"Honey I Forgot the Melody!"

And 12 American family video.

This is hope caregiver, this is Peter Rosenberg.

This is the show for family caregiver for the 65 million Americans right now with the bone of a loved one who may be struggling with aging issues, Alzheimer's special needs child with autism. Maybe have somebody in your life that has an addiction. Whatever the impairment is always caregiver and this is the show that helps strengthen equipment you healthy caregivers make that are caregivers and how are you doing today pledge with 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 some years ago when I was in Nashville when we lived there and we Graciela Dinesh for very very long time. That's the where most of all of her surgeries occurred and this near where her accident occurred and we were we rented very large church there Nashville and in the pastor asked me to look up and noticing that when people show up, that it's really kind like a barnyard and is very loud and boisterous, and so forth. With the coming of the sanctuary. I'd really like for them to come to calm down and and their hearts and minds ready to to worship. Would you mind playing and I was thrilled to do so.

Gracie had stopped singing for a while. She been going through some pretty rough patches and and she wasn't singing and and so I will appreciate the opportunity to do this and employee and and I've been playing a course in churches since I was a kid and in a love's hips. Well, I got up there to play. This is beautiful setting, and in fact you can see it on the front of my CD. So for the caregiver is that church and and was beautiful Steinway piano and and I was loving doing this in a couple of measures and bars into the song I realized something. I realize that I was playing the harmony I was pulling the company.

I was so used to Gracie singing and accompanying her and I would play it is a national play the changes around her and I was playing the melody that accords our plate were were wonderful late centigrade even if I say so myself. They were great courts but nobody knew what I was play be like, you know will hear the caregiver keyboard here. Some just like you know and and those are nice courts but they don't mean anything and I mentally adjusted very quickly in front of quite a few people to go back and playing the melody and I had to work at it and I work longer and that 10 minute spot that I was playing that I had worked as a pianist alone time because I was having physically retrained my finger to play the melody and this is this just became a real teachable moment for me as a caregiver that I've lost my melody. I'd lost my ability to speak in my own voice and to be able to say something as it is a pianist and then at the caregiver is a person you know and I was playing something but I wasn't saying something and so a big appointment. I have interaction with people on the show or anywhere else. How are you feeling there's a reason to do that is not that I want to anchor ourselves and our feelings because that's that's not what anchors us, but we do have technology but I want people to used to speaking from their own heart played their own melody with their own melody and and theft said often on the show that that popular professor back in Nashville. John Arne still talk with him at least once a month and he's in his 80s now and he taught me more about this concept than anybody else and he's arranged a lot of hymns over the years.

He's had published books of his him arrangements of fourth affect of seeing them before I was really in college soccer stuff and there was everywhere and it churches around the country, but one of the. The techniques he uses was to teach us to go and play the melody of any song with one finger to make sure we we really understood the melody of that song and then play around and you don't want to get out there just to piano, gymnastics, and some say hey look what I can do if you're not communicating what the song is saying than what are you doing when it comes to the hymns in the these are things of midsemester some people for so long and so that's what I I learned that day he and I haven't have to learn it's in front of quite a few people and I hope that nobody paid attention to the sweat that was pouring off my head because I was just so used to having Gracie singing you ever get that way that you you're so used to somebody else's story sucking the oxygen out of the room for you that you you forget to share your own for you to talk about your own journey or in any way express your journey of one of the. The hymns that I've played over the years and 11. This is her him this morning is a very complicated note, and it I still have to work at this little bit of a go. The caregiver keyboard here to see if you know this one, I want to start off with just probably the melody only does this sound familiar melody, but it is a little bit tricky play devil struggled with that melody myself, but the heart muscle to go back and really get into this Thomas Campbell wrote this to this amazing lyric of Charles Wesley, I realized home while what is the song, saying, this became one of my all-time favorite hymns to do it to do it right is just I just love this that I could put those cords into that him and effectively play it that way with some of the squidgy probably didn't recognize us, but their records piano Prof. Tubby have played many many years ago I could put them in until I understood the melody until I really understood what the song was all about. Do you know this song. 888-589-8840 if you do 888-589-8840 and have you lost your melody. And here's the side of the for us as caregivers when we lose her melody. Somebody asked how you doing and you see where we had a bad night. She's not doing well. Our situation is this. He's such a we have a hard time speaking in first person think today were going to do that little bit better. 888-589-8840 want to be a part of the show will be like back. This is hope for the caregiver hope the caregiver.com's Peter Rosenberger. Healthy caregivers make better caregivers and marketing help speaking caregiver. This is Peter Rosenberger.

This show for you as a family caregiver, I I gotta tell you just love this flawless all-time favorite songs and Gary Chapman wrote this form that he rewrote a song for Gracie said over and she's gonna be when she gets back in the groove. Start recording some more and I think you really like it would to play for as is.

It's really good and I think you really love this art. 888-589-8840 88858 Matthew world of 8840 if you want to be a part of the show. I I was listing of the breaker.

They were talking about the identity issue this going on across the country.

In the course now that word identity is been used on whether what gender you are or how you Delphi this yada yada yada I'm not going there right now I'm looking at us as caregivers in the identity theft that happens with us in our journey where we just lose our ability to even know who we are anymore the world is trying to tell us if you can identifies this and unifies this, he devises I have not got to go there with that because at that makes my head hurt. What I'm learning as a caregiver is where my identity emanates from and that I'm a unique creature created in the image of God and that he knows my name and nowhere was this driven home more clearly to me that in the him.

Jesus loves me this I know for the Bible tells me so it and I how I don't care how simple people think that is simple is good for me. When you're caregiver and you're dealing with the things that we deal with as caregivers we need simple, I'm okay with simple and I I love being able to delve deeper into this because the more I understand my identity in Christ, then the better equipped. I am to deal with whatever comes my way. So that's why love this particular him today and and why it means something and again and I see the phone lines of little people know the song. The goal is not to see who's the smartest person knows the hymns. The goals talk about the song and what it means to you.

Okay, it always like it was about gets the song, but these understand if somebody else gets it. If you got something you want to share about this on what it means to you. Now we have a conversation because were delving into this treasure trove. We have in the hymnal of all these wonderful text and melodies that that we've been provided for by people who wrestled these things in ways that many of us may never have to. And this is one of course written by the incomparable Charles Wesley who is written some of the most fabulous church lyrics and worship songs with will ever be written and and so I appreciate that he would tell us go to Paula in Virginia Paula good morning, how are you feeling now will you know what I think I'm doing okay.

We get a winter storm coming in, and our first snowfall and so we had a the Internet, with a little wonky this morning as I was getting logged on here ready to do the show and so it we worked it out so that if something goes down to hear this thing hey hey God's nose dealing with where we are in Montana and Peter will be right back. But other than that I'm doing okay. People I remember at work that morning. Caregiver say my like you are so grateful for your child will think you and I usually listen here show the work. I work at a very well care for family and that capacity and it typed about 90 and maybe how can it be, and indeed is where I think it is it is less the course title of it is, and can it be, but that the course is amazing love how can it be that thou my God would stop for me and what I song to talk about for our identity. Don't you think I care work that in Christ God and I in the banking provides some time. I get distracted and don't do that and I can take some time to praise God anything contrary to me that really got company thanks entered on encore out. That left other really talk about this early. The fleet was present and Cicero said that gratitude is the parent of all virtues and it's hard to be miserable when you're grateful is that we think about it if you're spending so much time being grateful.

It's hard to be miserable. It's hard to be self-centered. If you're grateful. Gratitude is such an amazing mental transformer soul transformer when we start thinking about things were grateful for and in your actually right. When we when we focus on that it changes everything. Paula and let me ask you a question because what you do at the cemetery that that's an important work. What is what is one of the more poignant moments that you've had in that journey now when I do care for the people that are not try to point down, killing internal]. I'm not but she met turning and help them in the month and they get. A lot like God had me on the right.

Every child is not that's beautiful that really is what a ministry that is in it say it's a it's a costly ministry you because your you're weeping with those who weep your morning with those who morning you comforting the grieving and that is that is a reflection of the heart of God. That's what that's what he does.

That's who he is and you are reflecting that to those who are in sometimes the most vulnerable state in the exit is a tremendous thing that you do. Paula treatment grateful they got it at last last question I got last question for you when when you heard the song. It obviously resonated with you. Is there is there a connection that you've had with this over the years, and something about this connected or or what what was the story behind that.

Years ago I was involved with quite a church choir that we went on on and thinking about that group of friends of brothers and sisters in Christ. Yet that the lottery that conflict worshiping together on that journey that got me through and print out five so deeply for me. You know you you you don't something Paula that I think has crippled our nation as we go to the pandemic we we allowed ourselves to have an excuse to not worship together were Scripture says don't forsake the assembly of the brother don't don't do this you need to get together and worship together corporately. I've been in chapel services and church services. The fourth we've done this him in a room full of people massive room full of people that were singing this full throated. I mean, they just amazing love how okay did I mean it was just it's there's nothing like it when the people of God come together in worship in solidarity and conviction of these great things and I think that if anything that we've learned through this pandemic of the crippling effect on us as individuals for the isolation but also what it does to us as believers to be isolated departed in. Obviously this rest.

The sticky back to a time where you guys saying this together edit it strengthen you equipped you and it just so it was so memorable that here you are somebody years later to hear it on the radio with the got played on the keyboard and immediately takes you back there in that astonishing that God indeed. I think if we don't do that gather where making will we are and was still rust have to praise the Lord of the imperialist has a go praise alone was for God inhabits praise praise hello for the change that seemed to bind you serve only to remind you they drop powerless behind you. When you praise him. That's all that imperialist in what a great celebrant banister of the growth that and just a great song of your writing for God inhabits praise and we've lost that in so I've I'm grateful that you've reminded of all, all of us of this, Paula, and I'm grateful and I and I love this dyslexia be you. You came up with amazing love how can it be that thou my God would die for me and and can it be that I should gain interest in the Savior's blood made it just died he for me who caused his pain for me to him to death pursued amazing love how can it be that them.

I guess it's that for me this great lyric Paula, thank you for sharing that story and thank you for what you do today for so many are you you work there. I arrived at work right now.

I will. I got Randall would you get, you got a busy day.

I'm sure and you got people to come into your life that you're going to touch and I think I speak for the audience here when we just are grateful that you're there were grateful that you're there to offer a clear path to it to the eternal life of God through Christ and as people come across your way. They're not going to be given just platitudes are to be able to hear and feel and see the amazing eternal truth of God through Christ that we we have available to us to thank you for that Paula really do appreciate that and I think her audience speaks from week I speak for them as well that we really appreciate what you do this hope we can get this this is so for you as a family caregiver. Oh, by the way of Paula. One of things I've learned is that caregiving doesn't stop at the great caregivers are left to deal with the residual impact just think that if your ears will is ministered to carry taffeta rather play.

Russ is big.

So praise the Lord to do with the imperials and this crazy thing with roasted from her CD, resilient you want to get a copy that are double disowned, what hope for the caregiver.com just click on the music tab hope for the caregiver.com and you can see, had go about doing that.

I love that I love that saltwater fish with this and Gracie.

Russ is a great job on that. Hey I want you shout at someone. I was reading supposed that she was putting on her Facebook page were streaming live on Facebook today Facebook is working if they ever need a whistleblower Facebook to go to Congress really talk about Facebook. It would be because I've had such a struggle with her Facebook laugh, but that's a separate issue. Dido that but I love what Mary told Rose saying in. She is talk about how the father of lies has believing our stories are who we are but they are just what happened to us, not who we are at our core, we are his put on this earth to do good works, he prepared us in advance. Be prepared in advance for us to do the good work he prepared in advance for us today is spirit fills us do his work. He's not a sideline helper.

He is a reason that helps me keep my identity in focus and Mary there a lot of people out there that are dealing with the caregiving world and Mary is one of those rare few like what we do on this show that really speaks to the heart of the caregiver. In fact, that's the name of her ministry. If you want to check that out in your books and so forth. And she's been on the show. If I had to get back about Mama having Becca. The heart of the caregiver.com. It is her website in just an amazing lady who's got a powerful journey and insights again. The whole point of this is not to talk about caregiver being weaned we swerve into that as needed. There's always tips we can learn from each other. But the real battle for the caregiver being those are task. The real battle is our own hearts.

If our hearts a train wreck. It doesn't matter how good we are at caregiver being because it it always starts at the core of who we are and I'm convinced this this is 35 years of experience talk about this that I have. I've been very good at caregiving and very lousy at caregiver and and I've come to that understanding that I'm going to be wrestling with these issues for the rest of my life in their really not unique to me by circumstances may be unique but the heart condition is not the it's the human condition. We all struggle with this is, caregivers were often dealing with this relentlessly through through the pressure cooker of caregiving and it forces things to the surface that would normally be dealt with over the course maybe a lifetime. We get to deal with it in a week and it is like having a set. This will mean anything to sell me over some of you will get this back in the old days when they had the big wall said had a whole stack of marshlands of their guitar player just cranks it up and this is wall of boys. It comes on these massive amplifier stacks that's caregiving. It's best just a swath of boys of doves overpowered. You have this scene at the beginning of back to the future when he had that huge help and Marty McFly looked at the guitar and you get that one noted just blew them backwards because that huge area that's caregiving and and so the noise is very loud, but the issue was the same for all of us as human beings and that's why I go into this on the hymns in the Scriptures that are that are addressing that issue working from the inside out. Because if we are again if or if our brain is just a squirrel cage and we keep Javad a stick to that squirrel cage. What how you live.

So to calm ourselves down and go back principles of one of those principles I talked about this a lot. The three eyes we lose our identity. We lose our independence and we become isolated is caregivers with three eyes and today were just about the little that identity theft that happens with caregivers that every time you hear commercial talk about identity theft. Did you hear these all the time, try to connect that.the tub at your identity theft tried to make that bridge so that it reminds you every time to rush back to Christ where your identity comes from because he's the one that that all of this flows from and so that's why did this particular song today and can it be that I should gain an interest in the Savior's blood died he for me and if you notice the author Charles Wesley is not saying you know and can it be that we should gain.he for us really say that he for me this is very personal to Wesley you know and and you get to the the fourth verse along by prisons late by the prison spirit lay – bound in sin and nature's night died I defused a quickening array.

I woke the dungeon flame with light my chains fell off. My heart was free.

Rose went forth and followed the this was extremely personal to Charles Wesley and he was he was deeply convicted to write that letter, you can't write that without some intense personal engagement with the safe stuff to happen. Then, in the author of the composer. The music Thomas Campbell give her a break this great melody, but it's a hard ability of your pianist. You know that's it's a hard Miller directly figures around sometimes caregivers make better kickers hope for the kick.com.

Some of you know the remarkable story of Peter's wife Gracie and recently Peter talk to Gracie about all the wonderful things that emerge from her difficult journey. Take a listen Gracie. When you envision doing a prosthetic limb outreach. Did you ever think the inmates would help you do that, not in a million years.

When you go to the facility run by core civic and you see the faces of these inmates that are working on prosthetic limbs that you helped collect from all of the country that you put out the plea for and their disassembly sell these legs like what you have your own prosody and arms and orange everything when you see all this makes me cry because I see the smiles on their faces and I know what it is been locked in place where you can't get out without somebody else allowing you to get out meaning the hospital. These men are so glad that they get to be doing is one thing said something good with my did you know before you became a deputy that parts of prosthetic limbs could be recycled and had no idea I thought Peg leg. I thought it wouldn't legs.

I never thought of titanium and carbon legs and flexibly see legs and all that. I never thought about.

As you watch these inmates participate in something like this, knowing that there there helping other people available for providing the means for the supplies to get over there. What is it due to interest on the heart level. I wish I could explain to the world.

What I see in here and I wish that I can be able to come and say the this guy right here in Africa with that.

I never not feel that way out every time you know you always make me have to leave. I don't want to leave.

I feel like I'm at home with them and I feel like we have a common bond that would never expected that only God could put together.

Now that you've had experience with it what you think of the faith-based programs.

The core civic offers. I think there is absolutely awesome and I think every prisoner out there that have faith-based programs because he return right at the man that are involved in this particular faith-based program and other ones like it, but I know about this one car is an amazingly low rate compared and I think that is that is with me just has something to do with God is somebody looking people want to donate use prosthetic limbs, whether from your loved one who passed away or you somebody well-groomed you donated some of your own for the data out of the please go to staining with.com/recycle gain. We say what would you do if you are a new Christian and you didn't have a Bible Michael Woolworth my way from Bible, the international you probably say well it happened my car and go to Christian bookstore or have one shipped to me.

What if those weren't options sing with him due to the faith. I mean I need to know what it means to grow in the grace and knowledge of Jesus, you know, you would pray that someone, anyone would bring you a Bible. That's exactly the way it is for literally aliens are Christians around the world are part of our spiritual family there new to the faith they want to know what it means to grow in the grace and knowledge of Jesus but God has them planning where it's very difficult to access the Bible and that's why the Truth Network and Bible league of teamed up to sing God's word to 3500 Bible as believers around the globe. Our campaign is called the world needs the word five dollars. Since the Bible $100 since 20. Every gift matched make your most generous gift by calling 800 yes word 800 why ESW ORD 800 yes word or give a Truth Network.com