Callers Sharing Struggles With Resentment

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Caregivers can live a calm or healthier dear Rosita, more joyful life even while dealing with harsh realities. We can do this. That is abundantly clear throughout Scripture I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. We can do this. He came to give us peace come unto me all you are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest. But wait, rest and sleep are two different things. Sleep is a state of body rest state of your heart. Can you rest in this or you so torqued up with resentment that it's killing me forgiveness. By the way, doesn't mean it doesn't matter that's not what forgiveness means me to go take our hands off of somebody else's throat.

Because when we're resentful. That's what were doing and were going to learn to live peacefully with this is not easy. A lot of work but it is possible that it is doable. We do not have to be at odds with where God has us right now and if you are then you understand the, the agony of that been there done that got the T-shirt when you stop fighting with the Almighty about where he has you.

Is this really your fights with your heart can slow down and you realize that you can see beauty and joy live more peacefully.

No matter what's going on around you that the promise we have. But it's not a calm just because you squint your eyes real hard when you pray it's going to come when you release this to God on a regular basis. It is not something is not a one and done, we are constantly coming back to this and there's nothing like suffering or watching someone suffering or caring for someone who suffering to expose all this and to keep squeezing it out and that's what we're here to talk about today on this summer. Go to Beth and Virginia whose caring for her son with a mental disorder. Beth Highfield hi all how I feel is how you feel and how much, I am feeling pretty good good good. I tell them what's going on with a lot and I have never heard of this program, and knowledge with her carefully to get that a lot that we get that a lot like wow that's me so now I know and I heard you talk about.

Are you caring for someone out of resentment or with resentment or tenderness in hard and you know I do both at five. It is really easy to be resent falling and I have been acting mad at God. I know I hollered at God and then I asked forgiveness because I know I'm not been a believer all my life. I know that Gothic doesn't come from God. So I guess that statement is resentment versus tenderness was huge for me not really stop me in my tracks will it's not limit the leading theory clear this this is not something that old. This is something I am aspiring to and I have to be reminded of this. Just like everyone else. The difference tween the show and maybe a lot as I have not achieve some level of superstardom as a caregiver. Are you kidding me. I mean if you could fail at it. I failed at it and regular do and if it if you need proof of the just asked my wife shall tell you that it but here's here's what I'm learning through it. Here's where the path this here's where safety is for us is caregiver. So when we get off the but you know what I have to be reminded of the gospel with. I have to be reminded by on a daily basis of how much God loves me and what the cross means in that regards. If I had to be reminded of the gospel, how much more so, do I have caregiver amnesia like I have gospel amnesia and so rightly that they are here to do was with. That's what we are to do on the show you'd million and everyone else listening is rooted in obeying these ideas around and build each other up and remind each other where safety is in safety is learning to let go of these painful things that are considered just burdening our hearts their their crippling us that we can't even breathe.

Sometimes I am only asked a question you don't feel free to disagree but are there times when it just it's waste on you so heavy you darling feel like you can breathe. Well, not breathing, but I am pretty angry.

I'm pretty, very strong part and I'm like I feel like I'm date well I got going on now but I have to. I have a choice and I will keep going on because I love my son and you will learn on but but the point is we don't have to white knuckle it rhino because all that's going to do is tearing hearts of Vanessa Cambria been there times and just when did you just hang your head you think I don't know I don't what to do a movie or just flummoxed and I and it just weighs on me, so heavy sometimes, and yet that's when Christ speaks with clarity into our situation, but look the word come unto me all you who are weary and heavy lady every weary and heavy leg. Beth and I had and yet exist, but what I tell myself I found that many learn to do a caregiver. What does that mean when Christ is that to us. What does that mean, come unto me all you are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest. What is that look like in caregiver terms when you're taking care of her son with a mental disorder and that's that's what we're here to do today. Just you don't just sit around and in conversation about these topics. So if I say that scripture to you when I say that to you. What does that speak to your heart knowing what you're dealing with autograph for my parent care unit ready to help me get an ever present God in an ever present help in our time of need you now.

I tell myself that and and I and I know that's what we have to do we get back to encourage yourself daily was delivered delivered that story they were stories and scriptures that story when David and his men were all fighting a battle, they came back in the Amalekites and taken off all of their possessions. All of their families, their donkeys are everything livestock, everything in David's own men.rocks that they were going to start stoning and David. It said David encouraged himself in the Lord and right in the middle of that heat of the guesswork of stoning his own men and I thought okay that's the lesson for us as caregivers in the midst were not in danger. Big Stone but that's the lesson for us as caregivers is that in the midst of whatever we can encourage ourselves in the Lord and we can be encouraged by others, and we can encourage others in this and that's what were you and are doing right now we just haven't have a whole lot of people listening on radio, but that's what were doing with each other, upping their people driving cars or trucks are sitting at their homes at hospice there at the hospital there. Coming off of the shift and it also there turning and just like you are to show for caregivers in nursing their hearing caregivers encouraging one another and said okay we can do that now are out there were struggling. Yes, there is some with thankful for that. I am what I am too thankful that I have a show that I can listen to it.

I can hear people calling in just like you and saying to me. Hey, you know, here's where I am and always said I don't feel so alone with.

I want to give language to this I want I want caregivers to know that we speak fluent caregiver here. But guess what, Beth. I've learned to speak caregiver over 37 years of this, but it's our Savior and native tongue that somehow I knew our Savior is. He didn't learn to speak caregiver. That's who he is and he's been caring for us with all kinds of disorders, mostly the big disorder of all and in that in that comforting though to know that we have a Savior who is not unaware of what we deal with and has been caring for his wounded bride for eternity, which is us where the wounded bride of Christ, we are messed up people going on and I hope you're right. He knows this, Beth. I'm so glad I'm so glad you're part of the show and I want you to feel free to call in anytime you want. Okay, it's an exclusive group visited beta well I'm glad you're with us. Thank you so much for calling in and really appreciate it all right. Let's go to land in Arkansas lately with this. I want to mark your language with Peter.

That's Peter Clark, Fred, but everyone we have your hanky with you. Thank you for you to get you to turn your radio down here. Okay, tell me what's on your heart and revamp Kelly Herrmann and Peter on the way can you yeah but don't compare yourself to anybody if you go to compare yourself. Here's the real IDs so you know what is good.

If they failed God to be faithful in their situation that I will and to trust that he'll be faithful in mind to about that is that a fair comparison. Tell me what to me what you feel so resentful I can and when we get a lot on what art they need to be a lot that can't have a gap outlining 900 here now financially and caregiver, and the way that we could come on the weekend and I'm in Iran dominate the narrative and every will and I wait my mother four years now. I my brother, my only brother you doubt that will let me just go out on a limb here and say that it hundred years old. He's probably the change.

You know that I'm going to go ahead and just cut a spitball that would out there. He's not that a change but you and your husband can change and you're not responsible to make you happy you're responsible to do what best that you can do with the best you can do is the best you can do listen and that the key is is you know he's not going to. He's not going but it's probably much at all. However, you will have to make decisions on what is best for the unit does not was just best for him what's best for Lynn and in the unit here because if the unit goes down, then what what what what what happens to him. I do, yet loving.

It is their planned case, you and your husband something happens with you guys daughter and I rather doubt it. Now we have not met and when we can highlight John Deere tractor with louder and I mean having Kelly.Martin not hard little world were all away from the world, just like one phone: one step away from something having to assist caregivers if we don't have a plan for love ones, and if you're spending all of our time try to make her love one happy then where were missing kind of the point here. The point is to make a sustainable and a viable unit as a family doing these kinds of things and not everybody's will get everything they want and find your your dad is his mother's got a guys and he's going to just have to be grumpy. He's going to have to you be whatever but with you there's no need for you and your husband to put yourself into all kinds of turmoil just to appease. You can like boundaries and sleep okay. That's what it's gotta be and up but but if you're resentful for the whole time. It doesn't do it good. If he comes to be with you are not that it would be terrible for both of you for all of so what up that it says like he's cognitive the right is not mud is not going out and so so the main reason you want him there with you is is just for convenience of going back and forth their work and I'm married to Gary L help with instilling pain and felt lonely and not do anything. Will distillates know your lonely peers options what you want to do, let him let him gotta deal with that himself with these cognitive it all was said like he is to say, okay, I get your lonely here that here's a reality in here. Here's the options we have an end. Take the burden off of you try to figure this out for him and let him make his own decisions with that when you're not getting resentful when this we gotta go to break the key is live for you to not live in resentment and bondage to what his wimps are let him feel the weight of his own decisions and then somewhere come to a meeting of the minds.

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