Valentine's Day and The Family Caregiver

Let's get to our caregiver tip of the day. Tip of the day.

Pratibha ERP of Tennessee and they have so many resources for the family. This will love having them involved with the show because they have all types of financial planning tools that they can you use on the website fraud which is a huge issue affecting a lot of folks right now and all kinds of fraud alerts that they have the help you stay safe under that just enormous. They have a huge push for the family caregiver and so this is the caregiver tip of the day and I was going to something in our change last minute because you know what this is Valentine's Day is a go and I I was thinking, but this because I am a part of several online groups for caregivers. I just cannot watch a lot of the comments and a lot of folks are taking care of a loved one with dementia and Edison a spouse and and I was I was look at some of the comments and it was just this despairing grief and sorrow and heartache and all these kinds of things because the level didn't record as frequently both posted he said she said about her husband. He thinks I'm going to try to kill him today and on. These are hard things to deal with in a so I thought it Valentine's Day that's that's a tough day for a lot of caregivers because there taking care of somebody who no longer even remembers the I am to throw this out there.

Don't be afraid to get your own card from your spouse who can no longer get you one. Go ahead and get the card that the love that you all shared warrants. Pick out one that says everything that you feel like your love is at its core, whether they can remember that or not do that to honor the honor your love together and also you know whatever meal that you guys enjoyed having together have that for yourself as well.

Now she or he may not be able to participate in that.

That's okay. But that doesn't mean that you have to be right below the get yourself up a box of macaroni cheese or something fixed fix the meal that your relationship warrants get the card that it warrants and yeah you may tear up when you do it and it's okay because they're not to be tears of rage and despair at that point the be genuine tears of grief which are healthy, but you're still honoring this love that is obviously inspired you to care for this person even after they no longer remember you and don't don't put this demand on yourself to somehow because you're not perfect at this that you're not worthy of doing it or or whatever your your attendance record is perfect. You keep showing up and that's what's important which it would you consider that and and and do that for yourself and in and get make should spend some time with spend some time pick it up that card of one that really reflects who you are in this love that you shared. I know it's gonna be a tough day for so many, but I don't have to be miserable.

That's our caregiver tip of the day brought to be by ERP of Tennessee AARP.org/Tennessee please please look at the resources that are free enough to be a member you got just participate because every every resource available to you as a caregiver is required and present with friends caregiver loan I I this is hopefully caregiver Peter Rosenberger 800-688-9522 will be right back