Hope for the Caregiver

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That's what it old video series on that he might be a caregiver. If you have a professional carpet cleaner on retainer. You probably care like you if you get more than six Christmas cards from doctors every year, chances are your caregiver and that's that's what we to the show. There a lot of folks out there doing this and we're glad that you're with us if you would be on the show 800-688-9522 800-688-9522 and you could also follow along on Facebook love it, hope for the caregiver.com hope for the caregiver.com I'm sorry Facebook love go to Facebook.com/over the caregiver. Sorry about that. All this hits a little brain and then you can also follow him on Twitter hope number four caregiver hope the number four caregiver and then the website is hope for the caregiver.com. We try to make an easy of the book the podcast everything is hope for the caregiver and I speak of the podcast. It's free. We put the show out there. Plus we have a lot of bonus clips.

We do things we just put out there for you and you could just easily go out to that to the website or straight to the podcast which is are you ready for this caregiver podcast.com honestly, how hard is that we we try to make things easy and uncomplicated speaking of easy hunt located here stomach U-Haul does the bearing of the board assaulted the sale, the Earl of engineering. The man who is so chill becomes with a medic ID bracelet that says really I'm not dead of sky-blue the joke, but it's very funny John Butler everyone and hello Peter I may make absolutely uncomfortable and complicated as were going for your so I two parrots were sitting on the porch right and one sister the other, more efficient your and crickets now just you know it's so bad is it.

It's so lazy gentleman that it made her laugh every joke comes with his old bottle of water. He John I'm doing well thank you and all but shut it, Manning satellite distribution center at Salem radio network online outage in Dallas who is broadcasting the show, you can if you listen real careful, you could hear all the and it's doing just fine fine job. So thank you both for helping me run the shot in Southwest Montana and it is 1° outside John oh is it now it's that's pretty cold. How did so-called politicians get their hands and Roebuck, but it's it and we are expecting quite a bit of snow. It's been snowing all day.

This is Gracie's favorite thing to just look at the snow coming and was we went out to church and Val have been doing music and in leading the music and worship at a little churched of the value pastor asked me to do it while we got here and been happy to do it and on the way back.

It was the roads are just getting worse and worse and then not plow the road because it's Sunday, and then getting up to the house. This is Gracie's family's place at her parents. They look about her in winter and you know it's it's snowing so they like to stay down back east but I would like to come out here and in Gracy Justice so much better out here with her arthritis and so forth.

This dry air, but it's a little gnarly, get up here and you're in full will drive the whole way and it's 10 miles from the paved road so that's quite a quite a distance so it's it's a lot of fun and I love being out here but we can still and were expecting at least a foot of snow today. A of snow a foot of snow. And so anyway speaking a foot if you have an extra foot brings us to our sponsor for caregiver tip of the day are caregiver tip of the day see if it gets this well never minded are caregiver tip of the day is brought to you by stating with hope and we collect, use prosthetic limbs from all over the country and they go to a local prison in Tennessee, but by core civic inmates recycle the prosthetic components, the feet needs the palm on the screws and after all the stuff we sing this equipment over to West Africa where we are. We been working there since 2005 with individuals over there with Ghana health service and they are providing prosthetic limbs little people. They will make a custom fit leg on site for that patient. And then they'll use integrate some of these recycle components in so in good fun at more about that standing with hope.com and they are our sponsor for our caregiver tip of the day today. You could cut a shock to collect myself debate with Elizabeth, the big O speak of Elizabeth Elizabeth Jones at the bottom of the hour, but Johnny startled me of our caregiver tip of the day is judge yourself fairly now let me explain judge yourself fairly. All too many caregivers judge ourselves by our job performance.

Okay, stay with me on this, or job performance.

We constantly look at our mistakes that we make and we do make a lot of quite truthfully coming on the crash test dummies caregivers would care for 32 years I've forgotten more mistakes. Most of you make. However, if were going to judge ourselves which I don't recommend doing it all anyway.

But if you're going to judge yourself fairly and also factor in your attendance record. I think about this as a caregiver you have a flawless attendance record and it is it's something to be said that your showing up to do this. Now you may say okay will you you know you show up in your your bill beaten down a bruised pattern and you're dismayed of your swearing on your breath. You know whatever okay I get it, but still showing up. You're still showing up and I think that something is a caregiver that is worth celebrating about you. Okay, you're still calling you're still working out.

Things are still making sure things get done now. The purpose of this show is to start from that point and then worked work out. From there you can show up and not be miserable. You have to be miserable.

That's a choice that you may have to show up and deal with some very harsh realities in some grim circumstances get it. I understand been there done that got however there is still joy there still calmness there still peace of mind, there is still beauty that you can participate in.

Even with all that going on you can you really can say this from lengthy experience of this, but I had some Summit had to teach me how to do this. I just do this instinctively and by theft I failed instinctively that that doesn't require much effort on my part at all, but I had to learn from other people. That said, you know what it's okay for you to be at peace in the midst of this, that's what Scripture teaches us that we can be calm in the midst of this, of whatever storms are coming our life member Jesus fell asleep in the boat. The disciples freaking out how many views caregivers love myself and that freaking out. Do we have that done by the wish to freak out. That would ready obligated not to play that song sorry it's hit some kind of the spiritual condition freak out. We should have that ready know anything about wheat we freaking out on a regular basis. I know I do agree should tell you I'm the freak out king and I'll do that. I'd like to think I don't freak out as much as I used to. I'd like to think that I would like to think that anything yet here we are, yet here but you know were not were not chained to that were not chained that so I just want to start with where we often hours caregivers in that is is that we judge ourselves with with great harshness.

Okay I get that that's where we a lot of us are so for good to be there, let's go ahead and judge ourselves honestly and honestly we show up as a caregiver with a attendance for an attendance record that's that's virtually perfect because were still doing now the goal is to move past this and start showing up with a calmer and a more peaceful and more joyful heart as we do it then we could also start taking steps to show up healthier on every level.

1.who says that we can't be healthy while were caregivers. In fact, I see the opposite icing healthy caregivers make that are caregivers later on the show you're going to hear from lady founded the whole movement of this and her website is happy healthier caregiver and that's what it's all about that we don't have to be miserable. That is a choice and so that's that's my caregiver tip of the day. Excuse me, I don't have a cough but John on my box out here little inside information for those about my comments but I don't have a cough but give me ideas doing kind of sound like a personal problem, Gracie. I was coughing earlier it up. Sometimes I go through.

I will have a persistent cough that I got this medication from a doctor.

The supposed help it and the moment I take a be a cough on anything I could be you know it it be innocuous anything would Gracie like taking medicine, take your medicine you don't do this on the air.

She's fuzzy. She's right so let's see if you can't help it.

Sometimes this is true yet so I'm running I don't have a cough, but turned away, cut my attorney had cough when was last time you and your doctor. Well it and I do good by Dr. turn it okay if we take a very different turns out that's our caregiver tip of the day writing by stating without would you go out to standing with hope.com today see her blog post. See what were doing with prosthetics. This is the Gracie spelling 50s. We did this, see what were doing to fill care of my fellow caregivers before the wood and those who care for them. You can be a part of that right now staying with hope.com. We will be right back 800-688-9522, this is Peter Rosenberg. Hey, this is hopefully caregiver. This is the nation's number one show for the family could arrive over and I am thrilled to have you with us 800-688-9522 if you want to be part of the show 800-688-9522. The website is hopefully caregiver.com.

We also stream the show live on Facebook which it Facebook.com/hope caregiver and I will also podcast the show later on and you can subscribe to its free free podcasts and would welcome you do that, we put a lot of things out there like for those you on the break to get the network feed. We have a thing called your caregiver minute that you hear me do and that's broadcast on several hundred stations across the country and I put all those out on the podcast your caregiver minute in the real easy to just sit one minute thing here of just a reminder, daily reminder, something that we as caregivers can incorporate in our lives. What we did. The key here is the here's the whole secret about your caregiver. It's not wanted done. You do not arrive at a place we say okay I got this now. It's a constant reaffirming of basic principles you you never stop incorporating these things in your life, you never stop needing to hear the even after you stop being a caregiver. It'll take a long time maybe a lifetime to D tangle.

What kind went on in your heart about this and so these principles work that I did come up with all them I just aggregated over a lifetime of people who've come up to me and have been incredibly gracious to me in the midst of my dysfunction or whatever and I can't stress enough to you how much those things are important just to keep going and keep having in your life and I went, my wife is coming in here was something what are you bringing me a hot pad for Pat for coffee. Why is it hello. She was we have a soundproof barrier for coffee was if it works Gracie commuter with hot pads they that hear did you hear anything okay Gracie thank you for that.

Very much that is just darling. Oh I just love it and so anyway I need to get right to our today's senior moment of what that speaking of bringing hotbeds in the middle of the show today's senior moment. Keep a sense of humor.

These are important things to remember. If you try to keep all serious about this is a caregiver.

I promise you it's it's not go well for you. Got to keep a sense of humor.

People that are caregivers. I don't have a sense humor. I'm sorry I'm really sorry.

I don't see how you can do this for any length of time and not develop a sense of humor because I don't think you could sustain it several decades over this and you do without one and I you know I think I was I was there was a Facebook post early data in dementia caregiver group that part of and this lady posted she was so distraught because her husband was putting his blanket in the underwear drawer and putting his underwear on top of his clothes and she was really distraught about this – it just hit me as got a funny thought a post the picture into that group and I post a picture of Superman Acevedo Superman puts his underwear on the outside of his good you don't just learn that was funny because you can learn to have a sense of humor about that sort of thing. I mean she could be all distraught about it which she was absolutely there when I posted this picture of Superman with this you with red tight thought and she posted but she said I love this group that's keeping a sense of humor. You can't maintain that level of angst and it go well for you. You going to have to have some laughter and laughter is what kinda gives us that release that that we know that were not totally lucid moments and that's why I do that.

However, what I did that whole bit of you might be caregiver if with Jeff Foxworthy and I had people that literally thought that I was mocking the journey of being a caregiver.

They did they really thought that and they were little bit offended until they read my resume. They realize only if he's been with us this long and he's found it's okay to laugh. Maybe I can to I just don't I take the journey seriously. I just don't take me that seriously and not arouse a church once Gracie had been Gracie had been out of commission for some time and she could wear either one of her prostheses and we are able to go to church. Gracie went to church and she was her legs and healed up and so she could start wearing her prosthetic legs and this lady came up to be and she said it's so good to see Gracie back on her feet and I look at her sit at her feet back on her, that's correct.

She had a letter response yeah you know it's okay to laugh Gracie's self-worth and her identity is not tied up in in the fact that she is prosthetic legs and hours doesn't have to be either we can live a comber healthier and even joyful joyful life.

Keep a sense humor brought by morning point morning point.com PO INT E morning point.com that's not senior living to Ian like that senior living to begin life to have a great time to live life with excitement and passion morning point.com go check it out and see will be right back with Elizabeth Miller this is hopefully caregiver this is Peter Roseburg supplied with us 800 688 95 from two will be right back to show for caregivers hosted by caregiver. This is Peter Roseburg.

This is hope for the caregiver. We are taking care of business. We are glad you are with this 800-688-9522 800-688-9522. You can follow along on Facebook love and hope for the caregiver on Facebook join our group. Hopefully caregiver group, like the page got it all and then the book took us out of the podcast later caregiver podcasts free podcast, take advantage of it. We could find out all the things that you want to know that were doing here with the show with the books with with everything we do and we just would love for you to take advantage of this because you want me to, caregivers, heart try to do by yourself that's harder and there's no need to John we have Elizabeth on the phone we do should be ready no Elizabeth you with this. Hey this is Elizabeth Miller and she is the founder and content manager of happy, healthy caregiver. She is a caregiver for today a mom of two and does all the above that she is right in the sweet spot of everything were about on the show and we are thrilled she's not in Marietta, Georgia and my CD that I put out the didn't discuss. Also, the caregiver did specifically to help, caregivers, heart, and this will mean something to you. I tested it on myself during rush hour on 285 it deceived Ronald Reagan, listen, tell us a little bit about your journey as a caregiver that I want to get into what you do in the conference is the stuff and how folks can get take advantage of the things that you're doing back us up a little bit to how you got into this because it's not like you set out to have a life plan of being a caregiver happened like a great friend of people at wild might fly and I went that far in my library and bring here and my parents had terminal are chronic healthy and able grantor, and in 2014 is landing might have been. I felt really made me very and generate parent and have not had lunch there.

There help that she is definitely coming. I had corrected me. My mom had my parents back line three-story boat. My husband and I laugh and parent, and 2014 target black grandparent and in our working full-time to me very gently on it got to be a better way to Nina about the lack of lessons learned.

You are you helping other people see you as well. You launch this whole thing about happy, healthy caregiver to little bit about when he prefaces there a lot of people that have a caregiving story. There's too many of us there are 65 million.

I like to bring people on the show here that are not only dealing with the experience and have the experience that she has with which which is plenty, but then they've turned it into some kind of action step of putting back into the lives of other caregivers just like they flirted themselves and I like to bring people who bring these unique perspectives and so forth less well. Elizabeth on the show. Very grateful for her insights for her journey. What she can offer because it's it's that this is how we all learn. So tell us a little bit about the happy healthy caregiver. My mentor and my and my everything that they have entered their chronic like that's what made over the years my parents were my mom fell, I might add it half meeting parent and Mike Spratt might really help in my five brothers and their and their own health and happiness really got part of that. So I went at it first hand between my parents and my mother-in-law what can happen when you're not taking care of your own health and happiness and I can see myself going down that when my parents were second 2014 at my mom and have brain and then my dad was really my mom alive. Very healthy Arabic care and really just really cut out for a crazy world when and road trips back and forth from Atlanta to Florida where my phone for a lot of thought going on that thing up like what right thinking over and over again without identifying out one way for me to be accountable where you can put it out there that I really started to grandma's and grandpa And now for something healthy.

Caregiver very hundred and healthy and every day I ran out. Mary and a little at every company helping and then it turned into the blogging podcast on about anything but help keep me accountable while helping others and I thinking a lot lot like a black American out and learning how like paying then trying to get energized while I'm at my mom here in Atlanta area caregiver and it was a lot lot full-time job in LA now and I wanted caregiving that there had primary care to think Ms. you start writing your journalism major and I know that when you went to journalism school. This was not on your your list of things that you are going to be writing about. But I'm so grateful that as a training experience and in a very prolific writer that you have taken upon yourself to use that skill set.

I think that caregiving taps into everything that we bring to the table. If we allow that we can use things that the skills and and and abilities we have in training in ways we didn't expect in an yours is an important voice to do this and so the other. I just think that's fascinating that you are able to do that in turn that into a better way to communicate. You know and and the other thing is is that as you done this and you should keep yourself accountable. That's why do they show you know II did the secret most people I guess not much of seek remote I'm preaching to myself here. I got here these things over and over and over again.

It's not a one and done and so I need to hear what you've learned. I need to hear what colors of learning what they're going through week we bounce things off together. So I think that's been one more rewarding things is is is we engage in community have you found that to be the same thing with your community know that you built around the happy healthy caregiver.

I wanted to know how I went back and did not act in a resources and really current encouraged our help Affect really people that is later called a nurse like Dorothy Aaron report that website like mine that we can help healthy caregiver is an and really just and accountable for that funny world. When can I get a journal, and that I lot I love to live and work. The night that George and all of that, I got I eat for many years and then have now realized how fine and amazing and how much I learned from other people through my podcast like when I'm spotlighting on a caregiver spotlight and sharing about what's working for people and how their able to integrate little baby that helped carry in their day and I'm learning things every day and I'm trying anything and journey that healthcare we get to cheer each other on. That's the whole point is that we all cheer each other on because there's it's hard enough being a caregiver it's it's it's much harder try to do it alone. And so it's great to have your voice 1/3 speaking of which, cheer each other on Telus about the conference I felt caregiving.com how better caregiver and are merely caregiving.com created a contract Caregiving and Our Fourth Line Will Be November and Go to Chicago and I Can in Part or They Can Let Them in the Virtual Track That Credible for Free.

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The Link I Have an Audit Report That I Put out There out to Connect with Opportunity. I Love Your Font and Landmines One Morning and Went on in My Car Here. Amazing Elizabeth, Thank You. It's Just a Real Treat to Have You on the Show Happy Healthy Caregiver.com Happy, Healthy, Caregiver.com Elizabeth Miller, Have You Back on What Had to Be Some of Them Took This Conference. You're Welcome Anytime Elizabeth, I Really Do Appreciate It Okay This Is Hope for the Care Of This Is Peter Rosenberger 800-688-9522 Will Be Right Back to the Show for Caregivers about Caregivers Hosted by Caregiver. This Is Peter Rosenberger.

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Please Subscribe to It in Shared These Things without Put It All out There for Free. Just Take Advantage of and You'll Find All Kinds of Interesting Thing We Have the Your Caregiver Minutes That We Put out There. We That That That Goes out over Several Hundred Stations across the Country, but We Put on the Podcast Songs from Gracie Name It We Got Video All Kinds of Cool Things out There. You Could Subscribe to It for Free Caregiver Podcast.com I Can't Make It Any More Affordable Than Free Abductor Pay You to Do It Just Could Ask You to Put for Free Caregiver Podcast.com and Alyssa's Review Little Bit Today. Earlier Today We Had Our Caregiver Tip of the Day If You Go to Judge Yourself, Which Too Many Caregivers Do We Judge Ourselves without Mercy. We Look at All of Her Mistakes. All of Our Bad Attitudes and Everything Else and There's Plenty of It. There's Ample Evidence That We Fail Okay Ample Evidence but If You Go to Judge Yourself, the Judge Yourself Fairly and Look at Your Attendance Record. Okay Good Attendance Record Is Flawless.

You Keep Showing up. That's Her Starting Point Is Caregivers. I Want You to Start from There. Okay We Just Took a Giant Step Forward by Evaluating Ourselves Fairly That We Do Show up. Now Where We Go from There. Let's Start Working Towards Showing up without Feeling Miserable.

Let's Start Working Showing up and Looking for Ways to Surprise Ourselves with Joy, Surprise Ourselves with Beauty Such Surprise Herself. Even with Laughter. You Know It's Available We Can Do This and Then Mixed up. After That It's Let's Show up Healthier Okay Change a Little Bit of Things in Our Diet. Maybe You Will Do More Exercise. You Whatever We Need to Do Push Us Towards a Healthier Life As a Caregiver.

Go to Your Doctor Regularly Support Groups.

All Those Things and More a Part of Your Journey As a Caregiver That You Can Function Better, Stronger, Healthier and Even More Joyful.

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If You're Miserable Will Come Care You Providing Okay and That That Is Something That Is the Driving Force of This Show Is to Speak Life into Your Life What You Listen to All These Things That Are Being Broadcast across the Media Stuff about Your Medically Assisted Death in Late-Term Abortions and All These Kinds of Things People Just They Will If the Child Is Born with the Family's Will to Set Aside Will Have Conversation Later about It, the Governor of Virginia so I Don't Want to Have All That That Speaking Death and Your Situation Will Speak Life into Your Situation. If You're Taking Care Of a Child with Special Needs and Is Pushing to the Breaking Point.

Guess What Working to Pull You Back from That Breaking Point and Help You Breathe a Little Bit If You're Watching Somebody You Know That Is Languishing in the Last Days of Their Life Were Not to Push You Pass That It's That You Know What It's Okay to Just Quit, Just Check out As Job's Wife Said of Job to Not Curse God and That's What the World Offers Working to Something Different to Show Respect Life and Your Situation and Let You Know That Even Though You're in the Valley of the Shadow of Death. You Don't Have To Fear an Evil Because He's Not Banning Hasn't and Won't. He's Already There Waiting around Every Corner. That Means Nothing to Be Painful, Doesn't Mean It's Not to Be Uncomfortable Doesn't Mean It's Not Scary, but It Does Mean You Not to Be Alone Does Mean Is Not the End of the Story.

That's What This Show Is All about Hope for the Caregiver That Conviction That We As Caregivers Can Live a Calm Healthier and Dare I Say It a More Joyful Life.

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