheria, and he had to preach that sunning this little community was absolutely rocked over this that he struggled to come up with the sermon, and as he was doing this he started writing out a lyric and he wrote this hymn that has become one of the most beloved hymns in the world and that Saturday evening before the service. That next morning they went over to his brothers house and the choir of the church gathered outside on the lawn. They sang this hymn on my CD songs for the caregiver. I put this song on their first because I love it so much on the plate for just a little bit here. There is a place of quiet rest near the heart of God.

The place where sin cannot molest dear and then the church sing this family lose both River and Max to get up, preach next Sunday morning thinking of his brother and sister-in-law. The terrible loss.

This hymn is gone on to become one of the most beloved hymns in the and maybe it's important to you. Maybe you have special memories of this I know that I do and I love this hymn, and I love to play it when my heart is heavy and sometimes we have to simply quiet in the room so that we can so that we can do since we can just be still coming. You understand how you understand this in Ken molest, how many of you understand how deafening the noise can be from everyone else's opinion from everyone else telling you what you should do what you should buyer what you should think or how you should be being the caregiver you should be doing all these things and it's just forms a wall and you can even hearing something that's one of this hymn, and that's why I appreciate so much with that pastor different racing. He helped clear the room. Maybe you and I together can help each other. Clear the just quiet so that we can hear not only our own thoughts. But here God's leading that assurance that he provides to in the midst of terrible things we have to bear calling her spirits down to the rest the story come back.

This is Peter Rosenberg… Over the care right back so the caregiver this is Peter Rosenberg. That is, Gracie is a reference Springs yet passed away last year, just an amazing singer and I wrote that song with a friend of mine's name is Hank Martin he's been on this program before, and Gracie and scared just an amazing job on this. Never forget it.

Gracie that's on her CD resilient, what to hope for the caregiver.com looking for a music tab you see how to get that CD it's a it's a powerful performance of the two of them gave and diskette was just one of the best session singers in Nashville and had his own group in his daughter's amazing singer seems just wonderful, wonderful man love the Lord and that song is heaven is not the reason is that the reason a fall down on my knees streets of gold cannot compare to what Jesus did for me a million angels sing can outshine Calvary. Jesus is all the heaven.

I need and I base that what I wrote that song. I base that on two things. One of Ms. I got kinda tired of people always talking about winning people to Christ so they can go to heaven and to me, that seemed a little bit like fire insurance, you know, it seemed a little bit disingenuous and I thought is that is that it I go back to scripturally look at what Thomas did when Jesus revealed himself to topmast a member. Thomas was not there with the disciples when Jesus appeared after his resurrection to the disciples member Thomas was missing. I said I'm not gonna believe this until I touch. Aside that his hands with my own eyes I want to see this anybody.

I think unfairly because of doubting Thomas.

But I can't say that I would be just like so I think is little bit unfair to: doubting Thomas. But regardless, what did Thomas say when Jesus did appear to go to John chapter 20 that passes errors and things 24 through 29 and when he did see the nail prints.

We did see the wound on her side, said my Lord and my God he didn't talk about heaven. He didn't talk about all streets, a golden big mansion on a hilltop we just saw Jesus said, my Lord, my God, and that's why I wrote that song heaven is not the reason fall down on my knees because I was thinking of imagining if you will like Thomas must've felt in and tried to imagine. So anyway that's if you like solids out there, and Gracie CD and you can think you may be able to download that it it Amazon and some for other places but for sure you get the CD if you want to go back to what were to buy the last segment here to let you little bit on a cliffhanger with client in the room when this this this concept of been thinking about for some time and and I wanted to tell you what happened after that it'll our pastor Bob modeled what that hymn of firms in there is a place of quiet rest you know that fear that guilt and shame and confusion that just molest us. That's what sin does sin molest you and he modeled that there is a place of quiet rest near to the heart of God, where sin cannot molest regardless of the poor theology on display by those those two women who said that Gracie was in rebellion if she went ahead with the surgery rebellion isn't scheduling surgery to remove a limb that's beyond repair rebellion demands that it plays out. According to my wishes, and rejects God's provision. That's what rebellious it will happen my way, my way and Gracie chose to go a different path, and she later stated I didn't know what was on the other side of that operating room door. But I knew who was when he think that confidence came from. I believe that resolved that confidence came in no small part to that time, she said quietly near to the heart of God. She repeated that same scenario four years later, Bobbitt already going on, but Gracie went through this process.

Four years later, when she relinquished her remaining like and I watched the nurses push her from recovery to the ICU. They always put Gracie in ICU. Following any kind of major surgery to simply because it's so difficult to manage her postoperatively.

She is just so many challenges so this industry to ICU. Now they suspect are nippy to actually send you home that day, though, I'm just getting but I watched the nurses pushing her from recovery to the ICU. She woke up and recovery than they they make sure she was stable. Then they came to the doors I was there when the brothers to the stores she's lying on the gurney, still somewhat anesthetized, but her hands were lifted up. She's laying there flat on her back, one leg is healed of it is been amputated for four years, Dylan had a new fresh bandage and tubes and so forth on it and her hands were lifted in the air and she was singing the doxology praise God from whom all blessings flow extraordinary pictures as believers, our responsibility and our privilege is to help widen the room for others who bear terrible challenges and heartaches. It's in those client places near the heart of God that we gain the strength and the resolve to trust him with the anguish while praising him in the unimaginable picture of Gracie singing the doxology praise God from whom all blessings flow. Praise him all creatures here below. Praise him above, ye heavenly host praise father son and Holy Ghost. Now what do you suppose equipped Gracie to sing that after becoming a double amputee dispose could give her that presence of mind when she's halfway sedated ECR spirit recognizes these things our bodies may be undergoing terrible things. There's all consist of swirling around us in this world there is a lot of noise and confusion, chaos in recovery there's beeps and everything else going on because machines and people talking to people moaning and screaming they're bringing out the door. The door slam open in the hospital corridors.

You can even cut up. Imagine that Katie outsells with hospital doors open up and it all that confusion and all that clamor and all of that going on with the freshly amputated limb. She raises her hand and sinks the doxology is been one of the most remarkable things I've ever witnessed in my life and it's a testament to what were talking about here today on this program right now that there is a place of quiet rest near to the heart of God. A place where sin cannot molest even if it's on a gurney with a freshly amputated leg.

He hear me as a caregiver. There is a place of quiet rest for you and me no matter what is going on around us. Do you understand this, can you receive this. Can you hang on to this from one caregiver to another. I am 37 years into this now and I'm telling you there is a place of quiet rest near to the heart of God. A place where sin cannot molest near to the heart of God.

A pastor from I want to miss it. You need to take a Sabbath rest and elective us.

I don't know what that means I don't get a day off. I get hours off and what red horse. Sometimes I get him some will be but I don't get a day off either in working on my business, taking care, Gracie, both of which are full-time jobs. Oh by the way I do music down for the church that I'm writing all the time but I I have discovered what rest looks like to make an arrest is not sleep but I may have to do a whole program on this but rest is not sleep. I don't a lot of people get much sleep, but they're not rest you and I's caregivers must in order to endure this. Learn to rest. How do we do that, but we are a flurry of activities for me. I have found that the more I focus on these things that you would talk about today.

It literally strengthens me. It equips me it animates me. It pushes me to an energy level that I know I had. Yes, I get tired I get physically tired and I have to stop, take a break.

Just be quiet for a moment, but when I do that if I can go practice this principle quiet in the room and allow my brain and my spirit in my heart, my body all to reboot if you thinking on these things of God than what Gracie did on the gurney singing his praises is also available to me and is also available to you this is why I do this program because these things are what strengthen us and equip us. Guess we'll talk about caregiving things on this program tips in dealing with all the stuff will do that.

But that's not what keeps me talking with the ceiling fan look like that's not what keeps me agitated.

That's not what caused that fear that Trent and in those moments I have to quiet the room and be still.

Knowing that there is a place of quiet rest near to the heart of God. Thank you so much for your time today.

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