Do You Feel Seen?

Saying that there is hope for the caregiver dispute.

This is the show for you as a family caregiver this is that so McKinney's just look always love that song.

And for those you don't. Q3 was yourself a favor go on Google. I know they got the Jesus music documentary out right now.

He's mentioned a little bit. I would see her. He spent a little bit, but he was such a powerful voice but but that that song is one reason to the show. Do you see do you see and caregivers are seen. I know this from experience I can't tell you how many people have asked me how my wife is I can't count thank you want to ask about me and I'm 35 years into this but you and so what I realize that this invisible army of people who are caring for chronically impaired loved ones. Some of them dealing with just her horrendous circumstances, who's going to recognize these individuals speak to the post Clinton to communicate with the paralegal to understand it would take somebody that speaks fluent caregiver, because we have our own language. It's it's difficult to talk to a caregiver.

Sometimes if you don't know the journey, if you don't know the language you don't know the scenario. People know what to say and so caregivers just plodded along struggle along, limped along often in isolation. I've absent this many times caregivers can feel isolated in a crowded room and we can feel isolated on a crowded pew and so when I went out envision the show many years ago I was determined I was going to speak directly to caregivers is not that I don't want to speak to other people with it that is just this is who I see this is who I and so what I do these songs for you and and and everything that I do on the show it it is is a reflection of my own journey I had to get to the point where I was doing our song for today.

This is the day. Rejoice. It's one thing to sing that in the church with people on drums and guitars and everything else is nothing missing that is your wife goes in search for the 81st. It's another thing to sing.

That is your holding the hand of somebody was slipping. It's another thing to sing that if you if you have a child with autism who was just having a meltdown. After Milt's talking with friends of ours. Yesterday they have a special needs son with very dire circumstances and its relentless. He's 27 years old and in its its relentless and I'm not here to to try to bolster you up and say, you know, suck it up and let's go. No, no, no, I want to start from the inside applicant go all the way down to the core of who we are and deal with that fear and deal with that heartache and deal with that sorrow and speak life to it its way down inside us and so people come up and they throw surface. The things at us you know and and it doesn't stick because it can't because it's not penetrating all the way down to the core and just wanted to show that's why I write books if I write a column. That's why do all the things that I do is because I know from personal experience what it's like to have people throw a basket full of platitudes at me and none of it stick and I also know what it's like when people came along they spoke life to me. They spoke right down to the very core of who I and helped me walk through this and get stronger and healthier, and so would Keith Green sings that song. Did you see decent yes I do.

I do see in a seat around because I am in somebody saw me several somebody saw me and I want you to know that somebody sees you. All I'm doing is what Paul talked about in Corinthians offer the same comfort that I myself it received from the God of all comfort and hopefully you will do the same as well to others that you see more but were not going to come and grab people I tell this to my Pentecostal and charismatic friends don't go and grab people start prophesying over. Just sit with them. Just be with you there already. Just so on edge you consider right off the cliff just be. I've had people come up do that to me and they just want to just shout at me the blessings of God, no doesn't work that way. He's very call.

He's very quiet. He's very gentle. If you look to Scripture you see that there's just the words like steadfastness, mercy and grace, lovingkindness, don't be afraid, be still. These are permeated through all of Scripture because he knows that we are fragile, freaked out messed up people and if we can just calm ourselves down or allow more importantly him to walk us through columns you you heard what Geneva said that she would read the 23rd Psalm and her husband even in Alzheimer's or jointed.

He leads me beside still waters.

He restores my soul. Yay though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear what no evil for what thou art with me. He is with this in this. It doesn't seem that way at times. I know that for heaven sakes. I don't and there are times when you just hang your head and you're just so weary and you're so beaten down and you're so discouraged and in those moments, he is they are. I promise you he is because I have experienced this more times that I can count.

It doesn't necessarily go away doesn't change the reality of our journey in the sense of the okay girl's legs don't grow back.

Her pain hasn't decreased. I don't know why that God has not seen fit to alleviate this from her. I really don't. And as I told you the last block I I'm becoming a little bit more comfortable saying I can't know I can't. I don't I don't have it in me to process that. And so I have to make a decision am I going to trust the trust God in this there people that I consider the links throughout platitudes.

You hear this a long time. From pulpits and everything else is just trust God just trust God, you know, that sounds really nice when you're not having to slip through all the stuff the grace he not do as a good Yiddish word by the way I like that word.

The last thing Mike Rosenberg I'll throw it Yiddish word every that is not an easy thing to say to people but when when you hear people like Geneva were married 71 years and cared for her husband with Alzheimer's.

The last seven years and when you hear the joy in the vibrancy and the excitement in her voice that's different that something the world does not offer don't take our forte look at what the world offers for about five minutes every day on the on the news. Whatever you see now moral doesn't offer that you can't fake it for 71 years.

You can't stop possible. But what you can do is anchor yourself in these truth so that when you are going to those tough times and when those tough times seemed to stretch on beyond the horizon that you're not swept away. This is the day this is the day that the Lord make so many of us as caregivers see if this applies to you what has to be we the romanticize all regret the past or we fear or fantasize about the future and Scripture tells us to live here in this moment, this is the day that the Lord is made in this day may contain very painful things for you, but Scripture, Scripture doesn't qualify that it just as this is the day that the Lord has made I will rejoice and be glad in my hope is that this little course that is so familiar to so many of us will stay with you not only today but throughout the week and beyond. When you are faced with very very difficult things I I struggle to say this but I'm proceeding.

Anybody else tells you that you can raise an eyebrow. I know because I've done it and say you know well that's nice for him to say those of you who listen to the show regularly and those you knew that don't know you learned a little bit today. You know my journey that would be like Geneva saying to you that you can't have an enduring marriage will only say this been married for three years is no big deal. So this is been married for 70 years. The list when a caregiver tells you that you can trust God in these things. This been doing for 35. Those of us with scars and experience down this road. We have learned a few things that he is. This is can rejoice more in hope..Calm is Rosenberg. Are you enjoying this podcast find these episodes meaningful bonus features using broadcast shows all those kinds of things. If you do would you consider helping us do go out to hope for the caregiver.com/giving.

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