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"I'll Get Help When It's Beyond My Control"

Hope for the Caregiver / Peter Rosenberger
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July 20, 2021 2:30 am

"I'll Get Help When It's Beyond My Control"

Hope for the Caregiver / Peter Rosenberger

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July 20, 2021 2:30 am

Two different caregivers shared the same sentiment to me this past week. “I’ll get help when it’s beyond my control.”

When I quietly asked what shape they (and their loved ones) would be at that point, they both gave them same response: silence.

Many caregivers competently (and admirably) handle enormous challenges. The issue, however, is not how competent the caregiver is today.  Caregiving takes a huge toll on physical, emotional, fiscal, and spiritual health. The time to ask for help is not when we’re overwhelmed, but to seek it in stages long before the critical point.

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And will distribute Roseburg. This is the caregiver. This is the show as a family caregiver you one of the more than 65 million Americans right now are putting yourself between the multiple of one of the worst disaster you the one driving them back. Are you the one back-and-forth pharmaceutical pharmacists of you that is staying up late and doing lots of long and then getting it the next day and going to work and all the things that you do. Plan meals everything else checking on folks. Are you the one that is having the late-night conversation with the ceiling fan and weeping and nobody sees it.

Well guess what God sees Leno's and he understands it, and there are things in his word that speak to you today as a caregiver, and that is the reason that we do this show and I am grateful to have you with us this is. We also stream live on Facebook which I have no idea if it'll work. I do this every week I thank I get up Saturday mornings and optimistically think that Facebook will spend time making it easier to live stream of video like this. Instead of censoring our beliefs and opinions and so forth, but evidently not. That is just all-consuming with them. So if you go to hope for the caregiver on her Facebook page and it works great. If it doesn't, you know, go out and post something that proclaims God's truth and see if the sensor that so anyway that's enough of that nonsense. 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 if you want to be part of the show.

We'd love to have you with us.

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We we do him every week for those you just now enjoying the show for the first time you've just happened.

Flip the doll and we show up and we get that a lot about what were used to that. Hey I found you by accident. Yeah I'm familiar with that phrase. But if you're just now tuning in and never heard to show it all. What I like to do is I like to introduce a him some type of him that that we've grown up singing or maybe you never heard before and introduce this to you playfully see if you know it. If you know what I like to folks: tell me why they know what it's about to them how how much is meant to them. Sometimes I get folks to play the piano church and then they they recognize they played this him that mean something to them talk about why it connects to the family caregiver and II think that we have missed a great opportunity in our modern church we put a bunch of songs up on the wall with the projector but were not going back into this tremendous resource of the hymnal and see what people before us wrote and what sustained them and so many others until about 1982 should ever since that we just got up, got away from this that I don't know what is going to take to help us get back to some of these things these prison that doesn't mean you can't put a the lyrics of a him up on the wall that's fine but but there's something about holding the hymnal flipping through it and seeing these great great songs that that people before us who have gone through tremendous challenges and and wrote great theology with and this is one of those today. So if you know this if you know this him. Feel free to call it.

I will step over here to the caregiver keyboard. I now met the caregiver to get ready.

But in all fairness is him is been used. This tune is been used for many different hymns. There's one particular with that I'm looking for today but I'll accept all of it. It's was used for that the twos co-doll and it's a well stew written by this fellow named Roland Prichard the road when he was 19 beliefs so that the text is what I'm looking for the goes with this and several but hopefully hopefully you will know this, that particular twos co-doll and looking for a text particular text or even giving him his name was Wilbur Chapman wrote the lyrics is a pastor will educated man, and he wrote it.

Amazing text.

This that will mean something to us today as caregivers we could hang onto. I was talking to two different guys this week and this last week. Both of them in their 80s.

Both of them taking care of their wives, and I introduced the concept of asking them.

As the miss it. Look, if you thought about bringing somebody into help you and the both of them get the same response I got it under control now bringing in a bring somebody when I don't have it under control.

By the way, if you know that some 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 but these two guys. Most of the same thing totally unrelated felt only know each other but I just have to be talking to and they said you know when one is out of my control will bring a bring somebody in well. I asked a very simple question to each of them and I said what shape will you or your love would be in at that point, when you're just beyond your control and they both give the same response which was signed and everything say you know what to say. You know I gotta tell you that many caregivers competently and admirably handle enormous challenges. I'm one of the issue.

However, is not how competent the caregiver is today. Okay the caregiving takes a huge toll on us physically, emotionally, fiscally and spiritually in the time to ask for help is not when we are overwhelmed, but to seek it in stages long before it gets the point if my 35 years now of caregiving has taught me anything in this been through a medical nightmare. It's that I needed help from day one. Now I did know was a full time care and that's not always the solution but phasing in care seeking counsel attending support. Support groups are all encouraged from the onset of caregiving from day one. In addition, regular conversations with accountants, your own physician and clergy are also critical to the well-being of the caregiver unit. If we wait until it's beyond our control. I gotta tell you that's an illusion. It was never within our control and those of you who are in this in the in the throes of this now understand that it is not in your control, you have no control over this. So if you're waiting till it's beyond your control quote unquote before you start getting help. You are putting yourself and your loved one at risk today is the day to start asking for help. Today is the day that I get. It doesn't mean you gotta go get 24 seven care, but it is critical for he was a caregiver to raise your hand and say you know what I need help I need help. This is beyond you will only get more challenging and what I've seen growing older is not so. That is our opening monologue. Today we better him and calls 888-5888, and so much more to talk about that. I love that tune that is Keith Green. It is just a extraordinary body of work that he left us, and if you don't know who he is.

Please go and take a moment to investigate his music, his life and what he left us here on this planet to be able hang on to what he was even he didn't pull any punches Dick do you CDC. There's one line that saw this as a Jesus rose from the dead, and you can even get out of bed. I weeded bulleted budgets, but that is that as a great to this funeral for Hope for the caregiver. This is the show for you as a family caregiver 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 if you want to be a part of the show we have several calls from them get to her on the father will weigh in on our song we have today, and I do these things for a reason. All these hymns because they have enormous value to us right now as caregivers to hang onto. In the moments when the bullets are flying and it's just all fallen apart. For us, something that grants us in reality so were going to witnesses go to Dan in West Virginia. Good morning Dan how you feel. It later. Thank you, how you you know, for the shape I'm in a been pretty good shape.

Love the show often on Saturday morning very much my mother and father about long-term care for couple years slumped on the secondary caregiver not primary one. You have charge of their care and not mom passed away just about three months ago. Not one that is 100-year-old won't work that he still gets to walk is doing very well at checking the church with me on many occasions getting out sometimes just for for lunch and get them out joy in my life. Real blessing but yeah there is a Thursday toll watching your parents go through long-term stuff and so I appreciate that you try to build into us some encouragement along the way about the way the song is come, thou Long expected Jesus comes that that people create is that the one you were looking for. Will that that is one of the text they use these several with this and that is one of them and I'm willing to accept that I don't have a ding button to accept that I'm looking for my one other one. That's when I first started playing this to that's too that I would guess that the text that I learned my first timeout administers the knowledge of the text of the people. The people put through it and I love that come the long expected Jesus, we used to sing that my dad's pristine minister and we would sing that it Adventism at the as is week went into the Christmas season and a love that text and it it's a good one and I will accept it today. But there's one more. I'm looking for. That applies where we are today as caregivers, and this is the one that is written by J Wilbur Chapman and that was an extraordinarily educated man and he got his doctorate of Divinity a think that he also got an LLD docketed law from Heidelberg, a belief in human very very educated man but he had a lot of sadness in his life as well and he wrote this amazing Texan but you listen you. You nailed it on on, come thou Long expected Jesus Gazette is a great him as well and sometimes I take these hymns of these these wonderful tunes in the put several hymns with that several text with it and know that Wesley and some of these others did that but that is that that incident very acceptable answer to the rodeo.

Thank you will thank you thank you be a part of this and you know what when you next time you think you dad a church.

I hope that they stand when he walks in because hundred-year-old World War II veteran is is has earned that honor and and privilege in and for folks to be able to replay respects what he's accomplished in his life and that's an extraordinary thing.

100 years old and and that's out so I hope the church honors and respects him on that they love in effect when it comes to church is a rock star. Everybody wants to talk to as well. He sent on a lot of give him a lot of attention and it makes it will and in and that is it is well deserved. So thank you for sharing that with this and thank you for just that the passion you have for these hymns, and for this you know this ministry a you know and also are you writing down a lot of the things that you dad essays he still able to have those kinds of conversations. Actually, I have written down pretty much like the story you shared copies of it. People here only contact but but I worked on that for a period of about months or seven months and now she's starting to lose some of this memory. It's really coming in handy yachting. Thank you for that suggestion. I think that that's good weather all in our culture that is trying to rewrite history, it's nice to hear from those who were actually there and yell you out. I would highly recommend this is much that is possible to capture because what a what a gift so thank you for for sharing all that with us today.

Dan and I do appreciate that okay let's go to Troy in Texas. Troy good morning. More good morning what are you feeling they Troy I'm a little tired but otherwise doing well.

I told you why you are you tired well you know I'm not a caregiver but I work with a lot of family that there are caregiver for or need outside help. So naturally, more about medical and emotional strain that is nothing caregiver to work my mom 33 years as a quadriplegic you have. Yeah you seen it in you that you would desire that I have out and get help early know what got her a couple years to figure out about you, 39, elevator so physically easier to work work that I interface and help family. You mentioned that comment Brad awaiting July help because you think got a big, big John.

It is not going to listen to other people tell us that unless were able to heal that person to punch through the fog of caregivers and say in the way that fellow caregivers will say okay, maybe I need to pay attention because it's one thing for somebody else to say it is another thing for you know what I say it after 35 years of this, you know it's it's hopefully going to carry little bit more weight to the site. This is this is the way it is. You can't argue with that. My experience out your opinion and so when you know the answer. Do you know what this him as you know what I'm looking for. Our pain after a long expected with that's that's okay, it's still acceptable that still acceptable. But there's one more that I'm looking for that may not be quite as well-known as folks, but it is such a great text and were going to continue on.

I'll give you a hint give you hit and it's Jesus, what a help and saw this one of the verses Jesus. What I hope in sorrow, while the billows over me roll even when my heart is breaking. He my comfort helps my soul and that's that's one of the ones I'm looking for and so I give you hit on that one. But Troy, I do. I very much appreciate you calling. Thank you for your insights about this thing with your mom does your mom still living here in you the living plot that has your mom doing that she is doing a pretty well trigger you get back into a brigade of you not being a caregiver for 33 years of exchange. So the public to forget your years like your new normal and other than protocol. That and I quitting their flow down her progress really redeveloping her life look like now but she's working on it really well. Exactly got really different neighborhood at the Connecticut church. I would like you don't get the ministry.

Perhaps or or you will it'll it'll take a while to Kenneth detoxes out of her and get her to find.

You know, that solid ground that Lane that she can be in and that's okay and and and respect and and Teller said look you know mom it's okay, take as much time you need to respect the trauma of what's been done to you because when you take care of somebody with quadriplegia for 30+ years you you have to respect the toll that that took on her and she, I suggest aspect of yourself that means you know you because it is a massive toll and it may take a little while to get solid footing underneath her, but that's ditto that that's that's your opportunity then to just keep cared for love her and understand and she's you don't try to figure this out herself.

But again, there is help and list that we did it, even after your eye that your father's gone she could see she still needs help students help to process a lot of and and so it's that's good you know it's going to get to ease her into that what that looks like for her but I appreciate you sharing her story with this Troy. I thank you for this in the show and calling in and listen. Pace yourself too if you're tired early on Saturday morning. Your you pushing yourself the pace yourself and get some rest right hi buddy appreciate the call. The point of all of this is for us to understand that the what we go through is caregivers is no easy thing it it it takes a toll. And just because the love was passed away doesn't mean, well, okay, just to live my life in and I'm good now this thing takes a toll on and respecting the trauma respect the Trump that you live this Peter Rosenberg. This is hopefully caregiver 885-8984 Tripoli 589] what has been back to hopefully caregiver this Peter Rosenberg. This is the show for you as a family caregiver and we are so glad that you are here. We've got several folks waiting to say the know the song of the first, I want to go to Terry in South Carolina Terry good morning, how are you feeling well and feeling pretty good. I am a new caregiver less than a year now my wife was diagnosed with Alzheimer's early onset where both are pretty young mid-sixties is getting younger every day. By the way. It was quite a shock that things have progressed rather quickly over the last 10 months. A major episode occurred last fall, but my what I'm looking for is a resource I am part of the Alzheimer's Association. I attend support groups. What I'm looking for is how to find like a caregiver that would possibly want to live in the home, but you just don't want anybody you don't want somebody's going to flock you want a friend we have a very good flight home buried in 25 acres of forest nobody seated you could have resources and have contacts with people and I will know I am. This is too big of the net to be able to pull from. So would be able to aggregate all that information, I would belly where whereabouts and succulent I'm from I'm from Seth you where you went with herself to limited the upstate area on the Greenville area. I was born and raised in Anderson and my folks, my folks to live. There is a great area of the country. I tell you what I would recommend starting with this is finding a good surface first because they are responsible for weeding out folks that you know you want to get the right person and if you get if you have the wrong person. The company, your home and then you gotta get them out of your home, it would to me would make more sense to find a service that already does all your background checks all that kind of stuff so you don't have to and start with that before you start bring someone into your home because extricating them from your home may be a bit of a challenge. If that's the wrong match and so I think you'd start with that and then maybe even work with a service is a separate service to do some background check on somebody and give yourself time to find that right person you it's gonna take some time to find somebody you would want to bring into your home to live there. You really need to filter that person out strongly because you know they got a promise you the moon with a the first show up for the first couple weeks will be great that after a while you realize about me and I'm stuck with this then you got it to get a victim and that can become sticky wicket and you don't need that nightmare I would.

I would highly recommend finding a reputable service acute home care service that does this and then that's their responsibility to weed those people out.

You don't have to deal with that kind of drama may cost a little bit more but you know what is the deal saying that if you do you think is how expensive hiring a professional. Try hiring an amateur in it. It just you just don't want that drama you don't know who you gonna bring into your home. That way, and it would be better if you had 1/3 party service that can make sure that they've had proper background checks and drug screenings. They fted them.

They've that they're responsible for moving them out if they show if they call in sick and they live in your home, then what unity you know so those are those things not use used some services but that my wife will actually love this life caregiver that we have and she was with us for two weeks and on a car accident two nights ago hospitalized and may not be back for another three months. We just don't know. For now were back to square one and this person to live with you and I I'm just trying to figure out what are my options are caregiver that will in all that I can bring somebody a friend to my why I'm just trying to find the right path. Will I think the fact of what you been through with this most recent one with the correct address. My point home because at that person had lived with you, then you would have somebody who is recuperating from a car wreck living at your home and you still need a caregiver you trick you track it with me so that that's the kind of thing you want to avoid if at all possible, and hiring a service like this it may stretch a little bit financially, but imagine that how you be stretch right now if you had somebody recuperating. However much you liked him.

If they recuperating, recuperating at your home and that you have a wife with Alzheimer's and somebody's recuperating for three months were correct.

You don't need that drama in your life.

You just don't and so the service working with the service who can that's their job is to find the qualified workers and make sure and then you meet with them regularly do you get into a good rhythm to make sure that this is a good match because here's the deal. We this that you and I both know this.

This is this is not going to get easier for okay your sibling your team right now for what's coming and you got X amount of time to prepare for that to get your home to get you set up your your team around you because right now your your your functioning you're doing okay, but this is only going to get more challenging and the sooner you have a solid team around you.

The better that you would be able to navigate those choppy waters when you get to because their subversive rough rapids coming your way.

Get that team together and having ate up some professionals in their as opposed to you. Try to somehow figure this out yourself and make your life a lot easier now-sure I clear with them amounted you know where the word wisdom comes from you no good judgment. Good judgment comes from experience.

Experience comes from bad judgment and you were talking to a guy who's made a lot of bad judgment calls and I've got out there and try to find some he brought some big people into my home to help with my wife of the years and then that was just yields I had some successes and I had some dismal failures and and ultimately when I went to a service that came in and I worked with them. I found the value of this and there's a there's a wonderful service and in and Nashville that I that I great friends with and they have resources on their website and there not to be able to serve people in your area, but that they got resource to put out there on their on the website of just stuff you can read and you know educate yourself on this caregivers my whole care caregivers. My whole care in Nashville, Tennessee. Yet they're not there not in your area. It's a local company, but I was so would that the lady that owns that runs it isn't is a nurse and I have been friends with them for very long time and they have a wealth of information that you can just educate yourself with and what you're looking for help you drill this thing down so that you find that right partner in try not to contract with anyone else in your area that doesn't bring the level of what they do it this company. I just sent you to just look and see what they offer and try to find something that similar to that in your area because I think their gold standard for an upturn in my whole care W a jelly W. H. OLE, and they are in Nashville Tennessee. So when we lived Nashville out of inference of this book for long time and and they helped me through some very difficult times. I think that but I watch how they set up the structure there not a fly-by-night there's a lot of companies out there that are need of throwing business models together pretty quick for this big need and you don't want that you really want to have people that guess that have some seasoning to them. Thought through these things and they've looked at all the contingencies that you have and they've looked at all the things you have not done so and this applies across the board nudged him with Alzheimer's them, especially children. Whatever is across the board, but but you know yeah financially may stretch a bit, but in the long run it's a better investment in you and in and your wife is well so only how God helps. Sure and not have helped considerably very good LTC Paul Saul not will take us many years that that is indeed a great blessing to have so use that wisely use it very wisely. Do your due diligence, seek out people that are doing this and I have been doing for a while. What are they doing right. How does that work for your family and really try to avoid bringing someone into your home until you have vetted them like they were auditioning coming. You know they were applied to be on the national Security Council to okay right that fit that mean that's that's the S and that the parties you're doing this now and not doing it a place of desperation. This is all part of the show today of that of the movie started off because if you start if you say I went to this gets out of my control. Well, then you're scrambling don't scramble plan, you know an instant start strict strategically thinking ahead. That's how you do it. If you wait to the last moment in your freaking out your level to get somebody there and Linda Linda been a disaster for how I know this paladin so take my advice about using it now.

I've done this and and and so it's it's super important that you spend the time on the front and vetting this person out whoever or people out there may be more than one because if somebody gets sick calls in sick. Your wife's Alzheimer's. Nothing take a sick day so you got have you got have backups for your backups.

When this thing starts getting in the in the subtheme hundred so I appreciate the call out that it does attract Terry does it go on microphone were early on the you know I tried to find the writing. You are quite welcome and I appreciate very much the call for you listen is always good to talk to South Carolina this is Peter Rosenberg. This is hope for the caregiver are glad that you 888-589-8840 take more of your cause we come back we still have it identify the song that you be willing to stick say anything filing that it is Peter Rosenberg's never helped somebody walk for the first time I've had that privilege many times through our organization. Standing with hope when my wife Gracie gave up both of her legs follow this horrible Rick that she had as a teenager and she try to save them for years and if it just wouldn't work out. And finally she relinquished him and thought wow this is that I'm not happy legs anymore. What can God do with that and then she had this vision for using prosthetic limbs as a means of sharing the gospel to put legs on her fellow amputees and that's what we been doing now since 2005 was standing with hope. We work in the West African country of Ghana and you can be a part of that through supplies through supporting team members through supporting the work that we're doing over there, you can designate a limb. There's all kinds of ways that you can be a part of giving the gift that keeps on walking and standing with hope.com what you take a moment ago understanding with hope.com and see how you can give they go walking and leaping and praising God.

You can be a part of that@standingwithhope.com and programming notice things a couple got to website, hope for the caregiver.com hope for the caregiver.com and you can see for from a podcast we we put out. Not only this show but we have other info interviews we do and in various things we put out, and I just did a recent interview with them.

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And while you're there, you see a donate button which you get involved. What were doing here in this tooth to think specifically when asked about that. You've heard our story.

You've heard Gracie story you've heard what we do with our prosthetic limbs. We got a young girl named Dorcas Tama, Dorcas Avenue better when she was five years old. She is a sometimes amputee Gracie those you don't know my wife is doubly pretty and when she lost her like she wanted to do something that would reflect what God was doing her life and she wanted provide quality prosthetic limbs as a way of sharing the gospel so we been doing that in Ghana since 2005 and Dorcas. We met her couple years after we been there.

We take teams over there. We since applies regular, and so forth. And she's assigned safety means when it she she was little.

A scorpion barefoot and they took off the foot, but left the heel. That's what Psalms is and is very different for you got have special note things that you do with it to make it fit and when we first saw her.

It was him.

He was dangerous. Some that she got hold of a leg somewhere that somebody provided it was if she wasn't fitting it properly and it was absent Pres. snapper Lake and we been treating her ever since. She's grown up now she's 20 and in just a beautiful young lady and but we were working with the right now to get this week. Joseph Thompson wonderful young prostitutes over in Ghana that we've worked with for many years has been treating her this week and you can be a part of helping sponsor that leg for her if you wish shield you know as you grow, you need more legs and she always need different things for it and just just beautiful young lady. We get our first patient in Kinney we been working got all this time we've had patients come to the clinic there from Nigeria and other places. But it's this time we had a patient in Kenya and we worked with a prosthetic outfit in Kenya to help abandon Godfrey. You can see his story out there as well and this just all in the last 10 days. Godfrey and his wife passed away February 2020 that he lost his leg in May 2020. So's benefit was tough year for a lot of people and Godfrey had a particularly tough year and we are putting it above the leg on him and you can be a part of that as well. If you like what you're hearing on the show, you can help sponsor this this show we can go get on more radio stations and so forth. But we would week we asked for your help. This is an amazing work is going on of our mission.

It it standing with his for the wounded and those who care for the we have a shipment that is leaving that we forgot everything the building.

There is it's ready to go to been picked up of prosthetic supplies that come from a prison in Arizona run by an outfit out of Tennessee that this is a company called core civic the resident have a lot of faith, put faith-based programs and this is one of them are our history standing without an inmates disassemble the legs that come in from all over the country use prosthetic limbs and we can recycle the foot, the knee, the pollen screws adapters all the stuff and that's all heading over to West Africa and so this is it's an extraordinary work launched when Gracie said you know what I wanted to want something positive to happen out of all the stuff that is happened to me and I want to use what I have to to equip others to literally stand with hope. That's what were doing and you could be a part of that today. So glad to hope for the caregiver.com.

Look at all the resource in half and then get involved today it whatever whatever is on your heart. Just get involved today and help us do it more and and help us do it more effectively.

So thank you so much for that list go to Sheila and Arkansas who says she knows the song and so Sheila good morning are you feeling pretty good. I know you clutter of my fellow Jesus lover of my soul. Not quite close, very close but not quite in the if you don't have those you just know Joe we we do a him each week. Do it and this one is a little bit different.

I Jesus lover muscle may have been put to this. A lot of people have use this but that's not the one I'm looking for today but but you close. Oh, you're so close you and appreciate there you go Jesus. What a friend for sinners hot hallelujah what a Savior. Hallelujah. What a friend saving helping keeping loving he is with me to the in Jesus. What a strength and weakness. Let me hide myself and him tempted, tried, and sometimes failing team of the vestry for victory winds and this is this is the verse that I was looking for it so it's actually that the first versus Jesus, what a friend for sinners. Jesus lover of my soul that was read the text in there but it was Jesus.

What a friend for center and out, but the verse I love right here. Listen, this Jesus. What I help and sorrow.

While the bill is over me roll even when my heart is breaking. He my comfort keeps helps muscle and then listen to verse four. Jesus, what a God innkeeper while the Tempest still is high storms about me. Night overtakes me, he my pilot here's my cry and then a great text even just I love this. I love this him and I love playing it now, do put in some cords that are probably not what the hymn writer wrote for this for this leverage. Lieut. guy was only 19 years old when he wrote that I I doubt very recently he was adding that flat non-core that I love this him so Sheila way to go.

Way to go Sheila Mota I got a couple more folks are weighing in on it and I want to give them enough to just talk about this him, but that is a great hymn for us as caregivers. Jesus, what a friend for sinners. Jesus lover of my soul. Friends may fail me those assail me. He my Savior makes me whole about that Sheila. Beautiful. Thank you so much for calling and and you know what, thank you so much forgiveness I have and I appreciate that I wanted to squeeze in these last couple because if you don't mind, and I thank you very much for: thank you very much, Sheila, Geneva and Kansas Geneva. Did you know this to highlight Hackbart at our great state. The that that is the title that people use for our great Savior, but it's at the in the courses hallelujah what a Savior howling J.

Yet I've known Matt to such a beautiful, comforting minutes train him and that I just came through it that 10 years working at my Alzheimer's and it started when we were in our 80s and I'm 94 now, he just went to be with the Lord. And what a joy that was but a habit able to take God enabled me to take care of him all eight years and that he had prepared me earlier.

It came like I was off which caretaking somebody but he was always there for me but that's probably the last thing is and you know the sum of the road at the lyrics. These lyrics J Wilbur Chapman Dr. Chapman yet that he got married. They had a little girl than four years after their little girl was born. His wife died this couple years later he remarried again and then this wife.so he wrote this out of out of some experiential difficulties where he was trusting God was a very painful realities. And so when you hear that that text Jesus.

What I hope, and sorrow, while the building over me roll even when my heart is breaking. He my comfort helps muscle. Do you think about this man who wrote this after buried. He had buried two wives and and raise children by himself and and so forth so that was a very difficult time for him. And yet this is what he wrote in this is my want to push people back to the hymnal is much as possible so that they can all hang onto these great text that were written by people went on through brutal reality so when Geneva thank you for getting that and now are you are a treasure yourself, and I thank you for at 94 years old that is kept me going or something more for me to do here I am on my own doing and I let think come into my life, yet so faithful it is and I need can start effective sort, joy and that you are and I just made all got let you dear God bless you to Geneva thank you jumper click you try to squeeze in one her call with Katie in West Virginia Katie good morning how you feel on our great great year great sing hallelujah what a slave I will you would've think about the virus and current how Colorado comfort others with Carfax rain had down and how great that that mentor did that I did not know the back story and why do black chicks are out and was able to help others with fat will is pulses includes easily comfort one another with the same comfort we ourselves receive from God all comfort and that that verse now right there meets Jesus what I hope, and sorrow, while the bill is over me roll even when my heart is breaking. He my comfort helps muscle and because J Wilbur Chapman put that down on Vincent with pencil and paper.

It's it's sustained uncounted millions with just that text, Katie. I'm one of those and Katie. Evidently yours will means a lot to the tub, showing that that song we are out of time we got to go and we thank you very much for the home caregiver.com for more will see you next time. Some of you know the remarkable story of Peter's wife Gracie and recently Peter talk to Gracie about all the wonderful things that have emerged from her difficult journey. Take a listen Gracie.

When you envision doing a prosthetic limb outreach. Did you ever think the inmates would help you do that, not in a million years. When you go to the facility run by core civic and you see the faces of these inmates that are working on prosthetic limbs that you helped collect from all of the country that you put out the plea for and their disassembly sell these legs like what you have your own prosody and arms and orange everything when you see all this makes me cry because I see this on their faces and I know what it is to be locked in place where you can't get out without somebody else allowing you to get out meaning hospital. These men are so glad that they get to be doing is one thing said something good with my did you know before you became an amputee that parts of prosthetic limbs could be recycled and had no idea I peg leg. I thought it wouldn't legs.

I never thought of titanium and carbon legs and flanks the sea legs and all that. I never thought about.

As you watch these inmates participate in something like this, knowing that there there helping other people available for providing the means for the supplies to get over there.

What is it do to interest on the heart level. I wish I could explain to the world. What I see in here and I wish that I can be able to come and say the this guy right here in East Africa with that.

I never not feel that way out every time you know you always make me have to leave. I don't want to leave.

I feel like I'm at home with them and I feel like that we have a common bond that would never expected that only God could put together. Now that you've had experience with it what you think of the faith-based programs for core civic offers. I think there is absolutely awesome and I think every prisoner out there for half faith-based programs because he return right at the men that are involved in this particular faith-based program and other ones like it and I know that this one are is amazingly low rate compared and I think that that is with me just has something to do with God complete. If you want to donate use prosthetic limbs, whether from a loved one who passed away or you know somebody well-groomed you donated some of your own for the data out of the please go to staining with.com/recycle gain. Thanks. We